want to file for divorce...

[bulaklak 0]

thats it. look like the end. after 3 years of marrige.

he hurt me like no other man before. cheated and also try to apply for credit cards in my name.

cant take it no more! but its still feel sad.

i wanted to ask you people what happen if i file for divorce right now. i just got my 10 year GC two weeks ago.

if i file for divorce right now it can affect my status? can they take my GC?

thanks for your help.

Well you are safe! Got your 10 year GC 2 weeks ago and bailing out on your mate.

Welcome to the US!!~

Sorry but your timing is TO perfect!

Grow up...

I think he can't be, he's too old for that. to the o.p. I am sorry of what you go through.

[rin and john 71]

OP, keep any evidence of the attempt to file for credit cards in your name. the cheating stuff is nasty, but it's no longer a criminal offense, so forget it and move on. too bad you had to tolerate this kind of behaviour for long enough to get the 10 year, but if the guy was getting cards in your nameithout your knowledge, i don't blame you for walking out now, or for waiting long enough to profit by it.

Wouldn't dismiss forgeting the cheating so quickly. If she can prove in court that he slept with someone else while still sleeping with her, she can request (as part of the divorce settlement) he pay for her healthcare for some period of time subsequent to the divorce as he as potentially jeopardized her health by his actions.

[raymaga 25]

If we all put ourselves into the OP's shoes.... wouldn't we do the same thing.

Assume she entered into the marriage with good intent, intending to have a long life with her spouse, until she finds out that he has cheated on her and tried to get credit cards in her name.

You have now settled into life in the U.S. and don't really want to leave, but you can no longer stay married to your spouse.

Wouldn't you too wait until after you got your GC so that you have the choice about whether to stay in the U.S. or leave, especially when it wasn't your fault that the marriage didn't work out????

I think SO.

Edited July 24, 2009 by raymaga

[bhajishah 4]

Congratulations on the green card...good luck with the divorce!!

Dont worry about the confusion I 80 goes east and west across the united states (northern route) (NYC to San francisco)

I think I 40 is the southern route

35 is mid section North and south (Minneapolis to Dallas)

what?? I was told to play nice when I come a visitn to Vj!!

[TBoneTX 43,422]

Dont worry about the confusion I 80 goes east and west across the united states (northern route) (NYC to San francisco)

I think I 40 is the southern route

35 is mid section North and south (Minneapolis to Dallas)

what?? I was told to play nice when I come a visitn to Vj!!

Huh?

[Tygrys 143]

Sorry but your timing is TO perfect!

TOO bad your spelling isn't as perfect.

If you can't differentiate between "to" and "too", perhaps you should avoid crititcizing others. Original "TO"was perfect, yours "TOO" is not so...

[Peace be still 6]

thats it. look like the end. after 3 years of marrige.

he hurt me like no other man before. cheated and also try to apply for credit cards in my name.

cant take it no more! but its still feel sad.

i wanted to ask you people what happen if i file for divorce right now. i just got my 10 year GC two weeks ago.

if i file for divorce right now it can affect my status? can they take my GC?

thanks for your help.

Well you are safe! Got your 10 year GC 2 weeks ago and bailing out on your mate.

Welcome to the US!!~

Sorry but your timing is TO perfect!

I have to agree with you Haole. After the op got the green card then all of a sudden she can't take it anymore. Whatever happen to marriage counseling?

[bulaklak 0]

thats it. look like the end. after 3 years of marrige.

he hurt me like no other man before. cheated and also try to apply for credit cards in my name.

cant take it no more! but its still feel sad.

i wanted to ask you people what happen if i file for divorce right now. i just got my 10 year GC two weeks ago.

if i file for divorce right now it can affect my status? can they take my GC?

thanks for your help.

Well you are safe! Got your 10 year GC 2 weeks ago and bailing out on your mate.

Welcome to the US!!~

Sorry but your timing is TO perfect!

I have to agree with you Haole. After the op got the green card then all of a sudden she can't take it anymore. Whatever happen to marriage counseling?

I agree,,,counseling is neccesary if the o.p. still love her husband...why just she gave up too easily?? perhaps her husband is just really abusived in the first place?

edit: anyhow, seeing a counselor it does mean they will solve thier issue but it helps to clear thier mind on what they suppose to do either they still love each other, or do they can give forgivess to each other.

