Devastated! Victim of marriage Fraud before ROC w/ Iranian national

[Xcalj5 3]

I brought my current husband from Iran on K1 visa. My husband is 14 years younger than me and came without any money. Yes, I lost my mind. I fell in love with young charismatic man. I am educated and my whole life I saved with hard work and sacrifices. And it happened, he used me just for a green card (yeah stupid me for trusting). He admitted for lying on application regarding his previous employment. He admitted for working for Iranian government and having weapons training (not mentioned on visa app). He received his visa based on lies (I have no way of proving it). I refused to sign ROC (I751) and so he left and is filing it based on divorce waiver. He was abusive throughout the relationship, which was documented in court. Two temporary restraining orders. No criminal charges though. After he left (2.5 yrs) I found out he was in relationship with another older woman and have recording of them. I am ok he left, but I am not ok he is suing me for half. I confirmed with 3 attorneys that he is entitled to half of my savings (which is a lot collected during marriage.) He is also going for alimony and my 401k which I saved a lot. He did not pay a dime to me or towards my house or anything. I covered all his expenssed. Found him job. I basically lost $40K on him and will lose another $40k based on him defrauding me and the country. I made Infopass and was lucky to speak to officer who then told me they cannot do anything!!! He is permanent resident (conditional green card) and has every right to renew it based on divorce, because I cannot prove it was a sham. Even if he does not have anything in his name, no financials because some marriages agree to that. So not only he wasted almost 6 yrs of my life, he refused to have children (I never had it was my last chance), he will get my savings, 401K, plus my investments and I am being told there is nothing I can do to stop it and I am on the hook for I864 for 10 yrs, so this will never end. He is evil and is doing everything to hurt me financially. I really don’t understand why as I only gave him and provided everything and let him travel with me all over the world. I am glad that he is out of my life, but is there anything I can do so he does not take everything I worked so hard for. He received his visa based on lies and deception. I can clearly show that he was using me for money and green card. USCIS is not interested in what I had to say at the infopass. Is there anything else I can do?? 

 

[Cheschirecat 176]

5 minutes ago, Xcalj5 said:

I brought my current husband from Iran on K1 visa. My husband is 14 years younger than me and came without any money. Yes, I lost my mind. I fell in love with young charismatic man. I am educated and my whole life I saved with hard work and sacrifices. And it happened, he used me just for a green card (yeah stupid me for trusting). He admitted for lying on application regarding his previous employment. He admitted for working for Iranian government and having weapons training (not mentioned on visa app). He received his visa based on lies (I have no way of proving it). I refused to sign ROC (I751) and so he left and is filing it based on divorce waiver. He was abusive throughout the relationship, which was documented in court. Two temporary restraining orders. No criminal charges though. After he left (2.5 yrs) I found out he was in relationship with another older woman and have recording of them. I am ok he left, but I am not ok he is suing me for half. I confirmed with 3 attorneys that he is entitled to half of my savings (which is a lot collected during marriage.) He is also going for alimony and my 401k which I saved a lot. He did not pay a dime to me or towards my house or anything. I covered all his expenssed. Found him job. I basically lost $40K on him and will lose another $40k based on him defrauding me and the country. I made Infopass and was lucky to speak to officer who then told me they cannot do anything!!! He is permanent resident (conditional green card) and has every right to renew it based on divorce, because I cannot prove it was a sham. Even if he does not have anything in his name, no financials because some marriages agree to that. So not only he wasted almost 6 yrs of my life, he refused to have children (I never had it was my last chance), he will get my savings, 401K, plus my investments and I am being told there is nothing I can do to stop it and I am on the hook for I864 for 10 yrs, so this will never end. He is evil and is doing everything to hurt me financially. I really don’t understand why as I only gave him and provided everything and let him travel with me all over the world. I am glad that he is out of my life, but is there anything I can do so he does not take everything I worked so hard for. He received his visa based on lies and deception. I can clearly show that he was using me for money and green card. USCIS is not interested in what I had to say at the infopass. Is there anything else I can do?? 

