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After 1 month of marriage, I have decided not to file AOS due to some pretty big unreconcilable issues with finding things on his cellphone and accounts.  He is refusing to go back to his country and says I need to get him an apartment.  He was also looking up "is VAWA for men too?". What rights do I have ?

After 1 month of marriage, I have decided not to file AOS due to some pretty big unreconcilable issues with finding things on his cellphone and accounts.  He is refusing to go back to his country and says I need to get him an apartment.  He was also looking up "is VAWA for men too?". What rights do I have ?

Hello friends! I just wanted to share the news that my fiancee had her interview yesterday and passed! I have been a usual lurker ever since we applied in July of 2021 here, but I finally want to post here to say thanks for everyone for keeping me sane during this long journey. I hope the best for everyone here and your approvals are not far away!

WAC2190106802 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 06/30/21
WAC2190106864 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/01/21
WAC2190106981 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/01/21
WAC2190107146 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/02/21
WAC2190107148 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/02/21
WAC2190107173 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/01/21
WAC2190107175 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/01/21
WAC2190107181 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/01/21
WAC2190107232 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/01/21
WAC2190107284 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/02/21
WAC2190107310 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/02/21
WAC2190107516 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/06/21
WAC2190107599 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/02/21
WAC2190108017 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/06/21
WAC2190108631 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/06/21
WAC2190108745 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/06/21
WAC2190108810 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/06/21
WAC2190108919 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/06/21
WAC2190109751 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/08/21
WAC2190109962 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/09/21
WAC2190110179 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/09/21
WAC2190110659 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/12/21
WAC2190111067 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/12/21
WAC2190111321 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/13/21
WAC2190111641 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/13/21
WAC2190112264 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/15/21
WAC2190112480 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/15/21
WAC2190112659 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/15/21
WAC2190112735 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/16/21
WAC2190112806 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/16/21
WAC2190112883 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/16/21
WAC2190112885 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/16/21
WAC2190112886 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/16/21
WAC2190112913 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/16/21
WAC2190112918 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/16/21
WAC2190113071 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/16/21
WAC2190113080 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/16/21
WAC2190113083 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/16/21
WAC2190113094 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/16/21
WAC2190113096 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/16/21
WAC2190113111 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/16/21
WAC2190113122 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/16/21
WAC2190113123 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/16/21
WAC2190113719 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/19/21
WAC2190113887 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/19/21
WAC2190114290 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/20/21
WAC2190114304 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/20/21
WAC2190115044 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/21/21
WAC2190115202 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/22/21
WAC2190115314 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/22/21
WAC2190116039 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/26/21
WAC2190116116 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/26/21
WAC2190116138 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/26/21
WAC2190116250 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/26/21
WAC2190116374 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/26/21
WAC2190116389 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/26/21
WAC2190116396 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/26/21
WAC2190116411 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/26/21
WAC2190116523 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/26/21
WAC2190116618 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/27/21
WAC2190116683 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/26/21
WAC2190116684 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/26/21 
WAC2190116687 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/26/21
WAC2190116704 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/26/21
WAC2190116708 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/27/21
WAC2190116715 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/27/21
WAC2190116724 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/27/21
WAC2190117039 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/27/21
WAC2190117041 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/27/21
WAC2190117047 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/27/21
WAC2190117055 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/27/21   
WAC2190117056 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/27/21
WAC2190117341 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/28/21
WAC2190117523 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/28/21
WAC2190118151 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/29/21
WAC2190118152 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/29/21
WAC2190118155 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/29/21
WAC2190118719 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/30/21
WAC2190118720 | I-129F | Case Was Received | 07/30/21
Total 79 cases 
 
It's actually worse than that, because the following 14 cases, have had either a name updated, birthday updated, or an expedite request denied, are all essentially untouched cases as well:
 
WAC2190106847 | I-129F | Expedite Request Denied | 08/10/21
WAC2190116018 | I-129F | Date of Birth Was Updated | 07/30/21
WAC2190117537 | I-129F | Date of Birth Was Updated | 08/20/21
WAC2190116098 | I-129F | Name Was Updated | 10/14/22
WAC2190117737 | I-129F | Date of Birth Was Updated | 09/13/22
WAC2190118114 | I-129F | Expedite Request Approved | 08/18/21
WAC2190117052 | I-129F | Name Was Updated | 08/17/21
WAC2190116718 | I-129F | Name Was Updated | 09/27/21
WAC2190115176 | I-129F | Expedite Request Denied | 03/15/22
WAC2190115729 | I-129F | Expedite Request Denied | 12/13/21
WAC2190114325 | I-129F | Expedite Request Denied | 12/15/21
WAC2190114645 | I-129F | Name Was Updated | 07/28/21
WAC2190113866 | I-129F | Expedite Request Denied | 01/18/22
WAC2190113434 | I-129F | Expedite Request Denied | 08/31/21

It's actually pretty heartbreaking. Each one of those lines above represent a couple that has been desperately waiting for about a year and a half, with absolutely no news. Their futures held in limbo by pure red-tape.

