I definitely had to read through your post to make sure you weren't MY wife! LOL We've been together for 8.5 years in what I thought was the perfect K-1 Visa love story! In a nutshell, she REALLY has not become acclimated to being here, after all these years. Her prevailing defense is that she's more comfortable at home in the U.K., which she should be, but I personally feel that she should have gotten comfortable living with me after all this time. "At the end of the day", as you Brits say, I've concluded that she "leaped before she looked" and would be better off just admitting that she's perpetually homesick, like yourself, and should just remain in the U.K. COVID-19 has actually helped with that.
She left to attend to her Mum for a medical procedure which was actually ruled out because of her age (92) and that's been 2.5 years ago! Her "excuse" for not returning is that we lost our housing, which was inevitable, because she would not try to get gainful employment that would afford us to live the lifestyle that we were both comfortable with, here in America. I had to do it all by myself and it wasn't possible. She didn't want to work outside of the home because she didn't feel comfortable working in America. Didn't want to work from home because she rather work outside the home. Didn't want to go school to upgrade her skills because she really felt she was DONE with school after vocational training, 40 years ago. Everything in America was substandard to everything in U.K. From the beginning, the U.K. vs the USA has been a thing in every way possible, even to the point of refusing to apply for citizenship because she didn't want to "give up her U.K. citizenship", which is not possible. It's been a stressful experience, for me. So I may empathize with your husband.
I worked for an airline and have retired so we're able to fly at a tremendous discount - how does £372/round-trip sound?! We've both been back and forth to where I just left there in March, right before the travel bans started. She's not been back here in 13 months now, so her green card is in danger of getting revoked. She can file an appeal, but I'm at the point of saying, "Don't worry about and stay where you're 'more comfortable' !" She claims she wants to return, but I don't want to get off of this cycle of misery
The moral of MY story is: People want to GET married before considering what it's going to take to BE married. And these are some atypical circumstances. A cross-cultural marriage, different nationalities and now COVID-19 can make for a perfect storm. I'd say, have a honest "come to Jesus" discussion with yourself and then your husband. I've already challenged my wife that she has to decide that here is where she wants to BE, COVID-19, notwithstanding. With any couple, courtship is SO romantic which falls off when you're actually living together. Not unless you continue to be pro-active with the romance. It's easy for my wife to make the grand, romantic statements from across the Atlantic - the things will fall right back into the routine when she does return. So, I want her to stay where she is, going forward. I don't want her coming back if she's not happy and not working toward being happy. It's made me feel like sh**. Which ever direction you take - staying and making a positive go of things here, or just returning home - it not going to be easy one way or the other. You've got to decide on which direction to take to not be miserable. Eight years in, I can only say that it's only going to get worst if you don't. CHEERS! Wife is from Walsall, btw (Hope you can read thru my typos. I'm too lazy to proofread!)
The only thing you even came close to demolishing is our country with this wack idea.
The country would only be weaker as we struggle to support an influx of people that would tax our communities, infrastructure, and public assistance when said people are unable to provide for themselves.
For having a Pinay Asawa, I award you +5 points. For trying to cripple our country, I take away 15.
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