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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: United Kingdom
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We have done the long distance thing many times over the last 5 years but this time (and not having any control) things are the hardest they have ever been and I feel like giving up.

Things have got very strained at the moment (to the point of breakdown) and don't know if we can carry on like this without having any concrete idea when at least the NOA2 might come. I know people are going to say its 6 months but really its impossible to tell where TSC is at currently. Knowing that would give some hope.

We are in the 5th month at TSC, and now i know the Processing times on VJ are pretty much useless who knows where TSC are right now. Does anyone out there have any idea

where TSC are at?

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You should feel grateful you are still waiting for over 5 months. Imagine another couples who had to struggle like this: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/521117-approved-refiled-k1-stokes-5-year-journey-over/

I am not trying to make you feel bad. But at least in five years of relationship I believe you have already met your fiance(e) many times. Imagine those who can't have the privilege to visit the US. Just like my husband and I only have met once because I got refused for a tourist visa and was very difficult for my husband to get permission to travel for security reason since he's serving in the military. We had been in five-year-relationship as well before my husband filed I-129F for me.


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It doesn't matter how slow you go as long as you don't stop

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*Mailed I-751 package (06/21/2017) to CSC

*NOA-1 date (06/23/2017)

*NOA-1 received (06/28/2017)

*Check cashed (06/27/2017)

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: England
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We had to wait 7 months for our NOA2 and it was awful, some people have a lot worse deal than that. The not knowing was the worst thing but as soon as we got our NOA2 it was like a lead weight was lifted off us. Hang in there and when your approval comes this'll all seem like a bad dream!


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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Mexico
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We have done the long distance thing many times over the last 5 years but this time (and not having any control) things are the hardest they have ever been and I feel like giving up.

Things have got very strained at the moment (to the point of breakdown) and don't know if we can carry on like this without having any concrete idea when at least the NOA2 might come. I know people are going to say its 6 months but really its impossible to tell where TSC is at currently. Knowing that would give some hope.

We are in the 5th month at TSC, and now i know the Processing times on VJ are pretty much useless who knows where TSC are right now. Does anyone out there have any idea

where TSC are at?

Are you not able to see each other? I know it is expensive, but visiting each other every 3 months or so would help the process and keep the relationship fresh in my opinion. If you don't have the funds, I suggest borrowing money from someone or taking out a small, low-interest loan to finance the trip. It would be money well spent.


K1 Visa Event Date Service Center : Texas Service Center Transferred? No Consulate : Juarez, Mexico

I-129F: Sent 9/5/2014

I-129F: Arrived at Lewisville 9/8/2014

I-129F: NOA1 Text message/mail 9/11/2014

I-129F: Alien Registration Number Changed 9/16/2014

I-129F: Request to correct on document or notice assigned to an officer for response 10/25/2014

I-129F: Name Change request made 10/31/2014

I-129F: Crickets as of today

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We have been in a relationship for close to 8 years now. When we finally decided to do the immigration process back in 2011, we did the K1 and were denied. We were devastated and tried again as married, 2 years later my spouse was able to come with a spouse visa.

Long distance relationships aren't easy at all, and anyone who says they are is lying. Plus the US government makes it much more difficult than it has to be so I completely understand your frustration.

But you have to remember that relationships involve commitment and sacrifice, if you're not willing to do that for each other then you both have to make that decision now and save yourselves the heartbreak. Good luck and I hope you work things out.

Edited by Ian H.

This does not constitute legal advice.

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: Mexico
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We have been in a relationship for close to 8 years now. When we finally decided to do the immigration process back in 2011, we did the K1 and were denied. We were devastated and tried again as married, 2 years later my spouse was able to come with a spouse visa.

Long distance relationships aren't easy at all, and anyone who says they are is lying. Plus the US government makes it much more difficult than it has to be so I completely understand your frustration.

But you have to remember that relationships involve commitment and sacrifice, if you're not willing to do that for each other then you both have to make that decision now and save yourselves the heartbreak. Good luck and I hope you work things out.

jesus christ. sorry man. why were you denied in the first place? i am afraid of a denial; however, I wonder if your case had any issues that made them take that unfortunate decision.

To the OP, you are near the finish line. Don't give up as you are almost finished.


K1 Visa Event Date Service Center : Texas Service Center Transferred? No Consulate : Juarez, Mexico

I-129F: Sent 9/5/2014

I-129F: Arrived at Lewisville 9/8/2014

I-129F: NOA1 Text message/mail 9/11/2014

I-129F: Alien Registration Number Changed 9/16/2014

I-129F: Request to correct on document or notice assigned to an officer for response 10/25/2014

I-129F: Name Change request made 10/31/2014

I-129F: Crickets as of today

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Kenya
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This is not an easy process, I remember feeling helpless at every stage and exited at the end of each stage. You feel like a yoyo...up and down. The process consumes your every day life, you sleep thinking about it and wake up thinking about it...it can break you if you let it. Everyone has a different way of managing stress, some join a Gym, or a cooking class, or take a new hobby or other things but you must find a way to get through it. I know it's hard but you see it can be done. We have all been there and survived and so WILL YOU. Good Luck!


