ongoing relationship

[JVG 31]

My fiancé in the Philippines and myself starting talking November 1, 2017. We met on December 30th and decided we wanted to develop our 

relationship. 

We sent our I-129 on February 14th and of course received our NOA1.

We have continued to communicate non stop over Whats app and IMO, taking snap shots weekly of our conversations. 

WE are concerned that this might be considered a red flag because of the quickness of how our relationship is going.

Does anyone have any advice on this?

Thank you in advance 

[Roel 7,192]

Yes. Spend more time together.

 

Seriously. Visit her couple more times. Marriage is a serious commitment. Be sure you really want to live together and be together. Knowing someone over the internet is nothing like knowing someone in person. How long was your Visit? 

 

There are sooooo many couples here who decide to file k1 really fast and then when they move in together they discover their spouses are completely different people. And you have to marry within 90 days. Are you willing to financially support your new spouse for a first months? Because they won't be able to work. 

 

Maybe it's just me but I can't imagine marrying someone I know for only few months and met once... 

 

 

 

 

[JFH 12,190]

I wouldn't worry about it too much. Manila embassy sees this sort of timescale all the time. It's quite "normal" for those who meet Filipinas online to meet once, spend a week or less together and then decide to marry. Whether you're ready for the lifelong commitment of marriage to someone you've met only once is another matter. No embassy can help you with that. 

[JVG 31]

4 minutes ago, JFH said:

I wouldn't worry about it too much. Manila embassy sees this sort of timescale all the time. It's quite "normal" for those who meet Filipinas online to meet once, spend a week or less together and then decide to marry. Whether you're ready for the lifelong commitment of marriage to someone you've met only once is another matter. No embassy can help you with that. 

Well we met through a mutual friend not online. But we do enjoy each others company and our journey develops more and more each day

[TNJ17 1,329]

I don’t think length of the relationship is a requirement for k1. Having said that it is kind of weird that you got engaged so fast, if I were the co in this case I would be thinking it’s a greencard marriage but I don’t know if they look into timelines to consider that. 

[Roel 7,192]

So how much time did you spend together in person? 

[JVG 31]

3 minutes ago, Roel said:

So how much time did you spend together in person? 

one month

[noraliz73 243]

I know people can really get to know each other by talking for hours a day if you can guarantee the person is being honest.  It helps that you have a mutual friend and spent a month.  If you are concerned, delay and have another visit and have an engagement party with family members.  I only saw my fiancé in person 3 weeks lately, but I knew him in high school and used to see him daily for 10 months.  Plus, we talk for at least 3 hours a day and e-mail and text.  It’s pretty much a normal family life except he isn’t physically here.  So, I know you can be getting to know your fiancé well.  Still, it might be a good idea for another visit.  In my situation, the family has pretty much adopted me now and we have many common friends and a common history and memories.  Marriage is a big step.  And that signing up to be financially responsible for someone for 10 years is a lot.  You need to make sure the person is worth it to you.

[<3T&M<3 217]

15 hours ago, TNJ17 said:

I don’t think length of the relationship is a requirement for k1. Having said that it is kind of weird that you got engaged so fast, if I were the co in this case I would be thinking it’s a greencard marriage but I don’t know if they look into timelines to consider that. 

I think this is a bit harsh. Yes, there are green card hunters, but you make it sound like 100% the CO will deny them. That is not exactly supportive.

I read a lot of posts here that sound down-right negative and it gets tiring. I get that everyone is tired of waiting, but not every case is perfectly following 5 years dating, 1 year engagement.... blah blah. Yes, you are giving advice. Yes you are being "realistic". But how can you think it is a greencard marriage just by the time frame? Really, when you know you love someone.. you know it. Perhaps you were slower to fall in love, slower to commit, slower to realize your fiance was someone you are willing to support for 10 years if need-be, but not every relationship is that way. Not at all and far from it.

 

 

[JVG 31]

5 hours ago, <3T&M<3 said:

I think this is a bit harsh. Yes, there are green card hunters, but you make it sound like 100% the CO will deny them. That is not exactly supportive.

I read a lot of posts here that sound down-right negative and it gets tiring. I get that everyone is tired of waiting, but not every case is perfectly following 5 years dating, 1 year engagement.... blah blah. Yes, you are giving advice. Yes you are being "realistic". But how can you think it is a greencard marriage just by the time frame? Really, when you know you love someone.. you know it. Perhaps you were slower to fall in love, slower to commit, slower to realize your fiance was someone you are willing to support for 10 years if need-be, but not every relationship is that way. Not at all and far from it.

 

 

Thank you and thank you for your kind words

Yes we talk with each other every morning for 2-3 hours and every night for at least 4-5 hours. So we know each other very well and have shared many subjects and stories with each other. So I think we probably know each other better than couples who have been together for years. Plus I was in the Philippines for 1 month with my fiancé.  

[Boiler 45,670]

One month is a loooooong time by PI norms.

[Unidentified 2,930]

23 hours ago, TNJ17 said:

I don’t think length of the relationship is a requirement for k1. Having said that it is kind of weird that you got engaged so fast, if I were the co in this case I would be thinking it’s a greencard marriage but I don’t know if they look into timelines to consider that. 

You clearly haven't been on here for long... This is a completely normal time frame for someone who met someone in the Philippines. 

[Boiler 45,670]

1 minute ago, Unidentified said:

You clearly haven't been on here for long... This is a completely normal time frame for someone who met someone in the Philippines. 

I would put it some way above the average.

[Unidentified 2,930]

Just now, Boiler said:

I would put it some way above the average.

I agree. A month is unusually long actually. Usually it's lika a week. But still within normal

[Mike&Dani 36]

10 hours ago, Boiler said:

I would put it some way above the average.

That makes me feel a little better about our relationship then.