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If you can't work and support yourself and your son what are you planning on doing? Who do you plan on having support you?
If all you have in the US is yourself and your son....why wouldn't you want to stay in the Philipines?
You said he wants sex every day all day more and more....doesn't he work?
Why would you even entertain the thought of coming back to the US with someone like that...if that is how he is? Do you have family in the Philipines? If so divorce him and stay in your country.

If you can't work and support yourself and your son what are you planning on doing? Who do you plan on having support you?
If all you have in the US is yourself and your son....why wouldn't you want to stay in the Philipines?
You said he wants sex every day all day more and more....doesn't he work?
Why would you even entertain the thought of coming back to the US with someone like that...if that is how he is? Do you have family in the Philipines? If so divorce him and stay in your country.

If you can't work and support yourself and your son what are you planning on doing? Who do you plan on having support you?
If all you have in the US is yourself and your son....why wouldn't you want to stay in the Philipines?
You said he wants sex every day all day more and more....doesn't he work?
Why would you even entertain the thought of coming back to the US with someone like that...if that is how he is? Do you have family in the Philipines? If so divorce him and stay in your country.

Nope
Just wondering why you were applying again.

Hmm. I did not know that. When I took out the credit card most of the ones like Discover, Merrick, and a few other big name ones said that they don't report it as secured. Capital One is a great starter card. Capital One you also get a credit increase after 5 or 6 months of on time payments. =)

I wasn't aware a child that young had the capacity to hold a grudge against a parent that way, to the degree that they don't even want to be associated with them anymore. Whatever problems you're having with your husband, hopefully you're not projecting your personal feelings of him upon your son. I believe that's something he should come to his own conclusion on, when he's of an age he can fully appreciate the circumstances.
Don't get me wrong; I think any guy who shows no desire to actively be in his child's life is clearly a deadbeat, but encouraging a child to believe his dad doesn't care about him (true or not) can really have some ill-effects.
In any case, I'm sorry that both you and your son have to go through this situation.
Oh, and about his ideas to take his son to Canada with him to spend time with his other kids, I'd say hell no to that.

Sorry for what you are going through. However, I agree with CaryH. You probably had a gut feeling about him but ignored it. We all do it.
You said you've moved on but your post sound like you are very bitter and angry, which is expected, but dont let that become your new image.
Don't allow this man to create a monster out of you. Bitterness and anger does you no good. It only gives you wrinkles and makes you look older.
Don't waste your energy on him. Sounding bitter only makes it appear that you would take him back if he came back.
And don't project that negativity onto your son. If he believes his dad is a superman, go along with it. He will grow and find out who his dad was. You two are his first role models, don't taint one side of the coin for him. Do what you have to legally do.
I wish you all the best.

How will your family feel about you never becoming a father?

In the courts eyes parenting time is worth more than child support. Even if child support is not paid (in NJ at least) the parent still has rights and the right to see and be with the child. The only person who is going to deem him unfit is the judge. Just not paying child support or moving does not deem a person unfit to be a parent. In addition, I recommend you do not go into there and say "My 4 yar old son does not want to talk to him even though he has the freedom to do so because he feels his father neglected him when he up and left and doesn't take care of his responsibilities." They will want to know how your child knows those feelings. I have a 7 year old and at 3, 4, and 5 years old when (which was few and far between) my ex would call to talk to her she didn't want to talk on the phone either. I'm not saying let your son go with him, but don't use your son as a pawn in a bitter divorce. It never works out well for the child and well in all of this your son should be your main concern. If you are saying he doesn't see his other children consistently he couldn't have been too upstanding of a person when you met him.

This isn't a divorce forum, this is an immigration forum and I don't see any immigration question here. You married a deadbeat father by his history with kids in Canada. He moved away from them apparently and I would guess doesn't see them either or pay his support. With no job, don't expect any child support to be issued, this is something you'll have to bring him back to court for once he's working again. So there should be nothing surprising about his actions in the separation and divorce with you, as its exactly what he's done in the past.
If you're trying to get his green card yanked, you have no evidence of fraud that would cause it to be yanked. You only have evidence he's not a very good father.

The correct and legal way to go about things is to have your wife get her US citizenship, then file an I-130 for her mom. Her mom can come and visit, but then return back at the appropriate time.

She cannot marry someone here and adjust her status. OPs name is on the passport as a petitioner and it says a K1 visa. My ex is here illegally and I was told flat out from immigration he could get married but he will never be able to get his papers and if he leaves he will have a 10 year ban because he has been here 2 years illegally.

