divorce after getting 10 years green card

[mark12345 0]

my case is very complicated . This is the situation 

1-I been married to my us citizen wife for almost 4 years . think was upon and down 

2- after 2 years she was asking to have a baby but I was not ready for that I told her I am not ready but she was not cooperative so I went I had a vasectomy without telling her . after 1 year I told her that I had a vasectomy .and she was like ok you need to fix it so I did had A vasectomy reversal and the procedure was successful and every one was happy . 

after that we said we will get house together and we did  . but after that she is treating me every day that she will report me to uscis  that I lied to her that I had a vasectomy and I did not tell her 

and I just married her to get my green card what is not true . 

the question is I have my 10 years green card , if she go ahead and divorce me and report me to USCIS  That I did not tell her about the Vasectomy in the beginning . the USCIS are they going to revoke my 10 years green card and deport  me as she is saying that all the time when think are not well between us 

[USS_Voyager 1,971]

10 minutes ago, mark12345 said:

the question is I have my 10 years green card , if she go ahead and divorce me and report me to USCIS  That I did not tell her about the Vasectomy in the beginning . the USCIS are they going to revoke my 10 years green card and deport  me as she is saying that all the time when think are not well between us 

Absolutely not. That has nothing to do immigration whatsoever. It’s not even a civil dispute, because it is YOUR body, you can do whatever you want to do with YOUR own body and no one can tell you otherwise.

[Redheadguy03 505]

She can't just report you and get you deported. If you entered the marriage in good faith there shouldn't be evidence to even give to USCIS. Having a vasectomy without telling her is pretty crazy, but it's not illegal or a violation to USCIS. 

 

I'd recommend getting out of the house. It sounds like a bad situation that may get worse, especially if she's making threats. 

[mark12345 0]

SO , I did the vasectomy after 2 years been together and because i was not ready  to have kids at that time . and after that I told her because i feel That i should not do that to her and I told her everything .and i did the reversal . after that in the beginning it was OK .after that she is using it as a threat . for a yes or no . 

in any situation . 

[debbiedoo 2,339]

44 minutes ago, mark12345 said:

SO , I did the vasectomy after 2 years been together and because i was not ready  to have kids at that time . and after that I told her because i feel That i should not do that to her and I told her everything .and i did the reversal . after that in the beginning it was OK .after that she is using it as a threat . for a yes or no . 

in any situation . 

well, it was a jerk thing to do (lie about it) but it is your body to do with as you want.

 

it will have nothing to do with your immigration status. even if you lied to her about having it done.

Edited July 3, 2019 by debbiedoo

[Just Paul 4,591]

Get a divorce, move on.  No immigration consequences here.

[Boketto 211]

You’re fine. If you are that worried about it, keep a file with all your Bona Fide marriage evidence on hand. You can’t be accused of anything when you have ample evidence to back you up. 

 

 

[mark12345 0]

THANK  YOU ,

[Amadia 711]

Sorry to learn of this situation you are going through....no one should have to uproot their life only to endure distress.

 

My only question would be, how long have you both known each other prior to making the commitment to get married and share a life together? Honestly, not everyone is mentally prepared for having kids, some like to be properly established in a stable job, have a permanent roof over their heads and a good amount of money saved to live comfortably. You shouldn't be judged or feel threatened because of a personal decision you have made to alter yourself.

 

One thing I have learned in this life: STAND IN FRONT OF A MIRROR AND LIVE TO PLEASE THE PERSON STARING BACK AT YOU.

 

Chin up, you will be alright  

[mark12345 0]

We been together for 2 years before getting married .after that we got married and I did not have a good job no house no money saved .and I feeled like she was rushing to have a kid .but I was not ready . I don't want to have a kid and can not take care of it 

[Ontarkie 13,916]

~~Moved to Effects of Major Family Changes, from ROC - The OP is not filling for ROC he has his 10 card and this is a more appropriate forum for this discussion.~~

[JFH 12,189]

You have a 10-year GC so you have no further immigration things to do except renew your GC every 10 years. You can apply for citizenship later on if you wish but you don’t have to. There is nothing she can do that will affect your status here. She brought you here. But she can’t send you back. It doesn’t work that way. Too many USCs use the “I will report you to USCIS” and “I will get you deported” lines as a way to express their anger or embarrassment that the marriage failed. Truth is, only a criminal conviction will now get you deported (unless it is discovered that you obtained the GC fraudulently, which I doubt you did). 

 

No one can force anyone to reproduce. A vasectomy was perhaps overkill as reversal is not guaranteed to succeed so it could have been permanent. But it’s your body, your choice. And you were the sensible one as the environment at home didn’t sound very healthy for raising a child. So thank goodness there is no child in this mess. 

 

She’s bitter and angry. But it’s a waste of energy because nothing will come of it except more bitterness and anger. Divorce her and move on. I hope you find happiness with someone else. 

 

[mark12345 0]

She did not bring me to USA . I was here with a work visa. I was legal . And she Mary me because we where in love .I was already in legal situation . I could just renew my work visa .but instat I married her but I told her that we are not ready to have a kid . Yet . We need a house and we need to save money . But she didn't want to lesson . And after that I find out she was texting one of her friends and she said to him I always want to have a kid with you because you are cute . Just tell me how you will feel in this situation if you where in my place 

[Going through 5,668]

Divorce her and move on.  As others have said already, there's nothing she can do to you immigration-wise.

[JFH 12,189]

6 hours ago, mark12345 said:

She did not bring me to USA . I was here with a work visa. I was legal . And she Mary me because we where in love .I was already in legal situation . I could just renew my work visa .but instat I married her but I told her that we are not ready to have a kid . Yet . We need a house and we need to save money . But she didn't want to lesson . And after that I find out she was texting one of her friends and she said to him I always want to have a kid with you because you are cute . Just tell me how you will feel in this situation if you where in my place 

Ok so she didn’t bring you here but the marriage to her gave you permanent status. Work visas are not permanent for the rest of your life.