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Hi ,everyone am new here, have a problem.

I came to US end of march,the last week under a K-1 Visa,my husband who's a USC hurriedly file for marriage which took place on the 1st week of April.

Since then things really changed between us,i didn't know what it was until I talked to a lady on phone who told me that was abuse;

He doesn't want me to leave the house,he keeps telling me ill be arrested.

He doesn't work he had cancer before so he's on disability income so he' doesn't leave the house and smokes all day with me inside that house.

He has insulted me,yelled at me and even tried stopping from going to church which is round the blocker,100m away.

He's made me sign documents,that are illegal I cant give much. Details here as he threatens me that we wouldn't have cable if I don't sign.

He doesn't talk to me,but when visitors are around he talks to me,compliments me,they know we are okay.

I am not working just my SSN,and today I applied for ID I have no money at all,...

Two weeks ago I brought up the smoking issue,he yelled at me said I was disrespectful,i told he was not the man I knew I didn't understand why he was so cruel to me,he just told me I should never bring up petty issues,i am so childish,they is nothing he hasn't called me.

After that he called his mum and reported me,and accused me of sleeping with someone,bad relations in Church etc,so one of his friends came to ask me about the allegations,she was so sure I did everything that was mentioned to her,someone told me to keep records of everything that has happened to me so I did,i came to realize that he has a very bad credit and he actually brought me here so he can afford a luxurious life.

I told him I want to see a counsellor @ salvation army which he almost refused but he took me and sat nearby I wasn't even able to talk,and he told me I shouldn't go for such things they will reflect on my records.

He's asked me not to talk to anyone male or female,i don't have extra house keys,he never takes me anywhere and anytime I asked him if I can stroll he tells he wants to go somewhere which he never does.

Actually the list is endless,my i-94 expires this week,so I asked him what happens??(because his brother was kind enough to tell me I should be careful with him he has messed two women here in USA and he never filed anything for them at the end)

So he just told me he doesn't have money,just to make sure what I was told was true,i told him I will borrow,he told "AOS is not important people live even forever in the US without this things,youre married to me that's all that matters,youre far much better than many people I know" he's planning to get a car under my name when I start working,since I came he hasn't paid rent he wants me to get a job so that I can help him pay .

I so feeling bad right now,i don't even get enough sleep,he is very violent by nature he kicks things around,he has never hit me though because according to him the government will give me a greencard,so he does everything possible to frustrate me,.

Any advice will be appreciated,i don't have any friends,....cash or anything,he did not pay for my cellphone this month.

If you have gone through this please let me know what happened.

Thanks

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Post your story in this thread:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/579084-vawa-part-7/

Ask for sandranj's advice. She is an attorney and very knowledgeable about VAWA. She can tell you if you have a potential VAWA case or not and what steps to take.


Entry on VWP to visit then-boyfriend 06/13/2011

Married 06/24/2011

Our first son was born 10/31/2012, our daughter was born 06/30/2014, our second son was born 06/20/2017

AOS Timeline

AOS package mailed 09/06/2011 (Chicago Lockbox)

AOS package signed for by R Mercado 09/07/2011

Priority date for I-485&I-130 09/08/2011

Biometrics done 10/03/2011

Interview letter received 11/18/2011

INTERVIEW DATE!!!! 12/20/2011

Approval e-mail 12/21/2011

Card production e-mail 12/27/2011

GREEN CARD ARRIVED 12/31/2011

Resident since 12/21/2011

ROC Timeline

ROC package mailed to VSC 11/22/2013

NOA1 date 11/26/2013

Biometrics date 12/26/2013

Transfer notice to CSC 03/14/2014

Change of address 03/27/2014

Card production ordered 04/30/2014

10-YEAR GREEN CARD ARRIVED 05/06/2014

N-400 Timeline

N-400 package mailed 09/30/2014

N-400 package delivered 10/01/2014

NOA1 date 10/20/2014

Biometrics date 11/14/2014

Early walk-in biometrics 11/12/2014

In-line for interview 11/23/2014

Interview letter 03/18/2015

Interview date 04/17/2015 ("Decision cannot yet be made.")

