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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Japan
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I've been in US a little over 3 months now. I have SSN, DL, GC, a car, and even a part-time job. Recently I finally started to connect with people who are not from my husband's friends circle. I'm quite excited about my slowly expanding network in US. However, I have way less friends I can call and I don't like that. I want a lot of friends of my own LOL!!! Maybe I'm too competitive, but I want friends just as much as my husband!

How long did it take for you to have enough friends for you?? I know best friends are hard to get, but how about good friends you can call and hang out regularly?


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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Canada
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I'm a USC and my only friend is my sister :lol:

I think I'm a rarity in the fact that I love spending all of my time with my significant other.

Best of luck in looking for friends though!

Good places are work, usually, and other hobbies (like if you take a yoga class or attend a college course).

Thinking to the past and old friends I used to have, I think I generally talked with them for over a year until I had the courage to ask them to hang out. I think I was not born with many social skills lmao


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Been here a year and a half, and don't have any close friends. Yes, I talk with co-workers at work, classmates at school, and my husband's family. But I haven't found anyone yet that I've called or hung out with on my own. Maybe one day? For now, I'm happy with my husband's company.. and my computer :)

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Australia
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I've been in the US since Sept 2009, I've been in Iowa since May 2010. I would say I have no close friends like I did at home, but I do have people I text or talk to occasionally, someone i meet up with occasionally, and my work colleague is probably my closest friend atm ('cause we see each other all the time most likely). I talk to people around town (post master, bank lady, neighbours) but I don't have anyone nearby to invite 'round for dinner (small town and all), or to call and be like "lets go see that new chick flick!". It gets easier with time, and I have "Viber" on my phone to talk to my family back home, and i talk to people from home on FB as well... so i'm not "alone" but I do miss having someone to talk to whenever... instead of trying to fit all of my days since last talking to friends into the time I have to talk to them... I still have lonely days but I think we all do, even when we do have friends around.

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Filed: Lift. Cond. (pnd) Country: Japan
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my husband has made no friends and does not make an effort. maybe he is happy to be alone.

joining a gym or sport club or go to your library is probably a good way to meet people. school is good too.


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People don't usually just come up to you. You need to make an effort. Join a club, go to a concert, cycling club, yoga, interact with neighbors. There are always things going on you just need to be involved. Another good example is friends of friends.

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Poland
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After a year - no friends at all. Don't how do I go and make friend - those are not friends... I believe you can become friend with someone only if there is a connection between you - it happens on its own, not because you want to.

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Japan
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my husband has made no friends and does not make an effort. maybe he is happy to be alone.

joining a gym or sport club or go to your library is probably a good way to meet people. school is good too.

I actually think many people are like that. Very happy to be alone with a partner. Unfortunately, I'm not one of them. I have to have friends that's not my husband or his friends.

I think I'll try to resister in college from winter. If I take night time class, maybe I'll meet someone of my age?

BTW I go to meetup.com meeting at least once a week!


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01/13/2012: DS-3032 emailed

01/27/2012: Barcode arrived via e-mail

03/06/2012: I-864&DS-230 sent together

03/13/2012: RFE

04/16/2012: Additional documents sent

05/02/2012: NVC case complete

05/14/2012: Medical

06/04/2012: Interview--->approved

06/05/2012: Visa arrived in mail

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Filed: Citizen (pnd) Country: Canada
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I've been here about four years. My friends are from my husband's circle of friends, also from work, and a few from meetup.com. I used meetup.com to meet people through my interests and also hosted an event or two (board games, anime, video games, art) or used meetup.com to meet people with the same ethnicity or nationality (ie. Asians or Canadians in Orange County) but that's been a bust since majority of them are of a different generation than me.

But yeah, it's difficult to make friends.


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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Sweden
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Granted I'm not the most social person and I severely dislike talking on the phone, always have. I am a big fan of texting though! When I moved to America the first time I made friends rather quickly with my co-workers. But hanging out on our sparetime was always completely upto them. I think it took about a year before we regularly started having girls night outs where I was included. They always "forced" me to tag along on everything though, it was pretty much never a discussion they just informed me of what we were doing.

So my experience is that Americans are easy to make friends with ;) But I would expect that it generally takes a bigger effort on your part than what I actually did, I was just really lucky and worked in a good place.

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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: Canada
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Granted I'm not the most social person and I severely dislike talking on the phone, always have. I am a big fan of texting though! When I moved to America the first time I made friends rather quickly with my co-workers. But hanging out on our sparetime was always completely upto them. I think it took about a year before we regularly started having girls night outs where I was included. They always "forced" me to tag along on everything though, it was pretty much never a discussion they just informed me of what we were doing.

So my experience is that Americans are easy to make friends with ;) But I would expect that it generally takes a bigger effort on your part than what I actually did, I was just really lucky and worked in a good place.

Whenever I made friends, I never initiated hang outs, just like you.

I was always afraid of getting that look like 'why are you asking me to hang out with you'


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Filed: IR-1/CR-1 Visa Country: China
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sms - what's yer friend count currently? Come on, tell all, it's the new year already... ;)


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