NikLR

What a lot of people don't know is rkk1 has posted MANY times about her husband. The gist of it is this:
- He will NOT help her with household finances once he's here and earning in US currency. He said he will send it all home to care for his family
- At one time, with the tax refund, he demanded she send him a portion seeing it was thanks to him that she got so much of a return (there was a lot more to this, with him constantly changing amounts and trying to use emotional blackmail on her)
- She was pressured to marry him and wasn't ready at the time (from her previous posts) but she's trying to make it work because of family pressure.
There are many previous posts of rkk1 which show severe issues in the relationship. I have no doubt she is being used, that his delay is due to getting the 10 year card so he doesn't need her anymore, or something else nefarious.
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OP - I keep reading your posts for a while and very honestly can't believe you haven't file for divorce long time ago. Sorry - that's how I see it. Find husband that truly cares about you - from your posts I can tell you're truly worth it.

I think that it has alot to do with what the SO also THINKS of the US. I mean, my husband came from a very small village out in the west bank of Luxor Egypt so not only he thought Cairo was a BIG city but he also bellieved in all the fantasys of moving to America. We are talking never even saw a microwave let alone how to use it kind of sense.
After alot of bumps and obstacles along the way, he has grown and learned to not only appreciate but enjoy his life here in the US. It took alot of patience on both sides to get through it, and I agree, you can't throw the baby out with the bath water. Patience Patience Patience~~~ I've learned to slow down my breathing and not jump so quickly when trying to explain something.

The wait was actually really hard for me, I got depressed a lot and I was always very moody and snappy, my husband can note that clearly lol. But I always made sure I explained to him when I could, how I'm feeling the way I am because I was dealing with a lot of stress, and I was away from him and stuck somewhere I really didn't want to be anymore (I just wanted to be with him!). We argued sometimes while talking on Skype/phone over really silly things because we were feeling stressed. It's hard to wait to be with the one you love. What helped me a little in the end, was the fact that I realized that I need to stop taking the time I had left with my family/friends for granted, and make the best of what time I have left! I went out a lot with my close friends, with my mother and younger sister. I tried to spend quality time with everyone so that I wouldn't regret not doing so in the end. It was still hard to deal with waiting, especially when I'd hear his voice or go to bed.
You need to stay strong, and realize that you will eventually be with the one you love, and believe sincerely that it is worth the wait. Once you finally make it home, you will realize how worth it all that time really was. It is an amazing feeling to have accomplished making it home to your loved one. But this doesn't mean that everything after POE will be 100% smooth. We have had a few rough moments, but a lot of it is due to home sickness on my part. Also just getting used to living with each other can be difficult if you haven't really lived together before. Despite this, you need to make sure you always work hard at making things work, don't let breaking up be the first solution to silly arguments. You will have tough times, but you will have good times too. If both of you work hard to make each other happy, it'll get a lot easier.
Sometimes when we argue or when I'm in a bad mood, I just look at him and remember how I felt when we were apart, how all I wanted to do was just feel his arms around me. That thought itself, is enough to snap me back and realize how precious every moment I have with him is..

like the saying if you love the person you'll take that risk NO MATTER what
for me no matter what the outcome good OR bad...atleast i didn't waste my time for not being happy..."LIFE IS TOO SHORT"...being with the man i love this is all that matter..godbless us all!!!

The CO may want to see evidence of a strong relationship to be sure that you will not soon be ex spouse #7 and become a public charge.
Your other post talks about a pre-nup, so don't expect any sort of $$ should a divorce happen. The USC spouse likely has experience protecting assets in family court proceedings. And social services are limited when a green card holder.
Any immigrant moving far far away to live with someone that has been divorced that many times should have a back up plan.
Best of luck.

It seems your husband is a freaking abuser.He had sex with over 200 different women WITHOUT condoms before getting married, it means that he doesn't have any self respect then do not expect he will respect you either...without condoms 200 women? what a jerk... Get tested, and remember you can't travel back in time, but you can make smart choices to protect yourself NOW!. Life is way to short to spend it in poor relationship.

