Married yesterday on K1, now my new wife wants to leave to go back home.

[altonbebe 48]

I read these types of post over and over and over again.

I challenge all men who are in this type of relationship to sit at home for 1 week.

Here is the challenge. Ask your fiancee / wife what she watches on TV while she is at home.

You will quickly find out she is watching day time TV shows about every preverse subject know to man kind. Men who are women, women who are men, men who think their men, brothers sleeping with sisters boyfriend, aye man the list goes on and on and on and on.

Think I am kidding...take up my chanllenge.

Remember what the Bible says..an idol mind is a dangerous thing.

When your fiancee / wife get's to the United States, get her busy. Don't let her sit at home all damn day. This is not their nature. Ask her if she wants to go to school. Wanna know her answer. yep, that's right. SHE DOES!!!!!

If she cannot work due to immigration status at this time, get her doing volunteer work and tell her you will match her hours at the volunteer work with a salary from your personal paycheck. Philippinos love to work. They hate being stagnent. It is a death sentence to them.

The other thing the DO NOT appriciate...taking care of your elderly parents or your ill mannered children. Philippino children, believe or not, have respect for their parents and more importantly their elders. Something we do not see in American Children.

Step back and take a good hard look at her day.

Another thing, Philippinos are very private people. Yes, you can take them to a culture center or church, but unless she makes the first move to cultivate a freindship, it will not happen.

Talk to your wife bro, tell her you want to enroll her is some classes. Just get her busy and OUT OF THE HOUSE!!!

[raven52 233]

i agree, I "think" she had an agenda, as why would she marry you one day, and say she wants to go back to the Philippines, the day after!!

There is "far more " to this than has come out, in my opinion.,..,this is strange, and I "think" well planned, for some reason!

[Ilovemyman 147]

i agree, I "think" she had an agenda, as why would she marry you one day, and say she wants to go back to the Philippines, the day after!!

There is "far more " to this than has come out, in my opinion.,..,this is strange, and I "think" well planned, for some reason!

I think that she planned something first get marry and after says that she wants go back home country that is stange.

I have red a lot oof philipine woman that do that, first they get marry and after they want go back, they plan that for some reson.

[joanna11 0]

I have tried to get her involved in both the Filipino church in Arlington and in the Filipino culture in general, but she has resisted every effort.

Hi, I am also from the Philippines but honestly, I think there is something else she haven't or couldn't tell you why she really wanted to go back home.. All the best for both of you.

[Laspoxaroumeni 68]

My friend!! Have u ever wonder that ur wife is depressed???

U said she is home doesnt want to get a license or do things for her. Maybe she has depression! She misses her family back home. Is not easy to leave ur family and go to another continent! Talk to her and comfort her. Maybe she wanted to have a romantic wedding for example. And not go to the court and just sign a stupid paper. Maybe u re not that sweet and romantic with her.

She needs more attention! If u really love each other dont be afraid to talk and find a way to fix the problems.

Have on ur mind that she left her country not u!

[Sandra G. 5,025]

Let her go back, clearly you are not her priority.

[firegirl1788 4]

Wow man how do u feel? After 5 years together and finally got the k1 visa jow she wants to go back everything cost a sacrifice and nobody say it was going to be easy , besides if she was thinking to go bsvk to philipines why she got marry what i think she is being very inmature and selfish

Edited January 7, 2014 by firegirl1788

[destiny64 222]

Some people have delusions of grandeur about the U.S. then they get here and its not what they imagined. Sorry to say but for some its not just love that pulls them to come to the U.S I'm sure it hard , but if she is that unsure at this point, its best to let her go back. However you have some big decisions to make, and I wish you the best in whatever you decide to do! Its tough to know everything you did at this point to get her here will be lost if she returns now, even if she did stay until she gets her green card there is a limited amount of time she can spend out of the U.S for the green card to stay valid.

[luvlyn 0]

snap! now that she is in US she just have to get movin instead of going back to Philippines. It is not easy for you too what you both went through just to get the visa approved.

[Ning 619]

I think that she planned something first get marry and after says that she wants go back home country that is stange.

I have red a lot oof philipine woman that do that, first they get marry and after they want go back, they plan that for some reson.

Maybe you have this all figured out. What do you think she has planned? It must be really well thought out plan because to implement it she has left her country, family, job and culture. This means she had some evil plan to replace all of that. That plan included marrying someone and then leaving?

You say you " red " this. Where is that inside info into the thinking of these women from the P I ? The most fascinating aspect is the reason you think they do this. What is to be gained by this terrific planning? Did the ones your read about pull it off? What did they gain?

[wheninlimbo 9]

So sorry for you, when we got married I was the happiest woman on earth. I can hardly imagine anyone thinking that way right after getting married. - very strange…

[Ingrid28 69]

These people wasting other peoples time, they get through to go to the US then like a cry baby they wanna go back home. They are the ones holding the line long and wasting other people's time who genuinely wants to be with the spouses, kmt.

[Love it is 8]

I don't want to think she had another agenda. Sometimes people coming from other countries do want to go back home b/c that is what they are use too. Try talking to her and comfort her and see where that goes. I know of two people who were approved fro visas and just wanted to go back to their home. Good luck

[Cathi 5,624]

I think that she planned something first get marry and after says that she wants go back home country that is stange.

I have red a lot oof philipine woman that do that, first they get marry and after they want go back, they plan that for some reson.

I have read many of your comments in the recent past, every single one of them you suspect the beneficiary had some ulterior motive and they are only out to scam their significant other. If someone was going to scam they wouldn't go through the entire process, get married, and then decide to just leave to go home without adjusting status. Scammers don't do that, they do everything in their power to get that green card in hand and then follow through with their plan. If she was going to scam her husband why on Earth would she go home with no hope of coming back unless a new petition was filed, and then go through the entire process AGAIN?

You need to stop trolling threads accusing everyone of being a fraudster.

[Jawaree 717]

I think she's suffering from home-sickness & she's scared

without her own comfort zone, but now as a grown woman

she has to be assertive, don't U have someone back there in

her family that could speak to her, also someone there besides U?

Some women R not very strong without close family around, but

U r correct in hanging around for your son, is she willing to wait

4 yrs while U visit her until then? Dude, seem her family did not

prep her for the world...good luck