Husband admits during medical he smoked weed 4 years ago

[Boggy1974 124]

Yeah telling the truth! Maybe the 1-yr ban will be his escape route of not wanting to join you sooner?

You attribute it to stupidity, but underneath that could be other motivation(s)?

[rodceasar 34]

Hang in there! It was very dumb to admit this though, unless he had a conviction based on use. Hopefully, the worst will be a drug test and no more...

[Samie 14]

Here's what I know GOD has blessed me with a wonderful man. And yes he is trustworthy and very honest upstanding man. He comes from a blessed family and I was so worried yesterday I felt like he was going to be honest as he should.

I will not divorce my husband he is the kindest and loving man. He just really can't be deceptive I am sure if he were not honest he would have been exposed I love my husband very much.

Today is a new day I feel better just a bit down. The Devil has no power it's just another one of his snares. I know GOD favor's me he's been excellent to me all my life. it's in his time so if I have to wait a little while longer I shall!! Thanks you all for your thoughts and experiences I really appreciated it.

[soon2bemrs 7]

OMG!!!!!!!! Why my husband decides to admit during the medical to smoking weed 4 years ago is a mystery to me.. I coached him forever and urged him not to ever tell that but he did... After all this waiting he does a dumb thing like that... So will we be denied help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so devastated a mind is a terrible thing to waste... Why does he not use his mind...that's only common sense.. so depressed now

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Awwwww sorry abt that all will be well and everything happens for a reason i hope the person who did the test is fair enough not to hold that against him this process is hard and very tiring but God gets us thru hold old to ur faith all will be ok.

[Lillen Faith 5]

Seems it's our luck it's been a hard time this journey..It was so close I am in disbelief and so disappointed in him. He feel terrible as he should I can't help but be hard on him that was so foolish..I need a supernatural miracle Lord only you have the power..

devastated :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying:

Oh dear, don't cry too much, it will stress you more. Take it easy. Must be a reason why he admitted. God knows!

[Lillen Faith 5]

Some people just couldn't bear to LIE, no matter how much you "coach" them into it. At least he was honest and a man enough to admit what he truly did.

I notice that you have waited 10 months now for your NOA-2. did you both do anything to speed it up?

[LizLovesFlor 11]

OMG!!!!!!!! Why my husband decides to admit during the medical to smoking weed 4 years ago is a mystery to me.. I coached him forever and urged him not to ever tell that but he did... After all this waiting he does a dumb thing like that... So will we be denied help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so devastated a mind is a terrible thing to waste... Why does he not use his mind...that's only common sense.. so depressed now

Sammie, I know there are a lot of people who have already commented and idk if someone has already told u this because I don't have time to read all of these posts but...

When my husband had his medical done the dr gave him the sealed envelope and a copy of the medical exam paper for his records. If they didn't give it to you, call the office and ask for it. You can request a copy.

Also, honestly I don't think it is going to be a big deal. People are now being able to have less than a certain amount of weed on them nowadays. I don't think it's a big deal.

[msheesha 548]

divorce him. so late in the process and he pulls a stunt like this????

By "stunt" you are referring to him being honest and telling the truth?

Damn, I hate "stunts" like honesty.

[rkj082000 11]

Yeah telling the truth! Maybe the 1-yr ban will be his escape route of not wanting to join you sooner?

You attribute it to stupidity, but underneath that could be other motivation(s)?

agreed, it would definitely raise my suspicions......

[Andrea&Henry 311]

I know my case is different but I know how it feels to be worry about telling the truth. My now husband and I are related (we are 3rd cousins). When we decided to get married and applied for a k1 visa, we first went to an immigration lawyer (we didn't know anything about visajourney then) and when she was checking our case, she dumped our I129 f saying that we CAN'T say we are cousins. She destroyed ALL our forms and basically she started filling a new ones, full of a bunch of lies. Even when she created a whole perfect story, in our heart we felt, we were doing so wrong! I knew it was very very wrong. Even when already paid her like $300 just to begin (she wanted to charged us $1500 for take our case), we decided to destroy what she did and start from the scratch. That's when we found visajourney. Against all odds and against her adviced (and many people advices) we decided to do the right thing and tell the truth no matter what. When she found out she almost made fun of us, saying that we're not gonna make it. I was like "will see". We could stick to our lie cause he is a white blond and blue eyes 5'11 and I'm dark hair, dark skin 5'5 girl. Against all odds our process took only 7 month to be done, we had a great interview (the CO didn't care about us being related) and I've almost a year since I came here. We've no issues. My point is that sometimes doing the right thing is not always the easiest thing, sometimes, the right thing to do us against our common sense. Maybe he could had lie and nobody will noticed it, but, I truly think that God is watching us all the time. Pray, pray hard... I do believe in miracles

[joevegas 67]

Seems it's our luck it's been a hard time this journey..It was so close I am in disbelief and so disappointed in him. He feel terrible as he should I can't help but be hard on him that was so foolish..I need a supernatural miracle Lord only you have the power..

devastated :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying:

Are you sure it was 4 years ago and not this week..Hmmm

Edited March 22, 2013 by joevegas

[Justud 42]

sorry to hear this, but i think i would have done the same thing. honesty is important for some people. i hope you two can work it out.

[madtownguy 164]

Are you sure that he is not playing with you? I cannot believe he would tell the doctor that. And even if he did it was 4 years ago.

Are you sure you want to marry someone with the smarts to say something like that? During the interview he might tell them about a murder he committed 10 years ago. It's hard to believe someone would talk about that unless in their country it isn't illegal. Then I guess I could see it as not being a big deal. I wouldn't worry it's just weed, it's almost legal now in the US so I highly doubt denial because of it.

Edited March 22, 2013 by madtownguy

[newlyweds2010 208]

If he did something dumb, that was smoking weed 4 years ago, or whenever he did that. Certainly not telling the truth when he was supposed to. I am somehow astonished by the fact that many people here are advocating lies and criticize this guy for telling the truth.

[squirrelisan 23]

**bracing for the flames**

I think the real problem here is the U.S. government, for making marijuana illegal in this country. Or more appropriately, the people who vote for lawmakers who still have those archaic/uninformed/fear-based beliefs.