LORIEandPHIL

I guess this could apply in many situations, say your Representative was Muslim and you were Jewish, Black and White, Male and Female, the list goes on. And on.

I started readin the comments and SERIOUSLY disagree with a LOT of them so I stopped.
I wish I had VJ BEFORE my fiance left the country.
We found out we were expecting just before he left and i thought Fiance Visa was our only option.
DON'T DO IT!!!

I have spent the last 4 months pregnan, alone and eagerly anticipating him to come home. (It's been rough, to say the least)

If I had know, we would have married and filed for AOS. Once you file for AOS overstaying is NOT an issue., unless your AOS is denied but that's a whole new ball game.
But seriously though... just get married.
Don't make the mistake we did.

You said it yourself, it is not illegal.
It is not trying to circumvent anything, it is allowed so it is ok to do. The fact she is pregant has nothing to do with it. If they get married they are legally allowed to apply for AOS. just because you and I followed the K1 route does not make it wrong that others don't.

Get married now, adjust status, and add her to your insurance. Do not be put off by those that say it is illegal, it is not. As long as you did not plan on her staying when she arrived, you will not be doing anything wrong.

Get married now, adjust status, and add her to your insurance. Do not be put off by those that say it is illegal, it is not. As long as you did not plan on her staying when she arrived, you will not be doing anything wrong.

Get married now, adjust status, and add her to your insurance. Do not be put off by those that say it is illegal, it is not. As long as you did not plan on her staying when she arrived, you will not be doing anything wrong.

This is incorrect.

I assumed the child is not his. Why would it be K2.

IMO, you could:
1. file for USCitizenship and
2. file the I-130 as an LPR
together/simultaneously. Then, once USCitizenship is granted to you, upgrade the petition and/or visa application (depending on where the casefile is, USCIS or NVC or NRC) then you get the advantage of no further waiting for a visa number to be available for a spouse of a LPR.

Your kids miss their dad? You want to be with him? Go back to the Philippines.
Problem solved, you're welcome.

I have watched many types of visa get approved while I have been in my fifteen month wait and still counting... I am married, not waiting to get married, and have been waiting to start a life with my husband.... what I learned is to stop comparing my case to other's. Yes different visa's have different processing times, and some people do get luck of the draw on where their petition is sent. I just think positive towards others and remind myself this could be worse. Not too long ago I seen folks posting on how unfair it is for married people to wait while K1 visa were being processed faster.... we all get our turn and are relieved when we get our approvals... so I know things are so frustrating and it makes you want to pull out your hair, but keep faith and spread good will around to our fellow petitioners. We all need some positive encouragement.

I honestly used to be annoyed by it too. But some time ago, I stopped caring. Now I just ignore the threads & have learned to accept the fact that it is what it is.

While definitely possible, USCIS some people on VJ frown upon doing AOS while on a tourist visa or VWP, they usually consider it fraud.

One post in the thread has been removed for being nonresponsive.
1. Over and over, some new members persist in posting misinformation and partial truths in a dangerously cavalier posting style when they don't know what they don't know. A typically appropriate "defensive response" is to read, study the Guides, read more, and contribute on the basis of actual fact, with care taken so that nothing can be misinterpreted. The experienced members of this forum typically know what they're talking about. It's therefore wise to heed their input and learn from it, before barreling in with unwashed advice. There is very good reason that experienced forum members have been correcting your posts.
2. Importing drama from another thread risks administrative action.
3. You're allowed to state your opinions, and others are allowed to correct serial misinformation perpetuated through many posts in various forums. The need to correct misinformation would be far less if some new members took more time to learn and study from reasoned answers posted by experienced members.

Good grief I disagree completely. His needs are not being met because his wife is stuck in another country and he's tired of waiting so he opens up emotionally to some other woman? I think he's realised there are woman on his doorstep right in front of him that he doesn't have to wait for and he wants out of the relationship so he can go play.
CanGirl you don't want to be married to a man who doesn't think you're the highest, most important priority in his life. Don't let him treat you like this and make you think all this is your fault.