People here have given you good medical advice. Getting tested for HIV and STIs right away should definitely be your first priority. But there's another issue at work that is downright scary, and it's your husband's treatment of you. I couldn't let this go without commenting: He let you see the gynecologist? You have a right to your health, and no one - not even your husband - should stop you from receiving medical care, whether you appear to be in perfect condition or not.
Please do as others have suggested: if you have family or friends in the area, reach out to them for support and protection. If need to see the gynecologist again, you could check into seeing a Planned Parenthood physician, if you have one in your area. They will be able to do confidential exams and testing, so even your husband doesn't need to know, and in many cases they can provide reduced-cost or free services.
You have enough on your plate as it is now, but when you are secure in your health again and things are calm, I urge you to consider you marriage: are you truly equal partners, or has he overstepped his bounds as a husband?

GF this is the root of your problems.
Do you have family or friends here in the U.S? U did great finally getting physical help for your pains but it sounds like u should try to find more help for the other issues u might be quietly enduring. This does not sound right.

Did you send it regular mail or Express. You should be able to track if sent express.

Time for a reality check.
You don't have a job. You want to bring her here. Instead of trying to find a way to support the both of you in the US, you would rather hang in the Philippines. That's not a great plan.
Be a grown up. Endure the separation like many other couples. Go get a job to support yourself and your future wife. Sacrifice a few months together to prepare for a lifetime together.

Hi Sophie!
I'm here in NZ as well, with my husband. Slightly off-topic of the VisaJourney part of your question, but we did something similar (informal wedding in the US with plans to have a "NZ Part 2" later, and we're working on CR1-IR1). The only thing that I've found challenging so far is justifying a "second" "big" wedding when you are already married. Granted, we aren't through NVC yet, but USCIS seemed to have no worries about our "legal" wedding being "bona fide."
Our solution for the "second wedding" is calling it a "celebration" instead of a "wedding." You could hold off switching your name until the "second wedding" which could make it feel more "formal?" Or if you are religious, you could consider them "legal" vs. "religious" weddings? Or you could have it on your 1st Anniversary, and do it as a renewal of your vows? Or get "temporary" rings for the NZ civil ceremony and do a "ring ceremony" for the US 2nd?
Anyway, your wedding is about you two as a couple--the realities of trans-Pacific relationships are part of that wedding--no matter how the actual events take place!
Good luck!

"On October 2, 2012, we ordered production of your new card."
I'm crying like a baby!

I don't think this process is all that complicated when you think about it.
You fill out a few forms (most of them repeat themselves, and they aren't difficult to fill out since they're about YOU), supply some evidence, write a check or two, show up for an interview that can sometimes last all of 5 minutes, and you're good to go.
Yes, there's waiting and yes some people at USCIS don't know their job as well as they should, but the system the way it is works for the most part. People who cheat the system and commit fraud are what made the system the way it is today and the way it unfortunately needs to be.
Time consuming and hell on your patience, sure, but complicated? Not really.

Here's hoping that he's a smart person and can understand what the purpose of the interview is: to obtain the visa, not be a wise cracker.
Perhaps you should explain to him what this means to you. This isn't a game and has real world ramifications.

When is your brother's wedding?
Your husband cannot apply for a visa. YOU are the one applying a visa for him through the I-130 petition. There is a guide hereMy link. We all want our spouses here ASAP but USCIS doesn't work that way. ASAP is relative (for USCIS, the fastest could be 5-6 months). Generally, the entire process ON AVERAGE can range between 6-9 months, some more, some less. Depends entirely on your case. Every case is different.
Since you applied for the I-130 last week, you probably received the NOA1 ( 1-757C receipt).
Next, you have to wait for the NOA2 (approval of I-130)- this takes the longest, right now the average is 5 months for most centers.
Then, it gets transferred to NVC (National Visa Center). They will send you your number, you send in the AOS (affidavit of support-income), some forms (DS-3032,I-864, DS-230 )plus you have to pay the bills for those too ( I think one is $88, other is $230 as of right now).
After all that is received, confirmed and APPROVED, you move on to the next step: INTERVIEW. Your husband will go to an assigned consulate in India for the interview, and IF approved, he will get his visa.
THIS IS YOUR STEP TO GETTING A VISA. The whole point of an I-130 is to obtain a visa to come to the US.
You could try other visas, such as tourist, but there is a HIGH chance(almost 100% chance, reason being he is your husband and has a likely chance of overstaying and other immigration issues) it will be denied. BUT since you've already started the I-130, I suggest you stick with that since it's the best way.
I'm sorry, but the process isn't quick. We're all impatiently waiting for our loved ones to come. You have to just wait in line for your turn. Hopefully that helps answer your question.

