My US spouse threw me out of our house.

[Onuoa 24]

I am a Nigerian marrying a USA woman but I ever since I arrived here it has been from one verbal abuse to the other..But the worst happened on the 17 of February the day she physically pushed me out of our house,with no clothes neither do I have my vital documents which include my passport, certificates 

,permanent resident card,debit credit card, and no phone for contact,

I invited the police but they said they could not do anything except  if I can obtain a warrant of arrest because of the physical abuse and threat to my life.I have called domestic violent hot line and I am waiting to consult with the local offices of the resource persons on domestic violent on Monday for legal aid.

please,I want to be properly advised on what to do since she is threatening me with deportation and she boasted to my younger brother that she has burnt my green card and my Nigerian passport.I want to know what my options are going forward.
I have limited funds to pursue the case as I just came back from burning my mum two weeks ago.

 

 

Edited February 19, 2023 by Onuoa

[Ontarkie 13,918]

~~Moved to Effects of Major Family Changes, from Moving Here and Your New life. - As similar threads are discussed here.~~

 

 

Mod Hat off

The officer should have escorted you to the house to collect your belongings. It's possible he or you didn't know what help you needed. 

You have your passport and your debit card, not sure what your certificate of permanent resident card is? Do you mean your Green Card? If so she can't do anything unless she has real proof you scammed her, not just being a petty verdictive person. Do you have your social security number too? If so get a job if you don't already have one and move on with your life. That is the best revenge, when the abusive person realizes they can't scare you anymore. 

[TBoneTX 43,071]

Sympathies for the loss of your mother.

That's very strange regarding what the police said; normally, they'll accompany you in retrieving your things.

Check your state's laws to learn your rights about being locked out of your house.

If your wife burned your green card, it sounds like a Federal crime.  Report it.

Monday is a holiday here (Presidents' Day), which hopefully won't affect your consultation with legal aid.

[TBoneTX 43,071]

25 minutes ago, Onuoa said:

neither do I have my vital documents which include my passport, certificates ,permanent resident card,debit credit card

I interpreted this to mean empty-handed.  Correct?

[Onuoa 24]

15 minutes ago, Ontarkie said:

~~Moved to Effects of Major Family Changes, from Moving Here and Your New life. - As similar threads are discussed here.~~

 

 

Mod Hat off

The officer should have escorted you to the house to collect your belongings. It's possible he or you didn't know what help you needed. 

You have your passport and your debit card, not sure what your certificate of permanent resident card is? Do you mean your Green Card? If so she can't do anything unless she has real proof you scammed her, not just being a petty verdictive person. Do you have your social security number too? If so get a job if you don't already have one and move on with your life. That is the best revenge, when the abusive person realizes they can't scare you anymore. 

I meant that  my personal belongings including my international passport permanent resident card, ,bank cards,different certificates from previous institutions I have attended are all in her possession.From a call to my bank shows that  she used $152 to purchase tems from Walmart using my debit card.

I have my social security number by heart.

Thanks

Edited February 19, 2023 by Onuoa

[Onuoa 24]

7 minutes ago, TBoneTX said:

I interpreted this to mean empty-handed.  Correct?

Exactly

[Onuoa 24]

15 minutes ago, TBoneTX said:

Sympathies for the loss of your mother.

That's very strange regarding what the police said; normally, they'll accompany you in retrieving your things.

Check your state's laws to learn your rights about being locked out of your house.

If your wife burned your green card, it sounds like a Federal crime.  Report it.

Monday is a holiday here (Presidents' Day), which hopefully won't affect your consultation with legal aid.

Thanks very much.I am in Alabama,I guess the police could not do anything because I am an immigrant.I was very much surprised that I could not get help from them.

[Ontarkie 13,918]

6 minutes ago, Onuoa said:

I meant that  my personal belongings including my international passport permanent resident card, ,bank cards,different certificates from previous institutions I have attended are all in her possession.From a call to my bank shows that  she used $152 to purchase tems from Walmart using my debit card.

