Fiance' was cheating while PREGNANT

[Dee&Bryan 3]

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Edited March 21, 2012 by Dee25

[Dee&Bryan 3]

My deepest sympathy. I am sorry but this is so sad.

All the best for you and your baby.

I believe in Bad Karma too, she will get hers soon!

[Laure&Colin 373]

Her plan was typical: get a GC through marrying you, then divorce and petition for her bf at home. It's so sad for the baby

Collect as much evidence as you can proving her fraudulous intent, and make sure your lawyer is on top of things, especially the abuse claims.

Good luck to you!

[quartercloud 5]

This sounds like a nightmare of a situation and I'm

so sorry you are experiencing this.

But good prevails in the end, and karma's a B****

That's Pollyana thinking! Treachery and deceit often win out over good.

[Ivan in VA 2]

I hate to say it, but I would offer that the warning signs where there all along. Do yourself a favor and move on in your life. You could start by diverting the time that you sit on your regrets by getting involved in parenting classes or maybe attending a church or single parenting group.

I can only speak from experience of being divorced and learning from my mistakes. I would also add that you need to be happy being single before you consider any future relationships. If it helps any, my engagement and marriage to my second wife opened a path to here and meeting new friends. When I met my fiancee I knew I needed to be with someone that was secure in herself and mature, I might add. We dated for five years before I actually traveled to her country and so we definitely knew each other. We then dated another two years after I visited her home, family and friends. It was afterwards that we made the move for her to come here to the states on a K-1.

Hire a good lawyer and gather all your paperwork: a paper trail will help much. Also, don't worry so much about what she's doing. Just do what creates a peaceful home for your child and you. Best of wishes.

[bigdog 376]

Sorry dude, hope you got a great attorney.

[duriantaste 44]

Had a friend for many years.

Then she told me she loved me and wanted to be with me.

I went to her country many times to visit her.

Sent her money every month.

Hired an attorney and did all the paper work.

On my last trip she got pregnant.

I went back and did an official engagement with an expensive ring so she could avoid ridicule in her home country.

Her K-1 was approved.

She came to the USA.

From the very first day I could see something wrong.

I gave her a phone and a computer.

We got married right away.

She had a nice home, health insurance and lots of cash to live on while I worked.

Two weeks after she got here, I discovered she had a lover in her home country throughout the entire courtship and engagement and PREGNANCY.

They chatted every single day behind my back by IM, phone, webcam etc.

They exchanged naked photos.

She sent him pornographic pictures of herself while pregnant.

She had his bank account number.

She agreed to commit adultery with him when she went home to visit.

They told each other they loved each other forever.

I was heartbroken at first but realized it was all a lie.

I had to protect my assets, home and child from her.

I confronted her, no verbal or physical abuse, and she agreed to stop with him.

Our baby was born.

She sent pictures of the baby to her lover.

I did DNA test and the baby is mine.

She never stopped contacting her lover everyday for 6 months.

I discovered more pictures of her with her lover during our entire relationship.

So, I filed for divorce.

She never got her I-94 when she arrived through customs.

I did not renew her I-94.

Her I-485 was rejected for lack of I-94.

I sent letters to USCIS with a removal of support declaration.

I contacted ICE.

I sent in evidence.

I have NEVER been contacted by an investigator.

I did receive a letter that her paperwork was delayed or missing evidence.

I contacted my congressman.

I went to USCIS field office.

Field office told me I couldn't get any information due to privacy laws even though I SPONSORED HER.

I served divorce papers and made her leave the house.

She agreed to go back to her home country.

I bought a ticket and agreed to give her money and keep the expensive rings.

She skipped out of the airport.

She disappeared for months and could not be found.

I have the baby and won custody.

She didn't even call to check on our baby.

I found out she is trying to petition based on abuse.

I never abused her.

There are no police reports.

She has lied to ICE, lied to her non-profit, lied to her family.

She has now been in the USA 1 year.

She has an expired K-1 for 9 months.

She has no I-94.

So, why hasn't she gone through removal proceedings?

How can her friends and family assist, aid, and abet her as an illegal alien (out of status right)?

Can she really get AOS with all this against her?

The baby can't keep her here.

Any suggestions out there to help protect my baby and me?

Just curious, how did you find out she was chatting with another person? did you check on the computer or did she tells you?

[C-ma'am 684]

Just curious, how did you find out she was chatting with another person? did you check on the computer or did she tells you?

What difference does it make? He found out, and he has proof.. and now the important thing, is about him and the welfare of their baby.

[Sayha or bust. 71]

Sorry to hear, you have the baby so all ends well. Time to get on with your life and raise your baby. Life will get good again.

[duriantaste 44]

What difference does it make? He found out, and he has proof.. and now the important thing, is about him and the welfare of their baby.

Sorry Celetes, I thought I asked the OP not you. I am sure he knows how to type.

[Fight for Love 98]

Sorry Celetes, I thought I asked the OP not you. I am sure he knows how to type.

I agree with duriantaste this is what I don't like about this forum some people are getting nasty even you’re not even talking to them. Is just showing how they are in person Very Unprofessional.

[C-ma'am 684]

I agree with duriantaste this is what I don't like about this forum some people are getting nasty even you're not even talking to them. Is just showing how they are in person Very Unprofessional.

You called me Nasty and Unprofessional for pointing out one of the many things that tend to derail a post?

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[james&olya 1,121]

I agree with duriantaste this is what I don't like about this forum some people are getting nasty even you’re not even talking to them. Is just showing how they are in person Very Unprofessional.

This forum is for people to read and make comments freely about whatever subject is at hand. If a private conversation is what you want you should conduct it by e-mail or PM! And what profession do these people belong to that they are not adhering to the standards of?

[Theresa0828 65]

This forum is for people to read and make comments freely about whatever subject is at hand. If a private conversation is what you want you should conduct it by e-mail or PM! And what profession do these people belong to that they are not adhering to the standards of?

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[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

ICE doesn't have time to investigate every accusation of a US citizen being used to get a green card. They have 20 million illegal aliens to worry about. Their biggest concern are the ones who are dangerous criminals, and they've been ordered to focus on those.

USCIS will be required to consider her application for a green card based on abuse. She'll have to prove she entered the marriage in good faith, which generally means evidence of comingled finances and cohabitation. Does she have any of this evidence? She'll also need to prove the alleged abuse. Does she have anything like this? Police reports, medical reports, etc.? USCIS will not report to you on the progress of her application because you are no longer involved in it. However, they will consider the complaints you've filed when evaluating her VAWA petition, especially if you filed those complaints long before she filed her petition. You may never know if she was successful. Don't worry about it. Move on with your life. Have no further contact with her unless it's supervised. She may try to use any opportunity to collect evidence for her VAWA application, and that includes calling the cops on you. She can't pull this unless she's alone with you.

I'm sorry this happened to you. It sucks. The consulate in Saigon is known to be a difficult one, and there's a good reason for this. Most Vietnamese girls aren't scammers, but the ones who are can be really vicious.