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You state that you wished the interview could have been done in his home country of Iraq, well, interviews for Iraq do not take place in Iraq as the US embassy there is closed, they are done in Amman, they have been for a long time(not sure why you wouldn't know this if you did your homework). Meeting only once is a BIG red flag for a male beneficiary from any MENA country, and being different religions is a red flag, as well. Marrying a Christian or Jew is allowed for Muslim men, but it isn't the cultural norm. Also, approval of the family is really big in his culture, and the consulates know this. Did you send any evidence of his family supporting your relationship and the marriage in the US? The interview and evidence for a MENA country should go well beyond just proving that you met and that you speak every day. Family approval and involvement plays a BIG part.
You need to do some homework on what the cultural norms are for his country, and also some more homework about the entire process. You weren't even aware that interviews for Irag are held in Amman. You need to spend more time with him, preferably with his family as well. You have 3 choices, wait for the petition to be sent back to USCIS for further review, where it will most likely expire and be dead in the water, File another I129f petition, but only after you have met him again and spent some face time, preferably with his family as well. Or meet again and get married and file an I130 petition for spouse. Just know that if you go the marriage route, it does not equal an automatic approval, you need to address the reasons for the denial. You have a long road ahead of you, no matter which way you choose to go, just be prepared for that. I wish you the best, and if you have any questions feel free to ask. My husband is from Jordan, and I attended his interview with him in Amman a year ago.

AP takes place in a galaxy far far away. This is why it takes so damned long!

When it gets to this galaxy it undergoes numerous scientific experiments. If it passes those, it will return to earth via the black hole from which it came.

My advice is to end it. If your heart is no longer in it, then there is no way you'd be able to handle the process and all that it entails. It takes a very dedicated pair to follow through on it, as it is hard enough as it is. And it is best to end it soon, as the deeper you get into it the more you will lose once it truly is over.

Hi Henia,
I'm torn as to what advice to give you, as I believe deep in your heart, you have the answer. Personally speaking, there is nothing in this entire world that would have let my mother struggle through cancer alone much less die alone, should it come to that. Three years ago, my mother became very sick. I lived 8 hours away, but week after week for three months, I drove back and forth physically exhausted to take care of her until her final hours of life. I too have a daughter, had a busy life as well with her school and after school activities she was involved in. But as a daughter, I never had to think twice to be by her side. After her death, I felt a sense of peace, but never an ounce of guilt. I think the guilt is what most people live with after a death of a parent. Your always gonna ask yourself, why didn't I do this, why didn't I do that. This is why I can wake up every day and have beautiful loving memories of her.
I know your decision is based on living abroad, having four children, and leaving Algeria to move here. My suggestion would be have his family help with your children while you take a trip to visit your mother and let her know you love her and your there for her. Moving to the USA isn't probably the answer your looking for as the USA will always exist but your mother is alone and battling cancer which could take her life. Your life will be blessed for many years to come, don't miss this opportunity to visit your mother and give you that peace of mind you so deserve. After spending some mother and daughter time together, travel back home, sit with the family and have a heart to heart talk.
Take care...

One of the requirements of using the VWP is that you have compled with the conditions of the program if you have used it before. By staying more than 90 days you are not able to use the VWP and need a visa to enter the US. Having overstayed less than 180 days you aren't subject to an automatic ban but you will not likely be given a visitors visa in the near future. IF you fly you will probaby be turned away by immigration and have to pay for your own return tickets. You may slip though but it is unlikely. Your fingerprints will tie you to your previous overstay. I don't see how you got approved if you correctly answered all the questions. If you lied then you will be hit with a material misrepresentation and permanently barred from the US

now my husband has his drivers license's and only if he can find a job here it is very hard in a small town to get one but pray for us thank you...he is going for his GED now to hopefully get something soon. still having some issues with my kids it is a big adjustment but we are getting there..but overall we are a family together and happy...

I don't think Vanessa meant what she said in a condescending way. She was just trying to look out for you. You took her advise the wrong way. I, personally, totally agree with her. If it is so easy for your fiancé to up and leave his country in the middle of the working period, then he wouldn't think twice about coming back, so asking you to marry him on a whim is not that big of a deal.
If I was you, I'd get married and then have him go back home so he can sort everything out with his life back in Belgium. File for CR1 and take on this journey together.
Good luck!

Go and meet him first, learn about the culture, make sure he doesn't just marry you for a greencard. Make sure he doesn't already have a wife.
A red flag would be " we have to stay at a hotel because in my culture you can't meet my family if we are not married etc"
Don't rush . If he is an " old soul " then he'll be patient.

