COPING UP WITH SPOUSAL DIFFERENCES?

[DeadPoolX 9]

What I've learned is pretty simple, yet takes a while to really get good at: don't sweat the small stuff.

That means that marriage (even just a "regular" boyfriend/girlfriend relationship) will have plenty of rough patches and "bumps in the road," so there's no point in getting angry or upset over relatively trivial matters. Unfortunately, those are the issues that most couples tend to argue about most. These problems may seem incredibly important at the time, but in the grand scheme of things, they really aren't and are just serving to create a tension-filled household.

Once again, all of this is far easier said than done. But it can be done -- it just takes practice.

[Ban Hammer 12,829]

What is it with men and their old shirts??

Saludos,

Caro

and underwear and socks

now, the benefit of underwear and socks, is...you don't have to consult before throwing them away. A shirt I might ask if it has a sentimental value (many of Justin's concert shirts do, that's fine). Socks and underwear, no mercy!

Saludos,

Caro

bad wifey

Mags and I are pretty good together. She keeps me from telling people what they really are, and therefore keeps me from getting banned from VJ permanently. lol

OMG I can so relate to you. That's what Charles do and I thank him for that.

only cause i know everything one can be suspended for around here from personal experience

Charles, I am the poster child for this subject.

[garya505 2]

Talk about differences!!! I'm a man and my wife is a woman, what should I do???

[JVKn'CVO 11]

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I just tear them up and turn them into rags esp those shirts that come from his ex's . ..socks throw away

You can also look for a clothes recycling center in your area. You can take shirts, pants and shorts, if they are faded or can be patched then they can use them

I've discovered tons of recycling containers for everything! clothes, plastic bags, phone books, to complement your curb side recycling

Saludos,

Caro

[rclouse 0]

Just squeeze your rage into a bitter little ball and release it at an appropriate time. Like the time Daddy hit the referee with the whiskey bottle! Remember that? When Daddy hit the referee?

[Krikit 1,163]

Just squeeze your rage into a bitter little ball and release it at an appropriate time. Like the time Daddy hit the referee with the whiskey bottle! Remember that? When Daddy hit the referee?

[Sister Fracas 5]

what!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

sister fracas, now sister caro..sanita...what is with wives..throwing away their husband good underwear and tee shirts..........................

Bro Deanster.... one should not have see-thru boxers or socks because they've become too threadbare to wear.

YAY Sanita!!!!!!!!!!! The sister RAWKS!!!

Edited January 31, 2008 by Sister Fracas

[SteveLaura 0]

Just squeeze your rage into a bitter little ball and release it at an appropriate time. Like the time Daddy hit the referee with the whiskey bottle! Remember that? When Daddy hit the referee?

I'm guessing 'Simpsons' quote. Do I win something? Do I? Hmm? OK.

[Krikit 1,163]

Just squeeze your rage into a bitter little ball and release it at an appropriate time. Like the time Daddy hit the referee with the whiskey bottle! Remember that? When Daddy hit the referee?

I'm guessing 'Simpsons' quote. Do I win something? Do I? Hmm? OK.

Oh. Having never seen The Simpsons I guess that one flew right by me.

[JVKn'CVO 11]

Just squeeze your rage into a bitter little ball and release it at an appropriate time. Like the time Daddy hit the referee with the whiskey bottle! Remember that? When Daddy hit the referee?

I'm guessing 'Simpsons' quote. Do I win something? Do I? Hmm? OK.

Oh. Having never seen The Simpsons I guess that one flew right by me.

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Never, as in, never never??? or never as in "I've only seen each episode a max of 2 times?" !!!!!

Saludos,

Caro

[Krikit 1,163]

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Never, as in, never never??? or never as in "I've only seen each episode a max of 2 times?" !!!!!

Saludos,

Caro

Never ever as in "I've seen it was on as I was changing channels but I've never actually stopped to watch it." Same goes for Seinfeld. I haven't seen that show either. I tried to watch it a couple of times but I found the characters highly annoying so I changed channels after a few minutes.

[SteveLaura 0]

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Never, as in, never never??? or never as in "I've only seen each episode a max of 2 times?" !!!!!

Saludos,

Caro

Never ever as in "I've seen it was on as I was changing channels but I've never actually stopped to watch it." Same goes for Seinfeld. I haven't seen that show either. I tried to watch it a couple of times but I found the characters highly annoying so I changed channels after a few minutes.

I've watched 'The Simpsons' on & off but I'm with you on 'Seinfeld' - never seen a whole episode for the same reason. I don't think it ever really took off in the UK. Had a late night slot. Became sort of a cult viewing thing. *doesn't have the shrugging smiley but shrugs anyway*

[JVKn'CVO 11]

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Never, as in, never never??? or never as in "I've only seen each episode a max of 2 times?" !!!!!

Saludos,

Caro

Never ever as in "I've seen it was on as I was changing channels but I've never actually stopped to watch it." Same goes for Seinfeld. I haven't seen that show either. I tried to watch it a couple of times but I found the characters highly annoying so I changed channels after a few minutes.

You are the first person I've heard/ read say that

Saludos,

Caro

[tmma 467]

Part of being married.

yeah it is, that's a fact. HOW do u cope up though.

Compromise, understanding and love.

This answers the OP's question perfectly!

reminds me of part of a song...

Maroon5-She will be loved

It’s not always rainbows and butterflies

It’s compromise that moves us along

[Steve'sGirl 0]

If you're both determined to make the marriage/relationship work, you can. I believe that one of the keys to a good relatioship is communication, telling your SO about your thoughts and feelings in a calm manner. No matter how much you love each other, you are still two individuals that have had a life with good and bad experiences and habits that formed well before you met.

Making compromises and sacrifices for one another is yet another key factor in my opinion. Whenever differences come up, especially those that lead to major disagreements, you should always remember how and why you fell in love with your spouse and all those moments that made you want to spend the rest of your lives together.

Good luck and and all the very best for your future!!!!