What should the Asian women do for their lives and their families if they married to American citizen men?

[David-Hien 11]

The U.S. is the paradise that the poor families in Asian countries dream to live in. Under special types of visa such as fiancé and marriage visa, the legal process will be fast and inexpensive because there are the American citizen husbands who sponsor and pay for their wives’ process fees. In order to enter the US by this method, there are many Asian women accepted to leave their families and friends, quit their jobs, and get married to an American citizen to have an adventure in a new country. So, how are the lives of these Asian wives in the U.S.? Should these women leave their countries to hope for better lives or to stay on their poor countries?

[Peter_Pan 661]

Legal process fast and cheap?

[MatthewNCarolina 73]

What did your fiancee do? Should she have stayed in Vietnam with her family or should she have quit everything to go to U.S and marry her american citizen fiance (at the time)?

[Tohoku 6]

The U.S. is the paradise that the poor families in Asian countries dream to live in. Under special types of visa such as fiancé and marriage visa, the legal process will be fast and inexpensive because there are the American citizen husbands who sponsor and pay for their wives’ process fees. In order to enter the US by this method, there are many Asian women accepted to leave their families and friends, quit their jobs, and get married to an American citizen to have an adventure in a new country. So, how are the lives of these Asian wives in the U.S.? Should these women leave their countries to hope for better lives or to stay on their poor countries?

I don't really get what you're trying to say here. What adventure? You mean the marriage? I guess we can say that marriage is an adventure, but what does a marriage have anything to do with where or to what nationality does one marry? I married my husband not because he is American (or I should say, I married him in spite the fact that he is American, lol, kidding!), but because he is a compatible partner for me, who happen to be my best friend. I did choose to leave my homecountry years ago for a job, and now, I choose to move to the US to be with my husband, since it is the most eligible option for us for now (I can do my job from the US, he can not do his job from Japan).

I will always miss my family and friends back home, but my husband is my family too, and I am no way under any false pretenses that live in the US will be better than life in Japan or in Indonesia. It is not the US, it is my family, my best friend, my husband, that will make my life better.

As simple as that.

[Penguin_ie 5,985]

Process is neither fast nor inexpensive.

But youalso cannot say "yes, it is the right thing" or "no, they should stay home". It depends on the individual case. Some people will adjust to the new life- and it IS a big culture shock, especially if the woman comes from a small rural village- some will never adjust, and/ or will find that long-distance courtship is quite different from everyday life. The important thing is to go into this "adventure" with open eyes, to talk not just with your fiancee but also others, and to realise that while the USC may be able to "throw his cash around" in Vietnam (or any other relatively poor country), once a life is made as a couple in the USA, they may be comparatively poor.

[Anh map 2,098]

The U.S. is the paradise that the poor families in Asian countries dream to live in. Under special types of visa such as fiancé and marriage visa, the legal process will be fast and inexpensive because there are the American citizen husbands who sponsor and pay for their wives' process fees. In order to enter the US by this method, there are many Asian women accepted to leave their families and friends, quit their jobs, and get married to an American citizen to have an adventure in a new country. So, how are the lives of these Asian wives in the U.S.? Should these women leave their countries to hope for better lives or to stay on their poor countries?

Each person makes a personal decision. Male or female. Rich or poor. Asian, African, European, etc.

Some marry US born citizens. Others marry US citizens born in their native countries.

Some marriages and/or moves work, some don't. No one can guarantee a future outcome.

For thousands of years people have left their homelands to find what they believe are better lives beyond the horizon.

What is the point that you are trying to make?

[JohnR! 5,495]

. So, how are the lives of these Asian wives in the U.S.? Should these women leave their countries to hope for better lives or to stay on their poor countries?

IMHO the lives of these woman are as varied as the life of any other person in the US and only each one of them can really give you the answer as to whether they should leave/have left their countries.

No one can make the argument or judge these women for their actions, moreover it would be an exercise in futility to engage in the 'what if' scenarios possible based on what their actions were not.

[Mozzer1972 7]

I don't understand what the question or point is here?

[David-Hien 11]

I don't understand what the question or point is here?

Just let people raise their ideas. You will see many different ideas.