I understand your frustration, but someone did not updated the system, therefore the person you spoke with did not know. It is nothing you can do about, just enjoy one day at a time, the best advice I can give you, look at the positive side, it will help you.
Kind regards,

Gary answered the concern in bold in your other thread. Your tax returns may be a requirement to present with your I-134, but the returns alone do not determine anything other than income stability. Proof of CURRENT income is the primary concern and only requirement to qualify. If you make more than enough at the present time of the interview, provide the pay stubs and employment letter along with any tax returns or other documents that may be consulate specific. The pay stubs and employment letter are usually enough to provide for current income. Bank statements can help as well.

Moved from K1 Process & Procedures to IR-1/CR-1 Process & Procedures as this is the path the OP is likely to end up on. Duplicate thread removed.
Firstly, it would have been an I-129F that would have been filed in addition to the I-130, not an I-129. Secondly, your lawyer gave outdated advice. The two petitions were tied together when the I-129F arrived at the service center (the I-130 was pulled from its place in the queue and placed with the I-129F that arrived second). The two petitions were approved at the same time and will be sent to the NVC at the same time. The two are likely to arrive at the NVC at the same time and per NVC policy, the I-129F will be administratively closed because an approved I-130 will be on station at the NVC. Very rarely does an I-129F arrive at the NVC ahead of the I-130.
You are incorrect on three counts in this post:

First: I-129F is what is filed for fiance(e), not I-129.
Second: Your statement "the i-130 in any way which is strictly for married people and can only be filed by spouse" is inaccurate. The I-130 is the petition form filed by US Citizens OR US Lawful Permanent Residents to petition any family member (including but not limited to spouses).
Third: There is spouse visa type on the books that starts by first filing an I-130, then filing an I-129F. That visa type is the K3 visa. However, current NVC policy has rendered the K3 an obsolete visa type.

No, the I129F for the K-3 visa wont' 'complicate' things but it has, in the past, substantially slown down the petition. Although nothing is confirmed, if you read through or pay attention on here, those with a I129F pending for a K-3 visa are approved 6-8 weeks AFTER stand-alone I130s.
Now, USCIS will certainly tell you it is on the books and is faster. It is NVC that closes it
Read the 'compare'guide that is based on data and personal experiences on VJ, you can see it takes substantially longer and is more expensive than the Cr-1
You are absolutly the best qualified person to make a decision about what visa is best for you. But when we were deciding we valued personal experience of those going through the process more than someone on a phoneline who never has
Good luck

if your married you only file the 1-130 cr-1 visa if you are not married yet your fiance,e files the 1-129f, the k-3 is no longer in use discontinued,

I just want to add that it's not too late to get a birth certificate. I live in Alberta and was born in BC. To get my passport I had to get a new birth certificate because my old one wasn't adequate (the cover THEY put on made the writing come off the paper.) I had to pay extra but I had mine in 3 days. If you live in the province it can be even easier, it just costs more money.
From everything I've read on this forum, it sounds like all your paperwork you've submitted will be there waiting for you. They probably don't send out very specific letters just generic "bring this stuff" to everyone for things like this. You'll be okay. If you want to get the extra birth certificate, jump on the net or go down to a service canada, or registry office and get one sent to you ASAP even if it costs more, at least for your own peace of mind.

This is the person that you are going to marry. You should be able to ask him if he really submitted it or not.

I just want to add that it's not too late to get a birth certificate. I live in Alberta and was born in BC. To get my passport I had to get a new birth certificate because my old one wasn't adequate (the cover THEY put on made the writing come off the paper.) I had to pay extra but I had mine in 3 days. If you live in the province it can be even easier, it just costs more money.
From everything I've read on this forum, it sounds like all your paperwork you've submitted will be there waiting for you. They probably don't send out very specific letters just generic "bring this stuff" to everyone for things like this. You'll be okay. If you want to get the extra birth certificate, jump on the net or go down to a service canada, or registry office and get one sent to you ASAP even if it costs more, at least for your own peace of mind.