MissLadyRea

Don’t you think that lawyer could possibly have been referring to interview wait times for that consulate…..?

Sometimes we simply need to face the facts of life as they are.  Seems harsh, but that's life.  Seems I got your attention.  You would be wise to USE the energy created by that attention, to get with the program.

Not secret to understanding these forms and instructions, is to read carefully, interpret literally, and respond accurately.  Do not interpret "conveniently" or "assume".

In the end, it's up to you if just a few months potentially faster is worth so many sacrifices. You may say you're cool with them now, but keep in mind it's significantly easier to say "I'm cool with this!" when it's not actually about to happen yet. I thought the same, that the stress others had wouldn't be my experience. I'm a homebody, I never go out so surely it would be fine.. right?

In reality, it was one of the hardest times I ended up facing. For many, it causes significant damage to their marriage to begin it with such a scary power-dynamic. For me, I was living in consistent fear and stress to the extent where I was barely able to think or do fun stuff for myself, it was just all focused on the situation. I was very fortunate my husband took no issue in the fact that for the first 6 months he had a wife that was just so out of it. A common thought I had was "If one of my family or friends got hospitalized and are in critical condition tomorrow, what would I do? (or even my family pet)" Do you stay and risk never seeing them again, or do you go back and restart EVERYTHING. Sure, you can try to expedite I-131 under the right conditions, but you cannot guarantee that the expedite will be processed in time.

The limbo stage doesn't just mean being stuck around bored, it's a dynamic where you CANT do the things you want to do. Can't travel out of country, cant work, in some cases drive. Very different than simply choosing to do that. 

But the thing is, just assuming how you'll feel about it now is not possible. It is such a major deal that those emotions are something that becomes real, when the moment comes. Even with a remote job in Canada, you cannot continue to do that work in the USA. 

You don't know how you'll feel, the logistics of it being possible does not mean it is something that wont cause you significant distress. And I cant stress enough; its one of those things you cant predict how you'll handle it.
 

If you filed without legal assistance: you. You chose to carry the burden of research. If you hired help, then the person you hired should've been experienced enough to help guide you.

I'm glad they dialed back I-751, the original proposed fee was so steep for part of the process that is simply meant to grab more money out of us.

hihi, I notice you like to tell people to move to their spouse's country

I hate the I-751.  It is a useless hassle for the new immigrant, the spouse, and USCIS.  It is a cash cow for the government....but it must be done under current law.

We have a credit card, we simply always use a personal check as it is the most convenient for my husband, and we don't want to be set back by the credit card being rejected (Nor do either of us like making calls lol)

I don't quite understand, did you send your petition without any evidence towards the requirements? You are supposed to send quite a few things with your petition, which can be found on the official uscis I-129f website.

I don't quite understand, did you send your petition without any evidence towards the requirements? You are supposed to send quite a few things with your petition, which can be found on the official uscis I-129f website.

you are expecting an RFE?
did you sign the petition? that's one we often see
proof of meeting in person
really no way to help u with your response till u know what USCIS IS  asking for

If you filed without legal assistance: you. You chose to carry the burden of research. If you hired help, then the person you hired should've been experienced enough to help guide you.

For covid you must be fully vaccinated. It cannot be just the first shot of the series for covid. Which is now 3 with the latest booster. 

If you filed without legal assistance: you. You chose to carry the burden of research. If you hired help, then the person you hired should've been experienced enough to help guide you.

If you filed without legal assistance: you. You chose to carry the burden of research. If you hired help, then the person you hired should've been experienced enough to help guide you.

If you filed without legal assistance: you. You chose to carry the burden of research. If you hired help, then the person you hired should've been experienced enough to help guide you.

If you filed without legal assistance: you. You chose to carry the burden of research. If you hired help, then the person you hired should've been experienced enough to help guide you.

If you filed without legal assistance: you. You chose to carry the burden of research. If you hired help, then the person you hired should've been experienced enough to help guide you.

In the end, it's up to you if just a few months potentially faster is worth so many sacrifices. You may say you're cool with them now, but keep in mind it's significantly easier to say "I'm cool with this!" when it's not actually about to happen yet. I thought the same, that the stress others had wouldn't be my experience. I'm a homebody, I never go out so surely it would be fine.. right?

