Illiria

I would agree with Jeanne's advice not to feel guilty.  They have made an adult decision to marry, hence they are responsible for making sure they do all the adulting things necessary to fulfill that adult decision.  If that means another job or another sponsor, then that's what they have to do.

I am sorry that they are sick - it’s terrifying when your child needs medical care - and I applaud you for adopting as I truly believe it takes very special people to give the gift of adoption. 
 
As others have said US immigration law is very specific and you need legal advice from a US immigration adoption specialist - they will have special experience of the US requirements and precedents. Also adding the medical humanitarian aspect they might suggest ways to at least have them allowed here to have the operation - assuming it’s the kind that cannot be provided in their home country. 
 
We would hate for you to apply for a visa and get a year into the process to be told you don’t qualify (especially if you decided to delay treatment in the mean time). We want you to have the best possible plan within the bounds of what’s possible going forward from the beginning. 
 
Wishing you all the best and hoping for a healthy outcome for your child. 

I am sorry that they are sick - it’s terrifying when your child needs medical care - and I applaud you for adopting as I truly believe it takes very special people to give the gift of adoption. 
 
As others have said US immigration law is very specific and you need legal advice from a US immigration adoption specialist - they will have special experience of the US requirements and precedents. Also adding the medical humanitarian aspect they might suggest ways to at least have them allowed here to have the operation - assuming it’s the kind that cannot be provided in their home country. 
 
We would hate for you to apply for a visa and get a year into the process to be told you don’t qualify (especially if you decided to delay treatment in the mean time). We want you to have the best possible plan within the bounds of what’s possible going forward from the beginning. 
 
Wishing you all the best and hoping for a healthy outcome for your child. 

Sadly we have seen some leave as young as 5 week olds in order to come.
 
Once you see several mention leaving very young kids with extended family it tends to colour your view of children left behind as being a solid tie. 
 
We have seen people who don’t have a job but look after family be asked ‘so how can you leave them for an extended amount of time’. ‘so if they can do this for that long why not continue once you have a job in the states’ 
 
Which is why we try and prepare you for the officers questions which can sometimes be meaner than anything that has been said in this thread. She needs to know that they may be harsh in their questions and to not take it personally or get upset by it.
 
Wishing her the best in getting to visit - sounds like she has taken a lot of responsibility for your family and this trip would be a nice thing to give her. 

Sadly we have seen some leave as young as 5 week olds in order to come.
 
Once you see several mention leaving very young kids with extended family it tends to colour your view of children left behind as being a solid tie. 
 
We have seen people who don’t have a job but look after family be asked ‘so how can you leave them for an extended amount of time’. ‘so if they can do this for that long why not continue once you have a job in the states’ 
 
Which is why we try and prepare you for the officers questions which can sometimes be meaner than anything that has been said in this thread. She needs to know that they may be harsh in their questions and to not take it personally or get upset by it.
 
Wishing her the best in getting to visit - sounds like she has taken a lot of responsibility for your family and this trip would be a nice thing to give her. 

Sadly we have seen some leave as young as 5 week olds in order to come.
 
Once you see several mention leaving very young kids with extended family it tends to colour your view of children left behind as being a solid tie. 
 
We have seen people who don’t have a job but look after family be asked ‘so how can you leave them for an extended amount of time’. ‘so if they can do this for that long why not continue once you have a job in the states’ 
 
Which is why we try and prepare you for the officers questions which can sometimes be meaner than anything that has been said in this thread. She needs to know that they may be harsh in their questions and to not take it personally or get upset by it.
 
Wishing her the best in getting to visit - sounds like she has taken a lot of responsibility for your family and this trip would be a nice thing to give her. 

Consulting a Filipino attorney about US immigration law is useless.  You need to contact an EXPERIENCED US immigration attorney who deals with adoption on US immigration. 
 
It is extremely difficult to get an immigrant visa for an adopted child that is a relative who have two living biological parents.  This is a matter of US law, not Filipino law.  You need a US immigration attorney.  

