amyandjorge

Why didn't you tell them that your wife has already left? How do you expect to get the right information if you don't correctly describe your situation?
Some part of USCIS is aware that your wife has left the country. Just because some poor phone center schmuck on the disinformation line is unaware is unimportant.
The I-485s are done. You can hold back the information that your wife is out of the country but you would be engaging in fraud if she does gets a green card. Is this how you want to start her life in the US?
You screwed up by letting her leave the US. Be honest with her about it.
You have been given good advice on how to fix your mistake. File the I-130 and start the spousal visa process. File another I-130 for your stepdaughter. Wait the 6-12 months.
No judge or government official is going to ignore the law. No one is going to give your wife a green card knowing that she left the US without AP. Only their ignorance of this material fact could result in your wife successfully adjusting, and this would be based on a material misrepresentation. And a material misrepresentation puts her at risk even if she later becomes a US citizen. Lying or leaving out material facts = fraud = lifetime ban = revocation of immigration status = hell. Don't go there.
You can't fix the I-485. No one can. Accept your mistakes and go forward. Try to be slick by hiding the fact that your wife left the US without AP could bite you in the ####### severely. Do you want to risk a lifetime ban for your wife? Do you feel lucky?

Diamonds are filthy, so are banks. So is Wall St for that matter.
I must say, the apple tree is sweet.

She flooded the forum - not just any forum, but the "case progress" section - with questions, didn't like the answers so said they must be false, and now is accusing people of mistreating her. I hope she DOES carry that attitude with her to her interview. But I'm mean like that...
If you put her stuff together...her husband has not filed taxes for 2 years. She has maybe 3 pictures of them together, and none of her husband with their child. No joint financial stuff. She's going to the interview with her child's birth certificate and a few pieces of mail, addressed individually, that goes to the same address as her husband's mail.
After what some others on here have been through during their interviews, she BETTER have problems, or the system's really screwed up.

You and your fiance need to learn the "rules" before you make a serious mistake! Was he just going to move here? You do realize that this is ILLEGAL? He can't come and stay longer than 90 days on a visitors visa.... That is why the officer was so nasty. People can't just move to America, you have to follow procedures. In order to move here an LIVE, you guys have to have a fiance visa (K1) or a spousal visa... You can not APPLY for either until your first marriage is resolved. It sucks, we all agree, but coming and staying illegally can lead to a ban. I hope this all works out for you... Good luck.

Having a child proves that you've met in person.
Raising a child together shows a relationship.

Perhaps try a credit union instead. They have a better reputation for actually caring about their customers (since in essence they are owned by their customers).
http://www.asmarterchoice.org/
http://researchcu.ncua.gov/Views/FindCreditUnions.aspx

It doesn't matter at all which POE you choose... You can look at POE reviews from VJ members here: http://www.visajourney.com/reviews/poereviews.php

It seems your wife has a unique situation (compared to other spouses here).
My husband identifies with an indigenous group but is proudly Honduran. He also gets in a tizzy and corrects people who call him Mexican (which ethnically and linguistically speaking are very similar).
I think if someone asks, you should tell them. If they don't want to know they shouldn't ask about nationality/ethnicity. In your wife's case it's not being 'politically correct', it's just being correct to say she is Khmer Krom from Vietnam. You could always do a combination, her village/family is.... her passport says....
If you (and her) don't explain the difference, who will?

what a bummer! I have yet to meet the man who doesn't mind using condoms on a regular basis. However, if I told my husband to wear a condom, a tiara, fairy wings, and a big bird nose before we do it, guess what? He would. He also pays his half of my BC.
Of course you're not ready to procreate with a man who currently cannot (and who knows when?) enter the United States. And clearly, from his personal point of view of pregnancy and childbirth, it is all up to you to take care of your body and the consequences.
And concerning abstaining, whether or not you are taking BC or are against it, do you really want to have sex with someone who disregards/lacks empathy towards his partner and the consequences of his actions? Sometimes a break does good.

what a bummer! I have yet to meet the man who doesn't mind using condoms on a regular basis. However, if I told my husband to wear a condom, a tiara, fairy wings, and a big bird nose before we do it, guess what? He would. He also pays his half of my BC.
Of course you're not ready to procreate with a man who currently cannot (and who knows when?) enter the United States. And clearly, from his personal point of view of pregnancy and childbirth, it is all up to you to take care of your body and the consequences.
And concerning abstaining, whether or not you are taking BC or are against it, do you really want to have sex with someone who disregards/lacks empathy towards his partner and the consequences of his actions? Sometimes a break does good.

what a bummer! I have yet to meet the man who doesn't mind using condoms on a regular basis. However, if I told my husband to wear a condom, a tiara, fairy wings, and a big bird nose before we do it, guess what? He would. He also pays his half of my BC.
Of course you're not ready to procreate with a man who currently cannot (and who knows when?) enter the United States. And clearly, from his personal point of view of pregnancy and childbirth, it is all up to you to take care of your body and the consequences.
And concerning abstaining, whether or not you are taking BC or are against it, do you really want to have sex with someone who disregards/lacks empathy towards his partner and the consequences of his actions? Sometimes a break does good.

what a bummer! I have yet to meet the man who doesn't mind using condoms on a regular basis. However, if I told my husband to wear a condom, a tiara, fairy wings, and a big bird nose before we do it, guess what? He would. He also pays his half of my BC.
Of course you're not ready to procreate with a man who currently cannot (and who knows when?) enter the United States. And clearly, from his personal point of view of pregnancy and childbirth, it is all up to you to take care of your body and the consequences.
And concerning abstaining, whether or not you are taking BC or are against it, do you really want to have sex with someone who disregards/lacks empathy towards his partner and the consequences of his actions? Sometimes a break does good.