Whoever said she cannot travel with the extension letter is wrong. Thousands of people travel with this combination and have no troubles. It is bad whoever she spoke with at the consulate said that. They are a consulate though, and maybe aren't used to dealing with USCIS and CPB stuff. She certainly does not need special permission to travel beforehand. But beware of other secondhand stories, like the person she talked to. We don't know their situation. You can travel with original letter and expired GC.

Not hating on anybody! You posted asking if anyone else had a visit from DHS and I responded about what some people might think could be a red flag. If you didn't want opinions on why you might have had this visit I am not sure why you posted. I do think it would be wise to find out all you can on why they chose you for this visit as well as why your K1 didn't go through. Getting married does not guarantee that they will issue a visa later and if there is anything that needs clearing up you should do it now rather than after another denial! And uncomfortable as it might be, it is probably smart to go on here like you have and invite comments like you did. Everyone else that just reassures you and says everything is fine might make you feel warm and fuzzy but it is not helpful to your case to be lured into a false sense of complacency! If everything was OK you would not be having the problems you have encountered. It is important to figure out what those problems are so they can be fixed. Sorry I upset you and your friends here, I mean no harm, was just trying to point out what might be off-putting to the folks who have to try and prevent harm to american citizens.

Just thought I would let everyone know that after four and a half months of being here in the US, my husband has finally been hired for a full time job position. So now he will be working full time, and also keeping his part time job. YAY!!!!

Riiight...
Get it straight - God is not going to pay your petition/visa filing/AOS fees. Why not get married in Kenya and file for spouse petition? CR-1 visa is cheaper to obtain because you don't have to adjust status in the US after entry. I spent a lot of time in Kenya. More churches than anyone ever needs for you to get married in. Talk about waste of resources that could be used to clothe the naked, feed the hungry, cure the sick, yadda yadda.

Thanks for clarifying, what would we do without you!

yeah, either way the OP needs to get rid of him. As I stated on the first page, what he is suggesting is fraud, and lying will bring severe consequences down the road. I'm curious to know what country her husband is from...

standar time is four to five months
you still have a lot of waiting left, sorry

Visa just gor approved @USEM! Thanks VJ members for helping me since day 1! So thankful and blessed to have VJ members!

Aww sweetie you're still in the grief/anger stage, and it will take some time to heal your heart and soul. But I have to say - I think you're projecting a lot of your anger onto the wrong people. Sure, maybe your ex-husband decided to take advice from strangers or casual acquaintances rather than listen to his own wife, but it's not the fault of the busybody Arabs - it's your ex-husband's fault. Sure, he acted like an idiot and a scumbag - and water often seeks its own level, so he likely found himself among similar company. But the problem is between you and him, and how he treated you. Nobody can force someone to treat his wife horribly unless he was pretty much inclined to do it already.
I really think you should write the whole experience out into your next book - you're a gifted writer and story-teller. There are so many compelling aspects to your personal story - love, drama, anguish, tragedy, anger, revenge, empowerment, and even revelations and transformation. Don't be embarrassed - this is real life and it's full of risks and heartaches, and I don't think there's anyone who's over 2 years old who has never made any mistakes. Everything that's happened in your life - the good, the bad, and the ugly - makes you into the person you are today, and you are the person who will shape your future. You're already on your way.

I am not here to ask advices or anything..
Just want to share that my husband passed away this morning... peacefully... he had brain cancer and we have been fighting for more than a year now... there was a point in our fight that we thought we are winning... but we lost... i am just thankful that he passed away peacefully... in his sleep, and i got the chance to tell him everyday that i love him... and that he is my love, my life, my world, my home and my everything...
Whenever I read people here posting marriage not working out, just using me for greencard, giving up... and a lot of things... i am so sad...
I found the perfect husband... the perfect person... and yet he was taken away from me in such a short time...
I promise I will honor his name... i will honor our love... and I do not think I could love other person as much as I loved him... and still loving him... my love for him will not die until my last breath...

"traveling without your consent" makes you sound possessive and domineering
good luck

Yes I did all the running around as well, but it was all worth it in the end. From the day we met, got married, got his visa, got his 10 yr card and then got ihs citizenship. God is great. And I have found some good friends online while going through all this process. I thank each and every one of them. :thumbs: And also my mommy and daddy. :P

i have another thought, however malformed...
have him stay in the USA.
keep him in the USA.
Seriously, tie some 200 kilogram weights to each ankle, have him stay here.
Whilst he's tied down, get the divorce paperwork finalized from Jordon, and in your hand.
Once it's in your hand, untie one weight from one ankle, get him to the courthouse and marry.
Once you have a marriage certificate in hand, FILE the Adjustment of Status paperwork (review the guide section here for all the scoop)
then
once his green card shows up, then (and only then) untie the 2nd weight from his ankle.
He's in an overstay now - and it will be forgiven once he has his green card in his hand.
If he leaves the USA now, he'll be hit with a 3 year ban and can't come back until after 3 years from his departure date.

