My research has led me to this information: there are types of NPD -
Overt narcissists are the more obvious loud boisterous arrogant ones. The outwardly draw attention to themselves commanding attention and admiration. Their abusive traits are more verbal and physical, frequently belittling, berating and even physically hurting their victim.
Covert narcissists are much more subtle. They can even be self deprecating and appear weak to gain validation and attention. Their abuse tactics are insidious and slight but many. Like 1,000 bee stings pinging away at your mental health little by little.
There is a spectrum from just possessing some traits to full blown malignant psychopath or sociopath.
Tactics can be any of all of pathological lying, manipulation, gaslighting, triangulation, blame shifting, isolation, stonewalling, silent treatment, “crazy making” and cognitive dissonance.
Stages are love bombing, devaluing, and discard.
Right! I pray Mike doesn’t ignore that red flag!