Abandoning AOS before it gets approved!

[Mazzie 2]

Hey people! 

Someone asked me this million dollar question: what if I just abandon my AOS and go back to my country?

since I have no clue, I’d like to share her agony with you and see how we could help.

I think she regrets her decision and just wants to disappear. I’m very sorry for her, by the way. She has lost a lot of weight and is getting into depression. 

[USS_Voyager 1,971]

3 minutes ago, Mazzie said:

what if I just abandon my AOS and go back to my country?

Nothing will happen. The AOS will be denied and  you will be back in your country. What else you think will happen?

[payxibka 10,044]

You/She would not be the first in this situation 

[Ed&Midori1031 330]

 

22 minutes ago, Mazzie said:

Hey people! 

Someone asked me this million dollar question: what if I just abandon my AOS and go back to my country?

since I have no clue, I’d like to share her agony with you and see how we could help.

I think she regrets her decision and just wants to disappear. I’m very sorry for her, by the way. She has lost a lot of weight and is getting into depression. 

Just denial and move back.  simple as that.  

 

23 minutes ago, Mazzie said:

 

I think she regrets her decision and just wants to disappear. I’m very sorry for her, by the way. She has lost a lot of weight and is getting into depression. 

She needs to seek more professional medical help. 

[Mazzie 2]

23 minutes ago, USS_Voyager said:

Nothing will happen. The AOS will be denied and  you will be back in your country. What else you think will happen?

Thanks for your response. I had the chance to have a talk with her last week on messenger and she was thinking that she’d have people coming after her (I really don’t see how that’d be possible) I said it was not likely to happen, but since she is very scared, I decided to ask more experienced people.

And I don’t want to interfere in her decision. Just want to clarify her doubt. 

[Mazzie 2]

26 minutes ago, payxibka said:

You/She would not be the first in this situation 

Yup. But since this is the first time I see someone in this situation, I’m trying to calm her down. It’s kind of sad. 

[USS_Voyager 1,971]

24 minutes ago, Mazzie said:

she was thinking that she’d have people coming after her

What people will be coming after her? US immigration people? Uhm yeah, she need to seek help from a medical professional. No people will be coming after her. 

[HRQX 4,145]

1 hour ago, Mazzie said:

what if I just abandon my AOS and go back to my country?

Not an issue. Also, while it was pending she was in authorized stay: https://fam.state.gov/FAM/09FAM/09FAM030211.html "DHS has interpreted "period of stay authorized by the Secretary of Homeland Security," as used in this context, to include:" "For aliens who have properly filed an application for adjustment of status to that of a lawful permanent resident (LPR), the entire period of the pendency of the application, even if the application is subsequently denied or abandoned, provided the alien (unless seeking to adjust status under NACARA or HRIFA) did not file for adjustment "defensively" (i.e., after deportation proceedings had already been initiated)"

Edited October 25, 2019 by HRQX

[Villanelle 4,121]

1 hour ago, Mazzie said:

Hey people! 

Someone asked me this million dollar question: what if I just abandon my AOS and go back to my country?

since I have no clue, I’d like to share her agony with you and see how we could help.

I think she regrets her decision and just wants to disappear. I’m very sorry for her, by the way. She has lost a lot of weight and is getting into depression. 

If she is being abused she can stop the AOS process with the abusive spouse and do a VAWA self petition on her own. 

[Mazzie 2]

1 minute ago, Villanelle said:

If she is being abused she can stop the AOS process with the abusive spouse and do a VAWA self petition on her own. 

Thanks for the information. She won’t be very open about the real situation. All she keeps repeating  is she wants to go back to her country and be close to family. 

[Mazzie 2]

7 minutes ago, HRQX said:

Not an issue. Also, while it was pending she was in authorized stay: https://fam.state.gov/FAM/09FAM/09FAM030211.html "DHS has interpreted "period of stay authorized by the Secretary of Homeland Security," as used in this context, to include:" "For aliens who have properly filed an application for adjustment of status to that of a lawful permanent resident (LPR), the entire period of the pendency of the application, even if the application is subsequently denied or abandoned, provided the alien (unless seeking to adjust status under NACARA or HRIFA) did not file for adjustment "defensively" (i.e., after deportation proceedings had already been initiated)"

Thank you so much for the information. 

[Villanelle 4,121]

Just now, Mazzie said:

Thanks for the information. She won’t be very open about the real situation. All she keeps repeating  is she wants to go back to her country and be close to family. 

She can still file for VAWA from overseas. It might be best to simply help her leave the bad situation she is in and once she is back with family and can clear her head she can look into VAWA. The only other thing not mentioned is depending on how she entered the US (K or B) she may have overstay and be subject to a ban if she ever wanted to return to the US. 

[Mazzie 2]

11 minutes ago, Villanelle said:

She can still file for VAWA from overseas. It might be best to simply help her leave the bad situation she is in and once she is back with family and can clear her head she can look into VAWA. The only other thing not mentioned is depending on how she entered the US (K or B) she may have overstay and be subject to a ban if she ever wanted to return to the US. 

She came to the US on a K Visa. 

[Ontarkie 13,915]

~~Moved to Effects of MAjor Family Changes, from AOS from K1/K3 P&P - As similar threads are discussed here.~~

[Lucky2Lucky 2,526]

No one is holding her here. If she doesn’t want to stay in the marriage she has every right to go back home! Sometimes there’s this expectation that everything in America is easier and better but that’s not always true. Her health and well-being should come first- is that means back home to family then so be it