Surprise you have a 4 year old daughter!!!

[LexiandAnthony 1]

Half way thru k1 visa and my fiancé finds out he has a 4 year old daughter. ####### do I do now? Should I with draw!?

He's never even seen the kid.

[wissnan4ever 10]

Half way thru k1 visa and my fiancé finds out he has a 4 year old daughter. ####### do I do now? Should I with draw!?

He's never even seen the kid.

Can we say DNA test!

[no more 16]

Why would you withdrawal the petition? The logical thing is to do a DNA test and if he has a daughter then there is a new little one to join your family....This is life....And from that knowledge you decide how to handle when you all will see her.....Just confused by the thought of withdrawal?

[Enigma11561 336]

If the child is his, and he will have some responsibility for him/her, and you marry him, its very possible you may have some responsibility as well. Have you considered this?

[And_Sam 44]

Wow, a shocker on both parts? Well, this day and age, that isn't uncommon. Now you two have alot to discuss. Is he still willing to move to the US to be with you? Is he going to accept his daughter in his life? Lots of questions to ask and answer. To withdraw your application sounds kind of personal. Guess it would depend on whether or not you plan on accepting this girl as your stepdaughter and know he is responsible financially for her. Why didn't the mother make it known sooner? Or did he all ready know and didn't tell you?

Sorry you are having to go through this.

[LexiandAnthony 1]

Wow, a shocker on both parts? Well, this day and age, that isn't uncommon. Now you two have alot to discuss. Is he still willing to move to the US to be with you? Is he going to accept his daughter in his life? Lots of questions to ask and answer. To withdraw your application sounds kind of personal. Guess it would depend on whether or not you plan on accepting this girl as your stepdaughter and know he is responsible financially for her. Why didn't the mother make it known sooner? Or did he all ready know and didn't tell you?

Sorry you are having to go through this.

He says EVERYTHING will stay the same. I'm not mad at him. But on all the forms I've put no for kids. So they see maybe he has a kid.

[milimelo 4,167]

He says EVERYTHING will stay the same. I'm not mad at him. But on all the forms I've put no for kids. So they see maybe he has a kid.

This better be disclosed at the interview if he or you is ever to petition the child. I'd still ask for DNA now - someone jsut showed up one day and told him he has a 4-yr old child?

[Penguin_ie 5,984]

I agree on the DNA test- both for his sake (there is a chance the mom is naming him now just because she thinks it is a way for the child into the USA), and as an explanation why you didn't list the child on the forms.

[LexiandAnthony 1]

Why would you withdrawal the petition? The logical thing is to do a DNA test and if he has a daughter then there is a new little one to join your family....This is life....And from that knowledge you decide how to handle when you all will see her.....Just confused by the thought of withdrawal?

Because if they find out he has a kid they will just deny him since we didn't put that in forms. But then again it's not like he wants to bring the kid to us. So I mean would it really matter?

[T & J MC 0]

I am so sorry to hear that you received that surprising news, but do you trust Toney????? I find it kind of ironic that after he was denied his visa, now out of the blue there is a 4 year old child out there that he knew nothing about. hmmmm. Now, of course I don't know Toney nor yourself, but for me that would be a red flag. You questioned yourself saying should you withdraw, but only you can answer that question, because at the end of the day no matter what advice you're given, you are the one who has to live with what choice you make, not anyone else.

[djkurious 0]

Get a DNA test.

[KaynPhil 1]

She doesn't want to withdraw because he has a kid. What she's asking is if it's better to withdraw then get denied at the interview for not putting the child on the previous paperwork. The child was a surprise to both of them.

I don't think it matters, I would just say get the DNA test like everyone has suggested and then if the child is his add her to it with proof that the DNA test was recent and you were both unaware.

Edited July 21, 2011 by KaynPhil

[Casprd 167]

You're early in the process so I would get the DNA test and go from there. Just because someone says he has a daughter doesn't mean it is so.

How long does it take to get the results? If it is a matter of a few weeks then you can wait for these before withdrawing the petition. If it turns out not to be true you have saved some time and money. If it is his child then you will need to either withdraw the petition or get it corrected somehow. Something like that can sink a petition. Given that you learned early in the process if it isn't corrected, Immigrations could probably make a strong case for material misrepresentation if you don't correct this.

What about giving USCIS a call and explain to them what is going on and see if you can amend the petition when you get the results of the DNA test? Not sure if this is an option and you'll probably have to talk to a level 2 person or supervisor. If they let you do this then you won't loose too much time or the filing fees.

[Gosia & Tito 199]

Because if they find out he has a kid they will just deny him since we didn't put that in forms. But then again it's not like he wants to bring the kid to us. So I mean would it really matter?

All forms always note that the information provided in form is true to the best of your knowledge, which seems to be the case here. If new information becomes avaialble, you then disclose that with the proper documentation.

IN this case, you want a DNA test done and if in fact there is paternity, then you might first need to deal with laws in that country, you can't just take a children unless both parents consent. Of course, this might be a bit muddy since all you would have are affidavits in that there was no child before. If father works, it would be possible to show that no child was register with company or with government for possible governmentla benefits. The very fact thata DNA test was done is already an indication that doubts existed as to the paternity, and that woul dbe part of the documentation.

[little_g 35]

I filled out the i-129F and mistakenly thought the Child question meant immigrating children only and put none. In reality my fiance has kids from a prior marriage. It was an honest and naive (before I found Visa Journey) error. Anyway when it came time to fill in his packet 3 forms he listed his children. They are staying with his ex-wife and not immigrating although he will remain very active in their lives. My point in all this is it is not an ax in the process so breath. But he is from UK so I am not sure if it is different for Jamaica. Just put his child on the packet 3 forms when the time comes. If they ask anything about it just be honest. Also I agree, he should verify that this is his child. If it is, wouldn't he want to be a part of her life?