Second Fiance Visa Question

[John245 0]

I have a question if anyone can answer it...

I had a fiance visa for the first time with a girlfriend that came to the US and lived with me for about 2 years and we were married there, she got her green card and after that we didnt get along and she did not want to live there, we divorced and she went back to the country and has not gone back to the US since and does not even plan to and I don't think she can anymore since the green card is probably not valid anymore.

That was around 3 years ago. Now I have another girlfriend from the same country and I would like to know whether I could again apply for a fiance visa for her..is this possible? Would I have any problems?

Also, I do not want her to find out that I was married to the first one. Will I have to answer any questions to Immigration about the first time throughout the process?

Thanks in advance.

[Inky 1,110]

You have to provide divorce documentation. Yes she has to know they will likely ask her at the interview about previous marriages and if she knows about them. I was asked at my interview if i knew my husband was previously married i had to provide the divorce documents to the interviewer in person and had to answer questions about it.

[Anh map 2,098]

It will be on the documents in your file and will likely be discussed at the interview. Especially a K1 interview.

You won't be a part of the interview. They will ask your fiancee directly about your prior marriage.

[Used to be broken 143]

I have a question if anyone can answer it...

Also, I do not want her to find out that I was married to the first one. Will I have to answer any questions to Immigration about the first time throughout the process?

Thanks in advance.

That is a curious comment, why would you want to hide that information?

And yes Immigration and the Consular with be concerned and probably request an explanation due to multiple petitions for multiple brides, this is what is called a "red flag" issue.

[Boiler 43,429]

The ladies are from Macedonia?

No 2 will definitely need to know about No 1

[canadian_wife 1,791]

You NEED to disclose the previous marriage. You will not be asked any questions about the previous marriage but you can almost bank on that she will. Do you want her to find out about your previous marriage thourgh a consular offical or by you?

She will find out, you have to decie HOW she finds out

Good luck

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

I have a question if anyone can answer it...

I had a fiance visa for the first time with a girlfriend that came to the US and lived with me for about 2 years and we were married there, she got her green card and after that we didnt get along and she did not want to live there, we divorced and she went back to the country and has not gone back to the US since and does not even plan to and I don't think she can anymore since the green card is probably not valid anymore.

That was around 3 years ago. Now I have another girlfriend from the same country and I would like to know whether I could again apply for a fiance visa for her..is this possible? Would I have any problems?

Also, I do not want her to find out that I was married to the first one. Will I have to answer any questions to Immigration about the first time throughout the process?

Thanks in advance.

If it has been MORE than two years since your last visa was approved, yes, no problem.

You MUST list ALL your previous marriages and divorces on the I-129f and you must be divorced, free to marry, to file. I would not even consider going into this without telling her ALL about your former wife. It is VERY likely the consulate at the interview will ask her "So what do you think about being his second wife from Macedonia?" or some such. It would NOT be good if that was the first she heard of it.

I PROMISE you, you WILL NOT get through this process without her finding out. Between the petition, the visa interview or the AOS SOMEONE is going to bring it up. YOU should be the one to tell her.

[CBM 14]

Just from her perspective - wouldn't she rather find out about your divorce/prior marriage from you beforehand rather than a CO at the interview? Never mind the negative impact on the visa, but think about how she will feel.

I'm not judging, because it's not my place to judge..... but I personally would rather know about a prior marriage or something like that from my fiance, NOT from someone else. I would feel lied to and deceived.

As most people have pointed out, she WILL find out. Not if, but when. Let her know your ex doesn't mean anything to you anymore and you love your fiancee, and she is the most important woman in your life, but you wanted to tell her because it's the right thing to do.

[JlovesA 109]

I don't think anyone here has mentioned that if she finds out at the consular interview that you were married, they could theoretically deny her visa because of it. Generally, bonafied couples reveal this kind of information to each other. If I found out at the interview that my fiance had a previous marriage he had been hiding from me, I'd walk out the interview and refuse to marry him. That's just me, but you should definitely disclose your previous marriage to her.

