Fiance' was cheating while PREGNANT

[DeeDee&Sam 68]

damn thats screwed up. thank god u got the baby tho. she shouldnt bother u ever again

[S_R 148]

wow!

[Leatherneck 693]

Never, ever be caught alone with her. Even if she turns on the charm, don't do it. Consider getting a PO box so your mail will be secure and changing/re-keying the locks at your home. Remove her name from any joint accounts and cancel the ATM/credit card if she had any of those.

[verysadguy 170]

ICE doesn't have time to investigate every accusation.

USCIS will be required to consider her application for a green card based on abuse.

She'll have to prove she entered the marriage in good faith, which generally means evidence of comingled finances and cohabitation. Does she have any of this evidence?

She'll also need to prove the alleged abuse. Does she have anything like this? Police reports, medical reports, etc.?

However, they will consider the complaints you've filed when evaluating her VAWA petition, especially if you filed those complaints long before she filed her petition. You may never know if she was successful.

Have no further contact with her unless it's supervised.

Most Vietnamese girls aren't scammers, but the ones who are can be really vicious.

A few answers for some great posts.

I discovered the scam when we were home and our computer kept popping up the same screen name over and over. With her sitting right there I googled the screen name and it came up with the name of a Vietnamese man, then she confessed. I told her family, and she promised to stop. Of course she didn't.

ICE can't investigate every case I understand, but her sponsors contacted ICE, and my congressman contacted ICE. So, now they have it on file.

USCIS was notified before her K-1 expired but after we were married. At least they know. My worry is that USCIS and ICE are not sharing data well. According to testimony at the child custody hearing the ICE agents didn't know what her status was. That is scary since that was several months after all this happened.

Abuse? There was no abuse. No police reports, no harassing emails, no testimonials. She "imprisoned" herself with her unwavering love for her man back in her home country. If she was miserable, that is just tough toe nails. She made her bed, now she has sleep in it.

I will know if she is successful or not, because if she does get her green card fraudulently she will come back after the child. More battles lie ahead.

All contact is supervised. I'm not stupid. Yes, she turned on the charm and tried to stay in my home. I said no of course. The one time she did see our child she showed up with an Asian thug. Very scary.

Vietnamese women as scammers. I don't know the statistics, but when I did go to USCIS and say I was there to report romance fraud the woman right away said Russian, Filipina or Vietnamese?!!!

My big question now is how long is typical until she gets a notification of removal proceedings?

[kiddo621 0]

Hi Verysadguy,

I feel really sad for what happened to you. I used to work at court and specialized in illegal immigrant cases. Unfortunately, I have to tell you that your soon-to-be ex-wife is eligible to apply for citizenship because she is the mother of a U.S. citizen.

Actually, my brother-in-law recently married someone from Vietnam too and some of our family members found out this girl has a "significant other" out there and they are planning for something after she got her green card. I for one don't really know if I should tell on her because something inside of me just hope that she will really fall in love with my brother-in-law during the procedure while she's waiting for the green card.

[Karee 4,189]

Hi Verysadguy,

I feel really sad for what happened to you. I used to work at court and specialized in illegal immigrant cases. Unfortunately, I have to tell you that your soon-to-be ex-wife is eligible to apply for citizenship because she is the mother of a U.S. citizen.

Actually, my brother-in-law recently married someone from Vietnam too and some of our family members found out this girl has a "significant other" out there and they are planning for something after she got her green card. I for one don't really know if I should tell on her because something inside of me just hope that she will really fall in love with my brother-in-law during the procedure while she's waiting for the green card.

Laugh. In about 20 years.

[Kevzil 2]

I am so sorry to hear about your bad situation. Hang in there, everbody pays the price. You'll see........

[verysadguy 170]

I used to work at court and specialized in illegal immigrant cases. Unfortunately, I have to tell you that your soon-to-be ex-wife is eligible to apply for citizenship because she is the mother of a U.S. citizen.

Mothers do get deported. She can TRY to apply for new I-94, I-495, use a non-profit, and try the VAWA angle. However, with at lot of evidence and perhaps one or two level-headed USCIS/ICE folks they will see she came here fraudulently.

[Kiv 32]

I see that VAWA cases are approved most of the times. The way you put your case I think is not fair for you. I would say don't waste more efforts and money trying to have her deported. I think is more important that you protect your child and yourself from her possible come back after a VAWA approval. You may get more from a civil court, I am not a lawyer but she is also a parent she may have to pay for child support too. I hope you find the best help for you and your baby.

[K&E2009 71]

Sorry to hear this.

Hope you get it resolved quickly and without much hassle for yourself.

Also, Leatherneck mentioned in an earlier reply about changing locks, getting a P.O Box, cancelling her bank stuff etc. VERY IMPORTANT!

You don't know what she could be up to.

G'Luck!

