VAWA, Part 13

[learned42 6]

Hello Everyone,

 

I'm new to this forum and looking for some support/guidance.

I am married to my wife for over 2 years, and it was a very struggling situation. She has a drug and alcohol abuse past and I thought that she would have been done with it, unfortunately, she wasn't and was getting aggressive and violent when she was under the influence. I wanted to call the cops multiple time but she always threatened me to call immigration on me and I didn't fully know my right back then so I always let it go.

 

Fast forward, we were in the process for my adjustment of status and had our interview date in December 2018. She left our house and disappeared 1 month before our interview and I went there by myself with my lawyer and got denied. The officer told me that he will reschedule my interview but a week later I received a letter of denial with 10 days to leave the country.

 

I contacted a lot of lawyers in Los Angeles and got multiple responses on what I can do next. Some lawyers were extremely uncompassionate and mean, saying that my case has zero chance because I didn't have a police report and it was a gay marriage.

After finding a nice law firm, I decided to file for VAWA, and my file sent with 5 witnesses statements and my 20-pages statement supported by a lot of pictures (bruises from multiple occasion), the evidence of our marriage for 2 years (pictures, lease, bank accounts, the LLC we own together, car insurance and title, and gym membership, receipt of trips we took together.) We also file for the I-485 simultaneity. 

 

I really took a hit with this whole situation really, I  don't want to stay married but I am so scared to divorce. I don't know where she is but I have the number of her brother. I am scared to stay living in our house because she and her family know the address. If I send the divorce paper to her parent's house (the only address I know where she might be) I am scared of them showing up. (Her parent are very traditionalist, and are homophobic and never accepted that their daughter was gay, also they are extremely wealthy and they have done things to covert for their daughter in the past that's the reason why I am afraid)

 

I wanted to know, did any of you ever been in this situation? Did you divorce during your VAWA process?

And How long before getting a response from USCIS  for your VAWA application on average in Los Angeles?

 

Thank you, everyone, I have been reading this forum and following your journey for a couple of months and decided to share mine

 

VAWA case received (I-797): 03/25/19

Biometric Document: 04/19/19 (I didn't have to redo my biometrics)

 

 

[Sandra G. 5,026]

18 hours ago, staypositive said:

Thank you for your answer Sandra. 

I don’t think they changed it with Vermont though. They contacted the local office to change the address and that’s the message I see when I log into my USCIS account.

Local office doesn’t change  the address they  just handle interview, It’s the Law.

[staypositive 51]

1 hour ago, learned42 said:

Hello Everyone,

 

I'm new to this forum and looking for some support/guidance.

I am married to my wife for over 2 years, and it was a very struggling situation. She has a drug and alcohol abuse past and I thought that she would have been done with it, unfortunately, she wasn't and was getting aggressive and violent when she was under the influence. I wanted to call the cops multiple time but she always threatened me to call immigration on me and I didn't fully know my right back then so I always let it go.

 

Fast forward, we were in the process for my adjustment of status and had our interview date in December 2018. She left our house and disappeared 1 month before our interview and I went there by myself with my lawyer and got denied. The officer told me that he will reschedule my interview but a week later I received a letter of denial with 10 days to leave the country.

 

I contacted a lot of lawyers in Los Angeles and got multiple responses on what I can do next. Some lawyers were extremely uncompassionate and mean, saying that my case has zero chance because I didn't have a police report and it was a gay marriage.

After finding a nice law firm, I decided to file for VAWA, and my file sent with 5 witnesses statements and my 20-pages statement supported by a lot of pictures (bruises from multiple occasion), the evidence of our marriage for 2 years (pictures, lease, bank accounts, the LLC we own together, car insurance and title, and gym membership, receipt of trips we took together.) We also file for the I-485 simultaneity. 

 

I really took a hit with this whole situation really, I  don't want to stay married but I am so scared to divorce. I don't know where she is but I have the number of her brother. I am scared to stay living in our house because she and her family know the address. If I send the divorce paper to her parent's house (the only address I know where she might be) I am scared of them showing up. (Her parent are very traditionalist, and are homophobic and never accepted that their daughter was gay, also they are extremely wealthy and they have done things to covert for their daughter in the past that's the reason why I am afraid)

 

I wanted to know, did any of you ever been in this situation? Did you divorce during your VAWA process?

