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Filed: K-3 Visa Country: United Kingdom
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Okay, I really don't know how to hurdle this.

My husband refuses to wear condoms, but he really

wants to have sex. I have no access to other forms

of birth control at this time, and no access to medical

insurance until we get my immigration status sorted.

We've tried the 'pull and pray' method and it just leaves

me constantly stressed out until my next time of the month.

Our living condition is poor; We live in a studio apartment

type setting and don't even have a proper kitchen.

What do I do? :blink:


I-130

2011-08-20 Posted

2011-08-31 NOA1

2011-09-03 Touch

2011-11-18 Sent Expedite Request to USCIS

2011-12-09 Response Received for Exepedite Request

"Wait your turn" in a nutshell

2011-12-02 Sent Expedite Request to US Representative Ed Royce

2012-01-27 Sent Expedite Request to Immigration Ombudsman

2012-02-02 Sent Expedite Request to Senator Barbara Boxer

2012-02-02 Sent Expedite Request to Senator Dianne Feinstein

2012-03-08 Case transferred to field office for additional processing

2012-03-23 Now being processed at a USCIS office

2012-05-10 Transferred to another office for processing

2012-05-14 Now being processed at a USCIS office

2012-06-05 Approved NOA2

2012-07-17 NVC Case/Invoice # Received

Petitioner: US Born Citizen (Wife)

Beneficiary: British Born Citizen (Husband)

Your I-130 was approved in 279 days from your NOA1 date

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Fertility Awareness Method. It's free. I guess it costs the price of a basal thermometer.

http://www.fertaware.com/awareness.html#faq4

http://www.fwhc.org/birth-control/fam.htm

Edited by Harpa Timsah

AOS for my husband
8/17/10: INTERVIEW DAY (day 123) APPROVED!!

ROC:
5/23/12: Sent out package
2/06/13: APPROVED!

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you can go to health department and ask about depo-provera which is effective for 3 months but you need to pay cash though.


AOS Journey

2-22-2012 - Mailed in AOS/EAD/ paperwork.

2-28-2012 - Return Receipt.

3-05-2012 - NOA I-797C received for I-485, I-765 and biometrics appointment for 3-29-2012

3-07-2012 - Sent Notice to Reschedule Appointment at local ASC by certified mail

3-10-2012 - Return Receipt

3-20-2012 - received text/email the case is transferred

3-24-2012 - NOA I-797C notice received that the case is transferred at CSC

3-30-2012 - Received NOA I-797 New Biometrics Appointment for 4-24-2012

4-24-2012 - BIOMETRICS and same day my I-765 status is in production

4-30-2012 - received text/email notification EAD is on my way

5-03-2012 - received EAC

9-10-2012 - GC/DOCUMENT PRODUCTION

9-11-2012 - CSC mail out the Welcome Letter

9-12-2012 - CSC mail out the Green Card

9-14-2012 - Welcome Letter received

9-15-2012 - Green Card received

ROC Journey

8-15-2014 - Sent I-751

8-18-2014 - I-751 Delivered

8-18-2014 - NOA I-797

8-20-2014 - Check Cashed

9-11-2014 - Biometrics Appointment

11-18-2014- Received email and text notification that green card is in production

11-19-2014- CSC mail out GREEN CARD

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you can go to health department and ask about depo-provera which is effective for 3 months but you need to pay cash though.

Is this in the UK hopefully?


I-130

2011-08-20 Posted

2011-08-31 NOA1

2011-09-03 Touch

2011-11-18 Sent Expedite Request to USCIS

2011-12-09 Response Received for Exepedite Request

"Wait your turn" in a nutshell

2011-12-02 Sent Expedite Request to US Representative Ed Royce

2012-01-27 Sent Expedite Request to Immigration Ombudsman

2012-02-02 Sent Expedite Request to Senator Barbara Boxer

2012-02-02 Sent Expedite Request to Senator Dianne Feinstein

2012-03-08 Case transferred to field office for additional processing

2012-03-23 Now being processed at a USCIS office

2012-05-10 Transferred to another office for processing

2012-05-14 Now being processed at a USCIS office

2012-06-05 Approved NOA2

2012-07-17 NVC Case/Invoice # Received

Petitioner: US Born Citizen (Wife)