This post has long been on my mind and my fiancee confirmed it this morning that I must write it. He is an amazingly patient man and he knows that I have spent the last year dissecting his life and family; I have a man who sees it as a compliment!
This post comes from a woman (US Citizen) and man (Nigerian) and my thoughts and opinions only. The feelings of love can cloud allot of decisions and in this process you must be very careful that you look for the right signs and you ask all the right questions from the very beginning. Allow me to be blunt with you and in hopes that you will use your intuition and also this post as a way to gauge your relationship.
1. Only you can gauge the relationship, it is very important that you do not ask for advise from neither Nigerians or Americans. They will never truly understand your situation and only cause chaotic friction of your mindset. Your intuition needs to be free from the opinions of others!
2. Your Nigerian partner must be totally committed to you. He must be willing to explain his culture, family, relationship views, religion, finances and his communication style.
Examples; a. Phone Calls - does he have multiple SIMS so he can take your call at all times?
b. Family - do you have a diary of all his immediate and non immediate family. Keeping a journal of family, birth dates, etc
c. Culture - food, music, family traditions
d. Relationship views - who is your partner in his family. Is he the oldest son? How is helping his family? What is expected of him?
e. Religion - this the most major part of the relationship in my opinion and you must speak of it and find similarities and a common ground.
f. Finances - this must be spoke of from the beginning and before you decide to do any proceeding of moving forward with the process. He must know your financial situation and understand your struggles and dreams. He also needs to know that you must co-join your income once he arrives in the US. Also, what is your budget and his family needs to know the timeline.
I chose to stay in Nigeria because of my own need to ensure my future. I sacrificed shutting down a major part of my business to do so. It was the best decision of my life. I knew my future husband was a great communicator and a prayerful man, but it wasn't until I was in his environment did I see everything I had kept good records about. I kept records of everything and I found that everything my love said to me was truthful. I would have never been able to do that if I had not asked questions and made my own stance known from inception.
1. I asked him of all of his family and friends, ages and all female women. I asked him his habits and all of his outside activities. I did it not to control him, but to be able to help me understand and respect him. I came from a point of love and a man who really loves you will always discuss things with you to help you understand him.
2. I gave him my financial budget and explained to him our financial situation and discussed the budget for his family. Since, he is a 1st born and he has brother and sisters that depend on him, I explained to him the strict budget. I also, because I was in Nigeria, I was able to see how he explained in detail the finances with me. I was able to watch him to give me his own run down of what was spent. I kept my eyes open and never reacted but asked questions when things didn't add up. It is important that you never lose your temper and that you keep your eyes open.
3. Merging of our children and/or families. I explained in great detail my perspective of my family and how it was important that I was not cut off from my family, but that I will always take his side first! (Respect is important)
4. Church - It is important that you consider finding an African church, this will be important to him. I have agreed and encouraged him that we would drive the 2 hours + to a Winners Chapel at least once a month if not more and we would find a multi-cultured church.
5. Cooking/Cleaning - we discussed roles in detail. This is very important because most African men do not help their wives. I was fortunate to not have to discuss this much.
Red Flags (I have heard stories and I can guarantee that you need to watch out if you see any of these signs)
1. Domestic violence - it is "normal" for many men to hit their wives in NIgeria. You must discuss with him and discuss his family upbringing. A true Man of God will never hit his wife
2. Phone Calls - it is not "normal" if you call him on the phone and his phone is out of service for major parts of the time. Our phones worked in many areas, it is important for you to ask him to buy other SIMS - there is GLO, Airtel and MTN - of these networks is going to work. Having all 3 phone numbers will keep you sane.
3. Friends - it is important you know who are his friends and that you know and are introduced to everyone. If he is not willing to introduce you or tries to keep you a secret. RED FLAG.
4. Money - if he doesn't speak to you about money and if you send him money and he can't and won't account in detail on his own what he has spent. RED FLAG.
5. Family - it is important you know who his family is and that they give you clear evidence of all family members, ask lots of questions and keep good notes. For example, if they bring up an Auntie Sola, then you must know who this Auntie is and ask if they are just a friend of the family called Auntie or if they are indeed a blood relative.
Nigeria is known for corruption and do not be fooled. I do not write this to worry you or to make you afraid. IT IS VERY IMPORTANT.. that you take your time, get to know them, spend a lot of FACE to FACE time. It will save you allot of heartache. I chose to stay in Nigeria throughout the process and not everyone can be as fortunate. Yet, you can spend alot of time getting to know them on the phone and the net. Go into this relationship with allot of prayer, it is easy to get caught up IN LOVE and not see the details. This is your future and being married to a Nigerian will require a lot from you. It is more than just falling in love, Actions go a long way with a Nigerian. Ideas: Watching YOUTUBE videos on how to cook his favorite meal will go a long way. BE willing to stand your ground without being disrespectful is an ART you must MASTER!
I have truly spent hours and hours fighting for what is right and true through actions and NOT WORDS. My mind is full of complete adoration for my future husband because I see things that others might notice. I have trained my eyes/ears to do the work, so when my heart followed, I was able to enjoy the journey and love! He has said on many occasions, that he has never been loved like this! I am praying for your journey and I have committed to this group, to help you and listen to you. I will however, never get involved in your relationship. Take your time and quit pushing...........if it takes 2 years, it is worth every moment!

