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People regularly post this question, with variations:  "My fiancee/wife is pregnant/I'm pregnant.  Can our petition/visa interview be expedited?"  The answer is NO, as follows.
 
Expedite Criteria USCIS may expedite a petition or application if it meets one or more of the following criteria:
Severe financial loss to company or person; Emergency situation; Humanitarian reasons; Nonprofit organization whose request is in furtherance of the cultural and social interests of the United States; Department of Defense or national interest situation (these particular expedite requests must come from an official U.S. government entity and state that delay will be detrimental to the government); USCIS error; or Compelling interest of USCIS.  
And, from the knowledgeable member pushbrk (5 May 2018):
     "Neither USCIS nor the Department of State consider pregnancy of either the petitioner or spouse to be grounds to expedite the immigrant visa processes.
     "If the US Citizen is pregnant and has the kind of problem pregnancy that requires care she cannot get from anybody but her husband, THEN the case might be expedited.  I've seen that happen with other medical conditions.  But, usually, the needed care can be received from other family members or services.  JUST pregnancy is something people deal with as a matter of course, all over the world every day."
 
Accordingly, new threads inquiring about pregnancy expedites will be closed when you report them (via the Report button, found at the top right of every post).  If you must reply to those threads, refer the poster to the link for this thread.  Thanks for your cooperation.

Don't pull that card. You got called out. This has nothing to do with negativity, judgmental, without compassion etc. On the contrary people on VJ are very compassionate and caring when they read about abuse. There is no case for VAWA from what we have read. Filing fraudulent charges against people is unethical and an abuse of the system.

People seem to just throw VAWA into the mix casually whenever a marriage fails under contentious circumstances. A miscarriage and cheating are not grounds for VAWA under any definition. No surprise there’s a groundswell of a movement to modify it because clearly it’s being abused, and sometimes used to destroy the life of an innocent spouse.
 
I may be an immigrant however I don’t condone trying to punish and destroy a US Citizen ex via domestic violence accusations and VAWA because a marriage fails. That’s malicious. Marriages fail, a lot. That’s the nature of the beast.

Miscarriage is unfortunate but unless he's the one who punched her in the belly or slipped her drugs to force the miscarriage, that's not abuse. Cheating is also horrible but doesn't always equate to "abuse" either. Unless there were deeper things going on that OP hasn't shared, these are events of an unhappy marriage and unhappy does not always equal abusive.

One more thing I forgot to mention.  If you don't travel to her country you will miss out on so much.  You won't get to see her in her home environment.  You won't get to meet her friends and family.  You won't get to learn about her culture.  Even though getting on those planes was hard it was the BEST thing I ever did.  I treasure the time I spent there and I love his family so much.  I would have missed out on so much if I hadn't gone.  Not to mention I wouldn't be happily married now.  Get some medicine and just do it.  You don't have to get medicine to knock you out.  My medicine just helped me relax.  I got through it by thinking about the wonderful experiences waiting for me when I got to Morocco.  Over my life I will make many more trips back to see his family.  It gets a bit easier every time.  Don't lose out on this experience.  You absolutely can do it.  

Take it from me - you can do this.   I have SEVERE fear of flying and anxiety.  I looked for every way under the sun to get out of it.  But finally realized if I wanted this to move forward I would have to just do it.  I did get anti-anxiety medicine and I made three trips to Morocco.  Was it fun for me?   Not at all.  But I made it.  My husband is here and we have been married for five years.  I would hate to think this would never have happened if I hadn't got on that plane.  I am not downplaying what you are going through.  Those three trips were not fun at all.  But I made it and you can too.  

I have never heard of an exception being made due to fear of flying. Only one party needs to travel. And there are treatments for anxiety (pills, hypnotherapy, etc). The only medical exception I have heard of was where the USC was bed-bound and the foreign fiancé had tried repeatedly to obtain a visit visa but was repeatedly denied. 

The examples provided in the article are so ridiculous that it would be funny if the subject matter weren’t so serious. The one I take particular exception to is the K-1 visa holder who develops breast cancer. It even says that her husband has health insurance. So she does too. And if she doesn’t it’s because he’s a bad husband and hasn’t added her. There’s no way an AOS would be denied for “risk of being a public charge” because of cancer when the husband is working and had medical insurance. I have epilepsy and will have for the rest of my life.  There has never been any question of my ineligibility to live here because of that. And my husband was unemployed when I had my immigrant visa interview (approved on the spot). 

I didn't need one. I did my k1, AOS and ROC all by myself. 
 
Also good luck with your case but no point helping someone who rejects every piece of advice people try to give him. You seem to be 100% sure you're right anyway. 

Rule is 
do not make any plans,  wedding or airline reserations or quit your job or sell property until you have the visa in hand
you are looking to loose money if you make plans ahead of immigration process
quit stressing and cancel now
be patient and just get ready for the interview

We went to an InfoPass yesterday; and my husband is once again legal. Though no Green Card on hand, but a new I-551 stamp in his passport good through March 2018 (last one was good through Dec 2017).
 
