USCIS Background check in aliens country for K1 visa

[Going through 5,668]

You have another thread on this from a couple of weeks ago and already got some answers there about background checks, your parents, and your address situation...

 

 

Edited September 29, 2017 by Going through

[LionessDeon 2,060]

47 minutes ago, vchvishnu said:

Hi @EandH0904 do they enquire to my family about our relationship 

Sometimes.  A read a post recently about someone who just got denied for that reason.  You need to tell them.  You will have to anyway if you leave for USA to be with her.

[vchvishnu 0]

1 hour ago, Going through said:

You have another thread on this from a couple of weeks ago and already got some answers there about background checks, your parents, and your address situation...

 

 

I know, but still I'm not clear that they will check with family. I'm not getting a correct solution. I have no one to help there other than filing this. But I don't want to make my family feel like I didn't obey them. That's why I'm trying to do it like this. This doesn't means that I didn't love her or anything. I just want to move forward with no problems and have a happy life. Please help me 

[Going through 5,668]

1 minute ago, vchvishnu said:

I know, but still I'm not clear that they will check with family. I'm not getting a correct solution. I have no one to help there other than filing this. But I don't want to make my family feel like I didn't obey them. That's why I'm trying to do it like this. This doesn't means that I didn't love her or anything. I just want to move forward with no problems and have a happy life. Please help me 

No one can guarantee that you won't have any problems whatsoever with your application.

It is best that you tell your family beforehand about your situation (and I know that is easier said than done), because if you don't---and it DOES come up that they don't know about it---it can raise suspicion that your relationship is fraudulent, along with the red flags you already have.

 

Eventually, you are going to have to tell them anyway since you are planning on living in the US...(as advised above in this thread)  Many couples face parental disapproval---in the end you have to follow your heart, because you need to live your own life not the life your parents wish for you.  I do understand about familial relationships in India, and how difficult it can be for you right now, and I do wish you the best because I know you feel torn between your parents and your girlfriend. 

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[amul 229]

On 9/29/2017 at 8:01 AM, vchvishnu said:

I know, but still I'm not clear that they will check with family. I'm not getting a correct solution. I have no one to help there other than filing this. But I don't want to make my family feel like I didn't obey them. That's why I'm trying to do it like this. This doesn't means that I didn't love her or anything. I just want to move forward with no problems and have a happy life. Please help me 

So we did not file a K1, rather went with a CR-1 (spousal visa), but here is our experience.

 

We too did not have family support at the time of filing and really just went with the flow hoping everything would go our way. We were lucky. 

 

First, you will need a police certificate (PCC)! My hubby is from Ghaziabad and after he filed for his PCC, he had two inquiries:

1. One from his local police station
2. One from the LIU office

The local police station inquiry was on the phone and the guy from the LIU department  just showed up at his home for an interview one morning and his Mother was home too and witnessed the interview! No calls, no appointments, just knocked on the door early am!

 

Secondly, he did get mail at his parent's address (since he lived at home like you) from USCIS! So, be prepared for snail mail!

 

Do you have any major red flags? Such as her being older than you? If she is within your age group, I highly suggest you finding the strength to involve your parents. I also suggest that you go for a spousal visa vs K1. Get married, involve your family, have a Hindu ceremony and then file your petition.

 

My best to you and your girlfriend. 

[amul 229]

On 9/29/2017 at 6:46 AM, vchvishnu said:

Hi @EandH0904 do they enquire to my family about our relationship 

@vchvishnu He did not have this happen, but that does not mean it won't happen to you! In India, anything is possible, so no one here can offer any guarantees sadly. 

 

My motto is be prepared, but keep moving ahead.  

[geowrian 22,335]

You will need to submit a police clearance + other paperwork. There's no requirement that your parents signoff or are informed about anything (assuming you're of age), nor that they approve of any relationship. That said, they could conduct a field investigation where they ask family members or neighbors questions. If they don't know about your fiance, it will raise suspicion of fraud (plus the family would probably know what's going on at that point). Field investigations are quite uncommon, but it is possible.