Beneficiary: British Born Citizen (Husband)

Your I-130 was approved in 279 days from your NOA1 date

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I'm allergic to the Pill, so it's been barrier methods for me since my early 20s when I discovered that fun fact. Do they still sell the sponge over there? I remember getting it at Boots, but I don't recall seeing them in ages. There's also something called VCF which is available over here now. Not as effective as a condom and kind of irritating to learn how to fold without getting it stuck on your fingers.wacko.gif Basal method is also an idea. Boots used to sell this nifty little computer thingy too called Persona but it involved LOTS of peeing on a stick and wasn't cheap.

I know you are in the UK without a spousal visa, so you don't have access to the NHS, which is really a shame because I found they were very happy to work with my medical restrictions and of course it was free at the point of use. When you do get your status sorted, make this a priority since you can't avail yourself of the really effective stuff without seeing a doctor (the Pill, diaphragm, IUD). In the meantime, try contacting your local sexual health clinic and see if they will see you anyway, even for a fee. http://www.fpa.org.u...ice/findaclinic Note that the FPA gives free advice to EVERYONE in the UK, which includes you.

We're on the P-n-P plan now too, but we're prepared to deal with the consequences (which at my perigeriatric age is becoming less and less likely anyway).

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I'm allergic to the Pill, so it's been barrier methods for me since my early 20s when I discovered that fun fact. Do they still sell the sponge over there? I remember getting it at Boots, but I don't recall seeing them in ages. There's also something called VCF which is available over here now. Not as effective as a condom and kind of irritating to learn how to fold without getting it stuck on your fingers.wacko.gif Basal method is also an idea. Boots used to sell this nifty little computer thingy too called Persona but it involved LOTS of peeing on a stick and wasn't cheap.

I know you are in the UK without a spousal visa, so you don't have access to the NHS, which is really a shame because I found they were very happy to work with my medical restrictions and of course it was free at the point of use. When you do get your status sorted, make this a priority since you can't avail yourself of the really effective stuff without seeing a doctor (the Pill, diaphragm, IUD). In the meantime, try contacting your local GUM (genito-urinary medicine) clinic and see if they will see you anyway, even for a fee. http://www.fpa.org.uk/helpandadvice/findaclinic

We're on the P-n-P plan now too, but we're prepared to deal with the consequences (which at my perigeriatric age is becoming less and less likely anyway).

Thanks for the feedback ... I fondly remember VCF but I haven't seen it around

here yet ... unless the chemist hides it behind the counter. :thumbs:


I-130

2011-08-20 Posted

2011-08-31 NOA1

2011-09-03 Touch

2011-11-18 Sent Expedite Request to USCIS

2011-12-09 Response Received for Exepedite Request

"Wait your turn" in a nutshell

2011-12-02 Sent Expedite Request to US Representative Ed Royce

2012-01-27 Sent Expedite Request to Immigration Ombudsman

2012-02-02 Sent Expedite Request to Senator Barbara Boxer

2012-02-02 Sent Expedite Request to Senator Dianne Feinstein

2012-03-08 Case transferred to field office for additional processing

2012-03-23 Now being processed at a USCIS office

2012-05-10 Transferred to another office for processing

2012-05-14 Now being processed at a USCIS office

2012-06-05 Approved NOA2

2012-07-17 NVC Case/Invoice # Received

Petitioner: US Born Citizen (Wife)

Beneficiary: British Born Citizen (Husband)

Your I-130 was approved in 279 days from your NOA1 date

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Thanks for the feedback ... I fondly remember VCF but I haven't seen it around

here yet ... unless the chemist hides it behind the counter. :thumbs:

Adriene -- I updated my post a little. The FPA (who I linked to) will give free advice to everyone in the UK, regardless of status. Get in touch!

