Jason and Shifa

More misinformation. It is fine to copy any document used in this process, in color or otherwise, including passport, birth certificate or even a Naturalization Certificate. Where do you people get these strange ideas?

Pretty weak reason to have not become a legal resident during the course of 8 years. You can afford to travel and vacation but not adjust status?
There should be no problem traveling within the US.

good for you...why dont you update your timeline and spread the kindness??

You were being very selfish and I say that with no malice intended and you asked for opinions.
Women are naturally flirty and seek attention. There's nothing wrong that per see when you are single but it needs to be adjusted once you get married, IMHO, and especially when the opposing party feels that it's inappropriate. Based on what you wrote, I think you did not do a good enough job, again IMHO. It's also a cultural thing and I'm kind of confused why you did not pick up on that while you lived in his home country and adjusted for that when you arrived back home.
I hope your Husband didn't give up all his opportunities/resoruces to follow you to your country and you basically sent him back - if he has left.
Me personally will seek divorce from you if I were him. You've showed your hand that you cannot be depended on.
All that being said, you should be happy and deserve to be happy and should never be in an unfruitful relationship. I do not fault you for seeking happiness but your execution was unsavory.
Good luck.

Wrong. The RFE she listed are not related to the age difference. Second IN NO WAY! I wanted to hurt her feelings. I wanted to congratulate her, letting her known that she was one lucky person and that her case is very rare.
I'm sure that every member with experience in high-fraud countries will agree with me.
As an example, I don't have any age difference with my wife and we even have a baby together with almost 4 year of marriage and USCIS even request an interview with me before approving my I-130.
So Her case is one that will be expose as an example to other members in the future to this website.
Please excuse me if I was rude in my previous post I didn't mean it.

Below, I lined out the items you absoulutely, positively DO NOT need. It's always good carry relationship evidence along with required documents to an interview but it is absolutely unnecessary and pointless to carry fluff pieces as it does not help you in any way, shape, or form; plus, a CO would never ask to see such pieces.
I included a short explanation next to the items I lined out as to why you don't need them.

Agree, but tat isn't the problem IMO. That is symptom.

Good luck and please read and reread the guides as most all of your answers are contained within,
Dave

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AFFIDAVIT
I, __________, residing at _______________________________________,
solemnly state and affirm as hereunder:
1. I am a citizen of _____________.
2. That I was born on _____________ at ______________.
3. That I am ____ years of age and have resided in the U.S. since _______.
4. That this affadavit is being submitted on behalf of the following persons:
_______________________
5. I am the (state relationship to the husband/wife or both)
6. That this affidavit is being made by me for the purpose of assuring the U.S. government that the persons named in item 4 have a true and loving relationship that was entered in good faith, and is not for the purpose of circumventing immigration laws.
7. That I acquired my knowledge of the relationship between the persons named in item 4 in the following manner:
__________________________________________________ ________
__________________________________________________ ________
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AFFIRMATION
I affirm that the contents of this affidavit are true and correct to the best of my knowledge.
Signature of person making this affidavit: _______________________________
Affirmed before me this ____ day of _________, ____
at ________________________. My commission expires on ______________.
Signature of Officer Administering Oath _________________ Title ________.
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What this boils down to is that you want us, and more importantly (because what we think truly doesn't matter one bit), the USCIS offical you'll be interviewing with to take your word for it that your marriage is real and you intend to live life as a married couple from here on. Whether you like it or not, the USCIS employee is probably going into this interview thinking your marriage is for immigration purposes, and it's up to you to prove it's not.
Let me make that clear: The burden of proof is on you to prove your marriage is genuine, not on the USCIS offical to prove it's not.
So, given that statement, based on what we've been able to gather in your other posts, you'll be walking into an interview under the following conditions:
- Very few photos of you and your husband together (you yourself said there are maybe 3)
- No photos of your son and your husband together
- Husband didn't file taxes for a year
- Husband can't really prove he's working now
- Husband can't locate his birth certificate
- There are NO documents (financial, legal, lease, or otherwise) with both your names on it
Every single person on this forum is telling you that you have some real obstacles to overcome given all this information, and they said so based on your request for their advice. You are posting on a forum with people going through the same 'journey' you are, so you aren't going to find another group of people anywhere that are more sympathetic to your cause.
Do you think the USCIS office is going to be more or less sympathetic to you? If you answered 'less', you win the grand prize. People here are trying hard to help you. Don't complain because their advice isn't what you want to hear.
Just like others have said, good luck.

"fidelity issue"???? "love for the sofa"????
Did we read the same post? Your response just confused the heck out of me. I hope the OP understands it better than I did!

You have pretty bad attitude for Asian countries and Asian women. Are you married one of us?
well, I already wrote a long reply but I decided to delete all.. and make it short..
My life is better in term of the never-ending happiness in our marriage.
My life is worse.. the worst, in term of my own earning. I left a job that paid me triple more than I am making here.. and I'm from one of the "POOR" countries you mentioned.
Reading your post made me feel sick!