Some notes
1) We went in at 7:10 and apparently the system has been upgraded last night, so the reception could not check anyone in. USCIS, you shall never cease to amaze me. They ended up giving people numbers (like "1", "2" etc written over your InfoPass App letter), and I'm counting my blessings we got there early; I can imaging things turning out a lot more hectic through the day.
 
2) The officer helping us at InfoPass seemed extremely knowledgeable and professional. Almost scary, honestly - with each encounter, I realize most of those officers are highly skilled at reading you. We had nothing to hide, obviously, but it's still quite a weird feeling, talking to someone like that who's at any rate evaluating you, even if out of habit.
 
3) The argument "my husband cannot work because of USCIS error" is actually not valid, per officer, because K1 implies I'm financially supporting my husband, if needed.  So this is not a reason for expediting the I-90. The argument "my husband has travel plans" could have worked, maybe, but I think it was negated by a new  I-551 stamp. So no expediting on that I-90.
 
4) The officer did write a note in the system to the office that sent the "Termination of Legal Status" letter. He explained to us that there are apparently multiple systems, that are not well connected, so the info about previous I-551 stamp and I-90 filed did not make it across.
 
5) Interestingly enough, I-551 stamp in my husband's passport has a similar note written by the officer! Something along the lines "there is a known error in *** system, I-90 filed to correct" and explains the whole situation. Hopefully, it'll make re-entering US a slightly less nervous experience. The officer also mentioned, that all owners of I-551 stamp cannot go through the automated system and end up going through extra check.
 
6) My husband may or may not (!) receive that Green Card (cause I-90 processing times are horrible) in time for applying for ROC. Per officer, applying with just copies of old Green Card & referencing the whole situation / cases / yada-yada is fine; the only thing that really matters is applying for ROC in the correct time frame, regardless of the status of the current mess.
 
7) If he receives a Green Card by the time to apply for ROC, he will get a letter extending his legal status by a year (while they review ROC).  If he does not receive it, he should get another InfoPass in late March, after applying for ROC, to get yet another I-551 stamp to last another year, while ROC is reviewed.
 
I'm genuinely happy about the resolution. It would be nice to get a Green Card at hand, of course, but as long as hubby's legal and can work and travel, I honestly don't care as much. It may come back to bite us again once he applies for ROC, of course, or prolong the processing times... but for now this is good news. Getting this resolved within 2 weeks (and while my husband was in US) is better timing that I've learned to expect of USCIS; and my husband's travel plans still stand. Yay. Thanks to everyone for informational & moral support!

Merrytooth, right, I should have searched the forum first. Apologies, I kinda panicked. (Got a perfect excuse: I blame the pregnancy hormones). Thank you for the link! I'll search some more.
 
Ebunoluwa, I've just looked at your timeline... wow, I'm sorry you had it so rough!
Do you think that can be fixed at the infopass? I guess I'll find out soon and will post an update here after my infopass on Oct 27. I'm just worried about who has the right to remove that "termination status" in USCIS - whether people in my office would even have the power to do that. In general, it seems that a lot of people at USCIS don't have that much power, and it's hard to get a hold of those that do.

Do not travel before the error is corrected. I wouldn't rely on the stamp in the passport.
They will see in the data that it was terminated and he won't be allowed back in.
Fix it yourself at infopass or consult an immigration attorney.

You are not the only one with the wrong green card date,  resident status got terminated.
 
Last week this case:
 

On a slightly unrelated note, consider getting a prepaid credit card to get your credit history started! If you apply for DiscoverIt Credit Card (and get rejected), they offer to start you with a prepaid one (i.e. first you send them 500$, they give you a card that has 500$, you can use it like a regular credit card. You can add money to it online, etc).
If you're here to stay, you'll need that credit history at some point, so the earlier you start at it, the better!

On a slightly unrelated note, consider getting a prepaid credit card to get your credit history started! If you apply for DiscoverIt Credit Card (and get rejected), they offer to start you with a prepaid one (i.e. first you send them 500$, they give you a card that has 500$, you can use it like a regular credit card. You can add money to it online, etc).
If you're here to stay, you'll need that credit history at some point, so the earlier you start at it, the better!

Hi,
This is not a DIY. You need a good immigration lawyer versed in adoption to go through this to determine if she is a USC or not. If she does not qualify to be a USC, a false claim of citizenship is a serious matter and not forgiven if you make a mistake. She could end up in big trouble.
Under the Child Citizenship Act, she must have lived with the Kansas couple after her adoption to qualify for US citizenship through them. If she did not, then she could not have gotten US citizenship from them. You adopting her after her 18th birthday would also not give her citizenship.
Best of luck.

