Any chance that I have HIV/AIDS?

[noname0 6]

Recently I had a Pap test and the doctor told me they found abnormal cells, which are the result of Human Papilloma Virus. This is very likely the cause of cervical cancer. I'm 100% sure I caught the virus from my husband, maybe 2 years ago when he went visit me in my home country and we had sex. I had never had sex before that.

Not until I came here and lived with my husband did I know that he had slept with hundreds of women, he said "more than 200". And he doesn't like condoms.

Now I'm scared. I'm wondering if I have HIV. The nurse at the clinic did take my blood the other day when I got the Pap smear, but I'm not sure if they did an HIV test. It's now too late to call the clinic and I'm too nervous to wait until tomorrow.

Before I came here I had to do a medical exam too, as part of the visa application procedure. I don't really remember if was HIV-tested. If I was then I didn't have HIV back then, that means my husband didn't have HIV when we first met two years ago. He said he didn't sleep with anybody else since.

What do you think?

I'm just panicked!

[apple21 953]

oh dear. i hope everything goes well for you. i wish your husband is there when you get the results from the clinic.

best of luck.

[Wendy javier 10]

Don't panic just follow up with the treatment that is required and if caught early it will be cured, as far as the HIV your GYN shoukd of

had you tested for everything once the HPV came back positive, Its amazing that 80% of women have it and many are unaware that they have it.

Like I said before it is pertinent thatyou follow all treatment as necesary.It will be ok.

Edited October 19, 2012 by Wendy javier

[Bumbero 130]

That's a tough situation

I'm not trying to add to your concern but it's not just HIV that you have to worry about. 200 women is quite a few. I would go to the physician and ask for a FULL STD work up. While HIV is a big concern, it's actually the hardest to contract. You need Hep B and C testing as well. Also the full spectrum of STDs, Ghonorrea, Chlamydia, Syphilis and Herpes. Some of these viruses can go undetected in males for a long time, so he might not even know he's carrying anything.

I recommend you educate yourself, not to the point of scaring yourself to death, but to be informed on this situation. GET TESTED and that will give you peace of mind.

Good luck

Edited October 19, 2012 by Bumbero

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/pap/default.htm

Above is a link on HPV. You can read it and realize that just because you have abnormal cells does not necessarily mean

you have cancer. You may need to be treated so it doesn't turn into cancer later.

You can go tomorrow and get HIV checked if it hasn't been done already with your recent visit.

You should also ask your husband to get checked.

Worrying about it now changes nothing so calm down and try not to upset yourself with negative thoughts.

Discuss your concerns with your doctor in depth so you will be well informed.

Previous sex partners ( and number of ) should be discussed before taking the relationship to the next level and

a transparent disclosure to evaluate compatibility and risk factors are always best talked about before getting involved.

Best wishes and you will likely be just fine.

[AYMAN_RINA 92]

Just take the test and Relieve yourself from this in your mind and yes be concerned.I agree with Ebunoluwa Just because you have this doesn't mean you have cancer.I'm praying for you ...wish you the best

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv.htm

[kike732 6]

Good luck!!!! hope everything comes out find!!!!

[Peter_Pan 661]

Only certain HPV strains cause cervical cancer,first figure out which ones you have, don't panic, as well as you know about it and have it under control, it will all be fine. Good luck, go to a free clinic and see if you can't get tested for all STDs possible. Good luck!

[pieroot 43]

I think you need to have an honest discussion with your husband about STD's and it would be a good idea for him to get tested as well.

[jameugiekaxavilon 25]

I hope everything is well for you. Don't panic and don't be too worry. Wait for the result tomorrow and better if your husband can accompany you. Just keep praying and be positive. Praying for good result!

[noname0 6]

Thank you all for your advice and sharing. The pap smear was done two months ago. And two weeks before I saw the doctor again, I don't really remember the technical terms the doctor used because I was too freaked out, but he said something like it was severe. He did LEEP treatment to remove them.

The marriage has been rocky too. I'm very stressed, to be exact, miserable. I have had many health problems since I moved here because of the stressful living condition. Yet, my husband only let me see the gynecologist because I complained about the pain during and after sexual intercourse. He didn't care about my feelings or health; yet, he doesn't want to be accused of raping. Discussions with him about anything are just impossible.

It's just depressing. Sorry for venting. But I really panic! I wish I could go back in time.

[Bumbero 130]

Thank you all for your advice and sharing. The pap smear was done two months ago. And two weeks before I saw the doctor again, I don't really remember the technical terms the doctor used because I was too freaked out, but he said something like it was severe. He did LEEP treatment to remove them.

The marriage has been rocky too. I'm very stressed, to be exact, miserable. I have had many health problems since I moved here because of the stressful living condition. Yet, my husband only let me see the gynecologist because I complained about the pain during and after sexual intercourse. He didn't care about my feelings or health; yet, he doesn't want to be accused of raping. Discussions with him about anything are just impossible.

It's just depressing. Sorry for venting. But I really panic! I wish I could go back in time.

It's okay to vent! Sounds like a miserable situation . FIRST THING is take care of YOUR health. Find out what is going on with your condition. Get all the blood tests you can for STDs. I can't give you advice on your husband BUT in order for any changes to take place you have to be healthy first. Otherwise, stress can make things a LOT worse.

I wish you all the best in this situation

[dwheels76 5,462]

Thank you all for your advice and sharing. The pap smear was done two months ago. And two weeks before I saw the doctor again, I don't really remember the technical terms the doctor used because I was too freaked out, but he said something like it was severe. He did LEEP treatment to remove them.

The marriage has been rocky too. I'm very stressed, to be exact, miserable. I have had many health problems since I moved here because of the stressful living condition. Yet, my husband only let me see the gynecologist because I complained about the pain during and after sexual intercourse. He didn't care about my feelings or health; yet, he doesn't want to be accused of raping. Discussions with him about anything are just impossible.

It's just depressing. Sorry for venting. But I really panic! I wish I could go back in time.

Can you call around to the YWCA or women's shelter to see if theirs a support group you can go to. maybe a community of women from your country I don;t know. You need a support group to be around. I am concerned for your mental health.

Please take it easy and take care of you. Okay

[Jahwaree 83]

As a man I know that its iresponsible for a man to be riding bareback these days , with that said you should not panic, try to read up on some of these thiungs HPV does not necessarily means cancer, quit stressing yourself about HIV, but lay down the law no more sex without a condom. What city are U in join the local health clinic & get referred to some group support there, or join a church; start trying to get a life of your own, and U can relate these sexual abuses whether to a social worker or so. At clinic they do 25 mins HIV tests go home tell him Dr says no sex. Try to talk seriously to him to see if there can be any shame or change to his gamme...best wishes