Did you send your sexual conversations?

[2Complicated 0]

I sent msn chat logs, but only to show how long we've been talking. I took a black marker and marked out any and all information that I thought was too personal. I highlighted the dates.

[naplesguy 25]

One of the things they are looking for with chat logs is to see who much you talk not exactly what did you say.

Some of our logs were very big. For most of our logs I summited an abbreviated version. It included the date and time of each message but only the first 20 characters of each message. Basically 1 line per message. It will show how much time is devoted to the relationship which is what they really want to know. Keep the full logs only if they actually ask for them.

This sounds like the thing to do. I made sure my fiance had a smartphone and internet plan and we chat through the day and night on yahoo mobile. While we may get a little flirty whe don't get explicity sexual ( its better in real is it not?).

I am not sure how to go about adopting this idea as I have not really played with Yahoo in this regard. Also, I am concerned that my mobile may have just recently been leaving a history.

My phone logs got so much shorter when we went to using yahoo mobile devices. From two or more calls a day to occasional voice calls.

Anyone else use yahoo mobile?

[baron555 934]

Ok, I'm trying to go through our on yahoo chats to send for proof of our relationship, but our conversations seem to turn sexual a lot. Im really ashamed to send it, but my Fiance said well they wanted proof so give them what they want... what do you guys think

My wife and I never engaged in email sex or phone sex or Skype sex.

We DID profess our love for each other once our relationship got that far and samples of those emails, etc, I did send since that is what is normal in a relationship that was intended to turn into a marriage.

[Linds&Youssef 56]

I have to agree on the bit about too much info not being a good thing. Specifically with relation to your case because Nigeria is considered a high fraud post. That said, sex and sexual activity is a very intimate thing that a CO will argue can be used to make the manipulated party feel as though the relationship has a level of authenticity that for the manipulator isn't there. This is because when sex is involved, for a lot of people, there's an automatic assumption that the relationship is at a certain point. I'm not saying in any way that this is the case for you; I'm saying it can be the case for some couples if the beneficiary is simply using the petitioner to get to the US.

Further, I don't know what the major religion is in Nigeria, but if it happens to be Islam, sleeping together before marriage (or sexual activity in general) is a HUGE taboo. It's not like it doesn't happen, but it's not something that a legit couple would necessarily be willing to share with the world because it's private and the couple doesn't want to be viewed as a sinner and bring shame to him/herself and those with whom they associate. So again, this would raise a red flag with a CO.

Finally, it's a simple enough matter to print out what you want to send, then black out the text you don't want them to see with a Sharpie. That way the CO can see that there's a chat record without reading your personal details. You're better off providing evidence that there was a conversation via time stamped print outs than by letting them read your personal content. Just sayin'

[thinkerlove0212 158]

Ok, I'm trying to go through our on yahoo chats to send for proof of our relationship, but our conversations seem to turn sexual a lot. Im really ashamed to send it, but my Fiance said well they wanted proof so give them what they want... what do you guys think

you can use black marker to cover it..

[Freighthouse 10]

My wife and I never engaged in email sex or phone sex or Skype sex.

We DID profess our love for each other once our relationship got that far and samples of those emails, etc, I did send since that is what is normal in a relationship that was intended to turn into a marriage.

Are you serious dude?

[Mike B. 231]

I dont think sexy chats hugs and kisses fall into that category.

If your idea about talking about sex is "hugs and kisses," you would be floored by the stuff I say to my wife.

[rade2rising 205]

If your idea about talking about sex is "hugs and kisses," you would be floored by the stuff I say to my wife.

care to elaborate?

[alex_dc4 5]

so are people going to send thousands of pages? My i 130 was approved with a few emails, copies of boarding passes and visa stamps. There is simply no need to send every conversation and every email.

how can you do every thing on line by e-mails ?

[QueenE 173]

then why did you ask?

Well if you could read, I said I wanted to be overally prepared. I know it's not required to send chats, etc. But I just wanted to give too much information rather than little information... anymore questions?

If memory serves me correctly. A couple of months back in the Nigerian Embassy Review. There was a wife of a Nigerian man who posted in that the CO asked her husband why did they submitt e-mails with strong sexual content. The husband resoponded that they were afraid if the blacked it out or skiped it the CO might inquire why or what are you hiding. The CO then made the husband read the e-mails out loud so others could hear. They were approved, but it was a little embarrasing.. Personaly I would black out the strong material if I need to part of the conversation.

Peace,

Chi

LOL it would serve my Fiance right, he told me I should

[bayojona3231 4]

As a Nigerian American and a loyal democrat,that is TMI. Like others have,they just need some emails or screenshots of your chats. That is just too much information. CO does not need to know all that. Good luck.

[abner137 48]

We sent videos..........jk......c'mon man!!!.....oh, the response to the OP.......

[dwheels76 5,463]

so are people going to send thousands of pages? My i 130 was approved with a few emails, copies of boarding passes and visa stamps. There is simply no need to send every conversation and every email.

Hey mimolicious,

what did you load your husbands up with for interview? This is my dilemma now. There's no way i am pinishing the may with 3 years of emails, chat logs and IM's. And it is Lagos they could careless but something. Give me your take please.

[Steve & Rema 4]

For my interview, I'm going to take screen shots from Gmail of some Google Talk conversations, and e-mails (Google Talk actually shows how many lines each is, for example we have a conversation that's over 3k lines). So instead of showing everything we wrote, it'll just show one message, then the number of messages included in the conversation, and the date/time. If there's anything too personal I was planning on using a black marker to cover it up.

[neodragon0l 6]

I am sure we all want to be over prepared since this is a love one we are talking about. However, as my attorney friend would say, too much information may be harmful.

I think sexual conversations alone has little value to the ongoing relationship aspect. You can safely assume that this two are flirty. Honestly, The IO/CO looks at the application's entirety. Use reasonable judgment. Do you really want your fiance or wife going up to the IO? The IO is amazed, "Did she really do this?" I wouldn't put my wife in that predicament.