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Hey folks,

I'm just in a doldrums phase of this process. Has anyone else gone through great emotional difficulty while waiting? It's not exactly the same as missing her, but more like... it feels like my heart is in a freezer just waiting to grow. It's hard to feel like my life can truly get going until we are together, so its like months and months of just... constriction. At least sometimes ;)

 

But anyway this isn't just about me. I wanted to make a forum where we can go for support if we need. Hope everyone is well and we'll get through it!

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This process requires a GREAT deal of knowledge, planning, time, PATIENCE, and money.  We have all been there.....Staying busy helps.....good luck and hang in there.....


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Off Topic....But do you pronounce Pisgah....Pisgee? One of my fondest childhood memories is my grandfather always telling me we were going to take a vacation to Pisgah, IL population 10....(30 miles from their farm)...He would pronounce it PISGEEEE))))) It always made me laugh....

 

You've hit NOA2. It's all downhill from there))))

Edited by boris64

Not a newbie but lost my old info years ago) I have been through this process before --all the way through naturalization-- This site has always been a great help to me. 

 

 

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Yes I'm trying to stay busy. The fact is, this is the person who will be the most important person in your life. You want to make decisions together, do things together, have fun with your best friend. And all of that is not available while you wait. It's more frustrating that most people can never understand how it feels. That's why I wanted to post here, to help each other.

 

I have to ask... this whole process is not fueled by inspiration. Sometimes there is inspiration, especially to start... but now, it feels just like a strong ACT OF WILL to get through. For me I even lose some of the inspiration to get together with my fiance, just because my heart becomes too exhausted. After months without seeing each other, I think it's easy to forget the great things (and feelings) about being together some times, and get depressed from the struggling and difficulty. That's the worst part. I want to be together but for now, my heart becoming so exhausted... do you ever think it's too difficult?

Anyway don't worry, I won't give up. I'm just emotional guy, and sharing ;)

6 minutes ago, boris64 said:

Off Topic....But do you pronounce Pisgah....Pisgee? One of my fondest childhood memories is my grandfather always telling me we were going to take a vacation to Pisgah, IL population 10....(30 miles from their farm)...He would pronounce it PISGEEEE))))) It always made me laugh....

 

You've hit NOA2. It's all downhill from there))))

Hey, it's PIZ-guh :)

Edited by Thomas W

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6 minutes ago, boris64 said:

Off Topic....But do you pronounce Pisgah....Pisgee? One of my fondest childhood memories is my grandfather always telling me we were going to take a vacation to Pisgah, IL population 10....(30 miles from their farm)...He would pronounce it PISGEEEE))))) It always made me laugh....

 

You've hit NOA2. It's all downhill from there))))

Piz-guh

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Just now, Thomas W said:

Piz-guh

))) Yep, Grandpa was a champion leg puller. The Pisgah in Illinois doesn't have the Biltmore either. Just a grain silo)))


Not a newbie but lost my old info years ago) I have been through this process before --all the way through naturalization-- This site has always been a great help to me. 

 

 

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8 hours ago, Thomas W said:

I want to be together but for now, my heart becoming so exhausted... do you ever think it's too difficult?

Violent physical exercise helps with this.

 

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Thread is moved from Off Topic to General Immigration Discussion -- topic involves the immigration wait.


06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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8 hours ago, Thomas W said:

I want to be together but for now, my heart becoming so exhausted... do you ever think it's too difficult?

 

Sometimes I wonder if I have some sort of masochist streak.  As in, WHY AM I SUBJECTING MYSELF TO THIS TORTURE???  Then my fiance reminds me that our time apart is temporary and that when this is over, we will be together forever ❤️

 

Also, thank goodness for this site, video calls, and cheap air fare :)

 

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Realities Every International Relationship Faces

1. Instead of spending money on date nights you spend it on plane tickets.

2.You're 100% committed and in it for the long haul.

3. You get really frustrated about immigration laws.

4. When people complain about their little fights you secretly get a bit jealous.

5. Bad Wi-Fi and poor cell reception are your mortal enemies.

6. You're always finding new ways to express your affection from a distance.

7. Sometimes you just leave little voice messages to let them know they're on your mind.

8. More than anything else, you just really miss cuddling.

9. Your internal clock is permanently split between two sides of the globe.

10. Even if you speak the same language, sometimes humor or sarcasm can get lost in translation.

11. Sometimes you have to stay up super late just to talk for a few minutes.

12. You have crazy amounts of alone time.

13. You live for the little notes you leave each other.

14. The countdown to seeing your S.O. is seriously intense.

15. You've revived the art of letter-writing.

16. There's no feeling in the world like that first hug at the airport.

17. You love getting to show each other your favorite spots when you visit.

18. When together you're constantly giddy from the thrill of not being separated by an ocean or a continent.

19. And there is no feeling in the world more difficult than a goodbye at an airport..

20. So much of your future is uncertain except the one thing that's just, well, non-negotiable – a life together.

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On 3/11/2019 at 5:29 PM, Thomas W said:

Yes I'm trying to stay busy. The fact is, this is the person who will be the most important person in your life. You want to make decisions together, do things together, have fun with your best friend. And all of that is not available while you wait. It's more frustrating that most people can never understand how it feels. That's why I wanted to post here, to help each other.

 

I have to ask... this whole process is not fueled by inspiration. Sometimes there is inspiration, especially to start... but now, it feels just like a strong ACT OF WILL to get through. For me I even lose some of the inspiration to get together with my fiance, just because my heart becomes too exhausted. After months without seeing each other, I think it's easy to forget the great things (and feelings) about being together some times, and get depressed from the struggling and difficulty. That's the worst part. I want to be together but for now, my heart becoming so exhausted... do you ever think it's too difficult?

Anyway don't worry, I won't give up. I'm just emotional guy, and sharing ;)

Hey, it's PIZ-guh :)

All true :(

Hope you are feeling better, hang in there !

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