Baby shower

[JFH 12,189]

As often happens on public forums, people confuse the answers they didn’t want to hear with rudeness. If you don’t want anyone to disagree with you, don’t ask in public. 

 

And then we always get one who accuses everyone of being “rude” whilst throwing personal insults at the very ones they are accusing of being rude! Hilarious!

[SusieQQQ 11,584]

13 minutes ago, Nazokat said:

Thanks for true support in this topic. Yes, maybe most of these ppl think that I want my mom immigrate here through B2 visa but I just don’t want to explain or defend myself in front of rude ones. If I really want her live here I can do it in 1.5 years as long as I’ll get my citizenship by that time and can apply for her green card. I don’t need anyone from my family living in US illegal actually neither do they. 

 

 

Who said that? You appear to have been confused with what you think people said, with the very solid advice about the LAW that visa officers have to assume all applicants have immigrant intent until proven otherwise.  

 

 

[debbiedoo 2,339]

56 minutes ago, Nazokat said:

Thanks for true support in this topic. Yes, maybe most of these ppl think that I want my mom immigrate here through B2 visa but I just don’t want to explain or defend myself in front of rude ones. If I really want her live here I can do it in 1.5 years as long as I’ll get my citizenship by that time and can apply for her green card. I don’t need anyone from my family living in US illegal actually neither do they. 

But it’s ok. There’s always someone who think they are better and smarter than us. It just shows they true behavior and face. 

I appreciate, decent advice to my question but never arrogants. 

I’ll update her interview. 

 

i dont think any of us think she wants to or intends to immigrate. but the consulate very likely WILL (and a denial rate of over 50% PROVES that) and THAT is who your mother's battle is with. 

 

and sunny whatever your name is - my husband was a useless piece of garbage. he never changed a single diaper or got up once in the middle of the night. yes, very very supportive. And i worked full time and went to school full time. But keep on thinking whatever you will.

 

There is a difference between being honest and forthright and putting false hope in people. I'd rather give worst case scenarios and have them prepare as much as they can and HOPE for the best than tell someone that 'love is all you need', 'god will make everything okay' or whatever false mantra or make-believe deity suits folks that day, to make them think everything is all roses and unicorns.

 

I get she wants her mom there. i hope she DOES get her tourist visa. I DO. but the facts are the facts and it will be an uphill battle that STATISTICALLY it wont happen. 

 

As I said in a previous post, she needs to take every single bit of evidence that strongly ties her to her country to her interview and submit with her package. THAT will be her BEST bet of getting approved.  And that is all ANY OF US (who live in the land of reality) are saying.

[MacUK 983]

1 hour ago, Nazokat said:

Thanks for true support in this topic. Yes, maybe most of these ppl think that I want my mom immigrate here through B2 visa but I just don’t want to explain or defend myself in front of rude ones. If I really want her live here I can do it in 1.5 years as long as I’ll get my citizenship by that time and can apply for her green card. I don’t need anyone from my family living in US illegal actually neither do they. 

But it’s ok. There’s always someone who think they are better and smarter than us. It just shows they true behavior and face. 

I appreciate, decent advice to my question but never arrogants. 

I’ll update her interview. 

 

Nobody here has any concerns about your mother wanting to immigrate, it doesn't matter what anyone on here thinks.

What matters is what the CO at the embassy thinks, and they WILL think that your mother wants to immigrate. They have to, it's the law.

It's up to your mother to convince them that she only wants to visit and will return home.

People telling you the truth when it's not what you want to hear doesn't mean they're being rude, they're trying to help.

You're focusing on why you want your mother to visit, because you've heard people say that helps.

It doesn't help, if anything it hurts your mothers chances as a newborn grandchild is a reason for her to overstay.

What you need to focus on is reasons why you're mother will go home. The embassy doesn't care why people want to visit, they only care that they'll go home again afterwards.

Family ties, social ties, employment, property, responsibilities at home, anything that can convince the officer that she has more reasons to go home than reasons to stay in the U.S.

 

 

1 hour ago, AR&JG said:

OMG why people has to be so rude and harsh? People come here in look for advice and answers to some of their questions, no for people to judge them because they want their mom in this important time of their life. Maybe they cant afford profesional help @JFH,, and congrats @Sunnyland to be able to handle two surgeries with no support,  @debbiedoo two kids and no help good for you and your husband.

But guess what? Not everybody is like you. And @Roel just because you've been Reading stuff from people for years that doesnt give you the right to make fun of the ones we don't know that much.  I've been a silent lurker in this forum for a long time, but seriously guys someone has to tell something about your attitude. So advice not asked, look at yourself and pour a Little of humble into you. You are only making people afraid to ask questions (THATS THE FORUM FOR) because of the backlash. Or do I have to remember that not too long ago we were on the same position than this people asking this kind of questions?

 

And @Nazokat make sure your mom brings proof to the interview that she'll go back home (properties bank account), purpose of travel? her daughter will have a baby and she wants to meet the baby. That simple and she should be fine. Wish you the best and I hope she can be with you when your baby is born, please keep us updated.  