 

Praying for you! I would surely try and work on the falsifying info part. Call Brad Bernstein NYC for help 

[Ben&Zian 4,397]

8 minutes ago, Xcalj5 said:

I brought my current husband from Iran on K1 visa. My husband is 14 years younger than me and came without any money. Yes, I lost my mind. I fell in love with young charismatic man. I am educated and my whole life I saved with hard work and sacrifices. And it happened, he used me just for a green card (yeah stupid me for trusting). He admitted for lying on application regarding his previous employment. He admitted for working for Iranian government and having weapons training (not mentioned on visa app). He received his visa based on lies (I have no way of proving it). I refused to sign ROC (I751) and so he left and is filing it based on divorce waiver. He was abusive throughout the relationship, which was documented in court. Two temporary restraining orders. No criminal charges though. After he left (2.5 yrs) I found out he was in relationship with another older woman and have recording of them. I am ok he left, but I am not ok he is suing me for half. I confirmed with 3 attorneys that he is entitled to half of my savings (which is a lot collected during marriage.) He is also going for alimony and my 401k which I saved a lot. He did not pay a dime to me or towards my house or anything. I covered all his expenssed. Found him job. I basically lost $40K on him and will lose another $40k based on him defrauding me and the country. I made Infopass and was lucky to speak to officer who then told me they cannot do anything!!! He is permanent resident (conditional green card) and has every right to renew it based on divorce, because I cannot prove it was a sham. Even if he does not have anything in his name, no financials because some marriages agree to that. So not only he wasted almost 6 yrs of my life, he refused to have children (I never had it was my last chance), he will get my savings, 401K, plus my investments and I am being told there is nothing I can do to stop it and I am on the hook for I864 for 10 yrs, so this will never end. He is evil and is doing everything to hurt me financially. I really don’t understand why as I only gave him and provided everything and let him travel with me all over the world. I am glad that he is out of my life, but is there anything I can do so he does not take everything I worked so hard for. He received his visa based on lies and deception. I can clearly show that he was using me for money and green card. USCIS is not interested in what I had to say at the infopass. Is there anything else I can do?? 

 

 

Try to prove it best as possible when it comes to that time that he lied the entire time. If you can especially prove he lied on original applications for the original visa you may be able to get out of it and even have him stripped of his legal status. If you can't, legally if that law in your state says he is owed half of everything/alimony... it is what it is.... again if you can manage to prove all this there may be some hope though for you to save your assets....

 

 

Edited March 7, 2018 by Ben&Zian

[Xcalj5 3]

Just now, Ben&Zian said:

 

Try to prove it best as possible when it comes to that time that he lied the entire time. If you can especially prove he lied on original applications for the original visa you may be able to get out of it. If you can't, legally if that law in your state says he is owed half of everything/alimony... it is what it is.... again if you can manage to prove all this there may be some hope though for you to save your assets....

 

 

Problem is I cannot prove he lied on application. USA does not have any ties with Iran. I know that he traveled to Afghanistan and Saudi Arabia on diplomatic passport. Again, I have no way of getting hard proof.

[wanderer84 31]

10 minutes ago, Xcalj5 said:

I brought my current husband from Iran on K1 visa. My husband is 14 years younger than me and came without any money. Yes, I lost my mind. I fell in love with young charismatic man. I am educated and my whole life I saved with hard work and sacrifices. And it happened, he used me just for a green card (yeah stupid me for trusting). He admitted for lying on application regarding his previous employment. He admitted for working for Iranian government and having weapons training (not mentioned on visa app). He received his visa based on lies (I have no way of proving it). I refused to sign ROC (I751) and so he left and is filing it based on divorce waiver. He was abusive throughout the relationship, which was documented in court. Two temporary restraining orders. No criminal charges though. After he left (2.5 yrs) I found out he was in relationship with another older woman and have recording of them. I am ok he left, but I am not ok he is suing me for half. I confirmed with 3 attorneys that he is entitled to half of my savings (which is a lot collected during marriage.) He is also going for alimony and my 401k which I saved a lot. He did not pay a dime to me or towards my house or anything. I covered all his expenssed. Found him job. I basically lost $40K on him and will lose another $40k based on him defrauding me and the country. I made Infopass and was lucky to speak to officer who then told me they cannot do anything!!! He is permanent resident (conditional green card) and has every right to renew it based on divorce, because I cannot prove it was a sham. Even if he does not have anything in his name, no financials because some marriages agree to that. So not only he wasted almost 6 yrs of my life, he refused to have children (I never had it was my last chance), he will get my savings, 401K, plus my investments and I am being told there is nothing I can do to stop it and I am on the hook for I864 for 10 yrs, so this will never end. He is evil and is doing everything to hurt me financially. I really don’t understand why as I only gave him and provided everything and let him travel with me all over the world. I am glad that he is out of my life, but is there anything I can do so he does not take everything I worked so hard for. He received his visa based on lies and deception. I can clearly show that he was using me for money and green card. USCIS is not interested in what I had to say at the infopass. Is there anything else I can do?? 

