wise to relocate after visa denial?

[mrsbourffada 3]

Maybe I'm coming from an emotional place, instead of a logical place right now. But after finding out that my husband didn't get his visa, my gut reaction is to just get to him. I have all these plans running around in my head of moving all of my things into my parent's rental house and buying a one way ticket to Morocco until he gets a second interview and can come home with me. I don't know if this would be a wise decision, but at the moment.. it certainly seems like a decision I want to make. Any thoughts?

[bsd058 296]

Maybe I'm coming from an emotional place, instead of a logical place right now. But after finding out that my husband didn't get his visa, my gut reaction is to just get to him. I have all these plans running around in my head of moving all of my things into my parent's rental house and buying a one way ticket to Morocco until he gets a second interview and can come home with me. I don't know if this would be a wise decision, but at the moment.. it certainly seems like a decision I want to make. Any thoughts?

We know too little about your situation to give you good advice.

For instance, no one knows if you have a job right now in the US. We don't know if you're planning on moving back before he gets his visa to move to the US (in order to get a job to sponsor him).

There are plenty of other factors that we are in the dark about, so taking any advice from us without taking into account your situation would be like taking a shot in the dark. Perhaps the recent denial has brought up emotions that would cause you to miss your husband, but reacting on emotion is usually not advisable. Many times the heart is deceptive.

Try to analyze the situation. Try to find the path of least resistance to get you to your goals. If your main goal is to move to the US and you'll need to keep your job to do so, then I recommend staying in the US. However, only you know your situation. For all I know you might have a co-sponsor who is willing to help sponsor him and you may not need to hold a stable job in order to sponsor him.

I hope things work out for you. Just remember to try to do the most logical thing even when your emotions/feelings/desires make you want to do otherwise.

What does your husband think of the situation? Does he want you to go to Morocco? Or does he think it'll be easier if you stay in the US for now?

[Sarah Elle-Même 660]

Maybe I'm coming from an emotional place, instead of a logical place right now. But after finding out that my husband didn't get his visa, my gut reaction is to just get to him. I have all these plans running around in my head of moving all of my things into my parent's rental house and buying a one way ticket to Morocco until he gets a second interview and can come home with me. I don't know if this would be a wise decision, but at the moment.. it certainly seems like a decision I want to make. Any thoughts?

Was he issued a 221G? Did they put him in AP or refuse? If it's a refusal depending on why they refused to issue the visa there are still things you could still do to get a 2nd interview. Contacting the Embassy by phone or email, contacting your congressperson, etc. is a good place to start. Be proactive and don't give up yet!

[Cathi 5,769]

Was he issued a 221G? Did they put him in AP or refuse? If it's a refusal depending on why they refused to issue the visa there are still things you could still do to get a 2nd interview. Contacting the Embassy by phone or email, contacting your congressperson, etc. is a good place to start. Be proactive and don't give up yet!

her husband's case is being sent back for NOIR or NOID

[Cathi 5,769]

Going to live with him will certainly not hurt your case if the CO accused him of not knowing you very well. Either way it is a good idea for you to visit and spend as long as possible with him. You have not seen him since February and an extended visit will be good for both of you emotionally, and good for your case further down the road. Good luck and be as pro-active as you can.

[wantknow 11]

Going to live with him will certainly not hurt your case if the CO accused him of not knowing you very well. Either way it is a good idea for you to visit and spend as long as possible with him. You have not seen him since February and an extended visit will be good for both of you emotionally, and good for your case further down the road. Good luck and be as pro-active as you can.

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[Peace.... 281]

Marrying on your first visit was most likely your problem and not returning to show an ongoing relationship. All of us with spouses know just how tough morocco is compared to other countries. You need to make more visits sweetie, keep a strong heart, good luck.

[Ryan H 3,812]

Moved from IR-1/CR-1 Process & Procedures to MENA regional forum; topic is not about the immigration process itself.

[Cathi 5,769]

Marrying on your first visit was most likely your problem and not returning to show an ongoing relationship. All of us with spouses know just how tough morocco is compared to other countries. You need to make more visits sweetie, keep a strong heart, good luck.

Hey sweet cheeks, I was not aware they married on the first visit, and was her only visit. As someone who married my husband on the first visit, having a huge age difference(my being older by 20 years), meeting on the internet and being different religions, my husband and I had HUGE red flags. BUT I visited him 4 times in 9 months, all extended stays, we were able to overcome our red flags. You really should have had at least 2 extended visits before even attempting to file, especially through Casa. I think at this point you going to visit and stay for a while is a must if you are going to have any chance of overcoming your denial.