Edited July 24, 2009 by lotus101

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

OP, keep any evidence of the attempt to file for credit cards in your name. the cheating stuff is nasty, but it's no longer a criminal offense, so forget it and move on. too bad you had to tolerate this kind of behaviour for long enough to get the 10 year, but if the guy was getting cards in your nameithout your knowledge, i don't blame you for walking out now, or for waiting long enough to profit by it.

Wouldn't dismiss forgeting the cheating so quickly. If she can prove in court that he slept with someone else while still sleeping with her, she can request (as part of the divorce settlement) he pay for her healthcare for some period of time subsequent to the divorce as he as potentially jeopardized her health by his actions.

justashooter makes valid point, though. While adultery is valid grounds for divorce in many states, it isn't a crime. Since she lives in Georgia she can use adultery as grounds for divorce. A few simple tests would confirm whether or not he actually infected her with an STD. Regardless, she has a pretty good chance of getting continued healthcare as part of her spousal support settlement, since she would be seeking the divorce for fault. What she is able to get in terms of a settlement is going to depend on his ability to pay. I suspect his financial condition is not too good, if he has to use her name to obtain a credit card. If I were in her shoes, I'd probably be more interested in seeing that the settlement relieves her of any responsibility for debts acquired during the marriage.

[Cacerez 19]

Sorry but your timing is TO perfect!

TOO bad your spelling isn't as perfect.

If you can't differentiate between "to" and "too", perhaps you should avoid crititcizing others. Original "TO"was perfect, yours "TOO" is not so...

Has VJ seriously gotten down to this level? Let's no longer criticize grammar (especially when your criticism is incorrect, Tygrys) or the OP - just answer the question.

To the OP, it appears that your immigration status is safe and I'm sorry you are going through this.

[Jonara 0]

thats it. look like the end. after 3 years of marrige.

he hurt me like no other man before. cheated and also try to apply for credit cards in my name.

cant take it no more! but its still feel sad.

i wanted to ask you people what happen if i file for divorce right now. i just got my 10 year GC two weeks ago.

if i file for divorce right now it can affect my status? can they take my GC?

thanks for your help.

No effect in your status. In a few years you can apply for US Citizenship and you're all set. Leave that turbulent life behind you and start anew. Good luck.

[princess1 0]

thats it. look like the end. after 3 years of marrige.

he hurt me like no other man before. cheated and also try to apply for credit cards in my name.

cant take it no more! but its still feel sad.

i wanted to ask you people what happen if i file for divorce right now. i just got my 10 year GC two weeks ago.

if i file for divorce right now it can affect my status? can they take my GC?

thanks for your help.

Well you are safe! Got your 10 year GC 2 weeks ago and bailing out on your mate.

Welcome to the US!!~

Sorry but your timing is TO perfect!

OP, keep any evidence of the attempt to file for credit cards in your name. the cheating stuff is nasty, but it's no longer a criminal offense, so forget it and move on. too bad you had to tolerate this kind of behaviour for long enough to get the 10 year, but if the guy was getting cards in your nameithout your knowledge, i don't blame you for walking out now, or for waiting long enough to profit by it.

thank you for the kind words

[Old Dominion 26]

Good luck!! Hope you have someone you can talk with about what's been going on in your life, and how to get it out of your mind one day.

[Dakine 26]

thats it. look like the end. after 3 years of marrige.

he hurt me like no other man before. cheated and also try to apply for credit cards in my name.

cant take it no more! but its still feel sad.

i wanted to ask you people what happen if i file for divorce right now. i just got my 10 year GC two weeks ago.

if i file for divorce right now it can affect my status? can they take my GC?

thanks for your help.

Well you are safe! Got your 10 year GC 2 weeks ago and bailing out on your mate.

Welcome to the US!!~

Sorry but your timing is TO perfect!

Grow up...

I think he can't be, he's too old for that. to the o.p. I am sorry of what you go through.

Not worth a comment!

Edited July 24, 2009 by Haole

[CA dreamer 3]

no more to say but u reminded me of dire straits (your latest trick)

You played robbery with insolence

And I played the blues in twelve bars down Lover's Lane