 

Wow I am so sorry to hear that. I cannot believe there are people like that but apparently there are. I am praying for you. I am sure many here will provide valuable advice. God bless. 

[Xcalj5 3]

The only way I could save my assets/finances is by filing alimony, but in my states is almost impossible to get it. I was told super slim chance.

Just now, wanderer84 said:

Wow I am so sorry to hear that. I cannot believe there are people like that but apparently there are. I am praying for you. I am sure many here will provide valuable advice. God bless. 

Thank you! Nobody can even imagine my devastation and hurt.

[Rc123rc 528]

I'm sorry about your situation. Make sure to check with an attorney. He is only entitled to amounts during your marriage. Anything you earned prior to marriage is not available to him. Spousal support is subject to incomes of both parties and the courts can take into consideration many things. Is he disabled and unable to work? Don't panic yet, you don't have many of the answers you need.

[Tina and Johan 206]

4 minutes ago, Ben&Zian said:

 

Try to prove it best as possible when it comes to that time that he lied the entire time. If you can especially prove he lied on original applications for the original visa you may be able to get out of it and even have him stripped of his legal status. If you can't, legally if that law in your state says he is owed half of everything/alimony... it is what it is.... again if you can manage to prove all this there may be some hope though for you to save your assets....

 

 

What the others said, PLUS, find yourself a very good lawyer who will fight for you to keep your savings, money, retirement, and investments.  How long were you actually married?  He should only be entitled to half of what was earned at that time, not in total.  Add up your expenses, forms filed, etc, and ask that it be deducted from any alimony, etc.  He will likely also try to get you to pay for HIS lawyer.  What a jerk.  I'm sorry for this.

[maryLu 58]

Get a really good divorce lawyer! I wish I had better advice. Sorry for what you are going through.

[wanderer84 31]

3 minutes ago, Xcalj5 said:

The only way I could save my assets/finances is by filing alimony, but in my states is almost impossible to get it. I was told super slim chance.

Thank you! Nobody can even imagine my devastation and hurt.

If the marriage was not in "good faith", I hope there are avenues to follow. 

[cyclone27 710]

Only problem with lawyering up - you end up losing all your money to the lawyers involved.

 

your best bet is to come to a settlement or you both end up losing.

[Xcalj5 3]

Just now, wanderer84 said:

If the marriage was not in "good faith", I hope there are avenues to follow. 

On his part it was not. On mine it was. I gave him everything. I even pay for his health insurance. I put him on car insurance, etc. He admitted for using me for GC and that now he found a way of not have to stay with me and still get a green card. Unfortunately is all true.

[Xcalj5 3]

2 minutes ago, cyclone27 said:

Only problem with lawyering up - you end up losing all your money to the lawyers involved.

 

your best bet is to come to a settlement or you both end up losing.

Yes!!!! He lawyered up after he left me announcing he used me for green card and money and now he is gonna get more! I still did not retain attorney. They cost thousands and I have to pay just to defend what I worked so hard for.

[wanderer84 31]

1 minute ago, cyclone27 said:

Only problem with lawyering up - you end up losing all your money to the lawyers involved.

 

your best bet is to come to a settlement or you both end up losing.

I would also worry about long term consequence of just settling now without involving the law. There is no telling what will happen later and I would worry if OP can be misunderstood later as if they willing took part in any of his schemes.  

 

I know nothing about the law, but given what OP tells about him, I would take no chances with this character.

[wanderer84 31]

Just now, Xcalj5 said:

Yes!!!! He lawyered up after he left me announcing he used me for green card and money and now he is gonna get more! I still did not retain attorney. They cost thousands and I have to pay just to defend what I worked so hard for.

Please lawyer up, better safe than sorry, please dont be defenseless when he is already working to build a case against you.