Is it wise to relocate? No. I mean unless you have plenty of money in the bank or will have continuous income or have parents willing to support you and your husband when you eventually move back to the states. If you can afford an extended visit, go for it. If you can afford a short visit only then do that. Keep in mind that once you get back to the states (if you relocate) things will be difficult in the beginning. You will have a husband to support before he can find work, you will have yourself to support, you will have to find a place to stay, etc. This all requires income of some kind. Don't put yourself in an awful position just because you're feeling emotional right now. I understand how you must feel but you have to use your head not your heart right now.

Your answer doesn't show appreciation. You asked a question and it was answered. Why ask on a public forum if all you want are only the feel good answers?

HELLOOOO VJ,
This post is made for those who have gotten to know me over the years, since 2007 to be exact. For those who have followed my story since I married my nigerian husband back in 2007. Those who read of the indiscretions and the hard times, and watched me forgive him since he stated he would not make that mistake again and promised transparency in the marriage from here on. Well thing got better for a while but within time, things began to go back to what got us in the mess we were in from the start of the affair. In all fairness, I did NOT catch him red handed again, however I am no fool at 41 years old. You know what Ladies, he could not meet up to the requirements of being a loving, honest, trustworthy, responsible husband. Someone posted something recently about lacking affection, lacking concern, being secretive about his life outside of the home. Yes, those were all the things that he continued to struggle with even after we decided to give it another go round. He said he loved me when I asked and promised not to leave, which he never did. That's the part that baffled me, this man did not want to act like a husband but yet he refused to leave the home. He got his 10 yr greencard some time ago so that wasn't the issue. To this day, I honestly feel that he felt it was acceptable to have a loving wife at home but OK to behave like a single man. It's almost like he wanted th best of both worlds. Well...... I'm sorry ladies, I deserve better. You see, I didn't come from a home where love was lacking. My mother gave me unconditional love day and night. So when I began to see how lonely I felt inside, how miserable I had become and how my childen must have felt watching their so called step Dad come in and out whenever he wanted without a word spoken, how he would be unaccounted for several hours, I knew I had to step up and set a fine example if not for me for my lovely children. They accepted this man into the home based on their trusting my decision and the fact that he called them regularly when in africa and promised to teach them soccer, prepare nigerian dishes, hangout and just be a good friend to them. Instead, he lied, cheated and was very disrspectful in his behavior toward me. What kind of message would I be sending to my son and daughters. To my son, is this how a man should treat hs wife? NO. To my daughters, Is this how a man should treat you? NO. So for all these reasons I asked him to leave and I will tell you this man did NOT leave without a fight. I had to call in the troops, literally, the troops meaning my brothers. I'm not sure why he wanted to remain here when he was NOT loving me or the kids the way he had promised in Nigeria. So to the question asked by someone, do they change when they get here? For me, my answer is YES. What he did not realize is that when he met me he met his match. Like I said before I was well loved as a child, so I know when it's time to call it quits. I was also taught that a woman is supposed to be respected, loved, cherised and handled with care. I am thankful to finally have the wisdom to know the difference between REAL love and an illusion. So while we have been separated for 4 months, I have not filed for divorce yet but plan to next year. He sent me a text the other day and said he was sorry for being a jerk and he doesn't know why he has such a hard time being honest and get this... he said I will always be special. He then asked if he could have another chance and come home, I I said "No". Always remember, if they hurt you once, shame on them, if it happens again and you take them back, shame on you. He needs to get out on his own and face his demons head on. Some men have to learn a hard lesson in order to grow. I sleep like a baby at nigt now. The world has been lifted from my delicate shoulders and my eyes have dried from all the tears shedded throught the years. The shock is over and I now know, it was a HUGE chance I took for love. It was emotional the first month, but it is getting easier by the day. I know what I'm worth and what i deserve, it may have taken me 41 years to figure this out but i won't settle for less than I deserve. I am a good woman with a lot to offer the right person. Unfortunately, he is not that man, right now anyway.

The fact that you are calling them and seem more eager for the visa than your fiance seems for you to have the visa, isn't a good sign for them, I'm sure.