velrich

I understand your despair and frustration, but you should seek some help.You should live because your life is worth it, not because of your husband's existence.

290 K3 visas were granted in 2012 out of almost 89000 spousal visas. That's about 0.35%

They don't accept the DS230 anymore. You have to do the DS260 online. Sign in here https://ceac.state.gov/IV/Default.aspx

I doubt if she would qualify for commonwealth care until she has a green card.

Many mothers have left kids or fathers to stay/live
in the US most declaring (*for a better life*) so
many have been molested mistreated, abused but not
much is told about that, a child deserve to know &
love both parent...no matter what, cant you ask for
an infopass, go in explain the situation you are
sorting out about the child & ask for an extension to
do so which will allow you to visit the child in the
future if he ends up with custody.
you want to do things the right way so further down
the line you don't find obstacles ask if he would want
the child all summers and Christmas or can you, and sign
to an agreement, even on who would purchase tickets to
facilitate this as I hardly think he'll get child
support from you in the philipines good luck

whose to say the child's life will be better in the US? Do you know the OP personally and what her living situation will be like when she goes home? Living in the US does not always equal a better life

So, it's okay to deny a mother's love?
Why should you want to deny this child the love and care of a mother?
How is life with a US father who doesn't know how to care for the child when there is a loving mother?
Why do you assume that life for the child would be better in the US?

IMHO
He can't (won't) say good-bye.
Does he want me? Does he not?
Been there, done that.
So much hurt.
I ended the relationship, it started to sound like a soap opera.
35 years later folks, he has not changed one iota.
Sends emails saying; "keep in touch, you never know".....
Flattery and other empty words.
He has not changed.
I have, and am so thankful I found the strength to end it.
Found new love, new life and never looked back.
Yes, I loved him....
but love is not enough!!!
Wishing you a happy fulfilled rest of your life hon!

Hello Meg you may think you feel love for him but will despise him
eventually, think long and hard about moving to a new country and his
treatment to you, have he told you to get an abortion? or is he too much
of a whimp to do so, there seem to be no positive future with this man,
so whether you choose adoption, abortion, or to raise this child alone
have no expectations from this man. If you do have an abortion you should
never ever lay with this man again. God bless you

This may be a little harsh but its how I see it- (very much along the lines of what Vanessa wrote)
Men are not inanimate objects. They are not like shoes that you can decide "he is the one for me" and the shoes got no choice but to comply. Its called free will. So while you may have determined that on paper you two are a good fit and in your heart he is the one, sadly it does not seem as if Danny feels the same.
If you go back and look at what hes telling you, really look at it- youll see that. He never says with the certainty you say it. You are the one for me. Its- I love you but this isnt going to work (because you are not the one for me). I love you but Im not ready (because you are not the one for me). I love you but I need to slow down because Im scared (since you are not the one for me).
Something happens when you find that right person. The one who is the right person for you. It makes all the pieces of the puzzle magically fit together and there is no 'but' in the sentences anymore.
When someone uses the word 'but' like that in a sentence its just to soften the blow. It means ignore everything I said before the 'but', what I really mean is whats after it.
Im getting the feeling you are going to a premarital consular and they are just stringing this out for additional sessions and fees rather then telling you bluntly its over and losing your business. You should seek out an individual consular in your area for a better perspective.

Take it from a male viewpoint (mine): If you grit your teeth and continue, you can only expect more of the same behavior in the future. He's not ready. Depending on his age (if he's older than his late 20s), he might never be.
Personal note, with apologies if it's inappropriate to state it here: When I was single, it frosted my jaws to encounter woman after woman who, although otherwise stable in every other way, kept throwing themselves at guys who were incapable of ever committing. A true relationship is one in which there is no question of mutual commitment, whether the question is "in your faces" or nagging at the back of your minds. Do what you will, but I don't think that this relationship is true or that it would last if you manufactured its continuation.
Depending on your self-assurance, thank him for the memories, turn your back, and look only forward. Of all the fish in the sea, this one should be thrown back.

I am just speaking from experience. I have been through a situation much the same years ago, and unless you have actually been there yourself then you have no idea what it is like.
Knowing what i know now, and the help that is out there, it would have been an easier choice to make the decision to keep the baby. I however miscarried. I still think about the baby i lost. It is something i will carry with me for the rest of my life. Had i gone through with a termination, i know this would have been even harder on me still. At the time i had no idea how hard it would have been.
Having been in a similar situation, i am trying to shed some light on things, not put pressure on any right or wrong. There is no right or wrong. The decision is not an easy one to make either way.
I have a baby now, and I can say that having a child made me want to strive for the very best. This is not about manipulation, i am just being open and honest here. I always wanted to be a mother just like Meg. And now that i am i really understand what i have been missing out on. The slightest hint of having a second thoughts of having a termination is usually an indication that deep down its not the option you want to choose.

I was a single mother of 3 children... I was never scared of doing it all by myself, I was never on public assistance and my kids turned out to be 3 very loving and caring people. They all do well in school and I can honestly say... They were the best things that EVER happened to me. Hands down. You can do anything you put your mind to. Don't let any man tell you what to do or how to live your life.... If you want that child..... then have that baby in Canada. Things always work out . Some of the best kids come from single parent homes.