In reality, it was one of the hardest times I ended up facing. For many, it causes significant damage to their marriage to begin it with such a scary power-dynamic. For me, I was living in consistent fear and stress to the extent where I was barely able to think or do fun stuff for myself, it was just all focused on the situation. I was very fortunate my husband took no issue in the fact that for the first 6 months he had a wife that was just so out of it. A common thought I had was "If one of my family or friends got hospitalized and are in critical condition tomorrow, what would I do? (or even my family pet)" Do you stay and risk never seeing them again, or do you go back and restart EVERYTHING. Sure, you can try to expedite I-131 under the right conditions, but you cannot guarantee that the expedite will be processed in time.

The limbo stage doesn't just mean being stuck around bored, it's a dynamic where you CANT do the things you want to do. Can't travel out of country, cant work, in some cases drive. Very different than simply choosing to do that. 

But the thing is, just assuming how you'll feel about it now is not possible. It is such a major deal that those emotions are something that becomes real, when the moment comes. Even with a remote job in Canada, you cannot continue to do that work in the USA. 

You don't know how you'll feel, the logistics of it being possible does not mean it is something that wont cause you significant distress. And I cant stress enough; its one of those things you cant predict how you'll handle it.
 

Not working for 9-12 months will probably decrease your income much more than $1500... 

Honestly, thank you so much for taking your time and explaining the reality of actually being under this process. You put so many things in perspective that I never really thought of and it has helped both my partner and I in making the right decision for us. Your words went a long way.

EAD and AP are optional.
 
More reasons for the K1 not normally being a good option.

And that's not even taking into account all the K1 immigrants who are out of status/unable to adjust status because they didn't expect being unable to pay for it/their spouse is not cooperating/all other kind of nightmarish situations. 

THIS, THIS, THIS! 
 
Being an independent person who works, pays their own bills and is accustomed to a certain amount of freedom and then to surrender all that and become 100% dependent puts a LOT of stress on a relationship.  You're supposed to be creating the foundation for the rest of your lives as a married couple, not starting out under duress. You might think you can give it all up, but living the reality is very different.  Your partner has chosen you for you and you them for who they are.  You might end up giving up far too much of yourself if you approach in this way.  
 
CR1 means you can essentially continue life as is, as annoying as it might be, but you both retain your identities, you both continue to work, you both retain your freedoms.  When you cross the border with your CR1, you can work straight away, you can travel straight away, you can really just jump into the day to day with few worries and really build your marriage.  

In the end, it's up to you if just a few months potentially faster is worth so many sacrifices. You may say you're cool with them now, but keep in mind it's significantly easier to say "I'm cool with this!" when it's not actually about to happen yet. I thought the same, that the stress others had wouldn't be my experience. I'm a homebody, I never go out so surely it would be fine.. right?

In reality, it was one of the hardest times I ended up facing. For many, it causes significant damage to their marriage to begin it with such a scary power-dynamic. For me, I was living in consistent fear and stress to the extent where I was barely able to think or do fun stuff for myself, it was just all focused on the situation. I was very fortunate my husband took no issue in the fact that for the first 6 months he had a wife that was just so out of it. A common thought I had was "If one of my family or friends got hospitalized and are in critical condition tomorrow, what would I do? (or even my family pet)" Do you stay and risk never seeing them again, or do you go back and restart EVERYTHING. Sure, you can try to expedite I-131 under the right conditions, but you cannot guarantee that the expedite will be processed in time.

The limbo stage doesn't just mean being stuck around bored, it's a dynamic where you CANT do the things you want to do. Can't travel out of country, cant work, in some cases drive. Very different than simply choosing to do that. 

But the thing is, just assuming how you'll feel about it now is not possible. It is such a major deal that those emotions are something that becomes real, when the moment comes. Even with a remote job in Canada, you cannot continue to do that work in the USA. 

You don't know how you'll feel, the logistics of it being possible does not mean it is something that wont cause you significant distress. And I cant stress enough; its one of those things you cant predict how you'll handle it.