Edited March 22, 2012 by Widsy97

[aaydrian 479]

Hi Verysadguy,

I feel really sad for what happened to you. I used to work at court and specialized in illegal immigrant cases. Unfortunately, I have to tell you that your soon-to-be ex-wife is eligible to apply for citizenship because she is the mother of a U.S. citizen.

Actually, my brother-in-law recently married someone from Vietnam too and some of our family members found out this girl has a "significant other" out there and they are planning for something after she got her green card. I for one don't really know if I should tell on her because something inside of me just hope that she will really fall in love with my brother-in-law during the procedure while she's waiting for the green card.

Why are you hesitating? If your brother-in-law knew that a killer was after you, would you want him to sit there and 'hope' the killer will have a change of heart and go buy an ice-cream instead? It's better to hurt his feelings now than have 2 years down the road him hating you because you had information that could have saved him from heart ache, reporting the wife to ICE, save him from a VAWA accusation, alimony and child support.

Edited March 22, 2012 by aaydrian

[K&E2009 71]

Why are you hesitating? If your brother-in-law knew that a killer was after you, would you want him to sit there and 'hope' the killer will have a change of heart and go buy an ice-cream instead? It's better to hurt his feelings now than have 2 years down the road him hating you because you had information that could have saved him from heart ache, reporting the wife to ICE, save him from a VAWA accusation, alimony and child support.

Excuse my ignorance, but what does VAWA mean!?

[aaydrian 479]

Excuse my ignorance, but what does VAWA mean!?

Violence Against Women Act - it's a crafty little tool that gets abused (pun $ no pun intended) by female spouses of USC citizens to obtain/retain their green card (if successful)

[K&E2009 71]

Violence Against Women Act - it's a crafty little tool that gets abused (pun $ no pun intended) by female spouses of USC citizens to obtain/retain their green card (if successful)

What about a Violence Against Men Act!? VAMA?? Anyone!? No...

[Samantha78 117]

Had a friend for many years.

Then she told me she loved me and wanted to be with me.

I went to her country many times to visit her.

Sent her money every month.

Hired an attorney and did all the paper work.

On my last trip she got pregnant.

I went back and did an official engagement with an expensive ring so she could avoid ridicule in her home country.

Her K-1 was approved.

She came to the USA.

From the very first day I could see something wrong.

I gave her a phone and a computer.

We got married right away.

She had a nice home, health insurance and lots of cash to live on while I worked.

Two weeks after she got here, I discovered she had a lover in her home country throughout the entire courtship and engagement and PREGNANCY.

They chatted every single day behind my back by IM, phone, webcam etc.

They exchanged naked photos.

She sent him pornographic pictures of herself while pregnant.

She had his bank account number.

She agreed to commit adultery with him when she went home to visit.

They told each other they loved each other forever.

I was heartbroken at first but realized it was all a lie.

I had to protect my assets, home and child from her.

I confronted her, no verbal or physical abuse, and she agreed to stop with him.

Our baby was born.

She sent pictures of the baby to her lover.

I did DNA test and the baby is mine.

She never stopped contacting her lover everyday for 6 months.

I discovered more pictures of her with her lover during our entire relationship.

So, I filed for divorce.

She never got her I-94 when she arrived through customs.

I did not renew her I-94.

Her I-485 was rejected for lack of I-94.

I sent letters to USCIS with a removal of support declaration.

I contacted ICE.

I sent in evidence.

I have NEVER been contacted by an investigator.

I did receive a letter that her paperwork was delayed or missing evidence.

I contacted my congressman.

I went to USCIS field office.

Field office told me I couldn't get any information due to privacy laws even though I SPONSORED HER.

I served divorce papers and made her leave the house.

She agreed to go back to her home country.

I bought a ticket and agreed to give her money and keep the expensive rings.

She skipped out of the airport.

She disappeared for months and could not be found.

I have the baby and won custody.

She didn't even call to check on our baby.

I found out she is trying to petition based on abuse.

I never abused her.

There are no police reports.

She has lied to ICE, lied to her non-profit, lied to her family.

She has now been in the USA 1 year.

She has an expired K-1 for 9 months.

She has no I-94.

So, why hasn't she gone through removal proceedings?

How can her friends and family assist, aid, and abet her as an illegal alien (out of status right)?

Can she really get AOS with all this against her?

The baby can't keep her here.

Any suggestions out there to help protect my baby and me?

Extremely sorry to hear this horrible story. Truly heartbreaking but I feel your pain - believe me. It's funny, people will tell you about all of the things you need to do to report your spouse but they leave out the important part about how ICE will not follow up on the case for at least 2 years, how they do not handle these reports as priority at all and that the beneficiary most likely will not ever be deported until they are caught doing something illegal. We basically lose out more than we are aware of. I have recently been through a somewhat similar situation and I was so disgusted in how immigration handles these types of cases and how many rights the filthy beneficiary has. Bringing someone here is soooo much more of a risk than anyone knows or wants to admit.

I hope you don't have to suffer much more than you already have......