[Peace.... 281]

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Hey sweet cheeks, I was not aware they married on the first visit, and was her only visit. As someone who married my husband on the first visit, having a huge age difference(my being older by 20 years), meeting on the internet and being different religions, my husband and I had HUGE red flags. BUT I visited him 4 times in 9 months, all extended stays, we were able to overcome our red flags. You really should have had at least 2 extended visits before even attempting to file, especially through Casa. I think at this point you going to visit and stay for a while is a must if you are going to have any chance of overcoming your denial.

Yep, you did everything possible to overcome the red flags just as I had too. But for some reason, I am getting a ton of grief about telling others to make multiple visits espically in morocco so as their case can go a bit smoother come interview time.

[Cathi 5,769]

Yep, you did everything possible to overcome the red flags just as I had too. But for some reason, I am getting a ton of grief about telling others to make multiple visits espically in morocco so as their case can go a bit smoother come interview time.

you did the right thing by making so many visits

[sandinista! 1,816]

Yep, you did everything possible to overcome the red flags just as I had too. But for some reason, I am getting a ton of grief about telling others to make multiple visits espically in morocco so as their case can go a bit smoother come interview time.

lots of people with lots of visits have been denied too. lots of people with 1 visit have been approved. it doesn't seem to be a one size fits all answer or solution. the OP had none of the same big red flags as you. also a huge difference in financial and employment situations. looking back on her past posts, she was fired a few months ago due to missed work for a serious illness. if drs notes weren't enough to keep her job, trips to morocco probably wouldn't have been green-lit by her employer either. getting a visa is less awesome if the process leaves you destitute and living in a homeless shelter.

people try and do the best they can given their circumstances. it sounds like the op and her husband did their best given the cards they were dealt. there's some armchair quarterbacking going on in this thread though, that should be dialed back a lot.

[Cathi 5,769]

lots of people with lots of visits have been denied too. lots of people with 1 visit have been approved. it doesn't seem to be a one size fits all answer or solution. the OP had none of the same big red flags as you. also a huge difference in financial and employment situations. looking back on her past posts, she was fired a few months ago due to missed work for a serious illness. if drs notes weren't enough to keep her job, trips to morocco probably wouldn't have been green-lit by her employer either. getting a visa is less awesome if the process leaves you destitute and living in a homeless shelter.

people try and do the best they can given their circumstances. it sounds like the op and her husband did their best given the cards they were dealt. there's some armchair quarterbacking going on in this thread though, that should be dialed back a lot.

she asked for advice, we gave our opinions and experience. We are all very aware that not every case is the same. Not quite sure why you feel the need to be so condescending, I really don't care if you don;t like what I have to say. If I can help the OP sharing my experience, it's s good thing. I don;t think any person on this site will tell you that having met only once and marrying on that one visit is going to get an approval, no matter the country. The OP is planning to go back to Morocco and it will not hurt her case, it will help it, that is the bottom line.

[Mithra 1,185]

Is it wise to relocate? No. I mean unless you have plenty of money in the bank or will have continuous income or have parents willing to support you and your husband when you eventually move back to the states. If you can afford an extended visit, go for it. If you can afford a short visit only then do that. Keep in mind that once you get back to the states (if you relocate) things will be difficult in the beginning. You will have a husband to support before he can find work, you will have yourself to support, you will have to find a place to stay, etc. This all requires income of some kind. Don't put yourself in an awful position just because you're feeling emotional right now. I understand how you must feel but you have to use your head not your heart right now.

[rade2rising 205]

lots of people with lots of visits have been denied too. lots of people with 1 visit have been approved. it doesn't seem to be a one size fits all answer or solution. the OP had none of the same big red flags as you. also a huge difference in financial and employment situations. looking back on her past posts, she was fired a few months ago due to missed work for a serious illness. if drs notes weren't enough to keep her job, trips to morocco probably wouldn't have been green-lit by her employer either. getting a visa is less awesome if the process leaves you destitute and living in a homeless shelter.

people try and do the best they can given their circumstances. it sounds like the op and her husband did their best given the cards they were dealt. there's some armchair quarterbacking going on in this thread though, that should be dialed back a lot.

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