Edited November 11, 2010 by JlovesA

[John245 0]

I do have my reasons for that, because it was kind of a thing that no one knew about. I really was not ready for something like that at the time but it happened and it was a mistake.

How about if I were to marry in Macedonia and then get a spouse visa, a K-3 is it? What are the procedures for this?

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

I do have my reasons for that, because it was kind of a thing that no one knew about. I really was not ready for something like that at the time but it happened and it was a mistake.

How about if I were to marry in Macedonia and then get a spouse visa, a K-3 is it? What are the procedures for this?

Same. You WILL NOT get away with the immigration process without her finding out. By whatever means, K-1, K-3, CR-1 she MUSt have an interview in her country and they WILL ask her about your previous marriage to a Macedonian. They may not ask about a previous marriage to an American, but to a Mecedonian or other foreigner, yes, definitely. For two reasons...

1. She needs to know you have done this before and accept that.

2. They need to see her reaction. If it is a big surprise they are going to question your sincerity and deny the visa.

I DO NOT suggest you try for a spousal visa without telling her. It is every bit as likely to be denied or have "problems" and then you will still be legally married. Give her the chance to say "no" before she gets married. If it is a deal breaker you BOTH need to know NOW before you go and get married.

My suggestion is either tell her now, or end the relationship now.

[John245 0]

So there is no other way then?

Thank to all for the answers by the way.

[Kristy S 13]

I don't think anyone here has mentioned that if she finds out at the consular interview that you were married, they could theoretically deny her visa because of it. Generally, bonafied couples reveal this kind of information to each other. If I found out at the interview that my fiance had a previous marriage he had been hiding from me, I'd walk out the interview and refuse to marry him. That's just me, but you should definitely disclose your previous marriage to her.

same/same

[SimplyMacy 4]

Being in a relationship, you should be very open and honest to each other. Communication is very vital in a relationship. Knowing your past is important for the future but ofcourse past is past and you have to move on with your life with the present one. You can't do anything about the past but you can do something for your future... to do things right and learn from the past. It's better for her to know now about your past than she will find out later from others and regret. If she really loves you, she will accept your past and love you more. Love is lovelier the second time around right? So Goodluck and Godbless in your journey!

[C and Lore 3]

I have a question if anyone can answer it...

I had a fiance visa for the first time with a girlfriend that came to the US and lived with me for about 2 years and we were married there, she got her green card and after that we didnt get along and she did not want to live there, we divorced and she went back to the country and has not gone back to the US since and does not even plan to and I don't think she can anymore since the green card is probably not valid anymore.

That was around 3 years ago. Now I have another girlfriend from the same country and I would like to know whether I could again apply for a fiance visa for her..is this possible? Would I have any problems?

Also, I do not want her to find out that I was married to the first one. Will I have to answer any questions to Immigration about the first time throughout the process?

Thanks in advance.

First and foremost (no offense intended) I think there are some serious issues if you dont want to have your girlfriend know you've been through this before. Honesty is very important during trying times like this (going through government bureacracy.)

Secondly as Gary stated you most certainly will not make it through this entire process without this coming up at some point, most likely at several points (K-1 interview and AOS.) Best case scenario, she answers other questions showing a real relationship, worst case they deny you thinking that its a sham. Either way its a bad situation for your relationship and possibly your 'paperwork'

Furthermore, if I were in your shoes I would want to share this information with her just because it can help with confidence going into an interview for her. Many haven't dealt with the government, or aren't used to going into details of their personal lives with them. Knowing that you've gone through this before may help her be more confident going into the interview that she will be ok, and everything will work out since you have a genuine relationship. Not saying that she's not confident or doesn't know how to handle it, but I know that knowing that your fiancee knows how to handle it vs reading or researching it and has been successful cant help but create more confidence. In addition to that if they were to ask her something about your relationship and why she feels confident about it knowing about your past and failure of your previous relationship, she can share how you have changed for the better and/or learned from your previous relationship that went sour (whether it was your or your fiancee's fault) will show depth of relationship and that you've talked about these things. Normal couples have at one time or another talked about mistakes or changes they've made in their live's based on mistakes and/or experiences and this is something a true couple have.