Have a issue...

[KJ34 10]

his hurts as I type this..So I have a Fiance in the philippines that is a trans woman, we met on a dating app talked for a year met up and now we're engaged,so with that in mind last friday, I stumbled across a escort page with her pictures, they weren't bad just pictures of her, saying where she worked at the time her name and etc, ( The Job she had at the time payed good, So if this is her not sure why she's did this or if she still does) so I showed this to her while on video call she was quiet for a bit then said that people used her likeness to scam people before and it's common here in the philippines, (Her reaction was pretty calm as if this happens a lot)of course I love her ( first love BTW) so I believe her, then a hour after we hang up I clicked the link again and the page is gone....Then today I decided to ask her to add me FB since we've talking on messenger for a while ( we talk everyday so I didn't feel the need to add her) Also so I can tag her in stuff, and she says that her trans friends stole her ex BF from her when she added him on her FB? and she doesn't want that to happen to her again with me, she says she knows I wont entertain them which I won't I'm committed to her but she doesnt want them be on my facebook, Is there something she's hiding? Are her trans friends jealous of what we have?Will her friends out her about this escort thing? Or something even worse? I don't understand why we can't be FB friends if we are " engaged" at this point....I just don't know I keep talking to her because if it's true I want to hear it from her I look past her being trans I just see the woman i fell in love with, I've invested so much into her, her family, and I've fallen in love with the country, so if this is true it will be hard to go back.....I've already got my NOA 1 from USCIS I'm not sure what to do...I don't want end this and this whole thing really could be fake and I just ended something good I'm scared I forgot to mention she had multiple pages on that site one in Hongkong and Macau she's told me she's never traveled outside the Philippines the descriptions of the profile were basically the same expect the one in Hong Kong said she will be there by the end of the Month  in May which I didnt see  her leaving or being gone because i left the Philippines the 26th of may...so that's why i believe  this isn't real...i confronted her again about it and  she said she sent a message on the site saying "this is the real me who are you? You must know me well, are you African or Asian? Then she said she went back to it and it was gone and she calm about it, she didn't get defensive...

[Ontarkie 13,916]

~~MOved to the PI forum, from Off Topic - as a better fit forum for this topic.~~

[Cyberfx1024 7,978]

19 minutes ago, KJ34 said:

his hurts as I type this..So I have a Fiance in the philippines that is a trans woman, we met on a dating app talked for a year met up and now we're engaged,so with that in mind last friday, I stumbled across a escort page with her pictures, they weren't bad just pictures of her, saying where she worked at the time her name and etc, ( The Job she had at the time payed good, So if this is her not sure why she's did this or if she still does) so I showed this to her while on video call she was quiet for a bit then said that people used her likeness to scam people before and it's common here in the philippines, (Her reaction was pretty calm as if this happens a lot)of course I love her ( first love BTW) so I believe her, then a hour after we hang up I clicked the link again and the page is gone....Then today I decided to ask her to add me FB since we've talking on messenger for a while ( we talk everyday so I didn't feel the need to add her) Also so I can tag her in stuff, and she says that her trans friends stole her ex BF from her when she added him on her FB? and she doesn't want that to happen to her again with me, she says she knows I wont entertain them which I won't I'm committed to her but she doesnt want them be on my facebook, Is there something she's hiding? Are her trans friends jealous of what we have?Will her friends out her about this escort thing? Or something even worse? I don't understand why we can't be FB friends if we are " engaged" at this point....I just don't know I keep talking to her because if it's true I want to hear it from her I look past her being trans I just see the woman i fell in love with, I've invested so much into her, her family, and I've fallen in love with the country, so if this is true it will be hard to go back.....I've already got my NOA 1 from USCIS I'm not sure what to do...I don't want end this and this whole thing really could be fake and I just ended something good I'm scared I forgot to mention she had multiple pages on that site one in Hongkong and Macau she's told me she's never traveled outside the Philippines the descriptions of the profile were basically the same expect the one in Hong Kong said she will be there by the end of the Month  in May which I didnt see  her leaving or being gone because i left the Philippines the 26th of may...so that's why i believe  this isn't real...i confronted her again about it and  she said she sent a message on the site saying "this is the real me who are you? You must know me well, are you African or Asian? Then she said she went back to it and it was gone and she calm about it, she didn't get defensive...

So reading this there are tons of red flags that I am seeing. Did you actually meet in the Philippines, if so for how long, did you meet her family?

 

 

[KJ34 10]

6 minutes ago, Cyberfx1024 said:

So reading this there are tons of red flags that I am seeing. Did you actually meet in the Philippines, if so for how long, did you meet her family?

 

 

2weeks in may and 2weeks in September and i spent time with her family both times yeah also those pictures of her were old, and when she was single like from when first started talking as friends they weren't recently 

Edited November 12, 2019 by KJ34

[SalishSea 16,771]

Huge red flags.  Sounds as even though the in-person time spent together may be sufficient for her to get a visa through Manila, for your peace of mind and for the marriage to work out, you should spend much more time together.....

[Cyberfx1024 7,978]

3 minutes ago, KJ34 said:

2weeks in may and 2weeks in September and i spent time with her family both times yeah

Then I would tell her to add you to her FB at the very least. Her not adding you to her fb is very suspicious

[SalishSea 16,771]

1 minute ago, Cyberfx1024 said:

Then I would tell her to add you to her FB at the very least. Her not adding you to her fb is very suspicious

Agree.  Trust is a huge foundation for marriage.

[Cyberfx1024 7,978]

1 minute ago, Jorgedig said:

Agree.  Trust is a huge foundation for marriage.

FB in the Philippines is very very big. Trust is key to a relationship and a marriage

[Lemonslice 4,554]

How much time have you spent together in person?  

 

From the outside, looks like a scam.

[KJ34 10]

Just now, Lemonslice said:

How much time have you spent together in person?  

 

From the outside, looks like a scam.

2weeks in may and 2weeks in September 

[Nitas_man 3,100]

I’m pretty sure that advertising and working as a trans escort on websites is a permanent ban but nothing prevents you from moving and living over there

Edited November 12, 2019 by Nitas_man

[KJ34 10]

3 minutes ago, Nitas_man said:

I’m pretty sure that advertising and working as a trans escort on websites is a permanent ban but nothing prevents you from moving and living over there

It Will be hard because I'll think of her and all that crying at the airport....and if this is legit how would they know? Those pic of her were old and nothing bad..and she had a office job too, like i said the page is gone now

Edited November 12, 2019 by KJ34

[KJ34 10]

This is my first relationship a lot of time money and emotions went into this, for this to be not real...but the crying and all of those emotions were a act? I don't believe it

[Nitas_man 3,100]

From here it looks like you’re being played by a pro

[KJ34 10]

Just now, Nitas_man said:

From here it looks like you’re being played by a pro

How can i have proof she's doing this...this could be a misunderstanding...