[vchvishnu 0]

@geowrian@amulWhat do you suggest me to do. I don't think I can involve my family into this at this point of time. But my family has no problem if I'm migrating to any other countries as they are also aware that I want to move somewhere.. Or is there anyone who can help me to get a job or something... There are so many problems happening between us too bcz of my situation and I feel like I'm cheating her.. My situation is pathetic.. There is no other way I think other than migrating illegaly or kill myself 

[BuiQuang 95]

7 hours ago, vchvishnu said:

@geowrian@amulWhat do you suggest me to do. I don't think I can involve my family into this at this point of time. But my family has no problem if I'm migrating to any other countries as they are also aware that I want to move somewhere.. Or is there anyone who can help me to get a job or something... There are so many problems happening between us too bcz of my situation and I feel like I'm cheating her.. My situation is pathetic.. There is no other way I think other than migrating illegaly or kill myself 

this is the problem.  u want to migrate illegally or kill yourself.  you r so desperate to come to the US.  if you don't prepare proper case, you will look desperate to US embassy.  you hide from your familiy, you make it look desperate.  u need to work on building strong case cuz u don't have one right now.  u apply now, you will never get approve if they think u desperate and use US citizen for visa.

Edited October 1, 2017 by BuiQuang

[vchvishnu 0]

@BuiQuang then what else i can do ...i feel like im cheating on her and i cant tell my parents too and there is no one to help also to get me there in any other way. i dont know how much u can understand me but the situation is pathetic & more than that i cant see her this sad

Edited October 4, 2017 by vchvishnu

[Lemonslice 4,555]

21 minutes ago, vchvishnu said:

@BuiQuang then what else i can do ...i feel like im cheating on her and i cant tell my parents too and there is no one to help also to get me there in any other way. i dont know how much u can understand me but the situation is pathetic & more than that i cant see her this sad

Slow down, start by meeting her in person and see how it feels to be together... You're worrying about step #257, when you are at step #2.

 

Why do you feel like you're cheating on her?

[vchvishnu 0]

@Lemonslice im feeling helpless to tell all these situations to my parents and on the other end im making her sad because of this reason . Im the one who is causing all the trouble in this relation

Edited October 6, 2017 by vchvishnu

[BuiQuang 95]

3 hours ago, vchvishnu said:

@Lemonslice im feeling helpless to tell all these situations to my parents and on the other end im making her sad because of this reason . Im the one who is causing all the trouble in this relation

be a man.  don't be a boy.  be a man.  tell ur parents.  

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as u say.  u r the one causing all the trouble and making her sad.  job of husband is to fix that.  job of husband is to be man. not child to his parent forever.

 

if a man can not make his wife happy and always afraid of his parent for life, his wife will never be happy

[amul 229]

On 10/6/2017 at 5:42 AM, vchvishnu said:

@Lemonslice im feeling helpless to tell all these situations to my parents and on the other end im making her sad because of this reason . Im the one who is causing all the trouble in this relation

For folks not familiar with conservative Indian families, it’s easier to face the grim reaper than face your parents when giving news such as these. It ain’t easy taking on your family when family is all you are taught you have!

 

So saying that he needs to “man up” isn’t gonna help a conservative Indian young man about to marry a white western woman whom he met online. 

 

OP,  your American girlfriend is used to a different life when it comes to dating and marriage. Keeping your special someone hidden from family is very rare amongst Americans, hence why she might voice her concerns or disappointment. 

 

Is your family caste oriented? Or very traditional (conservative) Indians? I’m thinking that you aren’t a Sikh as they tend to be very open minded and  supportive of their kids. Still, you might have one person in your family that can offer you patience and understanding. Think...an Aunty or your Bua (Aunt) perhaps?

 

We had zero support in the beginning and now 3 people in his family accepted his choice. 

 

Also, I can’t recall if this was mentioned -  have you and your girlfriend met face to face yet?

 

 

Edited October 9, 2017 by amul