~~general immigration from IR1/CR1 process and procedures as OP isn't sure they want a spousal or K1 visa, and is looking for alternatives to a family visa~~



We married sooner than we would have if immigration (either to Canada or to the USA) wasn't an issue, but I wanted to marry my husband as it was. I knew before he asked me to marry him that he was the one I wanted forever in my life. That's why I said yes. I wanted him to be in my life, however necessary. I would have liked to go the route of living together and then getting married, but I wasn't about to let him get away, and he wasn't about to let me get away either. Being together was more important than either where we lived, how much money we made, or who else felt it was important. My brother stopped talking to me the day we filed for me to move to the USA because he didn't agree with our decision. Other family members have yelled and gotten angry. I've explained where we were coming from and then told them that the decision was ours, no one else's, and we did not need to explain ourselves to anyone. No one needs to know our private conversations on how we reach OUR decisions. As long as other people control your lives, and you let them, there is no future for you as a couple. My husband is my rock and I am his. He is my best friend and I am his. We go through this world together, side by side.
If your girlfriend doesn't want to marry you, then a long distance relationship, or finding a work visa, is the best you're going to get. IMHO, I'd find someone new, knowing someone didn't want to marry me. Especially if it was because their family had decided they didn't like it. My family didn't tell me what to do, this is my life. I wouldn't want a spouse who couldn't stand on their own two feet or stand up for me. But that's me.

Would we have gotten married as quickly as we did? Probably - a health scare is what prompted the conversation, and we're both in medicine, so we knew what needed to happen in order for us to have right of say over each other's health.
Was it really, really hard? Yes. If you guys don't handle stress well and it's already threatened to break you up once, it's not really the answer, especially if she doesn't want to get married. It's a long, drawn out, extremely stressful process, where everything under your life is subject to scrutiny if someone decides so for reasons that are often opaque and never explained.
And frankly, if she's perfectly against it, then it doesn't make sense. The UK is only a short plane ride from the East Coast of America, where it sounds like she lives. Learn to love frequent flier miles until another job happens, she gets back to the UK, or she changes her opinion on marriage. (Or one or both of you get tired of long distance and decide to go your separate ways.)

They might not question your relationship, but maybe you should. He cheated on you. Whty would you want to be with him?

They might not question your relationship, but maybe you should. He cheated on you. Whty would you want to be with him?

I got a car loan from my local credit union without any credit history. It's at 8.5% so not great, but it is a good way to start building credit. I also got a secured credit card from them with no fees attached, (another good way to build credit). I agree with other posters, that credit unions are your best chance of getting a loan.

I got a car loan from my local credit union without any credit history. It's at 8.5% so not great, but it is a good way to start building credit. I also got a secured credit card from them with no fees attached, (another good way to build credit). I agree with other posters, that credit unions are your best chance of getting a loan.

This does not have green card fraud written all over it. People do not move from the UK, to the states for a better life. Maybe if she came from a third world country you could guess at green card fraud, but not from a place that has free healthcare, better employment prospects, and a decent standard of living. It sounds like a simple case of her not being over her ex. My advice would be move on and forget all about her.

This does not have green card fraud written all over it. People do not move from the UK, to the states for a better life. Maybe if she came from a third world country you could guess at green card fraud, but not from a place that has free healthcare, better employment prospects, and a decent standard of living. It sounds like a simple case of her not being over her ex. My advice would be move on and forget all about her.

We wasted a year in AP, we started in 2011 and finally finished in 2014. It was unfair, wrong and so many things but not discrimination. I agree the system needs improvement because it does control and dictate your life during the process. I know how much it cost us during the wait and wouldn't wish that on any one. I also understand the law is created to protect us. As much as I hated it, I understood.
OP - this will also pass, stay strong!

I've been sitting in AP for naturalization for a year. Married, white, catholic girl, no criminal record (last traffic ticket in 2004), educated, employed
Sometimes the reason for AP eludes us. Discrimination? I don't think so.
Good luck