That's the sad part of immigration. Honest people finish last. However, we are usually the kind of people who know we have to answer for the bad things we do. Anyway, it's amazing that immigration puts lots more effort into over-scrutinizing and dragging their feet on the honest people who file all the right papers (us) and do nothing to stop fraud such as this as well as all of the illegal immigrants living here. I'm sure most people on here have plenty of stories to tell...

How much info did you give them in the first letter about how you met? Some here says you only need to write a few sentences but me and my husband pretty much wrote a novel. We met when I was an Au Pair so we explained that we met in the US and I moved in with him after my 2nd Au Pair year was over and I switched to a student visa. I sent in proof of the visas and acceptance letter from the school.
Write more about how you guys met and add more evidence: the work visa and any more you can think of.
Apart from April 2016 which is after you sent in the petition, when was the last time you guys met?

She cannot marry someone here and adjust her status. OPs name is on the passport as a petitioner and it says a K1 visa. My ex is here illegally and I was told flat out from immigration he could get married but he will never be able to get his papers and if he leaves he will have a 10 year ban because he has been here 2 years illegally.

How could this be considered an emergency situation? Seems irresponsible to give false hope. Presumably the OP wasn't forced to flee Canada. The OP doesn't mention anything drastic changing between now and the time they left that would put the daughter in imminent peril. As others have said, not being properly informed about immigration law doesn't constitute an emergency - the OP is free to abandon the AoS process at any time.
Seriously...any claim that the daughter is dependent on him/her seemingly went out the window once the OP chose to leave her behind to go live in another country.

No one said they know everything. But there are several people here who have looked into what qualifies as an emergency situation, and attempted to have their cases expedited based on their health issues, and even more serious health issues have not seen any compassion on the part of immigration. There was a USC who had a brain tumour and her husband's case was not expedited. I have known of one case where it was granted and that was when the USC was having a liver transplant. His child's case was expedited so she could be with him as there was a strong chance he would die.

*YAWN* Time for my tea break.
I have read, researched enough to know what are special circumstances in immigration.
In OP's case, her FAILURE to plan BEFORE deciding to AOS inside US, does not constitute a special case for immigration

This should be interesting.

Do tell and what about the people who lied at the interview? I think the entry process is very fair. The changes to the VWP were much needed. It is a broken system but not because of the questions they ask. The CBP officer knows the answers, he has the papers in front of him. You don't think people lied and forgot what they lied about at the interview? You know how many people are not honest. If people don't like the system or like answering questions there is no need to come here. It is no different than any other country. In Morocco, they ask a bunch of questions as well. No country wants overstayers in their country. The list of illegal things people do is endless. A visa does not promise a person entry into the USA. Why should we be different than any other country? The point here is don't lie and don't try and pull one over on immigration at any level. It doesn't work. They all have heard everything. They don't care...they have a job to do and protecting the country at the borders is their job.
I stated before I wouldn't want their job. In fact I wouldn't want any law enforcement job. They have a job to do and well being lied to normally doesn't go over well.

Down syndrome is not a terminal condition.
My previous job I had a coworker with Down's that was doing manual labor. He was married and had worked for the company for over 20 years. His pension was better than mine!!

Why would it? I am disabled and don't qualify for special circumstances to move to my husband faster. There's nothing wrong with the healthcare in Canada. Her health is not at risk if she stays there. If anything, disabled people face even more scrutiny as the authorities want to be certain we won't become a public charge.

Please be aware that by spending 6 months in the US every year, she may be deemed to have abused her visiting privileges by de facto living illegally in the US and lose her ability to visit the US.
Immigration does not work that way. "Humanitarian Grounds" doesn't work that way. Don't give people false hope when you are guessing at answers.

Exactly.