Impossible you didn't mention these details before, first change all your door locks, second get a restraining order against him, file not divorce,but annulment of your marriage and report this guy TODAY to the cops, not as a missing person, but as an abuser!I just don't agree with MnnB because I saw several people that played the system that were deported.This story "let him go" oh man no way, no how.Sometimes in our life many things happen beyond our control, but other things we need to step up and make it happen.We don't need a scammer,an abuser walking with freedom in our streets.

To add a little more:
If he entered legally, he can stay in the US if you get married and file the I-130 in conjunction with the I-485. This is called adjustment of status.
Here's the catch:
It is very illegal to enter the US as a tourist with the intention of adjusting status. It's considered immigration fraud.
As a tourist:
Marriage = OK
Marriage + Adjust status without intent at entry = OK.
Marriage + Adjust status with intent at entry = Fraud, not OK.

I-130 is to CR-1 what I-129f is to K-1.
You file an I-129f petition with the USCIS on behalf of your fiance. Once approved, your fiance can apply for a K-1 visa.
Likewise,
You file an I-130 petition with the USCIS on behalf of you husband. Once approved, your husband can apply for a CR-1 visa.

and this is exactly the reason it makes it so hard for the rest of us abiding by the rules. just irritates me that people take advantage of the system then wait until they get in the country to screw around with the rules of the visa...i will shut up before i get myself in trouble

Being snippy isn't really going to help you get the support you need here on VJ.
Also, I'm a planner too, believe me, and it is certainly good to think ahead of time about what the process will require if you should mutually decide to pursue a life together. But I would really question the motives of a guy who is willing to commit to someone from the other side of the world, sight unseen. Ask yourself if a reasonable adult would make a decision like this if he A) had an occupation, a good income, and a full life in his home country (I'm making an assumption that he does not, since you mentioned that he is in another country without a work visa), and B) involving someone from his home country. I would guess not. So, if he is willing to suspend the usual processes of being careful and cautious about something that will impact the rest of his life, why is this? The consular officers will assume that this is due to your nationality and potential to bring him to the U.S. (I'm also intrigued by the insurance settlement that you mentioned, which if he knows about it, could also be assumed to play a role in his decision-making processes.)
I'm also in the situation of making a gamble on someone from a mostly unfamiliar country, but we made that decision together after hitting it off in person and having our connection to each other attain "critical mass" through spending enough time together that we were willing to make sacrifices to pursue being together. Having interacted with someone online would not be nearly enough to justify making those sacrifices, for me. What if you go through all of this planning and traveling to visit him, and when you get there, find that he is really just not who you thought he would be, or vice versa? I wouldn't want you to go ahead with your plan just because you have constructed this Epic Love Story that must culminate in riding off into the sunset together, and would find it too jarring, upsetting, or embarrassing to deviate from the script.
Another issue that you haven't discussed is your potential to support him once he gets here. You say that you are 20 and unemployed. Co-sponsors are definitely an option, but I've read that co-sponsors may not be enough if you do not have the potential to generate a higher income yourself in the future. At 20, many people are enrolled in college and can be expected to earn more after graduation, but I'm not sure what your situation is or whether this is the case for you.
Just some food for thought: if the shoe fits, and all...

Darnell will be along with the proper procedures to follow but just to let you know, I think she is scamming you and just used you as a ticket to the US. Don't marry her and she will be out of status when her I-94 expires (usually 90 days after arrival). There only way she can adjust status from a K-1 visa is marriage to you. Do not marry her if she has treated you in this manner already, she has made it plain she has no interest in being with you.
Once she realizes she cannot legally stay in the US any other way she may come crawling to you with excuses for her behavior and promises that she has no intention of keeping just to marry you. Then either she will leave when she has her green card (she doesn't need you after that) or if you marry and don't file her adjustment of status she may try to file a VAWA (violence against women act) petition by claiming you abused her.

In my opinion, the OP has a right to know, based on the fact that he was obviously conned into a false marriage and signed an I-864 on her behalf. If anything, he should at least have a right to know whether the I-864 still stands due to the adverse financial consequences it could have.

Ok here is my 2 cents worth of things..... I personally do feel that your x has a right to know who is going to be around the kids. That is if she was letting you know who was going to be around the kids.
You are in the same situation as me. Since we got a divorce she has moved 3 of 4 boyfriends in the house with our kids, that is all in less than a year. Of course me, I check the background of that "BF" and see if there are any felonies or convictions. Call me a stalker I don't care, I WANT TO KNOW WHO IS AROUND MY KIDS. Her first bf had a nice little rap sheet of robbery and assualt. But when I brought it up to her and wanted him out of the house, "I was blowing things out of purportion".
Needless to say I was right and he ended up physically assualting her and my kids, and he is in jail now for a long time.
So the moral to the story is: if she is letting you know, then you let her know. If not then she has no right too

Yes your ex wife has the right to "demand" personal informations about your "new wife" if she is living in the house and/or spending time with the children. If you refuse to give any information then your ex wife can petition the court to order your to disclose who is in the house when the kids visitations, if she believes that the children may be in danger. She has to demonstrate that it is in the child's best interest for her to know who he children are exposed to.There is a legal recourse in the law for that. If the Court grant her motion you will be forced to disclose the name of the person living in the house.In the event she prove that your new wife is a bad influence for the kids, because she is for example a felon, a drug addict, she can petition the court for a restraining order to keep your new wife around the children.