alexandaaron

Hello everybody I am Taha. I am her husband from Iran. Since she trust more to other peoples opinion, so I'm  answering her here. Every story have two side! Now here my side. Most of the thing she said is true but the problem is she didn't mention some part of the story, so she can win this argument with me, however I belive there is no wining when couples fight. Both side will lose. Anyway, that day I came back home from Dubai fountain. That day I was angry, upset, and tired. Upset cause everybody had somebody to walk with but I was alone! I missed her more, I was angry because of two thing. First i bought a sim card few days ago, wich i didnt have signal most of the time.  But i paid for the sim 50 box!! Then after i saw the beatiful fountain i got angry because of my poor peope my compatriots that why they have to live under this regime cause iran could be instead of emirates! I refer all of you to check Iran 40 years ago and also emirate 40 years ago, youll get my point. 
Anyway after i got home i send all the pictures to my wife, i dont like typing, but also i couldnt talk because skype and whatsapp is blocked. But i send the pictures for my wife. She always say thanks or good pic or you look good but instead she start to questing me! I answered calmly but i got angry at one point that she was keep questionsing me! I told her make a life for yourself. She is sitting whole day in home! Plus she don't have any desire for anything! I said when you do nothing you start to became paranoia and you attack  me and you acuse me for everything! She just work 1 or 2 day per week and she dont do anything at all at home! 
Now about the german girl. I told to my wife about her!!! I was just trying to be honest to my wife! I told my wife that she is bag packer. And she stay in hostel for few days. And then i talked to her. Of course not just her. I became friends with almot all the people there. The first thing I told to german girl that I'm married and I'm here just for interview. She said ok. Then i showed her my wifes pic. These whole three days I talked to her two time. Also i become friend on Facebook with her. Then she said i want to go abu dabi on Wednesday and then i said if you want we can go together so we are not alone. She said ok. I told all of this to my wife! Yes all of this! If i had something to hide. I could never told her about German girl. I told her all of this but sound she hear nothing! She is keep repating all of this the wole day! Plus even thou I think I didn't do anthing wrong but today more for time I said sorry, forgive me cause I love her, but she was keep attacking me whole day. I got very angry. I said mean thing but she did the same also!! So we were even but yet I said sorry...yet know she still wants to attack me! My whole family and friends know about her, in Iran when you get marry you should stay marry, this is the culture here, whenever somebody marry in Iran. They stay marry forever! She knows about all of this

I'm sorry to hear your marriage isn't going that well
 
No one in here can tell you if it's okay or not. Every couple have different things they are okay with and some not.
 
You will find people who would not be comfortable with their partner doing that and others who is fine with it.
 
The most important question is how do YOU feel? Are you okay with it? Do you want to be with your husband? Do you trust your husband?
 
Not questions you should answer here but ask yourself and figure out what to do. 

update: all charges were dismissed! Now I have to talk to an attorney about getting this divorce and going to my second interview by myself.

he talks to her everyday, we live  with her in her home until we move. she always just says nothing. I think also reality is kicking in that we are actually leaving

ditto
 
reality set in, she's probably missing him already. he should talk to her
 
 

Maybe she's just upset that her child will be leaving. It happens. Maybe your spouse should try and talk to her?
 
When it comes to in-laws, sometimes it's better to just step aside and let the immediate family figure things out.

The "right" time to file for divorce is when the marriage is well and truly over with no hope of reconciliation, and your immigration status should have no bearing on that. Divorce should not be entered into frivolously. And neither should marriage. If you are only in the AOS process I'm guessing you haven't been married very long. Have you tried to resolve matters? 
 
Im not sure what you mean by "kind of like domestic violence". Domestic violence is a very serious issue and either you are in an abusive relationship or you aren't. If the relationship is abusive then now would be the right time to divorce for your own safety - that should be your first concern before your immigration status. But it's not a claim to be made lightly. Have you called the police? 

