How personal is too personal to use as evidence?

[ashort714 15]

Hi everyone!

my husband Tyrone and I are so glad we've found this little community!

We're currently awaiting our NOA2, and it feels like it's taking FOREVER. So, I've decided to occupy myself by updating and organizing The Binder - our catch-all, go-to place for all things UK-to-US related. This binder will be coming with me to England to go to Ty's interview with us, and I plan on REALLY scrapbooking it someday for our kids to see - I'm really excited about that part, so I *might* start that now 

One thing we've found ourselves talking about is the secondary evidence of a bona-fide marriage - all the objects and documents that show our relationship. Specifically, we're really thinking about what exactly to share with USCIS as evidence, and what is just too personal. He's not comfortable sharing *certain* letters I've written him, and there are LOTS of email correspondences that we're really not willing to show to a USCIS official (if you know what I mean....... *fans self*)

 

So I guess my question is, what do you guys plan to share with USCIS when the time comes, and what do you plan to keep to yourself? And for anyone who's already gone through the process, was there anything you provided as evidence that was just TOO MUCH? Also, how much evidence do you think is enough?

Hoping this makes for a fun thread 

[mindthegap 2,611]

Redact them

[Hypnos 6,579]

Offer practical demonstrations of anything you describe. 

[ashort714 15]

15 minutes ago, Hypnos said:

Offer practical demonstrations of anything you describe. 

Plot twist: your interviewer already has all the emails because Thanks NSA!

[pushbrk 13,413]

56 minutes ago, ashort714 said:

Hi everyone!

my husband Tyrone and I are so glad we've found this little community!

We're currently awaiting our NOA2, and it feels like it's taking FOREVER. So, I've decided to occupy myself by updating and organizing The Binder - our catch-all, go-to place for all things UK-to-US related. This binder will be coming with me to England to go to Ty's interview with us, and I plan on REALLY scrapbooking it someday for our kids to see - I'm really excited about that part, so I *might* start that now 

One thing we've found ourselves talking about is the secondary evidence of a bona-fide marriage - all the objects and documents that show our relationship. Specifically, we're really thinking about what exactly to share with USCIS as evidence, and what is just too personal. He's not comfortable sharing *certain* letters I've written him, and there are LOTS of email correspondences that we're really not willing to show to a USCIS official (if you know what I mean....... *fans self*)

 

So I guess my question is, what do you guys plan to share with USCIS when the time comes, and what do you plan to keep to yourself? And for anyone who's already gone through the process, was there anything you provided as evidence that was just TOO MUCH? Also, how much evidence do you think is enough?

Hoping this makes for a fun thread 

You will not be dealing with USCIS for any of the remaining part of the visa process.  They don't issue visas.  As for evidence to have ready for the interview (Dept. of State) with a Consular Officer, there is no reason to bring anything either of you isn't fully comfortable having a stranger see.  Most likely, nothing in the way of evidence will be asked for at all.  Maybe they'll want to see some photos of the two of you together.  There's seldom a question of bona fides in London unless something is really a big red flag.

[canadian_wife 1,829]

28 minutes ago, ashort714 said:

Plot twist: your interviewer already has all the emails because Thanks NSA!

 

Then no need to send them!

[pushbrk 13,413]

1 hour ago, ashort714 said:

Plot twist: your interviewer already has all the emails because Thanks NSA!

Please don't take this seriously.  While such things might possibly be available, Consular Officers do not have time to read everybody's email history.

[Wuozopo 4,294]

3 hours ago, ashort714 said:

Also, how much evidence do you think is enough?

London does not typically ask to see evidence that you are in love at their visa interviews. Whatever you put in the petition packet is probably sufficient. The marriage certificate is your main proof. If you happened to get bank accounts together or signed a lease together since the petition, then that's good. But it would  be difficult to do that when you live in separate countries and they know that. They are not going to be interested in your chats, emails, cyber sex, etc at a London interview. Attending the interview together does not make a bit of difference to them, but it's fun to be together to celebrate VD (visa day hahaha). Real easy. 

Edited January 17, 2018 by Wuozopo

[ashort714 15]

7 minutes ago, Wuozopo said:

London does not typically ask to see evidence that you are in love at their visa interviews. Whatever you put in the petition packet is probably sufficient. The marriage certificate is your main proof. If you happened to get bank accounts together or signed a lease together since the petition, then that's good. But it would  be difficult to do that when you live in separate countries and they know that. They are not going to be interested in your chats, emails, cyber sex, etc at a London interview. Attending the interview together does not make a bit of difference to them, but it's fun to be together to celebrate VD (visa day hahaha). Real easy. 

thank you so much for this answer! I definitely want to go - I even have a dress and am working my bum off at spin class to look nice in it haha.  But it's good to know that this process won't be invasive for us  

[Wuozopo 4,294]

12 minutes ago, ashort714 said:

thank you so much for this answer! I definitely want to go - I even have a dress and am working my bum off at spin class to look nice in it haha.  But it's good to know that this process won't be invasive for us  

 My fiancé came and we had fun doing tourist things in London after the morning interview. It was summer when Buckingham Palace is open for tours so we strolled through the palace and garden, then around the corner for dinner and drinks at Hard Rock. We had a hotel walking distance to the embassy. You'll be at the new embassy so will have to check out fun things to do around there or take the tube somewhere. It opened TODAY. 

[NikLR 13,232]

We didn't share a single email. 

[Little_Vixen 1,869]

My fiancé and I have been joking around about that since we started this process. There was some talk about USCIS keeping tabs on your internet use. We figured the USCIS office will get pretty steamy if they do ours, but at least there's no doubt about the validity of our relationship.

[csk2b1 44]

Back when webcams became popular...ah the memories 

Edited January 17, 2018 by csk2b1

[jjbandero 39]

We only provided emails containing their reactions to our engagement announcement 

[Unlockable 7,318]

I remember someone posted a question on on VJ some time ago if it was OK to send pictures of him and his fiance having sex as proof of a bonafide relationship.

 

And I'm not kidding.