Sorry for the late response. I emailed the US embassy multiple times. They finally replied that they will email the instructions to register to my fiancé. They emailed her later that day with the instructions. We scheduled our interview and finally got our visa. Keep contacting the US embassy until they send you the instructions. One thing we learned in this journey is that instead of waiting like they are telling you, you should keep contacting them (USCIS, NVC, US Embassy, etc.) until they do their jobs.

I called my attorney and they said I actually have to schedule my interview so I am confused because medical there refusing is as we need some letter while attorney said no u schedule and the letter they need is appointment confirmation. I have a feeling that country is doing this purposely because they like getting money under the table. That’s all it makes me think because they always seem to find why they should not schedule first it was Covid the. It’s something else. Very corrupted country 

Correct, for Morocco they will email a welcome letter and interview date within 1-3 months. 

Just sharing that I just got an email that we are finally "In Transit" to the Casablanca embassy. 🙌🤞

We were In Transit yesterday and now Ready today 🥳

Just wanted to provide another update we got out NVC welcome yesterday after about two weeks after NAO2 electronic notification 

We got our "In Transit" today as well. NOA2 was Sept 6th. Way too darn long, but I'm told our embassy is really really slow.  

Hey guys, I got this e-mail from NVCsearch. But i don’t have a case number yet. What should i supposed to do? 

My noa2 was on september 2. Thank u!

The thread is usually created by user @JojoandTomas. I created the topic. Link is below. 
 
 

You'll need to look for the thread that says DECEMBER 2022 K1 NOA2 to NVC to EMBASSY because you are a December NOA2 (sorry I wasn't able to find one, otherwise I'd post the link), this thread is for September NOA2.  At the beginning of each thread, there is helpful information on next steps as well. 

Just got Noa2 yesterday, please advise what is the next steps !! appreciate your help

So I finally did it we are married. It was not easy make sure you read everything on how to marry  in this country. There is a lot of steeps and it will take you about 10 days to complete them all. if there is any questions please ask me it was one tough ride of stamps and you need alot of them.

You biggest red flag/hurdle to overcome is the fact that your husband is the third person that you're sponsoring. They are interested in your previous marriages because you sponsored both and they are curious why you are sponsoring a third man. Not sure how you come up with more evidence as you've provided a lot.

Didn't add my wife to the deed.  Just couldn't see any strong reason to go through that.

Form i 129f question
 
Im not legally disabled but i do have 2 issues with chrons disease/ibs they cant diagnose it right as im constantly in bathroom. And i have chronic lower back pain preventing me from standing or sitting for more then 30 min at a time without pain.  Im not a great candidate for any job but an at home one, but with these issues, even then, im on the toliet for hours at a time. Maybe 1 4th the day sometimes, so even at home it is difficult and with back pain im basically walking or laying down as i work with my pain, its so uncomfortable. 
 
I met my spouse here in philippines, and she is pregnant now 5 months.
 
I been getting paid by my mom for 1k  a month with some investments i made. We formed a business and she uses the profit from it to pay me 1k.she is also sponsoring me for the income requirment, and so i have some sort of tax forms showing i make some amount of cash. Im paying taxes basically on a madeup business of me managing my own money to show i have an income essentially. I cant get a job and the pain is bad. Im am blessed i was able to invest in good markets but now im having an issue.
 
My mom is having health issues and needs someone to assist her. She has insurance, so if needed im sure she can get someone to help.  shes having issues walking and has had major back surgery, her mobilty is really bad (Forgot to mention i own a house all paid for and i pay my bills on it water/electricity/internet in the states while im living here in the phillipines. My bills at home not even being there are higher then my bills living here in ph. Crazy i tell u. Its 400 after homeowners elec water internet while in ph im at 40 for all that while im using it.) Back to my mom she cant afford to help me and my funds are drying up. Also if i was home i would be assisting her.
 
My wife to be cant work, complications with baby and lots of bleeding and bed rest. (I know for expedite its what ever) so i dont want to leave her and even if i do my money almost gone and i can't get work.  Disability takes a while to file and the timing for when this back pain and craps happened a few months before i left to be with my fiance. I been to doctors all over and its conditions that i just have to live with. Very uncomfortible and no cure. I had medical marijuana at home, helped me a bit but here in ph thats life in jail so im smashing pain pills that i dislike to take;when its unbearable.   Now i can get documentation for any of my health issues not a problem here.
 