You dont need a lawyer so  you dont need to spend $4,000 also even though he over stayed on his visa he still entered legally so she is just making noise dont let people get you frazzled let her know you will send what you can. If she does send a notice again its not gonna be a SWAT team take down overweight hey have real issues then a bitter baby momma because they also know people do spiteful acts.  You all however need to get married at the court house and get the ball rolling and in the long run it will help financially because he will have his documents to work etc. You will need to file the Adjustment of status and the i-130 so about $2,000 

Seems a civil issue.

All you guys need to worry about is the application fee to adjust his status, and the small fee for marriage license. You do not need a lawyer, so save your $4000. Follow the tips in this forum and you will be fine.

He is certainly deportable if you do not do something and it sounds like you need him working asap.

If she contact immigration about him they will not drop everything they are doing and go after him right away, but they might take the tip and work on it at some point, especially in these days. If you are living paycheck to paycheck then you don't need to do the ceremony. First things first, get married and file the I-130 for your husband. You don't need $4000 for lawyer, here on Visajourney you will get the help you need to do it yourself. Lot of people file without lawyers. Good luck.
 

Are you an U.S. citizen?
 
If you are a U.S. citizen, you can marry and he can AOS. He gets a green card. The fact that he stayed illegal is forgiven as long as you AOS in the U.S. and you are a U.S. citizen. In this case, you can follow the guides and advice on this forum, you don't need a lawyer. You have to apply for an EAD that allows him to work in 3-4 months after you apply for AOS. That should help with the child support. Hopefully he hasn't been working illegally! 
 
Marriage license is pretty cheap. You don't need to have a ceremony if you don't have money! You would need close to 1600 for the AOS (UCSIS fee) and you can fill in all the paperwork yourselves following the VJ guides.
 
If you are not a U.S. citizen, that is another matter. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

If you are eligible, I suggest you do sign up for it.  If you have no need for some of their resources, but not other, then use only what is helpful for the child to come and your family.  My husband and myself will never have children, but we are glad that our taxes can help the families who need it.  Best of luck with the pregnancy to you both!

"To be eligible on the basis of income, applicants' gross income (i.e. before taxes are withheld) must fall at or below 185 percent of the U.S. Poverty Income Guidelines." The 864 is 125% of poverty guidelines. So you can meet the income requirements for the 864 and also meet the guidelines for WIC. 

WIC provides supplemental foods, healthcare referrals, nutrition education, and breastfeeding promotion and support to low-income pregnant, breastfeeding, and postpartum women, and to infants and children up to age five who are found to be at nutritional risk.

 
WIC prescreening tool:
https://wic.fns.usda.gov/wps/pages/start.jsf

For I-9 purposes you cannot be compelled to show specific documents, though likely all of them will contain your DOB, so it's something of a moot point there.

I was going to suggest asking for a waiver. Best of luck. People kill me when they ask others why they desperately want to be USC? Are you guys watching the news lately? Best of luck to your mom.

English Language Exemptions
You Are Exempt From The English Language Requirement, But Are Still Required To Take The Civics Test If You Are:
Age 50 or older at the time of filing for naturalization and have lived as a permanent resident (green card holder) in the United States for 20 years   (commonly referred to as the “50/20” exception).
OR Age 55 or older at the time of filing for naturalization and have lived as a permanent resident in the United States for 15 years (commonly referred to as the “55/15” exception). Medical Disability Exceptions to English and Civics
You may be eligible for an exception to the English and civics naturalization requirements if you are unable to comply with these requirements because of a physical or developmental disability or a mental impairment.
To request this exception, submit Form N-648, Medical Certification for Disability Exceptions. This form must be completed by a licensed medical or osteopathic doctor, or licensed clinical psychologist.
For more information, see the USCIS Policy Manual Citizenship and Naturalization Guidance.

How long has she been an LPR? If more than 10 years (or over 40 qualifying quarters), I don't see why she can't have government assistance without you or her sponsor being in the hole for it.
 