And How long before getting a response from USCIS  for your VAWA application on average in Los Angeles?

 

Thank you, everyone, I have been reading this forum and following your journey for a couple of months and decided to share mine

 

VAWA case received (I-797): 03/25/19

Biometric Document: 04/19/19 (I didn't have to redo my biometrics)

 

 

I am sorry to hear what you had to go through. I think many of us have been in similar situations, that's what brought us all here together. Gay marriages are just as valid as straight marriages and do not lower your chances of approval. You can divorce her anytime you want, since you can file for VAWA up until 2 years after the divorce is finalized. I divorced my ex spouse while it was pending, and it took a long time to finally get finalized. Also, the VAWA wait times are the same everywhere, no matter where you live, since it gets processed by the Vermont Service Center and not the local office. It seems like you sent a bunch of good evidence for your case.

 

If I were you I would try to get away from that toxic situation, leave that house, stay with a friend or go to a shelter but I would not stay in a place where your wife or your in-laws can easily find you and harm you. I know that that is one of the hardest things to do. I have been there. Be safe and best of luck with everything.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

1 minute ago, sandranj said:

Local office doesn’t change  the address they  just handle interview, It’s the Law.

Thank you for clarifying Sandra!

Edited May 9, 2019 by staypositive

[Dharmaraj 81]

Hi Guys ,

Today i went to Green card interview in Raleigh/Durham  NC . They took just 10 min interview only , officer asked me few questions about my name , parents name  and spouse name . Last time entry and divorce certificate . Regular few questions. Later today evening i got the message says “your card being produced we will mail to your address “. I am so happy finally. And i pray everybody to get good news soon.

Thank you very much to VJ and members for their support.Thank you Sandra . God bless all .

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,565]

6 minutes ago, Dharmaraj said:

Hi Guys ,

Today i went to Green card interview in Raleigh/Durham  NC . They took just 10 min interview only , officer asked me few questions about my name , parents name  and spouse name . Last time entry and divorce certificate . Regular few questions. Later today evening i got the message says “your card being produced we will mail to your address “. I am so happy finally. And i pray everybody to get good news soon.

Thank you very much to VJ and members for their support.Thank you Sandra . God bless all .

Congratulations honey!😘😘😘 you did it! Yes!!!💪💪💪🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸 Praise be to the Lord most high! ✨🌟✨🌟✨🌟✨✨✨✨🌟✨

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,565]

3 hours ago, learned42 said:

Hello Everyone,

 

I'm new to this forum and looking for some support/guidance.

I am married to my wife for over 2 years, and it was a very struggling situation. She has a drug and alcohol abuse past and I thought that she would have been done with it, unfortunately, she wasn't and was getting aggressive and violent when she was under the influence. I wanted to call the cops multiple time but she always threatened me to call immigration on me and I didn't fully know my right back then so I always let it go.

 

Fast forward, we were in the process for my adjustment of status and had our interview date in December 2018. She left our house and disappeared 1 month before our interview and I went there by myself with my lawyer and got denied. The officer told me that he will reschedule my interview but a week later I received a letter of denial with 10 days to leave the country.

 

I contacted a lot of lawyers in Los Angeles and got multiple responses on what I can do next. Some lawyers were extremely uncompassionate and mean, saying that my case has zero chance because I didn't have a police report and it was a gay marriage.

After finding a nice law firm, I decided to file for VAWA, and my file sent with 5 witnesses statements and my 20-pages statement supported by a lot of pictures (bruises from multiple occasion), the evidence of our marriage for 2 years (pictures, lease, bank accounts, the LLC we own together, car insurance and title, and gym membership, receipt of trips we took together.) We also file for the I-485 simultaneity. 

 

I really took a hit with this whole situation really, I  don't want to stay married but I am so scared to divorce. I don't know where she is but I have the number of her brother. I am scared to stay living in our house because she and her family know the address. If I send the divorce paper to her parent's house (the only address I know where she might be) I am scared of them showing up. (Her parent are very traditionalist, and are homophobic and never accepted that their daughter was gay, also they are extremely wealthy and they have done things to covert for their daughter in the past that's the reason why I am afraid)

 

I wanted to know, did any of you ever been in this situation? Did you divorce during your VAWA process?

And How long before getting a response from USCIS  for your VAWA application on average in Los Angeles?