So i got my mom issue who needs me at home. I got my wife who needs me. Im a mess. Money is the killer here and my lack of it. I filed with an agency helping me with the i 129f in june.   Looks like mid 2024 till she can be in usa due to this 15 month wait plus the. Yadda yadda other stuff.    Other then selling my house and letting usa go, what can i do, im basically done for phyiscally, the pain is unreal  do i have a case to expedite? I was hoping to get home and sell house to a smaller place once im with her. Well not smaller but a cheaper bigger home just rural. My house since i owned it in 2008 has tripled in value in a now high value area. Can get a home twice the size for a third less if I wasn't picky, but i dont wanna sell it as i need that for declaration of assets.  I cant have cash in bank for other reasons, crazy ex wife. Also my mom forcing me to keep the place and i trying not to piss her off as i beed her for sponsor. Part of me wants to say f the house. My new home phillipines, but i dont want to leave family and i will need surgery for my back and meds for my stomach/back.   My situation sucks, back pain is the worst and im basically unworkable.    The fact im blowing money to pay taxes for a tax record just to get my girly home is crazy but im doing it. Now i hope i didnt just waste cash for nothing. In a way the business is legit cause im managing a stock market account but reality is its my money to begin with and a little bit my moms.  And occasionally i fix computers on the side but thats not a guarantee income, though it falls under the business however cant do that as im here in ph.  I read its my choice to be overseas i could go back home but again being home is not helping my finacial situation either. Some days i can't get around and my finace takes care of me. Many times ill be walking and a pinched nerve kicks me so hard i lose feeling in my legs and fall. Happens quite often and scares me that ill be paralyzed...   anything anyone. Please.

My case just got in transit to the embassy today! 
 
NOA2: 09/09/22
NVC Case creation/case number: 11/29/22

Just got the email that our case is being sent 🙌🏼 

Hi my fellow K1 Visa soldiers. We received our case number today after using the online inquiry form. I'm not even sure when NVC Received our case , or even when we were assigned a case number, so not sure how to update our timeline. Status is "AT NVC". 

I'm so upset  I just want to sit in a corner and cry. Sorry, this is going to be a long post. I just need to vent and cry to people who understand how unbelievably frustrating this all is.
We finally got our interview in Armenia on Nov 7th.  I flew into the Republic of Georgia where I have an apartment with my fiancé. (He's Iranian, been living in Georgia since January) We finally got a chance to do some sightseeing, visited friends, and got the apartment cleaned up and secured since we'll be gone for at least a few months.
--For those that might not have seen my previous posts, my fiancé left Iran in Nov 2021. We traveled together through Turkiye and Georgia, eventually buying an apartment in Georgia for him to live in while we waited for our appointment. Iranians can only stay in Georgia for 45 days. So we got a lawyer and have been able to get his visa extended to work on the apartment. Since the apartment was unfinished we were able to get multiple extensions. The apartment was supposed to be finished by mid-June. When I flew back at the end of June, I spent the entire time there working on the apartment. This led to a few fights since he was supposed to have the apartment ready before I got there as I'd never been able to really see any of the country, visit the historic sights and whatnot. --
 
Now I had wanted to change the interview to Georgia since we have a place there and Armenia is expensive, but he was adamant that we stick with Armenia because any change might cause a delay in our case. He also said that the embassy in Georgia doesn't do K1 interviews for Iranians.  ( I had wanted to send in the change of venue well before we got our NVC2, so I doubt it really would have been an issue) So we did our tourist thing, then packed up and headed to Armenia on 10/31. At the border there's an issue because his current visa extension was not approved, meaning that he's in the country illegally. He did not tell me that his visa had expired. So, of course, I am upset. He said it's being worked on by the lawyer and not to worry about it. Of course I'm worried, this could cause major problems! I'm also upset because he hid this from me. I already have major trust issues, so I'm not happy at this point.
 
