Can I still apply for ESTA after abandoning AoS Application?

[Zeriox 0]

I'm living with my parents right now and they help me out a little. I'm looking for a job right now but it's not easy to find a job in Germany. There aren't many jobs and people have high expectations. Even for a job at a grocery store they want people with a good high school diploma. All the stores are overcrowded and everyone has to be very fast. It's very different here. I even think working in the US might be easier for me because it's not that hard to find a job. And there are less people if you don't live in a big city.

[yuna628 9,528]

I guess it will depend on what you want to do as a couple, and prepare yourself for the fact it may either require some major changes to which country you want to live in, in order to actually have a life together, or potentially waiting a couple years until your financial situation sorts out for the better.

[JFH 12,189]

15 hours ago, Zeriox said:

My ESTA is still valid. I just checked it and it says it expires in December. But that doesn't mean they'll let me in.

And when you apply for ESTA they ask you a few questions and one of the questions is "have you ever been denied a visa". And I'm not sure if that's a yes or no for me. It says my case has been denied, but actually I'm the one who canceled and abandoned it. So it should be a no.

Your ESTA is no longer valid. Your circumstances have changed since the initial approval. Anytime the circumstances change you have to re-apply. 

Edited January 28, 2020 by JFH

[Boiler 43,433]

The visiting situation to be honest seems the minor problem, what are your plans?

[Lucky2Lucky 2,526]

For now, since you aren’t immigrating at the moment maybe it would be better to work on yourself and build a case that you won’t become a public charge once you plan on immigrating. Finish your HS diploma and get an entry level job say in a restaurant or retail. 
Your chance of a tourist visit seems slim since you have already shown immigrant intent.

[Zeriox 0]

Would it make sense for me to get a working holiday visa for Canada? That would allow me to live and work in Canada for a year. And my wife lives close to the canadian border. We could spend some time together there. And I could work at the same time.

[kiwibean 42]

That's not a bad idea.  It would get you some good work history, and your wife might find she likes Canada better (not as much change).  It seems like you're on a journey to live together at the moment, and I wish you all the best.  You seem to have some creative ideas and an ability to work around problems, which are great traits!

[JFH 12,189]

3 hours ago, Zeriox said:

Would it make sense for me to get a working holiday visa for Canada? That would allow me to live and work in Canada for a year. And my wife lives close to the canadian border. We could spend some time together there. And I could work at the same time.

Why are you happy to work in Canada but not in Germany? 

 

Have you considered some form of home working? Customer service or something? From what I’ve seen here your computer skills are excellent and so is your English competence. If you can spend all day typing on her and answering people’s questions, why not do it for a company and get paid for it? 

Edited January 28, 2020 by JFH

[Duke & Marie 1,389]

19 hours ago, Zeriox said:

You're saying I don't qualify for ESTA because I don't have a job? That's not true because I visited the US many times in the past when I didn't have a job. I saved up some money and that was all I needed to visit the US.

 

Our case was a little complicated. It would take too long to explain the whole story. All I'm asking is if I can visit my wife for maybe 2 weeks on ESTA. Or can I never go back on ESTA again because I abandoned our case?

That's all want to know.

It will be a lot easier for her to visit you.. give her the money you’ve saved for your flight to get a ticket

[JFH 12,189]

2 minutes ago, Duke & Marie said:

It will be a lot easier for her to visit you.. give her the money you’ve saved for your flight to get a ticket

Ot use the money they would have spent on flights to file the I-130. 
 

Seems odd that $535 for the I-130 is out of reach but vacations are not. Considering they were going to go through AOS which involves a long period of time with no possibility of any income from the immigrant, it’s strange that the I-130 filing fee seems impossible. 

Id’d sell the blood from my veins to get the money together to file the paperwork for my husband and me to live together if that’s what it took. 

[Duke & Marie 1,389]

3 minutes ago, JFH said:

Ot use the money they would have spent on flights to file the I-130. 
 

Seems odd that $535 for the I-130 is out of reach but vacations are not. Considering they were going to go through AOS which involves a long period of time with no possibility of any income from the immigrant, it’s strange that the I-130 filing fee seems impossible. 

Id’d sell the blood from my veins to get the money together to file the paperwork for my husband and me to live together if that’s what it took. 

Agreed.. but op is confusing.. first vacation using esta, then on about immigration, then work holiday to Canada.. there’s definately immigration intent.. i130 is best chance, but the petitioner and beneficiary  will both have to work in harder in order to get approvals.. seems they are looking for easy solutions when there really aren’t any.

[Zeriox 0]

The I-130 filing fee isn't the problem. But we're gonna need so much more money. And like I said I don't think I'm gonna get approved if we file now. We don't even have a sponsor. So thats why we tried to visit each other instead of filing for I-130.

[Duke & Marie 1,389]

18 minutes ago, Zeriox said:

The I-130 filing fee isn't the problem. But we're gonna need so much more money. And like I said I don't think I'm gonna get approved if we file now. We don't even have a sponsor. So thats why we tried to visit each other instead of filing for I-130.

So much more money?

 

the filing fee, NVC costs etc will be very close to the same price of a flight to go visit her.. with the added bonus that you’ll have 12mths inbetween payments to save up for it, for her to find work and for you to find a sponsor.. 

 

seems your making excuses.. there’s no easy options here.. you think moving to Canada will be cheaper? Seriously 

Edited January 28, 2020 by Duke & Marie

[JFH 12,189]

40 minutes ago, Zeriox said:

The I-130 filing fee isn't the problem. But we're gonna need so much more money. And like I said I don't think I'm gonna get approved if we file now. We don't even have a sponsor. So thats why we tried to visit each other instead of filing for I-130.

The I-130 filing fees is the biggest expense in the immigration paperwork. NVC fees are smaller (but you about a year to save up for those after submitting the I-130) and you will be able to work the minute you arrive. If you go there on vacation, you spend money on a ticket, can’t work, and you’re no closer to living together with your wife than you are now. All you will have gained is a few air miles and maybe a tan. 

[Zeriox 0]

But how would that work without a sponsor?

 

And where should we live? She lives with her parents right now, but I couldn't move in with them. So we would need our own apartment and pay for a security deposit. Thats another $1,500.

 

And I think I should save up at least $5,000-,$6,000 before I go. Just to make sure I have enough money if something unexpected happens.