Do relationships survive this?

[lilQueenP 15]

Don't get me wrong, my guy & I are doing great, but we haven't had the wait or the obstacles of some of the couples I've seen on here. Do things get easier when the fiance gets here? Can people talk about their post-entry experiences?

[MERIC061609 15]

No one can predict the future. If you have a strong relationship and no doubts and you have explained your fiancé how difficult will be for him to move to a different country, then you should be OK. There are always going to be obstacles in any relationship, just be patient with one another. The move to America will be difficult and hard on both of you. Just understand and be there for your significant other.

MERIC

[JohnR! 5,495]

Don't get me wrong, my guy & I are doing great, but we haven't had the wait or the obstacles of some of the couples I've seen on here. Do things get easier when the fiance gets here? Can people talk about their post-entry experiences?

Statistically 50% will end up in divorce court.

[Ontarkie 13,913]

Moved to Moving Here and Your New Life In America, from K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures as this question is about after POE and is better suited for this forum.

[Mariya and Tim 5]

That is a good question. We are only in the beginning of our journey and it is taking me forever to go back to US. I wonder if this will affect our relationship at some point.

It would be really nice to hear someone's experience on this.

[X Factor 1,110]

Get the book "Culture Shock USA". It is available on Amazon.com for under $10 and will help the immigrating spouse get an idea of what to expect. Very informative.

[Fight for Love 98]

like the saying if you love the person you'll take that risk NO MATTER what

for me no matter what the outcome good OR bad...atleast i didn't waste my time for not being happy..."LIFE IS TOO SHORT"...being with the man i love this is all that matter..godbless us all!!!

[Phil & Alla 26]

It depends on MANY things. The 50% answer above is a bit depressing I will say, talking on Skype, email and short visits is a lot different than living with a person 24/7. Life is a gamble and I am glad I did what I have done

[OnMyWayID 1,489]

It depends on MANY things. The 50% answer above is a bit depressing I will say, talking on Skype, email and short visits is a lot different than living with a person 24/7. Life is a gamble and I am glad I did what I have done

Actually the 50% divorce rate is not accurate... often given and assumed to be true... Divorce in the USA

Edited September 17, 2012 by OnMyWayID

[amyandjorge 76]

things don't get easier once spouse is living under the same roof. some things get harder! but it's becomes a much more rewarding situation

pretty sure we are still in the *honeymoon* phase though

[Pitaya 2,576]

We feel that the entire immigration process has helped us work and grow together . That being said, it all hasn't been a bed of roses, but then again it all hasn't been a crown of thorns either. Like anything worthwhile, it takes a lot of continuous work, commitment, tolerance and understanding.

YMMV

[khwaidee1 196]

It's tough to be sure. I was fortunate to visit my wife 8 times in the last two years so we spent a lot of time together. During the last two visits we spent a lot of time talking about the transition from her country to the U.S. and that the U.S. is not what a lot of people perceive it to be. Before she got here I scouted the local markets (Vitnamese) that carried Thai food. I bought her the cooking utensils that she would need to make her Thai dishes and a big rice cooker. She's been here two weeks now and all is good but, I work all day and she doesn't have a license to drive nor any friends near by so it can get boring at times. I've brought her to the office with a couple of times and she seemed to enjoy seeing what I do. I got her an iPad so she can chat with her friends and be on facebook. She's mastered the washing machine, dryer and dish washer and enjoys taking care of the house. I've had some killer Thai meals too! She misses home, her dog and her family and I know that. She calls them about every other day to just to check in. So far so good, I am very in love with her and she is very loving and affectionate to me. We might still be in the "honeymoon" phase but we are both committed to making it work and enjoy our life together. Good luck to you!

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Don't get me wrong, my guy & I are doing great, but we haven't had the wait or the obstacles of some of the couples I've seen on here. Do things get easier when the fiance gets here? Can people talk about their post-entry experiences?

You forget all about the wait and get on with life, which is far more challenging

Edited September 17, 2012 by Gary and Alla

[newlyweds2010 208]

Statistically 50% will end up in divorce court.

Trying to see the glass half full: I would be curious to see how many "all American" couples end up in divorce court, too. Probably more than 50%.

[Andrea&Henry 311]

It is tough for sure but we are totally thankful to God cause this journey make us stronger not only as a person but as a couple. I came here 5 month ago and I can express how happy I am with my husband and my new life. For me' it's really hard to believe that some people who came here with k1 visas are getting divorce and going back home within 4 o 5 month later. Coming here to the US is NOT an easy journey, leaving your country, your loveones, your job, friends, your whole culture is really really hard and I think being "home sick" is one of the biggest reason why people decide to quit everything and go back home. That's why having a strong relationship with your belove is so important. My now husband is my rock, my best friend. Hemade me feel totally save and love since the first second i touch america. I was scared, anxious and he worked hard to make sure i had everything I need to start our new life. There were nights when I fell sleep crying cause I was missing my parents and sibling but he stayed awake and confort me. Also, he spends most of his time with me, taking me to museums, parties, malls, movies, meet his friends etc etc so I dont get bored easily. The thing is, that having a strong, close relationship is the key of this journey. It's really sad, see people here failing when they are so close to make. Once you get here, spend quality time with your boyfriend, it is your time to have a nice and normal relationship without forgetting all the things you need to go throught. That was my biggest lesson....never take him for granted! And the things you need to work your as...off are the better ones . So my advice would be, stay strong, be patient and once you'll get here, be happy Be very happy as you can be...never be afraid of sharing your feelings, your sadness,myour happiness..cause let me tell you, there would be many feelings while your adjusting, a lot of them not so pretty, but this is the time to proof how strong you are as a couple. Besides that, just be happy and enjoy every single second with him