Partner seeks divorce

[crazylife2013 0]

Hello Friends,

I am from India. I was married in India and my ex left me for not having same believes as what her family and community believes. She go involve with someone from her community and her parents stand by her and she left me. For one full year i tried and tried to get her back but nothing worked out. I am from a middle class family and only bread earner with a family to take care of. I worked hard and very hard days and nights continuously to and setup my computer business back in my country. Later after getting separated from my ex wife, i met my current wife online and after one and a half year of talking on phone and online we decided to meet in a different country. We met there and i felt like i got a new life to live on and proposed my wife with a ring. " She said yes". We did all paper work after that and last year i entered in United States on K1 Visa.

She came to India to see my family in 2011 and stayed at our home for 2 months. My K1 application was in process and got completed after she left . Before leaving India and after being a relationship of 3 years i again asked her that is she sure with all her decisions, because i was already divorced once and had that fear somewhere in my heart. Everything was going good,i came to United States, she was happy and we got married. We applied for conditional residence and received my card in December 2012.

We use to have some little arguments as a couple sometimes but we both were happy and never let those arguments come in between our relationship. Now when i left India, practically no one was there to look after my business and i had to close it down, i left some of my savings with my family and some i carried here with me to have a support for six months for me and my family back in India.

My wife started working part time in a mall. Now, from past one month i experienced a drastic change in my wife's attitude towards me. Suddenly she started speaking to me like her servants. She started dressing more good. Buying new clothes, behaving more immature. She stopped taking me out anywhere with her. 15 days back we have an discussion regarding her behavior towards me, and she told me that now " She likes someone else " I was shocked to know this and just listened to her quietly. she likes someone from her workplace. I wasn't getting any words any my eyes started shredding water. all night i cried and still can't sleep at nights.

Somehow i managed myself and asked her to work on our relationship that if there is my mistake, but she says that everything is fine with me but her heart like someone else now and she cannot help it. NOW SHE WANTS DIVORCE. I am out of my head and don;t know what to do. I can't tell anyone about this in my family. My family is tied with strong and emotional family values and everyone likes my wife very much. I am looking for jobs since i got my approval and in middle of several interviews. I have nothing left back in India to earn and here she is on my head to Divorce me. I don't know what should i do and where should i approach. Now if i get a job here, then again i have to leave it coz my conditional residence card will expire in 2 years, and this second Divorce thing is killing me like hell.

I did everything, i even begged her not to do this but nothing happened. I don't know what to do and my heart still beats for her but same time she don't leave a chance to insult and humiliate me for anything.

Please Help!!!

[shin shin 3]

Sorry to hear about your story its makes me sad

Good luck to your journey..have FAITH that everything will be alright:-)

[Darnell 8,478]

study the ROC form, you'll notice a tick box for 'divorced'. It's quite possible to file ROC, getting a 10 year green card, after a divorce, when holding a 2 year card.

Edited January 15, 2013 by Darnell

[N-o-l-a 7,168]

You can divorce and remove conditions on your own like Darnell said. You must simply prove that you entered into the marriage with good faith, which is what your case sounds like.

[kzielu 1,149]

By the way - if you divorce, you have to remove conditions immediately, not when your conditional card expires.

[caly 48]

Now if i get a job here, then again i have to leave it coz my conditional residence card will expire in 2 years

I did everything, i even begged her not to do this but nothing happened. I don't know what to do and my heart still beats for her but same time she don't leave a chance to insult and humiliate me for anything.

Sorry to hear that you are going through this.

As everyone else has said you don't HAVE to leave just because you are getting divorced. You can choose to stay and remove the conditions on your greencard yourself. That said, you can also choose to return to India where your family is if you want. The decision is yours to make.

You have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of and I wish you the best.

[sherryandyashpal 7]

Hello Friends,

I am from India. I was married in India and my ex left me for not having same believes as what her family and community believes. She go involve with someone from her community and her parents stand by her and she left me. For one full year i tried and tried to get her back but nothing worked out. I am from a middle class family and only bread earner with a family to take care of. I worked hard and very hard days and nights continuously to and setup my computer business back in my country. Later after getting separated from my ex wife, i met my current wife online and after one and a half year of talking on phone and online we decided to meet in a different country. We met there and i felt like i got a new life to live on and proposed my wife with a ring. " She said yes". We did all paper work after that and last year i entered in United States on K1 Visa.