Marienne,
Your fears are normal and they are real. But they are not silly or stupid or out-of-line. Change - especially this kind of MAJOR change - is drop-dead scary. And you have lots of reasons (children, husband, in-laws, job) to have those fears.
Folks, remember, when someone makes themselves vulnerable enough to say they are scared, they don't want advice telling them they SHOULD have done this, or their in-laws are terrible, or implying that something is wrong with their situation. Please stop criticizing and start empathizing!
They just want assurance that they'll be OK. And, as one fabulous poster said above, Marienne, you've already accomplished so much with the way you've been dogging this visa stuff. I would hire you just based on your tenacity!
Best of luck. I believe in you - and I believe you will be OK. Not without some lumps and bumps, but you will be OK!
Sukie in NY

Seems like if you don't find a job, you can start a photography business or even do something with one of your many qualifications.
Your in- laws should pass that advice on to their son. smh.
But even though it sounds scary, if their son is a bum (sorry my harsh words), then you might end up facing these "fears" you are having now.
Talk to your partner about what he is doing to find a job. You don't wanna be a slave for someone who claims to be "unemployable". Even ex-convicts find jobs.
Stay calm and get here first. Anything certification you have back might be useful here so bring any of those that you have there.
You have more skills than lots of people.
It is not your responsibility to take care of their family or even your husband especially when he is capable.
Just get here.. You will be fine...Be safe!

If you could complete a timeline and list your country on your profile then your questions/posts can be directed to the appropriate country portal where others filing visas in that same country can see and answer your questions.
http://www.visajourney.com/consulates/index.php?ctry=Dominican%20Republic&cty=Santo%20Domingo
The embassy information states it takes 1-3 weeks to issue visas. Remember you just interviewed 8 business days ago.
So just try to have some patience. A nightmare is a denial. A nightmare is waiting 2 years for your K1 process to be completed. A nightmare is being in AP for years. You'll be just fine!

OP you're taking this too personal. No one is pointing a finger at you. Obviously, least of all your fiance. Other countries have different beliefs, customs, and traditions. No one is wrong its just different. There are going to many times in your life as husband and wife when these differences may come up. You both have to do the best you can to educate yourself and work toward a compromise and understanding.
We were all just trying to help you come to a resolution to get a successful interview. I believe your title was "How can I get my fiance to understand"....
Now I believe you have your answers and can move forward!

As you know, in some places having a baby without being married is a taboo. He probably already told everyone (such as his family) that he is about to marry a woman who has a child from a prior marriage, because he would be ashamed to tell them otherwise. He might even be ashamed to admit in front of the embassy interviewer that he is marrying someone with who has a child, and who was never married before. He could be in denial because this is such a taboo in his "culture".
As someone else suggested, you have much bigger issues than having to worry about the interview. Men like him (and their families) do not, under normal circumstances, agree to marry a woman who has had premarital sex or children without being married. It would be a big scandal for them and their families if they did. Which is why I would have to question why he wants to marry you.

Bah,
I've heard and seen many illegal immigration cases even before my wife and I started our journey.
Was solicited twice as a youth to get paid to marry someone so they can get a GC. It was around $3,000 I remember. Not gonna lie, I though about it for half a second because I was young and broke at the time. Ironically, it wasn't the fear of getting caught and jailed that detoured me. It was the fear of marriage.
I know a young woman in the D.R. who is willing to do anything (and anyone) to get to the US. She is on just about every dating website that is available soliciting for a "husband". She is very attractive and speaks fluent English. The only problem is she has one of the worse attitudes I have ever seen. She can attract any man with her looks, but at the same time run them away with her disposition. And she doesn't make it a secret that she will lie, cheat, and steal to get here.
Have met people who have admitted to being illegal or having family that is illegal. But it was usually along the lines of stories of escaping extreme poverty or violence in their home country. Basically, to them it was survive while looking over their shoulder every day in the US or die of starvation in a ditch back home.
Never had anyone down right "brag" about it to me. If so then I would shut it down (the bragging) very quickly.

First off, I am sorry that your case was denied. It seems that most cases are viewed by the quality of proofs that are sent ..... not the quantity.
People always mention that the interview was "short and sweet" and the CO didn't give you the chance to give evidence before you were handed a denial slip. The fact is that the interviewing CO reviewed your case before you came to the window for the face to face interview. Most likely his decision was already made before the interview.
It seems that immigration is personal....What applies to one couple, doesn't mean that it applies to the next. Yes we all have basic requirements to file our petitions. But it is up to us to provide solid convincing evidence that will not create any doubts in the CO's mind. Face time is solid evidence.

1. No, it does not make you an accomplice. What this guy did was wrong, but I doubt anybody will blame you for not wanting to get into this mess.
I think, you're most upset about the fact that you've helped him in class a lot and shown him your kindness before knowing that he is a fraud person who cheated his way into US and the likes of him are what makes the process hard for us.
And that's one tough life lesson: yes, sometime we may unknowingly help and put in our resources and donate to poor people, to liars, to people we would not have wanted anything to do with. It is OK. You tried to help him in class, that was a good, decent, kind thing to do. It is also OK to not help him anymore. It is OK to report him to USCIS if it will make you feel better, but I honestly believe it is also OK to not report him.
Basically, I'm sorry you encountered him, but he should not be your concern unless you make it your concern.