im married to a crazy woman i need help

[LadyDi 3]

Jealousy is hard to deal with...

If you love your woman, talk to her.

First of all, tell her that you love her and you do not want nobody else. Tell her that it is overwhelming, when she act like this in public place. Tell her if you would like to be with another woman - you could do this long time ago, but if you are staying with her - this means something. Explain that she does not have to worry, because you love her. Jealousy ruins your relationship. Tell her more often that you love her.

Good luck!

[Darnell 8,478]

i have been married with my wife for 5 years now and i have 10 years green card and i have one problem is my wife i love her so much but she drive me crazy and the problems we have is

she is so jealous she dont trust me and i never cheat in my life the problem is i love to workout but its drive my wife crazy how girls dress at the gym and if a girl workout close to me she will come to me and tell me u need to change the spot i dont want y husband close to those bitches if i say that not good you not suppose to insult them they are free to wear what they want and she tell me you defend them because you like to look at them and i cant even watch tv how i want i cant watch shows have women wearing cloths show their body she come to my job to see who is working with me and she accuse me of me talking to the girls at my work and i said sometime because we work at the same job and she accuse me of cheating and we always fight i don't know what to do i hate this married i wish i never married this American woman i love her that why im so confused right now leave or stay im lost i need advices please

sorry i dont know where im suppose to write this but i really need help im getting crazy

would she be less crazy-actiing

if

you went to an all-male gym ?

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[thatangela 134]

Could you find a men only gym?

Perhaps changing your gym is in order. If she is uncomfortable and jealous then if you care about her it would be helpful to work through it with her. Jealousy is very hard to deal with. But it sound like she is feeling insecure and would like some reassurance from you even though she isn't using those words.

Politely disagree.

Is this something we would tell a woman who was under the pressure of a jealous man? To change everything she does to please him? I'm guessing no.

EDIT: Just read through and saw others say the same thing. Apologies for being repetitive.

Edited February 4, 2015 by thatangela

[Al422 221]

If you want to save the marriage and she will not go to counseling, then you go yourself and recevie professional advice on how to handle her and possibly learn how to persuade her to go to counseling too.

[Yuri S 4]

i have been married with my wife for 5 years now and i have 10 years green card and i have one problem is my wife i love her so much but she drive me crazy and the problems we have is

she is so jealous she dont trust me and i never cheat in my life the problem is i love to workout but its drive my wife crazy how girls dress at the gym and if a girl workout close to me she will come to me and tell me u need to change the spot i dont want y husband close to those bitches if i say that not good you not suppose to insult them they are free to wear what they want and she tell me you defend them because you like to look at them and i cant even watch tv how i want i cant watch shows have women wearing cloths show their body she come to my job to see who is working with me and she accuse me of me talking to the girls at my work and i said sometime because we work at the same job and she accuse me of cheating and we always fight i don't know what to do i hate this married i wish i never married this American woman i love her that why im so confused right now leave or stay im lost i need advices please

sorry i dont know where im suppose to write this but i really need help im getting crazy

If you really love your wife, talk to her. ANd work out at home. invest in the stuff you need so you wont go out. Talk to her and make her feel secure that you are not like her ex husband. And dont go looking at other girls! that is not cool at all. I bet if your woman do the same you would be jealous too. I also had this issue with my fiance who is now my husband because I had a terrible experience before. It was not easy to trust. It had taken my self confidence a lot. IS your wife sexy and pretty? it seems like her insecurity is too much. You have to make her feel good about herself. And tell her that girls on Tv wont replace her ! It is just a tv show.

[ExPatty 502]

Politely disagree.

Is this something we would tell a woman who was under the pressure of a jealous man? To change everything she does to please him? I'm guessing no.

EDIT: Just read through and saw others say the same thing. Apologies for being repetitive.

THIS X 1000. If a woman came on here complaining that her jealous husband had compelled her to work out at a women-only gym because he was jealous of her looking at guys we'd all see it glaringly for the problem it is with him. His changing gyms is merely enabling her problem to persist.