In-line for oath scheduling 05/04/2015

Oath ceremony letter dated 05/11/2015

Oath ceremony 06/02/2015

I am a United States citizen!

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Thanks everyone for your words of encouragement,at some point i even thought maybe something was wrong with me,but then I realized maybe he has a mental issue or something,because I was also tired of the endless ooh I have cancer blackmails

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Post your story in this thread:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/579084-vawa-part-7/

Ask for sandranj's advice. She is an attorney and very knowledgeable about VAWA. She can tell you if you have a potential VAWA case or not and what steps to take.

I have posted on the other forum

My advice would be to gather your ID, any important documents and anything of personal value and leave. If he protests call the police and they will ensure you leave free of harm. Go to a women's refuge - Red Cross would be able to help you also. Then go from there and decide how you want to proceed. Divorce him, move back home if you have nothing to keep you here. Just please don't stay.

Don't ever think you're to blame for any of this. What he is doing is wrong and it's all his fault, not yours. There's help available to people in your situation and how you're living right now is not normal. Don't sign anything else either.

*big hugs* I'm sorry for your situation.

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07/09/2008: F-1 Interview - Successful
05/01/2013: (L) Married (L)

AOS from F-1:
07/09/2013: AOS package (I-130/I-485/I-756/I-131) fedexed
09/25/2013: AOS Interview with my husband at Milwaukee, WI
03/03/2014: AOS Approved

I-751 Removal of Conditions:

11/13/2015: Received reminder notice dated 11/08 from USCIS to apply for ROC
Day 00 - 12/04/2015: Mailed I-751 package to CSC via USPS Priority Mail
Day 03 - 12/07/2015: I-751 package delivered
Day 05 - 12/09/2015: Check cashed
Day 07 - 12/11/2015: NOA1 received dated 12/07/15
Day 22 - 12/26/2015: Biometric appointment notice received dated 12/19/15
Day 35 - 01/08/2016: Biometric appointment

Day 235 - 07/26/2016: Approved (E-notification of Card Production)

Day 238 - 07/29/2016: Status changed to 'Card Was Mailed to Me'

Day 241 - 08/01/2016: CSC returned original docs that were submitted at the time of application.

Day 241 - 08/01/2016: New status update 'Card was picked up by the United States Postal Service' Priority Mail 2-Day with tracking number provided.

Day 243 - 08/03/2016: Received 10 year Green Card

Day 255 - 08/15/2016: Received NOA2 with approval dated 07/26/2016

Click here for a sample of my cover letter, list of evidence, package assembly & shipping box

Click here for a sample of my I-751 notarized affidavit from a friend

 

 

N-400 Naturalization:

12/03/2016: Eligible

Day 00: 12/12/2016 Mailed N-400 to Phoenix, AZ lockbox via USPS Priority Express

Day 01: 12/13/2016 N-400 application delivered

Day 03: 12/15/2016 Credit card charged

Day 07: 12/19/2016 Text & e-mail notification received with a NBC receipt #

Day 11: 12/23/2016 NOA received via mail with priority date 12/13/16

Day 16: 12/28/2016 Received E-mail notification reg. biometrics scheduling

Day 19: 12/31/2016 Received Biometric notice via mail with notice date 12/24/2016

Day 32: 01/13/2017 Biometric appointment

Day 53: 02/03/2017 Received e-mail notification stating I am "in line" for interview scheduling

Day 144: 05/05/2017 Filed an e-request that interview notice was not yet mailed to me

Day 148: 05/09/2017 Received e-mail notification that interview has been scheduled after being in line for 95 days

Day 151: 05/12/2017 Received N-400 Interview notice via USPS

Day 183: 06/13/2017 N-400 Interview at USCIS Milwaukee, WI field office (Approved!) ***To read about my interview experience, click here***

Day 192: 06/22/2017 Received e-mail notification stating I am placed in line for oath ceremony

Day 206: 07/06/2017 Received e-mail notification stating oath ceremony notice was mailed

Day 210: 07/10/2017 Received oath ceremony notice (N-445) via USPS

Day 227: 07/27/2017 Oath Ceremony at Milwaukee, WI!

