Spouse vs ex

[patracy 1]

i know this is off topic, but am confused n needs help.

Is it ok for spouse to still be friends with an ex who is also married? They have no kids together though

[Operator 1,927]

i know this is off topic, but am confused n needs help.

Is it OK for spouse to still be friends with an ex who is also married? They have no kids together though

The answer to that question depends on who's asking it.

If your SO has problems with you being friends with your ex then I would say its not OK.

If you have a problem with your SO being friends with his or her ex then I would say its not OK.

If its anyone else then I would think its none of their business.

[Penguin_ie 5,997]

Ok in what way? How friendly? There is a big difference between a friendly hug when you happen to meet at a party and daily phone calls or weekly dinners...

If you mean in terms of immigration, being friends is fine, but still living together/ jointly owning a home etc can be a red flag.

[patracy 1]

Ok in what way? How friendly? There is a big difference between a friendly hug when you happen to meet at a party and daily phone calls or weekly dinners...

If you mean in terms of immigration, being friends is fine, but still living together/ jointly owning a home etc can be a red flag.

they talk on phone and chat on face book. the ex recently befriended me on fb and did not accept.

i told my spouse its not ok to entertain exes but remains adamant. the ex is also married too, i dont knw what they have in common to still chat. i am not in ghana so i really cant tell whether they have went out on dates. my spouse sees nothing wrong with been friends with an ex

[Penguin_ie 5,997]

***** Moving to OT as this is not an immigration question- I can move it to the African Regional forum if you prefer *****

Ultimately, as Operator says, the current spouse and their feelings should come first. I do think being FB friends and sending the occasional email is fine, especially if they had a long history and common friends. I am FB friends with one of my exes (never married) and enjoy seeing that he is happy and things are going well for him. I also exchange the occasional email with my ex-husband, because we still have common friends and I was friendly with his parents until I moved to the USA. But if my current husband wanted me to de-friend the exs', I would.

[Dave-n-Oksana 49]

they talk on phone and chat on face book. the ex recently befriended me on fb and did not accept.

i told my spouse its not ok to entertain exes but remains adamant. the ex is also married too, i dont knw what they have in common to still chat. i am not in ghana so i really cant tell whether they have went out on dates. my spouse sees nothing wrong with been friends with an ex

I've known many divorced couples where they were the best of friends but could not live with each other. If it was a friendly divorce there is no reason for the relationship not to remain friendly. I guess the question to you is do you trust your spouse? Have they done or said anything to make you think that things were more than they seemed?

[Nina~ 431]

I was friends with my ex till about a year ago. I cut him off after he said some insensitive things, and every conversation I had with him ended up with him trying to one-up on me. I soon realized that it was an unhealthy friendship and that I wouldn't put with any of my other friends who behaved the way he did.

My husband had no problems with me being friends with my ex, and never told me who I can or can not talk to. But keep in mind, I would have stopped talking to my ex instantly if he had a problem with it.. It is more important to me to keep my husband happy.

[Girl from Celebes 588]

i know this is off topic, but am confused n needs help.

Is it ok for spouse to still be friends with an ex who is also married? They have no kids together though

I never let my fiance be friends with his exes. That's my rules. Unless if he has a child together then it would be okay. I don't want separate children from their father. It is kind hard but I don't want to be selfish..

[tcTTct 37]

Why would her ex try to befriend you on Facebook if there was something more going on?

[Dan and Judy 614]

Why would her ex try to befriend you on Facebook if there was something more going on?

3 way :dance:

[scandal 951]

3 way :dance:

Come and knock on my door ...

[Robert&Karen 264]

I am not friends with my ex but I am friends with a short term girlfriend with whom I should have stayed platonic. My siblings are friends with my ex and as such I need to maintain a distance from them lest she know all about my life. I have never seen a situation where being friends with an ex is a good thing.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

i know this is off topic, but am confused n needs help.

Is it ok for spouse to still be friends with an ex who is also married? They have no kids together though

It is stupid at the very least.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

I was friends with my ex till about a year ago. I cut him off after he said some insensitive things, and every conversation I had with him ended up with him trying to one-up on me. I soon realized that it was an unhealthy friendship and that I wouldn't put with any of my other friends who behaved the way he did.

My husband had no problems with me being friends with my ex, and never told me who I can or can not talk to. But keep in mind, I would have stopped talking to my ex instantly if he had a problem with it.. It is more important to me to keep my husband happy.

Is your ex Rob, you know, Rob and Mel...that Rob? So you thread banned him, essentially?

[Ban Hammer 13,710]

Is your ex Rob, you know, Rob and Mel...that Rob? So you thread banned him, essentially?

making it personal like this will get you a thread ban at the very least. stop it.