NO. WHY WOULD YOU CONSIDER COMMITTING IMMIGRATION FRAUD WHEN THE NVC ALREADY IS AWARE YOU ARE A US CITIZEN. THIS IS THE WORST THING FOR YOU TO DO - LIE TO US IMMIGRATION WHEN YOU HAVE LEGAL WAYS TO BRING YOUR FAMILY HERE SOON. TO BE FRANK BECAUSE I WANT TO HELP YOU - DON'T BE STUPID.

NO. WHY WOULD YOU CONSIDER COMMITTING IMMIGRATION FRAUD. THIS IS THE NEXT WORST THING FOR YOU TO DO - LIE TO US IMMIGRATION WHEN YOU HAVE LEGAL WAYS TO BRING YOUR FAMILY HERE SOON. IT IS ILLEGAL TO ENTER THE US ON NON-IMMIGRANT VISAS WITH THE INTENT TO IMMIGRATE. DON'T DO IT.
WHAT DUAL INTENT???? THERE IS NO DUAL INTENT. THEY INTEND TO IMMIGRATE WHICH IS A VIOLATION OF US IMMIGRATION LAWS. TELL THE CO YOUR PLAN AND THE CHILDREN WILL NOT BE ENTERING THE US AS VISITORS.

The F-1 family preference category is for when an unmarried child of a US citizen does not qualify as an Immediate Relative. Usually, it's when the unmarried child is over age 21.
THE NVC HAS GIVEN YOU INSTRUCTIONS ON WHAT TO DO, FILE I-130s FOR YOUR CHILDREN. YOU HAVE BEEN TOLD HOW TO EXPEDITE THEIR CASES. YOU HAE BEEN TOLD THAT THEY CAN IMMIGRATE WITH YOUR WIFE. YET, YOU WANT TO LIE. YOU MAKE YOUR CHOICE. WHAT IS THE BEST CHOICE FOR YOUR CHILDREN IN THE LONG RUN?????? LEGAL IMMIGRATION OR FRAUDULENT IMMIGRATION????
DO WHAT THE NVC TELLS YOU TO DO.

Calm down. Everything will be alright. Your wife and children will immigrate together. The US is well aware that this situation happens and is prepared to help.
To expedite, follow these instructions: http://www.ehow.com/how_7932908_expedite-i130.html
When you file I-130s for your children, you as a US citizen will petition for them as your Immediate Relatives. They are not in the F1 family preference category, so forget about 2006. Your children will get immigration visas within 6 months after their cases are expedited. They will immigrate with your wife. They will be US citizens once they get their green cards.

I assume the child was conceived during the time you have been together/ married? Will the child be born by the time he has his interview? If not, he technically doesn't need to mention it, though if I was you I'd write a letter that you are aware of the pregnancy and ok with it, in case they found out and confront him at interview, so he can show him the letter then. If the child is born by interview time, he needs to declare it. Yes, it may affect his chances somewhat, as it puts the bonafides of your marriage into doubt.
BTW, you may want to request DNA test on the baby once born- even if there is a chance it is his, it may not be, the mother may just say it is definitely his because she knows he is about to go to the USA....

well it kinda might??? depending on how long yall have been together and if he impregnated her during your alls relationship.. cause it would be kind of weird to prove that he's in love with you.. you know what i mean?
but then again, idk, just a wild guess.

Anyone can pay it as long as it is drawn on funds from a US financial institution.
With the I-130.

lol...you scared me for a minute

The NVC requires original documents.

Can't understand Y thru Cayman when its hr 10 mins to Miami, u can go via Bahamas (close...no visa)
I cant imagine it would be cheaper than to fly into the US. Cayman requires JAs to have a visa & since
they no longer need JA & JDF, they welcome mat is never out

i also find some good imformation from this tread too , it's all about step childs too\
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/363683-stand-alone-i-130-for-stepchildren/page-55

im not pursuing a visa and thinking about my interview or if i'll be approved or not , we have completed visa case together, not bymyelf , i worry about what to do in my case, if he abandoned me like i see , im not going to any interview for sure one thing for sure i m not going to leave my home country to make a new life with him he is showing little commitment to me and the marriage ,

I'm confused by your post... did you not read the OP? The OP stated that her husband told her he wants to bring his girlfriend to the US. The OP told us he has admitted, on several occasions, that he married her just for a GC. The OP has told us that he offered to "compensate" her for the years lost, to the tune of $25K. She also told us her parents told her it would be a "great embarrassment" if she were to divorce them. She also referenced indian culture... so again, I'm confused by your post.

as a recent green card holder,
if you divorce him now,
he really doesn't have any fast path to bring in the next wife.
you could write up letters of attestation about what's going on, and submit them to the IV Unit somewhere in India, so at least what you're purporting happened to you would get into the next casefile - but that's some time down the road of HIS next venture..
I dunno, I suggest you simply divorce him and make certain his name is on nothing that shows any 'joint co-mingling' - utility bills, bank accounts, etc. i also suggest you move this week, and find some room mate situation with some classmate for the fall term.
If you are renting somewhere, don't pay the August bill. If you are living with your parents, don't tell them where you are going. Change your cell # asap, as well.
File for divorce on Monday - you can prep the documents and file it yourself.
I'm a bit unfocused for time and timing, at the moment, so the best advice I can give you is - PLAN and them IMPLEMENT.
You can't get his green card revoked, at the moment, but you can certainly make things difficult for him down the road, if you choose that path.