Child from assault

[Jeanne Adil 1,651]

2 hours ago, David & Zoila said:

With all due respect this sounds like a typical scam.  Persons in third world countries often are professional liars.  Trust me, I know.  Families construct plots and all get involved in these scams.  No disrespect to Filipinos, I married one but lying is part of the culture.  It is so common to lie in the Philippines.  Let's face it people there are hungry, literally.  Her statements to you sound very suspicious.  Having to go back and forth to the embassy?  "The locals at the embassy"  What locals?  The "Locals" do not turn people around before they see the CO.  They simply verify whether the person has all the documents.  Then whether they have them or not they are sent to the next window where they eventually see a CO.  The CO is the only person that sends someone home.  It's possible she never even went to the embassy.  I mean I'm sure you prepared all the documents and made sure she had a complete packet?  Now a baby has been born that you were never made aware of?  Now the baby has multiple medical conditions?  I assume you are sending money to help with the babies care now also?  The cops there are inadequate but they will take a report of rape. I hope and pray that I am wrong but I gotta tell you it doesn't look good from where I am sitting.  Good luck.     

i also agree but maybe the best way to find out is to email the embassy with the above information and ask

i emailed our embassy and got return emails / even told me Adil had been approved before he was able to call me

embassies give 221g to deny or to ask for additional documents from the people involved / not sure they have much time to invesigate if there aren't any police reports

have you visited her since this baby is born?

do you see medical issues?

have u told her i understand as i was raped and can help by being a friend?

 

[kris&me 572]

sorry for this but you have been together for 5 years and have a  son with her??

why in the world have you kept this poor girl in limbo so long?

go and marry and do right by her

yes, sorry, as this is a judgement call but i don't undrestand how you can sound so concerned and left her this long with your son

in that country , men probably thought of her as "a ruined woman"  and thought she is "easy"  leaving her wide open for the attact she is claiming

hard to put the blame and i am but good God,  if you care this much, go marry her

sorry for both of you. really i am

get some spiritual and emotional help

[caliliving 606]

I think you know, as well as everyone else here knows what the likilihood happened to get her pregnant with a kid.

also, what medical conditions?? have you been wiring her money:/

lots of women in third world countries (or other countries) will have a child with a USC for 2 reasons 1. they think it looks 'stronger' to the US gov and they will take the case more seriously and not deny them a visa and 2. so that they can get citizenship thru their kid when the kid turns 21.

 

it is one think if you are willing to accept and raise the kid. however, it is another thing if she has a bf/husband back home that she is spending your hard earned money on!! when was the last time you saw her??? why are you continuing to give her money? no way a woman from honduras has the run around for 18 months:/ 

 

sorry, you need to get your ### over there and fact check. but i would not bankrupt yourself over this woman!!!! whether she has your child or not (and i would get a DNA test while you are over there as well)

[David & Diana R 1,006]

21 minutes ago, dawning said:

I'm not saying you might not be right... obviously scammers are common. If she is a scammer, she doesn't sound expert or skillful at all, however.  Holding off on pregnancy from the affair would be smarter than producing a fictional rape at the last moment,  just because sadly there are a lot of men who leave women after rape, on the "Damaged goods" principal. 

It just makes me feel sad for your wife, and a bunch of other 3rd world significant others of Americans posting here, that producing an "official report" for "proof" (all that proves is that she talked to the police, and they are unlikely to draw a conclusion if she is not asking to press charges) is more important than a victim's well-being.  Is it more ok in your mind for a German or UK woman not to go to the police?  What about the women who don't get pregnant or live where abortion is an option and never tell their significant other?

You don't have to feel sad for my wife.  We are BOTH doing very well thank you.  We are both very happy and have been married over five years now and just 6 1/2 months ago we had a miracle IVF baby girl.  Life is good!  God is good.

[kris&me 572]

I appolgize to every VJ member for my post but i think men have to see what a predicment they put women in when having children and not marrying

in some countries the man who did this would be put in jail and in some the woman would have worse

[Jeanne Adil 1,651]

20 minutes ago, kris&me said:

sorry for this but you have been together for 5 years and have a  son with her??

why in the world have you kept this poor girl in limbo so long?

go and marry and do right by her

yes, sorry, as this is a judgement call but i don't undrestand how you can sound so concerned and left her this long with your son

in that country , men probably thought of her as "a ruined woman"  and thought she is "easy"  leaving her wide open for the attact she is claiming

hard to put the blame and i am but good God,  if you care this much, go marry her

sorry for both of you. really i am

get some spiritual and emotional help

i have to agree and it is not judgemental 

we are in the US and are not punished for having an out of wedlock baby

but we must be responsible as we deal with the countries of the world here

we have to respect the cultures of all

in Morocco a man impregnants a woman and must marry her or go to prison

and the woman is usually abandoned by her family

the man's family is embarrassed also and does not accept the baby or the marriage

we, are trying to love and marry foreigners,   we have to learn, accept and honor their cultures and people

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

8 minutes ago, kris&me said:

I appolgize to every VJ member for my post but i think men have to see what a predicment they put women in when having children and not marrying

in some countries the man who did this would be put in jail and in some the woman would have worse

 

25 minutes ago, kris&me said:

sorry for this but you have been together for 5 years and have a  son with her??

why in the world have you kept this poor girl in limbo so long?

go and marry and do right by her

yes, sorry, as this is a judgement call but i don't undrestand how you can sound so concerned and left her this long with your son

in that country , men probably thought of her as "a ruined woman"  and thought she is "easy"  leaving her wide open for the attact she is claiming

hard to put the blame and i am but good God,  if you care this much, go marry her

sorry for both of you. really i am

get some spiritual and emotional help

What are you talking about, and have you read the whole thing thread??? If not then you need to go back and read it because it does sound fishy to say the least. He is TRYING to bring her here to the USA but supposedly according there has been problems at the embassy now for over 6 months now. He already has a child with the woman previously and is trying to bring her here when out of no where she gave birth and said she was raped. 

 

 

[kris&me 572]

i think the post under david and zola that Johnbolson,  the poster, indicates he has a son with his financee and a 5 year relationship wiht her and will accept the new baby  no matter where it comes from

this is something we did not know in original post

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

1 minute ago, kris&me said:

i think the post under david and zola that Johnbolson,  the poster, indicates he has a son with his financee and a 5 year relationship wiht her and will accept the new baby  no matter where it comes from

this is something we did not know in original post

I agree it is commendable for him to do this and big kudos from me. But what I have a problem with is that there is supposedly there is stuff going at the embassy that she can't get fixed in 6 months, being in AP is a different thing which it doesn't like it she is in AP right now. Also I want to know if he is sending money to her for the "medical bills" or to the hospital? I say this because I have heard of this happening where a relative is all of sudden sick and needs extra money for this or that when in reality that isn't the case at all. 

 

I would just like more info and I hope he gets it as well. 

[Ban Hammer 14,708]

as the op has received lots of advice on this situation, this thread is now closed.