I hadn't been feeling well for a few days, and I ended up coming down with either an extremely nasty cold, or RSV. It was not covid, but it was pretty awful. I spent most of my time in Armenia in the hotel room bed. We went through his paperwork and checklist as soon as we got to the hotel. I read through the checklist and double checked that he had everything listed. I noticed that while he had a police report from Iran, he did not have one from Georgia. I asked him about it, and he said that he's asked but was told that without a Georgian ID card, they didn't issue them. I thought that was strange and that he needed to go to the Georgian embassy in Armenia to see if they could give him one. He also said he was going to go by the Iranian embassy to see if he could get an updated one as his was now a year old. 
So off he goes to his medical appointment on Thursday. He gets back and tells me that his medical paperwork will be ready on Friday afternoon and that the Iranian embassy said it would take a week for a new police report. Since our appointment is on Monday, that's not going to work.  I ask about Georgia and he just brushes is off- they don't need it, it's only for people with ID cards, it's not important. Now I don't know where he's getting this information, but again, I'm extremely sick and not really super aware of anything. I'm just trying to breath and sleep. The next day he goes to get his medical report, and I ask him to at least call the Georgian embassy to double check that they don't do police reports. When he  gets back from the doctor's office I ask him how everything went, and he says everything is good. Monday morning rolls around and we head off to the interview. I waited while he went from window to window. Fingerprints, checking paperwork, etc. I did hear one lady ask about the Georgian police report. He tells them that Georgia doesn't give police reports to people who aren't residents with Georgian ID numbers. They write a few things down and tell him to wait to be called up for his interview. 
He goes to the last window, is there for maybe 15 minutes. I can hear a tiny bit of what is being said. Things about how we met, where we've traveled, etc. Finally he comes back and says the interviewer would like to speak to me. I go up to the window and the man was very nice. He said I'm telling you what I told him. "He needs the Georgian police report before we can issue him a visa". So basically he's denied until we get that report. I tell the gentleman that we've been having problems with getting the report because he doesn't have a Georgian ID card. He smiles and says "just go to the Georgian embassy and they'll give you one".  So now I'm extremely angry with my fiancé. Like why didn't you get this done? Did you actually call the embassy? Did you really try to get the report, or are you listening to other people and taking their stupid advice as facts? (This has been an issue before)
He promises to go to the Georgian embassy after dropping me off at the hotel (still super sick, being out of bed and moving for so long has just worn me out) On the way to the hotel he's on the phone speaking Farsi. We get to the hotel and he tells me he's talked to our lawyer in Georgia and she's going to get the police report. I'm still upset. I ask him why he didn't do this while we were in Georgia. He has loads of excuses. "The report is only valid for a month, it would have been expired before we got to the interview" I wanted to go to the main government building in Tbilisi, but you were ready to go home to Batumi" "I wanted to make sure you got a chance to see all the waterfalls and caves this trip, I didn't have time to get the police report and go see these places"
I went off on him. How dare he try to pin this on me. He had ample time before I got to Georgia to get this document. We also had plenty of time to go get it while I was there. I didn't know that he needed this paperwork, or I would have gotten it done first thing! Had I not been sick in Armenia, I would have gone to the embassy and asked. I could not believe he was using me as an excuse to not get this document.
I had to fly home on the 9th to get back to work. I fly home, he gets the pdf of the police report the next morning. He goes to the embassy and, of course, they need the original. I had told him they would need an original, but he keeps saying, "no, a printout is ok."
Have I mentioned Armenia is expensive? There aren't a lot of hotels and hostels with vacancies right now. So he stays an additional night in the $80 a nice hotel before finding  a hostel for $30 a night. I've left him with all the cash I could as well as a visa card from my Georgian bank account for emergencies. It takes 3 days for the original police report to be mailed to him in Armenia. He goes back to the US embassy on Monday and turns it in. I'm looking at flights and after this Wednesday 11/16, the prices start to shoot up for the holidays. On 11/16  I can get a one way to the US for $700. By Thursday they're $900 and each day after that they go up and up an up...
We get an email today that the Police report is from the wrong agency. He needs another one... I give up...
There's no way he'll be here for Thanksgiving.. probably won't be here for Christmas. I don't know if he can get back into Georgia because of the overstaying his visa thing.. I just can't. 
I'm ready to tell him he's on his own now. Go back to Iran or find a way to support yourself. I just can't keep doing this. I don't know if he truly believed he didn't need this document even though it clearly states on the paperwork that it's needed. I don't know if he wants to just stay living overseas on my dime? I've been killing myself pulling as much overtime as I can, sleeping in my truck to save on expenses when I travel for work, just doing anything to save for this trip over there. I don't know if he just doesn't understand how much this is costing me. Does he just not care? I just don't know anymore. I have an empty apartment in Georgia and I'm paying for hotels in Armenia for an indefinite period of time. I just give up. Over 18 months of waiting and it's over because he didn't tell me he didn't have that damn police report. Maybe I could have done something while I was there if I'd known earlier. This was the only thing he had to do and he completely dropped the ball.  I just quit. Clearly the universe doesn't want this to happen. I'm having a very difficult time respecting him and trusting him when he just blew this whole thing off like it wasn't an important thing to get.. I just don't understand.. 
Anyway, thanks for letting me vent. I'm going to be really upset for the next few days. 

Hi my fellow K1 Visa soldiers. We received our case number today after using the online inquiry form. I'm not even sure when NVC Received our case , or even when we were assigned a case number, so not sure how to update our timeline. Status is "AT NVC".