[Limey 550]

If these women are checking you out at the gym its rude to ignore them. Fill your boots my friend! Its selfish of your wife to expect to have such a good looking man like you to herself.

[thatangela 134]

It is no one's job to make another person feel good about herself. Self-esteem comes from within.

[RoJ10 18]

I guess people should stop judging the wife or the one who's seeking help. The best that he could do is talk to his wife. If he doesn't know what else he could do, then counseling is always right around the corner. Even you're saying that your wife won't agree of taking her in counseling I guess you shouldn't stop there trying. If like what you said that you still love her but you're under too much pressure because of jealousy then you shouldn't stop there.

And second, it's not always or not really a solution to just to agree of her agreements because of jealousy. Let's be quite transparent here, not unless she'll exterminate all the woman in the world then the solution in her problem is solved. What I'm trying to point out here is, try to make her understand that it's pointless to make you not engaged with women. Because if you're really have a desire to cheat then you could have done it long time ago. Make her understand that the way she's treating you is not going to do any better but pushing you on the edge of your patience.

Try to settle your issues with her. It's better that you should consider her feelings and reasons as well. The best way to solve this is understanding. Let her feel that she's loved. Maybe you're lacking of showing intimacy with her. I never meant to judge but women are too emotional as what other people had suggested and that is totally true.

You're married for 5 years and maybe your intimacy level is not already the same as before. Try to remember how you two was before marriage or a year after marriage. It can give you a hint where to start.

[Marco&Bettina 502]

If these women are checking you out at the gym its rude to ignore them. Fill your boots my friend! Its selfish of your wife to expect to have such a good looking man like you to herself.

. Luckily I can interpret sarcasm.

[Kolewenoik31 57]

Kawaiijackie,

I agree with you. He has been married for 5 years, he knows his wife and what makes her tick. Again look at it from another perspective. Woman now a days can be very flirtatious and so can the man. Sometimes its unknown to the persons doing it other times its not until it has gone way beyond a certain point. Now Op I am not accusing you of flirting but if you have a nice body and wear tight fitting work out cloths then I can see why she may be insecure or concerned. Also we don't have her side of the story before we can just tell a man to leave his wife. They have built 5 years together. What went on in these years? Why is it driving him crazy now? My recommendation will still be to sit her down and talk things over with her. If you love her as you say you do. I am sure she loves you as well. Be sensitive to her needs and maybe work out a plan to build her up. Take her out more, go out on dates. Cheer her up, that's what is suppose to happen in the first year of marriage anyway. All your attention should be given to her. After 5 years I am sure the things that you did to get her due to busy life here in the US you may have forgotten. Rekindle that flame, remember what caused you to fall in love with her in the first place.

[Kolewenoik31 57]

OP here is a book called "Created to be His Help meet" By Debi Pearl It is a book directed at woman but there are some good examples of missionary stories in there. The principles are there for anyone.

Edited February 5, 2015 by Kolewenoik31

[JayJayH 546]

i have been married with my wife for 5 years now and i have 10 years green card and i have one problem is my wife i love her so much but she drive me crazy and the problems we have is

she is so jealous she dont trust me and i never cheat in my life the problem is i love to workout but its drive my wife crazy how girls dress at the gym and if a girl workout close to me she will come to me and tell me u need to change the spot i dont want y husband close to those bitches if i say that not good you not suppose to insult them they are free to wear what they want and she tell me you defend them because you like to look at them and i cant even watch tv how i want i cant watch shows have women wearing cloths show their body she come to my job to see who is working with me and she accuse me of me talking to the girls at my work and i said sometime because we work at the same job and she accuse me of cheating and we always fight i don't know what to do i hate this married i wish i never married this American woman i love her that why im so confused right now leave or stay im lost i need advices please

sorry i dont know where im suppose to write this but i really need help im getting crazy

No trust = No happy marriage.

No happy marriage = No happiness.

No happiness.. Either work on it, and if she's unwilling or unable, leave. Divorce, start over, move on.

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