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And if yes, what's wrong with that? For example, my previous husband was from UK. My current one is from France. And yes, I was purposely looking for an European man. No offense but American men is not my cup of tea.
I don't think it's a red flag to seek a foreign partner, it's a matter of preference. IMHO.

Lillyz, read a different topic here called "How to end relationship", there is a USCIS policy quote there that may be a solution to your situation.

And if yes, what's wrong with that? For example, my previous husband was from UK. My current one is from France. And yes, I was purposely looking for an European man. No offense but American men is not my cup of tea.
I don't think it's a red flag to seek a foreign partner, it's a matter of preference. IMHO.

There is a visa called J1 Work and Travel visa:
https://exchanges.state.gov/non-us/program/j-1-visa-summer-work-travel-program
He may want to look into that option.

Congratulations! Long and hard road you had to take, but there is always the light at the end of the tunnel.

So sorry you find yourself in this predicament, Peter Parker. You should sue USCIS for screwing you up like this, really.

So sorry you find yourself in this predicament, Peter Parker. You should sue USCIS for screwing you up like this, really.

Realities Every International Relationship Faces
1. Instead of spending money on date nights you spend it on plane tickets.
2.You're 100% committed and in it for the long haul.
3. You get really frustrated about immigration laws.
4. When people complain about their little fights you secretly get a bit jealous.
5. Bad Wi-Fi and poor cell reception are your mortal enemies.
6. You're always finding new ways to express your affection from a distance.
7. Sometimes you just leave little voice messages to let them know they're on your mind.
8. More than anything else, you just really miss cuddling.
9. Your internal clock is permanently split between two sides of the globe.
10. Even if you speak the same language, sometimes humor or sarcasm can get lost in translation.
11. Sometimes you have to stay up super late just to talk for a few minutes.
12. You have crazy amounts of alone time.
13. You live for the little notes you leave each other.
14. The countdown to seeing your S.O. is seriously intense.
15. You've revived the art of letter-writing.
16. There's no feeling in the world like that first hug at the airport.
17. You love getting to show each other your favorite spots when you visit.
18. When together you're constantly giddy from the thrill of not being separated by an ocean or a continent.
19. And there is no feeling in the world more difficult than a goodbye at an airport..
20. So much of your future is uncertain except the one thing that's just, well, non-negotiable – a life together.

It's a common practice for U.S. citizen abusers "feeling hurt" and sending vindictive letters to USCIS against their beneficiary spouses.
In practice their letters carry no weight unless there is a clear evidence present of misrepresentation/crimes (like bigamy for example) on behalf of the beneficiary.
In other words, your I-751 based on abuse is a separate issue from your husband's letters to USCIS. Let him write all he wants; the fact is he cannot do anything to impede your immigration status.
P.S. As to I-864 affidavit, you cannot "give it up" as it's not up to you, it's a contract between the USCIS and the petitioner. You have no say in this.

Realities Every International Relationship Faces
1. Instead of spending money on date nights you spend it on plane tickets.
2.You're 100% committed and in it for the long haul.
3. You get really frustrated about immigration laws.
4. When people complain about their little fights you secretly get a bit jealous.
5. Bad Wi-Fi and poor cell reception are your mortal enemies.
6. You're always finding new ways to express your affection from a distance.
7. Sometimes you just leave little voice messages to let them know they're on your mind.
8. More than anything else, you just really miss cuddling.
9. Your internal clock is permanently split between two sides of the globe.
10. Even if you speak the same language, sometimes humor or sarcasm can get lost in translation.
11. Sometimes you have to stay up super late just to talk for a few minutes.
12. You have crazy amounts of alone time.
13. You live for the little notes you leave each other.
14. The countdown to seeing your S.O. is seriously intense.
15. You've revived the art of letter-writing.
16. There's no feeling in the world like that first hug at the airport.
17. You love getting to show each other your favorite spots when you visit.
18. When together you're constantly giddy from the thrill of not being separated by an ocean or a continent.
19. And there is no feeling in the world more difficult than a goodbye at an airport..
20. So much of your future is uncertain except the one thing that's just, well, non-negotiable – a life together.

Realities Every International Relationship Faces
1. Instead of spending money on date nights you spend it on plane tickets.
2.You're 100% committed and in it for the long haul.
3. You get really frustrated about immigration laws.
4. When people complain about their little fights you secretly get a bit jealous.
5. Bad Wi-Fi and poor cell reception are your mortal enemies.
6. You're always finding new ways to express your affection from a distance.
7. Sometimes you just leave little voice messages to let them know they're on your mind.
8. More than anything else, you just really miss cuddling.
9. Your internal clock is permanently split between two sides of the globe.
10. Even if you speak the same language, sometimes humor or sarcasm can get lost in translation.
11. Sometimes you have to stay up super late just to talk for a few minutes.
12. You have crazy amounts of alone time.
13. You live for the little notes you leave each other.
14. The countdown to seeing your S.O. is seriously intense.
15. You've revived the art of letter-writing.
16. There's no feeling in the world like that first hug at the airport.
17. You love getting to show each other your favorite spots when you visit.
18. When together you're constantly giddy from the thrill of not being separated by an ocean or a continent.
19. And there is no feeling in the world more difficult than a goodbye at an airport..
20. So much of your future is uncertain except the one thing that's just, well, non-negotiable – a life together.

My example is the same as John&Rose.  I (US citizen) filled in my 1040 as "Married Filing Jointly" on paper. When my husband (beneficiary who lives in France) came to visit me, we went to the IRS office together. There we submitted 1040, W-7 (filled in by husband) and his French passport for the IRS officer review. After the review the officer returned the passport, and said that our tax documents are filed, and that we have to wait for the letter in the mail with ITIN number within 6-11 weeks.
I plan to use the ITIN to claim my husband as beneficiary on my employer's health insurance. Also my bank wants this information for the joint account.

My example is the same as John&Rose.  I (US citizen) filled in my 1040 as "Married Filing Jointly" on paper. When my husband (beneficiary who lives in France) came to visit me, we went to the IRS office together. There we submitted 1040, W-7 (filled in by husband) and his French passport for the IRS officer review. After the review the officer returned the passport, and said that our tax documents are filed, and that we have to wait for the letter in the mail with ITIN number within 6-11 weeks.
I plan to use the ITIN to claim my husband as beneficiary on my employer's health insurance. Also my bank wants this information for the joint account.

Thank you for the response! I hope IRS office will be open by March (fingers crossed) and the government shutdown is over.
In this case can we just show all the original documents required to the IRS person there?
I don't feel comfortable to mail any originals to IRS....Will certified copies do?

So far we have done 3 visits, each 6 weeks apart. Three more visits planned before our CR1 interview (the tickets are booked).
Each visit lasts 7-10 days - helas, we both have obligations and cannot afford longer trips.
Yes, it is hard and frustrating to be separated for so long. 
We are on Whatsap (audio calls, voice messages and SMS) several times a day and on weekends we do video calls.

1) YES
2) YES 
3) G-1145 (not a must though)
4) to write "Father Unknown" is fine
5) You don't need to adopt the child officially for immigration purposes, he is "a child of US citizen" for the USCIS because you are married to his mother.

It is not necessary to create topics like this one.
Go to "Immigration Timelines" and click on Igor's List.
All filers are there , by service center, by month/year filed, by name...
Predictions & Visa Processing Stats: 

 Processing Status: Igor's List