K1 - Filed March 2011

- Denied March 13, 2012

- Placed in AP March 14,2012

- Sent back to USCIS November 2012

- Expired March 2013

WASTED A YEAR FIGHTING THE DENIEL

MARRIED MARCH 15, 2013

1-130 Approved 3/3/2014 :-)

Finally made it home 3/18/2014

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Filed: Citizen (pnd) Country: China
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Never give up on true love.


2014-05-12 I-129F Mailed
2014-05-21 NOA1:
2014-05-29 (ARN) Alien Registration Number
2014-08-11 Transfer (TSC to CSC)
2014-09-23 RFE:
2014-11-04 Denial of I-129f :cry:
2014-11-25 Married in Zhengzhou, Henan, China! (L):luv:
2015-01-08 I-130 Mailed (FedEx)
2015-01-12 I-130 Received by Chicago lockbox
2015-01-15 I-130 Check cleared bank
2015-01-13 I-130 NOA1 (Nebraska)
2015-04-17 I-130 NOA2 :dancing:
2015-04-20 Sent to NVC
2015-04-23 Received by NVC

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Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Russia
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We have done the long distance thing many times over the last 5 years but this time (and not having any control) things are the hardest they have ever been and I feel like giving up.

Things have got very strained at the moment (to the point of breakdown) and don't know if we can carry on like this without having any concrete idea when at least the NOA2 might come. I know people are going to say its 6 months but really its impossible to tell where TSC is at currently. Knowing that would give some hope.

We are in the 5th month at TSC, and now i know the Processing times on VJ are pretty much useless who knows where TSC are right now. Does anyone out there have any idea

where TSC are at?

Plan on 10 months and then you'll be overjoyed when it comes sooner.


Phil (Lockport, near Chicago) and Alla (Lobnya, near Moscow)

As of Dec 7, 2009, now Zero miles apart (literally)!

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Ecuador
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*** Thread moved from K-1 Process forum to the K-1 Case Progress subforum. ***


06-04-2007 = TSC stamps postal return-receipt for I-129f.

06-11-2007 = NOA1 date (unknown to me).

07-20-2007 = Phoned Immigration Officer; got WAC#; where's NOA1?

09-25-2007 = Touch (first-ever).

09-28-2007 = NOA1, 23 days after their 45-day promise to send it (grrrr).

10-20 & 11-14-2007 = Phoned ImmOffs; "still pending."

12-11-2007 = 180 days; file is "between workstations, may be early Jan."; touches 12/11 & 12/12.

12-18-2007 = Call; file is with Division 9 ofcr. (bckgrnd check); e-prompt to shake it; touch.

12-19-2007 = NOA2 by e-mail & web, dated 12-18-07 (187 days; 201 per VJ); in mail 12/24/07.

01-09-2008 = File from USCIS to NVC, 1-4-08; NVC creates file, 1/15/08; to consulate 1/16/08.

01-23-2008 = Consulate gets file; outdated Packet 4 mailed to fiancee 1/27/08; rec'd 3/3/08.

04-29-2008 = Fiancee's 4-min. consular interview, 8:30 a.m.; much evidence brought but not allowed to be presented (consul: "More proof! Second interview! Bring your fiance!").

05-05-2008 = Infuriating $12 call to non-English-speaking consulate appointment-setter.

05-06-2008 = Better $12 call to English-speaker; "joint" interview date 6/30/08 (my selection).

06-30-2008 = Stokes Interrogations w/Ecuadorian (not USC); "wait 2 weeks; we'll mail her."

07-2008 = Daily calls to DOS: "currently processing"; 8/05 = Phoned consulate, got Section Chief; wrote him.

08-07-08 = E-mail from consulate, promising to issue visa "as soon as we get her passport" (on 8/12, per DHL).

08-27-08 = Phoned consulate (they "couldn't find" our file); visa DHL'd 8/28; in hand 9/1; through POE on 10/9 with NO hassles(!).

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Filed: AOS (apr) Country: Cyprus
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You are so close to an approval and 2 or 3 more months won't make a difference in a lifetime together.

Visit, get involved in volunteer work or go to the gym, be active and keep yourself busy.

The NOA2 will come. Hang in there.

We grow as a person when we realize and accept that we can't control everything.

Our first petition at CSC was 5 1/2 month and then 16 month in AP with a refusal at the end. Our second petition took 58 days, then

2 months wrong embassy drama and more delays at the right embassy. It is what it is and though it is very hard you have to stop

letting it drive you crazy. Seriously, another couple months is not that bad. Like a previous poster said, expect it to be longer and

be happy when it comes sooner.

Wishing you peace !


Spoiler

 

I-129F Sent : 3-31-2014, NOA2: 4-6-2014

NVC Received : some dinkelsberry yehoo in the house of clingons send our petition to the wrong consulate.

Consulate Received : July 30,2014 Transfer to right embassy complete.

Interview Date : Oct 22, 2014

Interview Result : AP , requesting another PC (not expired) and certified divorce decree (was submitted)Stokes interview via phone for petitioner 4 hrs after interview.

Oct 23 email notification visa approved.
Visa Received : Nov. 3 , 2014 VISA IN HAND.

US Entry : Nov. 21, 2014

Marriage : Dec 27, 2014

AOS send : May 12, 2015, received May 14, 2015 USPS priority

Email &text : May 18, 2015, check cashed May 19,2015, return receipt May 21, 2015 stamped USCIS Lockbox, NOA1 (3x) May 22,2015

Biometrics : June 1, 2015 letter received for appointment June 8, 2015, successful walk-in June 1, 2015

RFE : June 12, 2015 for income not meeting guideline. Income does ( ! ) exceed guideline.

RFE response : June 26, 2015 returned with a boat load full of financial evidence.

UPDATE: July 5, 2015 updated on all 3 cases, RFE received June 30, 2015.

Service request : Aug 12, 2015, letter received that it will be processed within 90 days from receipt of RFE.

UPDATE: Aug 24, 2015, EAD card being produced/ordered. ( 102 days from AOS receipt day and 55 days from RFE response received.) Thank you Jesus !

Emails : Aug 24, 2015, EAD approved, EAD card ordered.

I-797 EAD/AP approval notice received : Aug 27, 2015

EAD/AP combo card mailed : Aug 27, 2015, EAD/AP combo card received: Aug 31, 2015

Renewal application send for EAD/AP : May 31,2016 (AOS pending over 1 year). Received June 2, 2016,Notice date June7, 2016, emails,texts, NOA1 hard copy

Service request for pending AOS April 21, 2016, case not assigned yet.
Service request for pending AOS June 14, 2016, tier 2 said performing background checks.
Expedite request for EAD/AP Aug 3, 2016, Aug10 notification >request was received, assigned, completed. RFE letter requesting evidence for expedite, docs faxed Aug18

*Service request for I-485 Aug 3, 2016, Aug11 notification> request was assigned. Service request Dec 2, 2016.
AOS Interview letter received Aug 12, 2016

AOS Interview September 21, 2016.

Second Biometrics appointment letters received for EAD and AOS on Aug 15, 2016 for Aug 17 ( 2 day notice).

Second Biometrics completed Aug 17, 2016

Third Biometrics appointment letter received Aug 19, 2016 for Sept. 1, 2016. WTH ?!

EAD/AP (renewal) approval Aug 22, 2016, NOA2 received Aug 25, 2016

Renewal EAD in production notification text and online, expedite successful 4 days after RFE request response was faxed, Aug25mailed,Aug29received.

Sept. 21 Interview, 2 hour interview, we were separated and asked about 50 questions each for an hour each. IO was firm but professional, some smiles.
Several service requests made, contacted Senator and Ombudsman. Background checks still pending.
July 21, 2017 HOME VISIT.  Went well. Topic thread in AOS forum.
Waiting to skip ROC and get 10 yr GC due to over 2 year while pending AOS
AOS APPROVED Oct. 4, 2017 * Green card in hand Oct 13, 2017 !!!!!

First K1 denied after 16 month of AP. Refiled. We are a couple since 2009. Not a sprint but a matter of endurance.

 

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: United Kingdom
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You should feel grateful you are still waiting for over 5 months. Imagine another couples who had to struggle like this: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/521117-approved-refiled-k1-stokes-5-year-journey-over/

I am not trying to make you feel bad. But at least in five years of relationship I believe you have already met your fiance(e) many times. Imagine those who can't have the privilege to visit the US. Just like my husband and I only have met once because I got refused for a tourist visa and was very difficult for my husband to get permission to travel for security reason since he's serving in the military. We had been in five-year-relationship as well before my husband filed I-129F for me.

Don't worry you didn't make me feel bad. Yes of course there is always someone worse off than yourself, that's always true. And i do remember that, but it doesn't help all the time when there are other factors involved.

We have lived together outside the US (in various places) during the last 5 years so we are lucky to have spent that time together, which makes it worse now in some ways.

I saw stokes story the other day, now that is perseverance!

Thank you to everyone for your support. This site is so helpful (apart from processing times, but that's complicated).

I of course wish everyone luck during this process!

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Jordan
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will you give up on the marriage so easily as well? If I were you fiance I wouldn't be very happy if the person who is supposed to love me the most is ready to give up on me because of a little waiting. Are you in high school or are you an adult?



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