This is one of my essay's topic that I created by myself. It is good when you know what your wife is thinking about her new life. It is not complanation or fighting, but a study of my experience and life here, the US. I will post my idea later. It is the newest study; therefore, I have to submit my essay before I post it.

[ScottThuy 140]

Just let people raise their ideas. You will see many different ideas.

This is one of my essay's topic that I created by myself. It is good when you know what your wife is thinking about her new life. It is not complanation or fighting, but a study of my experience and life here, the US. I will post my idea later. It is the newest study; therefore, I have to submit my essay before I post it.

Your research will be flawed as the responses are not a random sampling of a population. This post will not yield an appropriate sampling of responses for reliable research. If you are looking for a biased Essay you are on the right track.

[David-Hien 11]

Your research will be flawed as the responses are not a random sampling of a population. This post will not yield an appropriate sampling of responses for reliable research. If you are looking for a biased Essay you are on the right track.

well, if it is a biased essay, I will be done. I have to do it good and make a stance. If you are an English teacher, you know it well.

My conclusion: "In short, I think that the couples have two countries to choose for their life, so why don't they do that in both for their life and vacations? The USA is not the bad country to live, but it is not the only place to live."

Do you know what the Vietnamese wives do in the USA? We have a group help each other to do business. Looking at what they are doing, I feel proud of them.

Edited June 8, 2012 by David-Hien

[lierre 224]

well, if it is a biased essay, I will be done. I have to do it good and make a stance. If you are an English teacher, you know it well.

My conclusion: "In short, I think that the couples have two countries to choose for their life, so why don't they do that in both for their life and vacations? The USA is not the bad country to live, but it is not the only place to live."

Do you know what the Vietnamese wives do in the USA? We have a group help each other to do business. Looking at what they are doing, I feel proud of them.

IMHO, for your research, better to find social science studies rather than ask for personal experiences in an online forum.

[ScottThuy 140]

well, if it is a biased essay, I will be done. I have to do it good and make a stance. If you are an English teacher, you know it well.

My conclusion: "In short, I think that the couples have two countries to choose for their life, so why don't they do that in both for their life and vacations? The USA is not the bad country to live, but it is not the only place to live."

Do you know what the Vietnamese wives do in the USA? We have a group help each other to do business. Looking at what they are doing, I feel proud of them.

Not an 'English' teacher, but I did more than my share of research working on my dissertation...

You have been a member of this group for many years and should have seen that many of the couples are in VN now and not the US... Many have immigrated from VN only to later have a second home in VN for holiday and long term family visits (the motivation for immigration varies based on visa, or should.. many use the wrong visa to get here)... At some point it becomes economically inefficient to have homes in both VN and US... it becomes a matter of choosing one over another... In most it boils down to pure economics, freedoms and opportunities that cause them to choose US over VN (or many other countries).. depending on the industry some can make a great living in VN, a few here can atest to that, but those are specific fields with skills in high demand only...

Your conclusion is a question? The conclusion should not be what you think, but rather what the evidence or research determines... What you think is what is said in the Introduction...

[MangoAve 25]

A lot of asians do think that the US is more or less paradise. They do try to get here with that mind set. But USC do try to go over there as well. Some USC want to go there with the money made here. Some places are just crowded, so growing up there you would always have friends around. The notion of being inexpensive and quick is ludicrous. It's somewhat inexpensive to the beneficiary because they are poor to begin with. Are they going to send the filing fee when they can barely afford food? Sending documents for filing is maybe the extent of the beneficiary's expenses. The I-130 is now quicker than the K3 visa, but having already waited for 5 months I can assure you that its not quick. For the application to sit for that long untouched and unassigned is obviously too long. Yes the debate about waiting does weed out some who really werent in love, but you dont want to give up any time without someone when you really love them. It is accepted in those countries because so many do it. Just think how here there are 'freedoms' yet many gays stay in the closet. A higher percentage of the poplation in the asian countries are active in religion (church.. ect) but yet its 'acceptable' to be gay there which is against the religion. Its just accepted there. Whether its a better choice to stay there or leave for the US is just that, a choice. When they can see the future and how things play out, be sure to let me know.

[X Factor 1,110]

Should these women leave their countries to hope for better lives or to stay on their poor countries?

Isn't it their decision. Our opinion doesn't count :bonk: