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no, the aos if only paid once, since they are the same family group, but you must submit one i864 per parent
the DS260 is paid separately, one for each one

Aos fee is per petitioner not beneficiary. You pay 1 AOS fee for both parents.

I got stuck at "third world"...

I could be wrong, but I don't think you're going to get a whole lot of help on this forum.
It's people like you that make this process so difficult for everyone else. Thanks for that!

Wow! How horrific! I am going to visit my family in Egypt with my husband and our 9 months old son. We are flying through Germany on the way home to the US. I really hope this doesn't happen to me, I couldn't imagine my husband and baby boarding without me, I'd die. I already got denied at the DMV with only the extension letter. Really the immigration system is FLAWED. They should give stamps automatically when you go for your biometrics appointment.

Sorry, why is everyone assuming that the OP did nothing to deserve getting the restraining order? I don't think the police give that to anyone, if they did, I'd get everyone I don't like one and be happy for life.

Social security won't let you change it unless your married name is on your green card. I'm changing mine when it's time to remove conditions cause they wouldn't allow me to do that until I get my name changed to my married name on my green card first.

Just want to thank everyone for their help! I was able to sort something out. I am going to be living with a classmate when my husband deploys then have found a potential filipina nanny to come in February when the baby comes. She has agreed to my offer, but my mom and husband will interview her first.. Hope it all works out! Thanks again!!

Yes, going to the gym, beach, and the store are all very high expectations for a wife to have. All this, AND she wanted to pick her own friends while gaining weight?? good lord this woman really wanted it all, didn't she?
Too bad she left, she could have had such a good life taking care of your kids, your house, dealing with your ex wife, and being poor out in the middle of nowhere...
Sorry, you can't expect someone to just make your old life their new life.
Just out curiosity, how did you find out about all of those abuse accusations she made against you if she already left the country?

Not really sure what you're asking for here? Just get divorced. You were mentally abusive too it seems, calling her harsh words like that... just divorce and move on.

Sorry this happened to you...There is always 2 sides of the story and I dont think she will end up coming on VJ to vent her frustrations. She obviously didn't love you enough to stay and work it out. Sounds like she was young and naive, at the same time I/we are not sure where she is from but sounds like their expectations over all were high. Did you maybe set her expectations to high before her coming here? Sometimes women from other countries require some patience and understanding from your part.. IF indeed you showed her a different side of you, and if indeed her kind of behavior frustrated you, i would personally settle for an American woman, they can put up with that kind of behavior from you, but also your children. It seems us Americans are used to it. Hope everything else is good...take care.

At least not at your age huh
If you do not have something valuable to add try limiting your nasty thoughts on others cultures to MENA

I normally wouldnt..but i will be alone and pregnant/with a baby for a whole year without a husband, other family and friends.

Why are you asking me about love, I don't know you or her. If it's love then do what love dictates you to do. My comments are only based on what you have posted.
If it's love then seek marital counseling.

It will most likely work but she's committing immigration fraud.

Are you sure she withdrew it in 2011? Can you give us the exact wording you got from USCIS about the denial, with names and case numbers XXX's out? It seems very strange that your AOS was pending for 2 years, from 2009 when you married to 2011 when she pulled her affidavit of support.
If you indeed never got AOS then the others are correct, you cannot stay.

i can not beleive this topic was brought up i would be so ashamed to ask sveta to work her tail off to pay a dime as it was told she is moving from other side world and leaving everything behind maybe i was brought up in old school where the man is the provider

Put the horse in front of the cart. Figure out your personal life going forward first. Then make the appropriate immigration decisions.

Kirk, she can go around and call herself whatever name she chooses, but for a name change on a legal government document, she will need to have a court document showing that she has reverted back to legally being called Mrs.XYZ.

It's not misogynistic to be asked change one's last name.Don't dismiss things so readily. He may know what he's talking about. In some areas, being stopped and having a Hispanic name is a prescription for trouble. If you change your name back, you should carry a copy of your marriage certificate with you at ALL times, especially if you never plan to apply for citizenship.

I'm sorry but it will look like a red flag to me at ROC. If you never took his last name it's totally OK, but if you dropped it after your AOS was approved, how could it not look like a red flag?

I can imagine WA being so different than Australia, why don't you move somewhere warmer and drier? Maybe Arizona or Nevada or anywhere with beaches like California or Florida? Maybe you really just need to get out of Washington and see what else is out. You and your husband might get lucky and get a raise if you move and afford a nice house for a good price (especially if you go to AZ or FL were housing prices dramatically dropped)
Ever heard the saying "You can never go home again" by Thomas Wolfe? I think of that whenever I'm homesick... I can never get my old life back because it's forever gone and if I go back, it'll be a totally new place! Try to live in the present now and try to enjoy it because the days that pass by, will never come back.
I wish you the best and I really do feel what you're going through. I've been there.

I can imagine WA being so different than Australia, why don't you move somewhere warmer and drier? Maybe Arizona or Nevada or anywhere with beaches like California or Florida? Maybe you really just need to get out of Washington and see what else is out. You and your husband might get lucky and get a raise if you move and afford a nice house for a good price (especially if you go to AZ or FL were housing prices dramatically dropped)
Ever heard the saying "You can never go home again" by Thomas Wolfe? I think of that whenever I'm homesick... I can never get my old life back because it's forever gone and if I go back, it'll be a totally new place! Try to live in the present now and try to enjoy it because the days that pass by, will never come back.
I wish you the best and I really do feel what you're going through. I've been there.

Maybe not NZ, but what about moving to another place in the USA? It's a big and diverse country! Maybe you'll be more comfortable on the West coast, with a more relaxed vibe and more job opportunities in a big city?
You moved to a different continent to be with your husband, I think he could consider moving States to help you adjust!