 

Nobody here has been rude, all people have done is try to help someone with the truth rather than just tell them what they want to hear.

If it seems anyone has been harsh it's because the OP seems intent on ignoring anything that doesn't fit into what they want to believe.

Most of the most helpful comments here have been to inform the OP of provable, definite facts only to have the OP keep clinging on to some hope that their U.S. embassy somehow has different rules than all of the others and approves visas under different criteria than the written law.

 

Being honest and truthful may sometimes be harsh, but it's not rude.

I'd rather people give me the blunt truth while trying to help me than let me make mistakes to protect my delicate feelings.

[Sunnyland 639]

2 hours ago, debbiedoo said:

i dont think any of us think she wants to or intends to immigrate. but the consulate very likely WILL (and a denial rate of over 50% PROVES that) and THAT is who your mother's battle is with. 

 

and sunny whatever your name is - my husband was a useless piece of garbage. he never changed a single diaper or got up once in the middle of the night. yes, very very supportive. And i worked full time and went to school full time. But keep on thinking whatever you will.

 

There is a difference between being honest and forthright and putting false hope in people. I'd rather give worst case scenarios and have them prepare as much as they can and HOPE for the best than tell someone that 'love is all you need', 'god will make everything okay' or whatever false mantra or make-believe deity suits folks that day, to make them think everything is all roses and unicorns.

 

I get she wants her mom there. i hope she DOES get her tourist visa. I DO. but the facts are the facts and it will be an uphill battle that STATISTICALLY it wont happen. 

 

As I said in a previous post, she needs to take every single bit of evidence that strongly ties her to her country to her interview and submit with her package. THAT will be her BEST bet of getting approved.  And that is all ANY OF US (who live in the land of reality) are saying.

 

 

@debbiedoo. Are you referring to me? I think maybe you are confusing me with someone else LOL. I never gave the OP false hope. Read my post again. What do you mean by "Keep thinking on whatever I will"???

I'm sorry your husband was not helpful with a child. We don't have children yet and we may never have them unfortunately but all I can say is that my husband was a great support during my 2 surgeries and even took time off work and that is what I expect from the person that I love and loves me. My husband does not have experience with baby diapers but he can for sure change diapers on a senior dog with health issues so that is a good sign I believe. 

 

OP. If you mother happens to get her tourist visa approved it will be because the consular officer thinks she has strong ties to her country, not because your became pregnant and need emotional and/or physical support.

An embassy does not run a charity organization. You are not sick. You are just pregnant. If the embassies around the world were approving visas to mothers just because their daughters got pregnant then that would be plain discrimination to the rest of applicants that don't have  a pregnant daughter to go to visit. Strong ties to her country will give your mom a visa. Not your pregnancy.

 

We all like to have our mothers near in important events but sometimes it can't just happen for many reasons. Like I mentioned in a previous post my mom was not able to visit me while recovering from my past surgeries but I DID have my husband that was enough. Let your mother show strong ties during her interview and maybe she will get approved.

Sometimes letters from doctors stating a pregnancy makes more harm than favor. I would leave that letter out.  

Edited September 3, 2018 by Sunnyland

[debbiedoo 2,339]

1 minute ago, Sunnyland said:

 

 

@debbiedoo. Are you referring to me? I think maybe you are confusing me with someone else LOL. I never gave the OP false hope. Read my post again. What do you mean by "Keep thinking on whatever I will"???

I'm sorry your husband was not helpful with a child. We don't have children yet and we may never have them unfortunately but all I can say is that my husband was a great support during my 2 surgeries and even took time off work and that is what I expect from the person that I love and loves me. My husband does not have experience with baby diapers but he can for sure change diapers on a senior dog with health issues so that is a good sign I believe. 

 

OP. If you mother happens to get her tourist visa approved it will be because the consular officer thinks she has strong ties to her country, not because your became pregnant and need emotional and/or physical support.

An embassy does not run a charity organization. You are not sick. You are just pregnant. If the embassies around the world were approving visas to mothers just because their daughters got pregnant then that would be plain discrimination to the rest of applicants that don't have  a pregnant daughter to go to visit. Strong ties to her country will give your mom a visa. Not your pregnancy.

 

We all like to have our mothers near in important events but sometimes it can't just happen for many reasons. Like I mentioned in a previous post my mom was not able to visit me while recovering from my past surgeries but I DID have my husband that was enough. Let your mother show strong ties during her interview and maybe she will get approved.

Sometimes letters from doctors stating a pregnancy makes more harm than favor. I would leave that letter out.  

my apologies if i got wrong person LOLOLOL or maybe i took something the wrong way. it happens sometimes and I didnt (still dont lol) care enough to go back in search of a post to figure out where i screwed up (if i cant laugh at myself i cant laugh at anyone else lololol )

 

 

[Ryan H 3,791]

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***Since this thread is starting to degrade into back and forth bickering, it will remain locked to additional discussion.  OP is free to start a new thread with an update.***

Edited September 3, 2018 by Ryan H