How to go about providing chats/sms evidence when you are arguing alot?

[rade2rising 205]

well when you go for interview you have to take lots of evidence. some of that is normally bbm/sms chats. However, is it a good idea to take that if in those chats you are normally arguing and fighting alot? It will seem bad right? But if you take NONE wouldn't it look suspicious? whats your advises on this delicate matter?? take those crazy chats or none at all? well in case you are wondering why there is alot of arguments in these chats well it just happens and then things are ok after that. But an outsider will misunderstand completely.

[indiana_sweetie 120]

well when you go for interview you have to take lots of evidence. some of that is normally bbm/sms chats. However, is it a good idea to take that if in those chats you are normally arguing and fighting alot? It will seem bad right? But if you take NONE wouldn't it look suspicious? whats your advises on this delicate matter?? take those crazy chats or none at all? well in case you are wondering why there is alot of arguments in these chats well it just happens and then things are ok after that. But an outsider will misunderstand completely.

Do you mean arguing or healthy discussions? I think people can have animated discussions about things but remain civil and not bash each other. So I guess what I'm trying to say is, are these actual fights or just discussions? How do you get along in person?

[tearessa 0]

In the petition we excluded the chats were we fought, anything pg rated or something LOL.. It would be best if you print out the chat logs where you professed your love for each other. It worked for us. When I went for my interview I brought more chat logs and screen shots but the Consular didn't even bother to look at it.

[hamigirl710 112]

married couples are human and have disagreements i don't see anything worng with including a couple to show the USCIS that you can agree to disagree and work things through respectfully with eachother. If they are arguments with insults and accusations than I would leave them out.

[max+patricia 24]

No one is going to want to read thru someone elses chat history, let alone a history of fighting.

I'd leave anything like that out, period. Stick with the good stuff. Hopefully you have more of that than the bad!

[TBoneTX 43,058]

Providing chat logs is the way to proceed. If applicable and feasible, be sure that any inflammatory message titles are not included.

[MedRoni 161]

...is it a good idea to take that if in those chats you are normally arguing and fighting alot? It will seem bad right? But if you take NONE wouldn't it look suspicious?

This implies you never have good chats or sms messages. Surely you must have some good ones? Just use those.

If you do not have any, I would say you have other things to worry about as well.

Try to focus and find all the positive proof you have - maybe facebook posts, pictures, notarized letters from family and friends, etc. and best of luck!

[pushbrk 12,106]

well when you go for interview you have to take lots of evidence. some of that is normally bbm/sms chats. However, is it a good idea to take that if in those chats you are normally arguing and fighting alot? It will seem bad right? But if you take NONE wouldn't it look suspicious? whats your advises on this delicate matter?? take those crazy chats or none at all? well in case you are wondering why there is alot of arguments in these chats well it just happens and then things are ok after that. But an outsider will misunderstand completely.

Be selective in choosing the examples you bring.

[sba.rsa 10]

anything pg rated or something LOL..

I was thinking about whether to include our online chats because some of them had some things that were not for general audiences ;-)

[rade2rising 205]

ok this makes sense. yea we don't have major disagreements mostly about silly things that we laugh about later. I am going to pick out some of the nice chats. thanks for the feedback.

I do wish to add that when arguing with a woman its seems like it will never end

[GlobeHopperMama 95]

Although this article is about Stokes interviews rather than regular relationship evidence for a petition, I did find it amusing and informative, especially on the topic of arguing for USCIS officials. In one case cited near the end of the article, the bickering just served to further the authenticity of the relationship in the officials' minds!

http://www.nytimes.c...?pagewanted=all

The point is, be authentic in your evidence and the bonafide relationship will be easier to note.

Edited October 14, 2012 by GlobeHopperMama

[rade2rising 205]

wow never thought about it that way, it does make sense. I guess some minor disagreements just goes to show its a natural relation not a fairy tale one and possibly fake....

[bigdog 376]

<br />Be selective in choosing the examples you bring.<br />

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I agree, don't provide intimate details.

[Ryan H 3,790]

I was thinking about whether to include our online chats because some of them had some things that were not for general audiences ;-)

I would leave out the some that have "things that are not for general audiences."

[googled 13]

My wife brought chat logs and emails to the interview and the officer there did go through and read through some of them. I was told to not include anything in these that you would not someone else reading. More specifically I was told not to include any comments where we talked about sex or money. I was told that you did not want the officer to think that i just wanted her for sex and she just wanted me for money. This was actually quite difficult, since what couple does not talk about sex and money. And that stuff was in and around quite a few of the "approved" topics that I wanted to include. It was quite difficult. Fortunately I am a software engineer and am quite adept at editing things like that.