Dual citizen (France & U.S.A) / OCI card holder

 

Day 00: 07/27/2017 U.S. passport application at Milwaukee, WI (routine processing)

Day 05: 08/01/2017 Passport application locator number provided

Day 06: 08/02/2017 Checks cashed

Day 12: 08/08/2017 Received 2 e-mails stating that passport processing is over and it has been mailed with tracking # provided

Day 15: 08/11/2017 Received passport book via Priority Mail

Day 18: 08/14/2017 Received passport card via First Class Mail

Day 22: 08/18/2017 Received naturalization certificate back via Priority Mail / Updated citizenship status with SSA
 

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"He doesn't work he had cancer before so he's on disability income so he' doesn't leave the house and smokes all day with me inside that house." Get away from him. And turn him in for disability fraud. Just because he had cancer means nothing...at least, not if he can smoke all day, get out of the house, etc. He's worthless and does not deserve you. Good luck!

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All he keeps saying is that he's terminally ill, when I bring up anything he tells me things like ,I wish you had my body even for a day,the last time he was going for checkup I asked if I can accompany him,he refused,he is always coming up with desperate things to make me feel bad,I NOW UNDERSTAND WHY THE EMBASSY IS ALWAYS HARD ON US WHEN WE GO FOR INTERVIEWS.

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Maybe he is terminally ill, maybe he's not. I have no idea. I will reiterate though, get everything of importance and leave ASAP. While you're online search for your nearest women's refuge, do it in private browsing if there's a chance he'll check your search history. Don't keep yourself in this situation any longer than you have to. If you're worried he'll stop you, as I said previously, call the police. If you think he'll prevent that then go when he leaves for one of these supposed appointments. If there isn't one any time soon tell him the Doctor called and brought the next one forward. Just help yourself at this point.




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This is why vawa exists

I am not sure if she has a VAWA case. Lousy marriage, sure. But for a VAWA case if there is no physical violence she needs a diagnosis of PTSD/anxiety/depression due to mental abuse, otherwise her chances of getting it are slim.

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to amend scatological term

Entry on VWP to visit then-boyfriend 06/13/2011

Married 06/24/2011

Our first son was born 10/31/2012, our daughter was born 06/30/2014, our second son was born 06/20/2017

AOS Timeline

AOS package mailed 09/06/2011 (Chicago Lockbox)

AOS package signed for by R Mercado 09/07/2011

Priority date for I-485&I-130 09/08/2011

Biometrics done 10/03/2011

Interview letter received 11/18/2011

INTERVIEW DATE!!!! 12/20/2011

Approval e-mail 12/21/2011

Card production e-mail 12/27/2011

GREEN CARD ARRIVED 12/31/2011

Resident since 12/21/2011

ROC Timeline

ROC package mailed to VSC 11/22/2013

NOA1 date 11/26/2013

Biometrics date 12/26/2013

Transfer notice to CSC 03/14/2014

Change of address 03/27/2014

Card production ordered 04/30/2014

10-YEAR GREEN CARD ARRIVED 05/06/2014

N-400 Timeline

N-400 package mailed 09/30/2014

N-400 package delivered 10/01/2014

NOA1 date 10/20/2014

Biometrics date 11/14/2014

Early walk-in biometrics 11/12/2014

In-line for interview 11/23/2014

Interview letter 03/18/2015

Interview date 04/17/2015 ("Decision cannot yet be made.")

In-line for oath scheduling 05/04/2015

Oath ceremony letter dated 05/11/2015

Oath ceremony 06/02/2015

I am a United States citizen!

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After looking for several sources I think I have a sawa case, I was told to go to Hawc,first meet with an. Advocate so that I can explain my situation, so im waiting for a day from tomorrow where I can sneak out,its not far I heard.

Then definitely ,I will decide,divorce plus going back home I need a ticket,and I threw all my life behind when I came to the US,i need to have a plan

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Well your husband isn't very bright, sorry to say. You need to AOS so you can work. JUST fyi.


You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose.  - Dr. Seuss

 

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