Tell him to use his hands. He should take responsibility for it since you can't afford other methods.

03 sisters got K1 visa to come to USA? wow... really? That's what I call "family planning"!.

Thanks, I have been wondering about that movie.
Other good eye-opening movies about US and immigrants:
'The Visitor'
'Sin Nombre', in Spanish but subtitles on Netflix (movie is very graphic!)

I would like to add to this.
Concerning country of origin. Most hospitals (and other federally funded institutions), are required to provide interpreters for Limited English Proficient patients free of charge. Even if the patient (let's say a child) speaks English, an interpreter can be provided for the parents/guardians.
Please do not hesitate to request interpreters, especially when health is involved.

I would like to add to this.
Concerning country of origin. Most hospitals (and other federally funded institutions), are required to provide interpreters for Limited English Proficient patients free of charge. Even if the patient (let's say a child) speaks English, an interpreter can be provided for the parents/guardians.
Please do not hesitate to request interpreters, especially when health is involved.

Especially if it says DO NOT OPEN!
I am in disbelief.... LOL!

First, questions should be:
1. Is there a possibility I get the visa in absence of a legitimate relationship? as she can't be predicted.
4. My new girlfriend who is more matured in reasoning really wants to date a married man who she has never met (?) but who loves her very much, even though divorcing his current wife isn't his decision.
I'm sorry, it seems like phone records are the least of your worries at this point. You don't have to be in the US to divorce your wife. Or to date someone else apparently.

Not loving you interfered in loving you.
An abused person takes normal treatment as wonderful, and it's easy for the abuser to occasionally do something trivial that seems like such a big deal to the abused.
There isn't one molecule of my life that my wife doesn't know about. She has permission to look through emails, cell phone, internet history - everything. I've never stepped out on her despite having permission to do it. I'd be key-logging that husband or doing some pretty close inspection of everything he's up to. Who knows what really happened with that other girl. Maybe she dumped him. But I would not take his word on it.
You mentioned that the face-to-face discussions are so difficult with the long silences and so forth - it isn't because there is nothing to say. It's because what is in his mind is not being said. People blurt out what is on their mind in real time when they are expressing their true feelings. But when they need to conceal something, they have to think carefully about what they are going to say to manipulate the other person.

You can't even disagree if you are FROM the USA. American exceptionalism: number one in everything except GDP per capita, except life expectancy, except education, except manufacturing, except health care, etc.
Oh, but we have taken the lead in number of citizens jailed in both absolute and relative terms, and we kill more people than any other country on earth. So don't be disagreeing, got that? It can't be that there is a better way to do anything. Pointing out how another country does pharmacy is the same thing as planting a bomb on the subway.

Get a job with ICE?

Your first sentence is the key really.
Cheating is a deal breaker in my mind. The other parts of the promise involve being true and faithful to your partner. "Forsaking ALL OTHERS" I take that very seriously. I also believe that your wife (spouse) and family, if you are so blessed to have children, MUST be number 1 and they MUST know it.
I believe that each person in the marriage has a RIGHT to expect that. One partner cannot urinate on the promise and expect the other to remain until death.

I don't want to invalidate anybody's opinion here, but please do NOT listen to anybody who says talk to your husband if what you write is true. As a developed and supposed civilized nation, there is way too much domestic abuse here. He sounds like an abusive individual, and there is no telling how he will act. He has repeatedly demonstrated that your feelings don't matter to him, so there is no reason to take him or his feelings into consideration when you make your decisions.
As others have suggested, I would take the things you need one day when he is gone and seek refuge with a friend or a women's shelter. I'm sorry you've found yourself in such a desperate situation, but don't make a bad situation worse by sticking around and thinking things will change.

Asssalamu Alaikum sister,
I have read your post and it sounds to me that your husband is using you for american citizenship --which is fraud. I am pakistani and my wife is an American citizen. I have lots of knowledge about the immigration process and divorce process. I am still currently in pakistan, so if you need any assistance, I can help you, insha-ALLAH.
You are correct to feel that your husband's character and behaviors are inapropriate. Even in Pakistani culture, good men treat their wives with so much respect and attention. 32 years is not old, and you can still easily find a good man who will give you all the love and respect you deserve -- i would urge you not to waste another day on this man. You have been patient enough with him, but if he has not improved yet, then do not expect him to later on in the future. If you try to hold on to hte hope that one day, he will suddenly change and be good to you, in a few years, when he get citizenship and leaves you, you will feel that he has wasted even more of your life. You deserve better than this sister!
You are in my and my wife's prayers, sister. feel free to contact me for assistance in this process, (sent you an inbox message through this site)