She came to India to see my family in 2011 and stayed at our home for 2 months. My K1 application was in process and got completed after she left . Before leaving India and after being a relationship of 3 years i again asked her that is she sure with all her decisions, because i was already divorced once and had that fear somewhere in my heart. Everything was going good,i came to United States, she was happy and we got married. We applied for conditional residence and received my card in December 2012.

We use to have some little arguments as a couple sometimes but we both were happy and never let those arguments come in between our relationship. Now when i left India, practically no one was there to look after my business and i had to close it down, i left some of my savings with my family and some i carried here with me to have a support for six months for me and my family back in India.

My wife started working part time in a mall. Now, from past one month i experienced a drastic change in my wife's attitude towards me. Suddenly she started speaking to me like her servants. She started dressing more good. Buying new clothes, behaving more immature. She stopped taking me out anywhere with her. 15 days back we have an discussion regarding her behavior towards me, and she told me that now " She likes someone else " I was shocked to know this and just listened to her quietly. she likes someone from her workplace. I wasn't getting any words any my eyes started shredding water. all night i cried and still can't sleep at nights.

Somehow i managed myself and asked her to work on our relationship that if there is my mistake, but she says that everything is fine with me but her heart like someone else now and she cannot help it. NOW SHE WANTS DIVORCE. I am out of my head and don;t know what to do. I can't tell anyone about this in my family. My family is tied with strong and emotional family values and everyone likes my wife very much. I am looking for jobs since i got my approval and in middle of several interviews. I have nothing left back in India to earn and here she is on my head to Divorce me. I don't know what should i do and where should i approach. Now if i get a job here, then again i have to leave it coz my conditional residence card will expire in 2 years, and this second Divorce thing is killing me like hell.

I did everything, i even begged her not to do this but nothing happened. I don't know what to do and my heart still beats for her but same time she don't leave a chance to insult and humiliate me for anything.

Please Help!!!

Im very sorry to hear this.. and I dont know exactly what to advise but I really wish u the best and that whatever you have to do goes smoothly...

[LORIEandPHIL 123]

Have i got this right, you got your green card in December, and she wants a divorce in January? You might have problems proving you didn't get married just to get the card.

[CHarvey80 72]

Have i got this right, you got your green card in December, and she wants a divorce in January? You might have problems proving you didn't get married just to get the card.

She is the one who wants to divorce here. If he entered the marriage in good faith, as it seems like, then he should be able to prove it. He can't control what her feelings are but he shouldn't have any problem proving that things were done the right way.

[romanticminds 11]

She is not against or opposing you from getting your condition remove on your green card right? Then you shouldn't have a problem. Getting your 10 year green card right after the divorce. Just be honest with them. It must be tough for you. Keep your head up maybe things will work out for you, perhaps not as you planned. It is never easy to hear stories like this. Keep the spirit alive and have faith. Your marriage going into this was in good faith. No one can blame you for that. What ever the outcome is. As long as you stay true to yourself time can help heals wound.

[Villanelle 4,122]

It doesnt matter if his spouse is in support or opposed to him getting his conditions removed. Its up to USCIS.

He stated his GC was issued in Dec 2012 but he didnt state the exact date- if it was early dec or late dec. He also didnt state when he was married. Just that he arrived on a K1 in 2012.

Im assuming he filed for AOS immediately after the marriage. Some people are approved in as little as 4 months, others can take as long as 8 months. So Im going to guesstimate and say he was possibly married and filed for AOS in June?

So if the OP decides he wants to stay in the US and file for ROC with a waiver, he may have a difficult case as his marriage is short (7 months) and he would be filing for divorce within a month of the GC being issued.

Its not an impossible case. He would need the divorce to be granted on grounds of irreconcilable differences (or something similar, the divorce being initiated by his wife would look better then if he initiated it. He would need as much evidence as he could manage of the limited time they were married. Affidavits from people who knew them, a statement from his spouse if at all possible stating the marriage was in good faith, but she just no longer wishes to remain in it because her feeling have changed or whatever her reasons are (if she was willing to do so, would help). Evidence he had of their relationship prior to the marriage would also be useful in his case as the marriage was so short. Even with all his evidence, he would most likely be called in for an interview, just based on the fact that the marriage was short and the divorce was filed for so quickly after the GC was issued.

However like the other posters mentioned its up to the OP to decide if he wants to stay in the US or return to India. Its a very difficult and personal decision to make and I would urge him to seek consul with his family. I know its embarrassing and hard but those are the times when you need your family the most, not a bunch of strangers on a message board.