I have my social security number by heart.

Thanks

Ok first thing first empty that account and open another. You can't cancel her card to that account but you can drain it low. 

Next ask to get a police escort to get your belongings. If she did indeed burn them you can have the officer file charges on her. Use that report to get a new card and passport. Then you fill out the forms to get the card replaced. I'm very sorry you have to go through this and very sorry for the loss of your mother. 

[Onuoa 24]

9 minutes ago, Ontarkie said:

Ok first thing first empty that account and open another. You can't cancel her card to that account but you can drain it low. 

Next ask to get a police escort to get your belongings. If she did indeed burn them you can have the officer file charges on her. Use that report to get a new card and passport. Then you fill out the forms to get the card replaced. I'm very sorry you have to go through this and very sorry for the loss of your mother. 

Thanks very much, She used my card to do the purchase because she knows my PIN code.I have called the bank to put a temporary lock on the debit and credit cards.I do not know how the law works here but they said it is a civil case except for the threat to life and destruction of my belongings.

Edited February 19, 2023 by Onuoa

[TBoneTX 43,071]

Destruction of a green card might be a Federal crime.  Ask your police.

If the first policeman you talk to won't help you, politely keep asking for supervisors until one helps you.

[Onuoa 24]

1 minute ago, TBoneTX said:

Destruction of a green card might be a Federal crime.  Ask your police.

If the first policeman you talk to won't help you, politely keep asking for supervisors until one helps you.

Thank you very much.I will do that tomorrow,The Good Samaritan that harbored me has volunteered to speak to  her too.

[Oko Vicki 54]

First and foremost, accept my condolences… may your mother’s soul find rest. 
Also, I am sorry to hear that you’re going through this. 
I am in Alabama, too, and my wife just left the house like 30mins ago with our car we are both paying for and had me remove my things from it. I have a feeling she’s trying to make life difficult for me by taking my source of income away (I do Walmart Spark delivery). 

Follow advices from comments and move on with your life. Please do not go to the house to confront her, go with the police to get whatever is left of your things. 
I will DM you now to see if we can rub minds since our situations are similar. 
Be strong brother. We will be alright. 

[Letspaintcookies 2,208]

7 minutes ago, Onuoa said:

Thank you very much.I will do that tomorrow,The Good Samaritan that harbored me has volunteered to speak to  her too.

Tell the police straight that she locked you out and keeps your belongings hostage. Say you need help to retrieve your property. They very much can help you with this. When you first asked it might wasn't clear that you don't have your belongings. While the police is there with you check if everything is there. If property was destroyed have the police write it down so that you can file a police report and it won't be a he say- she say thing.

 

Do not approach her alone.

[Onuoa 24]

14 minutes ago, Oko Vicki said:

 

6 minutes ago, Letspaintcookies said:

Tell the police straight that she locked you out and keeps your belongings hostage. Say you need help to retrieve your property. They very much can help you with this. When you first asked it might wasn't clear that you don't have your belongings. While the police is there with you check if everything is there. If property was destroyed have the police write it down so that you can file a police report and it won't be a he say- she say thing.

 

Do not approach her alone.

Police came to the scene, and there has been a number assigned to the case, the officer said he needed warrant to get her arrested but it was already late and it was on a Friday evening.I am doing my best.I was honestly frustrated when he said they could not do anything for me to retrieve what rightfully belonged to me.

Edited February 19, 2023 by Onuoa

[Onuoa 24]

8 minutes ago, Letspaintcookies said:

Tell the police straight that she locked you out and keeps your belongings hostage. Say you need help to retrieve your property. They very much can help you with this. When you first asked it might wasn't clear that you don't have your belongings. While the police is there with you check if everything is there. If property was destroyed have the police write it down so that you can file a police report and it won't be a he say- she say thing.

 

Do not approach her alone.

I am very strong brother.I live in Bessemer part of Alabama but I am being harbored in Leeds area.Please,I need your number so that we can talk.I do not have a phone but I will find a way to call you.