Insurance isn't dependent on citizenship status. Anyone can purchase insurance. She can get insurance with her LPR status.

what insurance are you referring to?  You can purchase insurance regardless of your immigration status. 

I feel for the guy just like I feel for any person here who is subject to possible deportation. But he is here Illegally and he has broken the law not once but twice. So he came up on their radar and he more than likely will get deported. 
 
There is a case in my hometown in NC where a woman who came here Illegally over 28 years ago and brought her two daughters is being subject to deportation, she is hiding in a church now trying to fight it. The main newspaper in the state tried to give some half ### sob story about how she has four kids here and a USC husband, while speaking through a interpreter. I went online and called the newspaper out and asked several important questions that were not in the article just as: Why was she on ICE's radar to begin with, why couldn't her husband petition her since he's a USC, and how is she working with a deportation order out for her since 2001? So then literally a week later another newspaper did a article about her actually answered the unanswered question I had from the other news story. So went back to Guatemala and tried to come back on a fraudulent visa. 
 
First Article:
http://www.newsobserver.com/opinion/op-ed/article155295109.html
 
Second Article: 
http://www.greensboro.com/news/local_news/living-in-sanctuary-separated-from-family-video/article_1ad34c41-b89d-5fb0-93e9-bb561cd7f491.html

It's his own fault and deserves no sympathy. When so many are caught up in long waiting list what gives him the right to jump ahead? 
 
He went on an Irish tv documentary about undocumented Irish immigrants that was aired a few weeks ago and talked about his fears of being picked up and deported, so he knew he was wrong.  Surely along with other participants of the documentary he had to know that the US authorities would be watching. He can't flaunt his illegal status on tv and expect to get away with it, one word gobsh**e
 
Also there was a warrant out for his arrest for larceny.
 
http://www.independent.ie/irish-news/news/irish-man-detained-for-deportation-from-us-wanted-over-1300-cheque-theft-35849092.html

This thread has been running for several hours now. So I assume the police have now been called and she is in a shelter or safe house of some sorts. 
 
She need not not be afraid of the police. They take such claims of abuse very seriously in this country and will not hesitate to arrest someone they believe has harmed this woman either physically or emotionally. Is she being fed? Is she able to leave the property? If she's using an iPhone then track it through an apple device or on the apple website. 
 
I understand she wanted to hear the comforting voice and loving words of her husband but they will not save her life if this man does start to physically harm her. The police and emergency responders will. If she's too scared to call the police, Google the number for a local domestic violence hotline for her to call. 
 
Many years ago in Europe I called the police when I heard my neighbor beating his wife. They were there in minutes and she was in a shelter before the next hour was up. He was acting all tough with her but when 4 police officers showed up he suddenly became a sobbing wreck and was begging for forgiveness. He was very easy to arrest in that state. This man that your wife is with is probably all talk with her but no action. But it's not a risk she wants to take. 

Are u two the same religion? Muslims are very controlling with their female sister and/or daughters when it comes to falling in love with a man outside their religion or even the difference between Shia and Sunni are a problem in Muslim religion.  If she is also Muslim there will be a problem if the brother is against(also anyone in family). The police can go to the house and make sure she is ok but In this kind of family (if Muslim Sunni belief) it will only escalate the situation.  Also, if she is from a family that is old school in the Muslim faith way..they are the ones to find a husband for her.  No police or anyother high power authority will help this matter.  U must continue to have communication with her until she gets to her friends house safely.  Unfortunately,  these kind of beliefs(arranged marriages and feeling of ownership of the girl) can be very scary and end very badly. Please do the best u can to find out her friends information to have her get there without the family knowing. It is going to be very hard. Her claiming that the brother said he will kill her and the mother probably is showing the mother might be trying to protect her (that is very bad in the Muslim faith when it's a daughter being with a man not picked for her). I hope everything will be ok..InshAllah

Please let us know how things pan out.