This situation sounds desperately sad, and kudos to you and your spouse for taking care of the child. However, that said, the adoption may not meet the requirements for immigration to the US. I’d suggest you talk to an immigration lawyer who specializes in adoptions to understand the issues and options, I think this is beyond a DIY case. Good luck.

You don’t need a famous attorney among Filipinos. You need a US immigration attorney that is an expert in international adoption. As for being “satisfied” with the answer - not sure what that means - you may not like what you get told but that doesn’t mean it is wrong.
 
 
 
 

@Illiria  @aaron2020 The biological parents are still alive.  The adoption was already approved with finality from the court and it took almost 3 years and I attended about 5 court hearing. The court ordered a report from the social worker and also from a psychologist to find out if we are capable of the adoption and also a report was made from the biological parents it also includes investigation from police, community official, etc. . It's not an easy way to adopt a child.

You're going to have problems.  

Adopting a relative where both parents are alive and seeking to immigrate that child is going to be problematic . . . especially when you and your spouse are not living with the child.
 
Where are the biological parents?  Is one of them living with the grandparents and child?

Thanks for answering - hmm this was my only thought when  saw that you knew your second husband as children.
 
Hopefully the notice of intent to deny will shed light and you can refute each point with evidence - though as has been pointed out it may just result in a decision of ‘you may reapply’ but at least you can then tailor your new application to address these points early on.
 
Wishing you the best in your immigration journey. 

Did your previous husband apply for immigration for you?
 
If the first husband sponsor you for immigration - when did you marry, immigrate, and divorce?
 
How soon after divorce did you marry second husband?
 
For those who marry to immigrate, divorce, then marry someone else from home they can be suspicious that you used first husband to get here when really were planning on bringing second husband the whole time. 
 
As @jorgedig says you could go live with your husband - maybe not the first choice but at least you would be together

You will need to spend more time together in person if he wants an immigrant visa.   Alternatively, you could go live with him.

Yes OP has to be the petitioner for their spouse. They might not be able to relocate to the Philippines especially if the past is a divorce that is not recognised by the Philippines which would make them a bigamist in the Philippines and so they can’t live there.
 
@ziggy406 if you want the most accurate help - being able to tell you if your past will be a problem or not - then please include why you think you would have problems petitioning your wife. Wishing you the best on your visa journey. 

Yes OP has to be the petitioner for their spouse. They might not be able to relocate to the Philippines especially if the past is a divorce that is not recognised by the Philippines which would make them a bigamist in the Philippines and so they can’t live there.
 
@ziggy406 if you want the most accurate help - being able to tell you if your past will be a problem or not - then please include why you think you would have problems petitioning your wife. Wishing you the best on your visa journey. 

Yes OP has to be the petitioner for their spouse. They might not be able to relocate to the Philippines especially if the past is a divorce that is not recognised by the Philippines which would make them a bigamist in the Philippines and so they can’t live there.
 
@ziggy406 if you want the most accurate help - being able to tell you if your past will be a problem or not - then please include why you think you would have problems petitioning your wife. Wishing you the best on your visa journey. 

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So why did you post asking for advice? 🧐

You do realize that telling someone not to post is against Visajourney‘s TOS?
Plus, you did say earlier that you needed advice. We’re just trying to prepare you. You can ask the mods to lock the post if you’re done. Good luck!

Please stop arguing on my post i Don't need anyone's advice...

It is your “right” to marry anyone.   It is not your “right” to have an immigrant visa to the US.   This sounds like a green card marriage, and my guess is that the consulate will see it that way.   Good luck.
 
But, if as you say the love is genuine and the marriage is real, you’ll be just as happy when she moves to Pakistan, I’m sure.

So you don’t want children of your own?   The CO will want to know this….

This didn’t answer the question of marrying someone who is 55 from your country? would you marry someone your parents age if they didn’t have an American passport? 

How does your mother feel
about you not giving her grandchildren - yes this is a question they can ask you at the interview. 
 
Dating online does not count for physically together. 
 
How many days for each trip were you physically in your wife’s  presence? 
 
Has she met your family?
Do they approve? 
How did they feel about you marrying in another country? 
Are you both the same religion? 

On the plus side she could move to you.