Also you dont need to make a decision today. But you do need to make one sooner rather then later. After you divorce you would need to immediately file to remove the conditions on your GC if you are choosing to go that route. If youre not, and you plan to return to India, then you would also 'return' or rather surrender your GC when you do.

[crazylife2013 0]

Thanks for all of your suggestions..

I am really not aware that how ROC will work in my case. I don't know if i have to file it immediately after divorce or should i wait for expiration date of my conditional card?

Everyone will think, that i married for GC and that's why i am getting divorce. But i have never planned anything like this. I am still ready to work on our relationship.

Here are the details of my whole case and i will appreciate if anyone will refer me to someone who got did ROC at his own without his or her partner.

I cannot go back to my country alone, everyone is planning for a reception party and i cannot even tell anyone out there.

Entered United States in Mid June 2012, Married in Mid July, Filed for papers in First week of August, GC received in Mid December 2012.

For proofs before issuance of Visa there are more then 3,000 calling records from both sides. More then 100 pics from vacation at different places and with family.

After Marriage proofs, Same address on both of our ids, Her change of name on Marriage certificate, Her change of name on Social Security Card, Her name change on her License, Joint bank account, 60+ pics with her family members since i came to Unite States.

I am not even aware of law here. If she files divorce then what i should do, should i contest it? Today i again ask her to work on our relationship but she is not ready.

I don't know how those promises and feelings, those promises on God's name change in few days and how could someone leave their marriage like this.

I really don't know folks what should i do. One side its a pain in heart and soul, second how will i explain all this to my family. I don't have anyone here other then you guys to discuss all this. Please give some professional advice?

[kzielu 1,149]

Thanks for all of your suggestions..

I am really not aware that how ROC will work in my case. I don't know if i have to file it immediately after divorce or should i wait for expiration date of my conditional card?

As I said above, you need to file RoC immediately after divorce and prove you entered marriage in good faith.

[The Mean Lady 604]

Thanks for all of your suggestions..

I am really not aware that how ROC will work in my case. I don't know if i have to file it immediately after divorce or should i wait for expiration date of my conditional card?

Everyone will think, that i married for GC and that's why i am getting divorce. But i have never planned anything like this. I am still ready to work on our relationship.

Here are the details of my whole case and i will appreciate if anyone will refer me to someone who got did ROC at his own without his or her partner.

I cannot go back to my country alone, everyone is planning for a reception party and i cannot even tell anyone out there.

Entered United States in Mid June 2012, Married in Mid July, Filed for papers in First week of August, GC received in Mid December 2012.

For proofs before issuance of Visa there are more then 3,000 calling records from both sides. More then 100 pics from vacation at different places and with family.

After Marriage proofs, Same address on both of our ids, Her change of name on Marriage certificate, Her change of name on Social Security Card, Her name change on her License, Joint bank account, 60+ pics with her family members since i came to Unite States.

I am not even aware of law here. If she files divorce then what i should do, should i contest it? Today i again ask her to work on our relationship but she is not ready.

I don't know how those promises and feelings, those promises on God's name change in few days and how could someone leave their marriage like this.

I really don't know folks what should i do. One side its a pain in heart and soul, second how will i explain all this to my family. I don't have anyone here other then you guys to discuss all this. Please give some professional advice?

Your proof sounds really good, actually, though the fact that she changed her name doesn't matter all that much.

Just means that SHE entered the marriage in good faith.

But, the other things are really great evidence.

Not to mention, if SHE is the one filing for the divorce, that sounds like some heavy evidence in itself.

As for "professional advice"? This is an open forum on a website.

All we'll give you is our opinions and experiences.

You'll have to pay a lawyer for "professional" advice.

Edited January 16, 2013 by KDH

[Caryh 5,206]

I am not even aware of law here. If she files divorce then what i should do, should i contest it? Today i again ask her to work on our relationship but she is not ready.

Divorce laws vary by the state you live in. It may not even be possible to contest the divorce, I know in my state you can't. If one person in the marriage wants out, there's nothing you can do to stop the divorce, you can only delay it by fighting over the terms of the divorce. Technically you're legally separated as soon as the divorce papers are filed with the court. There are states that require you to be separated for a year before you can move on with a court case if one person doesn't agree to the divorce. If you give the state you live in, someone may be able to point you to the laws in your state on how a divorce is handled.