 

Thank you, everyone, I have been reading this forum and following your journey for a couple of months and decided to share mine

 

VAWA case received (I-797): 03/25/19

Biometric Document: 04/19/19 (I didn't have to redo my biometrics)

 

 

You'll be fine! I've read your story through and through! Good thing you filed already and you're using an attorney! You seem to have a case..same sex marriage is recognised and doesn't make your chances slim in any way! You should be concerned on your safety now and what lies ahead! Vawa takes quite some time..but surprisingly some cases go faster than others! Let's hope yours goes smoothly without any bump. I wish you all the best and be patient..your day will come!😊

[Dharmaraj 81]

33 minutes ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

Congratulations honey!😘😘😘 you did it! Yes!!!💪💪💪🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸 Praise be to the Lord most high! ✨🌟✨🌟✨🌟✨✨✨✨🌟✨

Thank you very much 

[Stillwinning!!!😊 4,565]

3 minutes ago, Dharmaraj said:

Thank you very much 

You're welcome😊

[FavouredOne 51]

2 hours ago, Dharmaraj said:

Hi Guys ,

Today i went to Green card interview in Raleigh/Durham  NC . They took just 10 min interview only , officer asked me few questions about my name , parents name  and spouse name . Last time entry and divorce certificate . Regular few questions. Later today evening i got the message says “your card being produced we will mail to your address “. I am so happy finally. And i pray everybody to get good news soon.

Thank you very much to VJ and members for their support.Thank you Sandra . God bless all .

Congratulations

[Trizzle 194]

3 hours ago, Dharmaraj said:

Hi Guys ,

Today i went to Green card interview in Raleigh/Durham  NC . They took just 10 min interview only , officer asked me few questions about my name , parents name  and spouse name . Last time entry and divorce certificate . Regular few questions. Later today evening i got the message says “your card being produced we will mail to your address “. I am so happy finally. And i pray everybody to get good news soon.

Thank you very much to VJ and members for their support.Thank you Sandra . God bless all .

Congratulations 

[escape 91]

3 hours ago, Dharmaraj said:

Hi Guys ,

Today i went to Green card interview in Raleigh/Durham  NC . They took just 10 min interview only , officer asked me few questions about my name , parents name  and spouse name . Last time entry and divorce certificate . Regular few questions. Later today evening i got the message says “your card being produced we will mail to your address “. I am so happy finally. And i pray everybody to get good news soon.

Thank you very much to VJ and members for their support.Thank you Sandra . God bless all .

That’s fantastic news! Congratulations 🎉🎊 Getting the card being produced notification on the same day was extra awesome!

[Over come 50]

4 hours ago, Dharmaraj said:

Hi Guys ,

Today i went to Green card interview in Raleigh/Durham  NC . They took just 10 min interview only , officer asked me few questions about my name , parents name  and spouse name . Last time entry and divorce certificate . Regular few questions. Later today evening i got the message says “your card being produced we will mail to your address “. I am so happy finally. And i pray everybody to get good news soon.

Thank you very much to VJ and members for their support.Thank you Sandra . God bless all .

Congrats! The wait is over 😊 all the best in your new chapter. I believe we all will receive good news very soon.

[FridayGirl@69 318]

7 hours ago, Dharmaraj said:

Hi Guys ,

Today i went to Green card interview in Raleigh/Durham  NC . They took just 10 min interview only , officer asked me few questions about my name , parents name  and spouse name . Last time entry and divorce certificate . Regular few questions. Later today evening i got the message says “your card being produced we will mail to your address “. I am so happy finally. And i pray everybody to get good news soon.

Thank you very much to VJ and members for their support.Thank you Sandra . God bless all .

Awesome! You did it!!! So happy for you 🥳🇺🇸💫 wishing you a brighter and peaceful journey 😘

[Dharmaraj 81]

10 hours ago, FavouredOne said:

Congratulations

Thank you

9 hours ago, Trizzle said:

Congratulations 

Thank you

[Dharmaraj 81]

9 hours ago, escape said:

That’s fantastic news! Congratulations 🎉🎊 Getting the card being produced notification on the same day was extra awesome!

Thank you

9 hours ago, escape said:

That’s fantastic news! Congratulations 🎉🎊 Getting the card being produced notification on the same day was extra awesome!

Thank you