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If you are in the UK and go to a sexual health clinic, they will give you whatever you need anyway. All you have to do is fill in a form with your name and address (wherever youre staying). No NHS number or visa requirements needed. Just turn up and wait.


CR-1
07-01-2011 : Married

05-10-2012 : I-130 Mailed to London (DCF)
05-11-2012 : I-130 Delivered and signed for at Embassy
05-18-2012 : NOA1 Email
07-26-2012 : NOA2 (69 days)
07-28-2012 : NOA2 hard copy received
08-10-2012 : LND Case number received. Letter dated 08-07-2012
08-15-2012 : DS-230 and DS-2001 mailed to Embassy
08-23-2012 : Medical
09-14-2012 : Emailed Embassy and confirmed DS forms have finally been logged (After 29 days)
09-22-2012 : Interview letter received. Dated September 19th.
10-03-2012 : Interview - Approved!
NOA1 to Interview - 138 days.
10-10-2012 : Passport with Visa delivered two hours late at 8pm.
10-22-2012 : POE Philadelphia
11-15-2012 : Green Card received in mail
12-11-2012 : Went to the Social Security office to apply for SSN after it did not arrive.
12-15-2012 : SSN Arrived in 4 days.

05-09-2013 : Left USC Husband.
11-28-2013: Filed for divorce.

05-01-2014: Divorced

05-08-2014: Sent I-751 petition to VSC

05-13-2014: NOA1 (was not postmarked until 5/22/14 and received on 5/24/14)
06-18-2014: Biometrics in St. Albans, VT

11-21-2014: RFE. Received on 11/24/14.

01-22-2015: Interview notice mailed out. Received 1/26/15

02-12-2015: Interview in St Albans, VT - Approved during interview!

CRBA
08-16-2012 : CRBA in London for our daughter - Approved!
09-11-2012 : CRBA and Passport arrived.
09-25-2012 : SSN Arrived. Mailed from MD on 09-17-2012

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Filed: AOS (pnd) Country: Colombia
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No glove, no love.

I agree with this completely, if he wants the sex bad enough then make him wear the condom. At least until you have a better form of birth control to where a condom wouldn't be necessary.

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Okay, I really don't know how to hurdle this.

My husband refuses to wear condoms, but he really

wants to have sex. I have no access to other forms

of birth control at this time, and no access to medical

insurance until we get my immigration status sorted.

We've tried the 'pull and pray' method and it just leaves

me constantly stressed out until my next time of the month.

Our living condition is poor; We live in a studio apartment

type setting and don't even have a proper kitchen.

What do I do? :blink:

Best birth control = his father and fraternal grandma watching with keen interest.

Serious = Option 1 wrap it up since you guys can't afford children (even yourselves). Option 2 look up natural birth control methods if bare back is so irresistible (some may require a bit of up front expenses).

Pro option 1: barrier between STDs and non infected person, next to nil pregnancy, sex all day everyday 24/7.

Pro option 2: mind blowing O's (but only when you're not ovulating (happens for 7 days) which sucks (which you may have to do more) since horniness is at it max during ovulation).

We are not animals.

...uuuuuhhh yeah were are. I'm sure Adriene hollers like a monkey when her husband starts playing the opening song for The Lion King. :devil:

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Belize
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could be about time to grow up.

Best birth control = his father and fraternal grandma watching with keen interest.

Serious = Option 1 wrap it up since you guys can't afford children (even yourselves). Option 2 look up natural birth control methods if bare back is so irresistible (some may require a bit of up front expenses).

Pro option 1: barrier between STDs and non infected person, next to nil pregnancy, sex all day everyday 24/7.

Pro option 2: mind blowing O's (but only when you're not ovulating (happens for 7 days) which sucks (which you may have to do more) since horniness is at it max during ovulation).

...uuuuuhhh yeah were are. I'm sure Adriene hollers like a monkey when her husband starts playing the opening song for The Lion King. :devil:

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